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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you who you portray yourself to be on Fab?

I'm actually an emotionally sensitive person who wears his heart on his sleeve but because of a crippling and morbid fear of sharing those feelings for fear of being crushed and hurt I cover and bury that side of me with sarcastic and abrasive comments. This means not only do I struggle putting my true feelings into messages and posts but I have a tendency to over analysis even the simplest of messages sent to me to look for hidden negative meanings rather than just accepting them for what they are, a friendly gesture.

Guess I'll be alone on this but personally I can no longer cope with the pretence or stress of trying to be who I think people on Fab want me to be, so I'm trying to change while still being in this bear pit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you who you portray yourself to be on Fab?

I'm actually an emotionally sensitive person who wears his heart on his sleeve but because of a crippling and morbid fear of sharing those feelings for fear of being crushed and hurt I cover and bury that side of me with sarcastic and abrasive comments. This means not only do I struggle putting my true feelings into messages and posts but I have a tendency to over analysis even the simplest of messages sent to me to look for hidden negative meanings rather than just accepting them for what they are, a friendly gesture.

Guess I'll be alone on this but personally I can no longer cope with the pretence or stress of trying to be who I think people on Fab want me to be, so I'm trying to change while still being in this bear pit.

"

Just be yourself mate.....it's always the best way

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes. Only i generely dont mention how ill i am at a given time. If i cant cope i fuck off for a bit and come back when i can.

Ive got excellent friends on here who help me out a lot

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

There are a lot of ppl on here hiding behind humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im really shy in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm much different.. I'm kinda past that now.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm fairly the same, except I keep Fab and 'real' life as separate as possible

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"Im really shy in real life "

Really no need to be, you're a stunner!!! X aj

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"Im really shy in real life

Really no need to be, you're a stunner!!! X aj "

Oh and we both agree we seriously would!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i'm better than this. and deeper than i allow myself to be on here.

i'm content. i'm loved. i care about myself. i'm not stupid. i care but i also don't care.

this place is my time out from life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im really shy in real life

Really no need to be, you're a stunner!!! X aj

Oh and we both agree we seriously would! "

Youd definitely have to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a very good question. I don't really know the answer though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a very good question. I don't really know the answer though. "

Its good to see youre thinking about it though

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"Im really shy in real life

Really no need to be, you're a stunner!!! X aj

Oh and we both agree we seriously would!

Youd definitely have to make the first move "

I think you just did! x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shy, not very opinionated, sexual or funny.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

I don't deliberately set out to portray myself as being one way. I don't really deal with twuntery well on here or in real life but I don't have to interact often with them in real life. I guess I'm warmer in person? I think my sense of humour is lost on many on here and it comes across as being a bit bitchy. Or they just want me to fit that narrative. I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a very good question. I don't really know the answer though.

Its good to see youre thinking about it though "

Give me a chance, I'm getting on a bit now

I honestly feel that I present a fairly accurate representation of who I am here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably more of who I want to be

And sometimes a little of who I don't want to be

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I am softer in real life im also really laid back which doesnt always come across on here. One friend said i come across as cold which i dont think i do.

Im very chatty and bubbly and apparently funny.

Actually the more i think about it i dont know

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

I think who i am on here is who i am in real life.

My other personality is mummy and she gets the best of me.

To do that i need adult time, that can be getting fucked on a meet or adult chat here

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By *ilversunMan
over a year ago

Cumbernauld

Its a very good question. I think I am somewhere in the middle as this is like my double secret life and I am like this but it doesnt come out very often in the real world.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'm surprisingly nice in real life.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

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Very good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm shy, not very opinionated, sexual or funny. "

So total opposite to here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm socially awkward, shy and over anxious, this persona I use on here is also the one I use for work...for the last year or so this has gradually become more "me" than the old me and now the old me only comes out when I'm tired and uncomfortable with where I am.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh yes. My profile. Well not the text but the picture and verifications humour me as i think they portray the polar opposite of what im like. They come across as though im a born again virgin but its a joke i have with myself that humours me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm

Me !!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

"

not really, i act the same with family and friends and they have to accept me for who i am. which is why i don't speak to many of them any more...

i'd like to be more vulnerable on here, i love how with some people i can trust them and can tell them anything.

i'd say i stay fairly open, but not as much as i am usually, as i know there's people you can't trust on here and they will use some of what you say to do horrible things, can't really explain but some people i've talked to will know exactly what i mean. some people on here are fucked up. you can't be yourself wholly with people like that around and got to protect yourself from them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think we've all got many faces and can choose how much of ourselves (if anything) we choose to reveal here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I'm the same me here as I am in real life. Most of the time I'm half naked, couldn't really care what people think about me, a little childish and I flirt far too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm on here I'm more confident and flirty than in my home life. I'm emotionally guarded in all aspects of my life and only a few people get to see the vulnerable side of me. I think otherwise I'm pretty much the same on here as I am off. X

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

I'm very quiet but I spark into life on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I told you I would have to kill you.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"I'm

Me !!"

No no! I'm me! You're you! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a fake name but I'm generally me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm

Me !!

No no! I'm me! You're you! x"

Ok I'm me your you sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, on fab you get an image of me that is somewhat comparable to me outside of the site.

On that note, very few people know the true me and very often misjudge my character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a fairly complex character, the side of me that comes out online is a very real part of me but is far from the whole me

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

not really, i act the same with family and friends and they have to accept me for who i am. which is why i don't speak to many of them any more...

i'd like to be more vulnerable on here, i love how with some people i can trust them and can tell them anything.

i'd say i stay fairly open, but not as much as i am usually, as i know there's people you can't trust on here and they will use some of what you say to do horrible things, can't really explain but some people i've talked to will know exactly what i mean. some people on here are fucked up. you can't be yourself wholly with people like that around and got to protect yourself from them. "

just realised i meant that about me and not you, in case you thought that.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't know. I am both shyer and swearier in real life than people seem to expect from knowing me on here. But I don't think it's because I portray myself any differently, at least not conciously.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Interesting post op - I applaud your desire to be yourself, rather than cloaking you with a false persona.

I'm pretty much myself and have highlighted what many may regard as a couldn't care less attitude, as I like to be free of restraint. I do bother not to needlessly hurt others but don't see asserting who you are as doing that, unless one acts against another.

I'm generally thoