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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is online so difficult nowadays to even get a match? I don't know if it's my looks or profile. Obviously not talking about fab.

And even just meeting and talking to girls at bars and clubs, they either are taken, gay and the conclusion being I am an amazing great guy and will defo find someone.

Sick of being single now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*online dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently there is an excess of men in the vanilla world too. There is an estimated 6% more men than females right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single apply within

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of my friends met their partners through a shared interest - tri club, cycling, running. Is there something that interests you where you might meet different people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single. "

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option "

I'm seriously single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of my friends met their partners through a shared interest - tri club, cycling, running. Is there something that interests you where you might meet different people? "

Singing, guitar. Music. Cooking. But still don't know where to meet them.

I do realize I made the mistake of not really bothering about dating while at uni as I was too focused on my studies. Silly of me to realize later of what a golden opportunity I missed out on meeting and socializing with more people.

Sucks that nowadays work kills most of your day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option "

They are not sure why the male excess at the moment. There is some thought that lack of world wars, and millions of men no longer being slaughtered etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of my friends met their partners through a shared interest - tri club, cycling, running. Is there something that interests you where you might meet different people?

Singing, guitar. Music. Cooking. But still don't know where to meet them.

I do realize I made the mistake of not really bothering about dating while at uni as I was too focused on my studies. Silly of me to realize later of what a golden opportunity I missed out on meeting and socializing with more people.

Sucks that nowadays work kills most of your day. "

At 25 you've got loads of time. People turn up in the most unexpected of places.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Apparently there is an excess of men in the vanilla world too. There is an estimated 6% more men than females right now. "

That's interesting, it partly explains the imbalance here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single. "

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck. "

Why not? That'd be lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

At 25 you've got loads of time. People turn up in the most unexpected of places.

"

True. But then again being single for the past 6 years does take a toll on you. Specially watching couples on a daily basis and realising, Yup that's what I am missing out on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely. "

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

At 25 you've got loads of time. People turn up in the most unexpected of places.

True. But then again being single for the past 6 years does take a toll on you. Specially watching couples on a daily basis and realising, Yup that's what I am missing out on.

"

I'm 40 in a few weeks and very single! That's depressing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way. "

On it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

On it."

Ooooh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is online so difficult nowadays to even get a match? I don't know if it's my looks or profile. Obviously not talking about fab.

And even just meeting and talking to girls at bars and clubs, they either are taken, gay and the conclusion being I am an amazing great guy and will defo find someone.

Sick of being single now "

Get on Tinder if it's that kind of thing you want, it's flipping brilliant for the socials and things like that, went up town with quite few on that and then ended up with the super bitch control freak girl.

What I will say though is you've actually got to want to date, if you just want sex, it's not for that at all and they will see straight through you on there.

But Tinder 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up pal, I'm single but I don't let it get to me. Just think, you can do what you want when you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Madzy... whyyyy? Whyyyyy? Why do u want a relationship? It isn't worth the headache.. I am sure I have told u this many times lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

On it.

Ooooh! "

I'm tackling my shyness and trying to get out on proper dates.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chin up pal, I'm single but I don't let it get to me. Just think, you can do what you want when you want "

Hey big up loughborough. Used to live down there haha. Thanks buddy. Nah Bro. No matter whatever I do alone I still empty inside. Just gratuitous fulfillment of desires is not sufficient for this life. Need something more meaningful in life.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

On it."

We'll know it worked out if a new couples profile appears

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Madzy... whyyyy? Whyyyyy? Why do u want a relationship? It isn't worth the headache.. I am sure I have told u this many times lol "

Haha. Been single far too long my friend. I just need to know how its like to have a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is online so difficult nowadays to even get a match? I don't know if it's my looks or profile. Obviously not talking about fab.

And even just meeting and talking to girls at bars and clubs, they either are taken, gay and the conclusion being I am an amazing great guy and will defo find someone.

Sick of being single now

Get on Tinder if it's that kind of thing you want, it's flipping brilliant for the socials and things like that, went up town with quite few on that and then ended up with the super bitch control freak girl.

What I will say though is you've actually got to want to date, if you just want sex, it's not for that at all and they will see straight through you on there.

But Tinder 100%. "

Been on it for a while. And to date explicitly. Not for fucking around. But I don't even get the Bleeping matches to begin with. The one time I did, turned out she was a fake bot. :@

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck. "

Just ask then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chin up pal, I'm single but I don't let it get to me. Just think, you can do what you want when you want

Hey big up loughborough. Used to live down there haha. Thanks buddy. Nah Bro. No matter whatever I do alone I still empty inside. Just gratuitous fulfillment of desires is not sufficient for this life. Need something more meaningful in life. "

I know how you feel, I sometimes get bored and dwell on me being single, but then like someone in the thread already said it's sometimes not worth the headache

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

On it.

Ooooh!

I'm tackling my shyness and trying to get out on proper dates. "

Good for you. It's too late for me but I can live vicariously through the posts I see on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Madzy... whyyyy? Whyyyyy? Why do u want a relationship? It isn't worth the headache.. I am sure I have told u this many times lol

Haha. Been single far too long my friend. I just need to know how its like to have a relationship. "

And once u find out you will curse ur existence and run for the hills

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Madzy... whyyyy? Whyyyyy? Why do u want a relationship? It isn't worth the headache.. I am sure I have told u this many times lol

Haha. Been single far too long my friend. I just need to know how its like to have a relationship.

And once u find out you will curse ur existence and run for the hills "

Haha wouldn't know till I have done it. Trial by the fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Madzy... whyyyy? Whyyyyy? Why do u want a relationship? It isn't worth the headache.. I am sure I have told u this many times lol

Haha. Been single far too long my friend. I just need to know how its like to have a relationship.

And once u find out you will curse ur existence and run for the hills "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

I'm seriously single.

So can I take you out for drinks or even dinner? It's worth trying my luck.

Why not? That'd be lovely.

Great! I can't pm you by the way.

On it.

Ooooh!

I'm tackling my shyness and trying to get out on proper dates.

Good for you. It's too late for me but I can live vicariously through the posts I see on here. "

It's never to late

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Why is online so difficult nowadays to even get a match? I don't know if it's my looks or profile. Obviously not talking about fab.

And even just meeting and talking to girls at bars and clubs, they either are taken, gay and the conclusion being I am an amazing great guy and will defo find someone.

Sick of being single now "

Try being 57 and female lol, the over 50's selection of a dating site is not the most enticing place I have been! !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is online so difficult nowadays to even get a match? I don't know if it's my looks or profile. Obviously not talking about fab.

And even just meeting and talking to girls at bars and clubs, they either are taken, gay and the conclusion being I am an amazing great guy and will defo find someone.

Sick of being single now

Try being 57 and female lol, the over 50's selection of a dating site is not the most enticing place I have been! !"

Haha true.

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By *ikeyGreyMan
over a year ago

leeds


"I'm single. "

Hey hun im new to london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how much of a 'match' you're looking for. Less boxes to tick.. more likely to find someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't expect to meet anyone serious on fab

I find it's full of guys who are.obsessed with sex and want to shag their way round the site

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Do you use sites like meetup op? Ive heard its good for socials and meeting people into similar interests

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you use sites like meetup op? Ive heard its good for socials and meeting people into similar interests"

Never heard of it. But used all other apps like tinder, Bumble, Happn, POF. You name it. Once I even tried grindr for jokes :p

But will check it out.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Apparently there is an excess of men in the vanilla world too. There is an estimated 6% more men than females right now.

That's interesting, it partly explains the imbalance here."

Not in the UK, rule of thumb is poor country has more men than women, rich country more women than men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how much of a 'match' you're looking for. Less boxes to tick.. more likely to find someone. "

My boxes are very limited. Just a nice cute lady. With whom I can have a good chat with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thing is I am not even looking for a partner that swings. Just any normal girl would do. But first I'd need to date and even that first door of entry is difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how much of a 'match' you're looking for. Less boxes to tick.. more likely to find someone.

My boxes are very limited. Just a nice cute lady. With whom I can have a good chat with. "

Hope you find someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on how much of a 'match' you're looking for. Less boxes to tick.. more likely to find someone.

My boxes are very limited. Just a nice cute lady. With whom I can have a good chat with.

Hope you find someone "

Thanks I hope too lol

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

I am just venturing in to the online dating world for the first time in years. I enjoyed it in the past and met some nice women. It is a lot more accepted these days than it was back then. It is too early to tell so far though, I've only sent a couple of messages and haven't spoken to or met anyone yet. Fingers crossed. Hopefully there are one or two who haven't been to Specsavers yet.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

They are not sure why the male excess at the moment. There is some thought that lack of world wars, and millions of men no longer being slaughtered etc."

How cheerful lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single.

Could this be a sign?

Haha but seriously though 6% more men. So am I now probably the last option

They are not sure why the male excess at the moment. There is some thought that lack of world wars, and millions of men no longer being slaughtered etc.

How cheerful lol"

Lol yea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always just go to a bar and try your luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could always just go to a bar and try your luck "

Never done that before. Mostly tend to go to clubs. But I guess I should give it a go. Do you just approach em?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could always just go to a bar and try your luck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could always just go to a bar and try your luck

Never done that before. Mostly tend to go to clubs. But I guess I should give it a go. Do you just approach em? "

Yeah but preferably leave the sarcasm outside...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much every girl I've dated I've met in a bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terminally single here!

It has its good and bad points....good being I can do whatever I like when I like without having to think of anyone else.

Downside being I sometimes miss the intimacy of having someone to cozy up on the sofa with.

Being on here I'm getting used to meeting lasses where we've both decided we want to fuck before we've met....most of the time anyway!

So what little dating game I had is being slowly but surely eroded the longer I'm on here.

Totally my own doing though,if I was more proactive on the 'normal' dating sites I'm on then things would be different!

Can't complain really....I'm Scottish though so I will anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Madzy I feel for you mate . My situation is a little different i have always found it so easy in bars , clubs , library's even shops never had issues every weekend I used to go out and very rare that I wouldn't find a girl .

But since I decided to fully put that kind of lifestyle to bed and focus purely on working my bollocks off to retire before I am 40 which is nearly complete now the world seems to have moved on and more of the dating and having a good time seems to have switched to online dating etc and I am useless at this side of live I don't seem to be able to transfer personality from me to the written word so I feel your pain there .

I have had long term relationships and they have pro and cons but I have chosen to be single for a while now as it allows me to focus on completing my life goals without the strains that a lot of relationships can put on you. I would chose to remain single now until someone incredible came along but it's unlikely that will happen as I don't have the time to socialise.

I do wish you the very best in your search mate as you seem like a good guy and I believe that everyone deserves happiness in their lives and I am sure you will meet that person and you will enjoy your life you just have to remain positive and I am sure you will be fine best of luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single 8 years now, it's good and bad, bad is no cuddles and no holding hands, good is bed to myself and fuck it I've got pockets to keep my hands warm, stay single, much better to have your own mind than be like those couples in the supermarket trying to decide what meal for two they want....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Madzy I feel for you mate . My situation is a little different i have always found it so easy in bars , clubs , library's even shops never had issues every weekend I used to go out and very rare that I wouldn't find a girl .

But since I decided to fully put that kind of lifestyle to bed and focus purely on working my bollocks off to retire before I am 40 which is nearly complete now the world seems to have moved on and more of the dating and having a good time seems to have switched to online dating etc and I am useless at this side of live I don't seem to be able to transfer personality from me to the written word so I feel your pain there .

I have had long term relationships and they have pro and cons but I have chosen to be single for a while now as it allows me to focus on completing my life goals without the strains that a lot of relationships can put on you. I would chose to remain single now until someone incredible came along but it's unlikely that will happen as I don't have the time to socialise.

I do wish you the very best in your search mate as you seem like a good guy and I believe that everyone deserves happiness in their lives and I am sure you will meet that person and you will enjoy your life you just have to remain positive and I am sure you will be fine best of luck mate "

Thanks a lot man. Appreciate it.

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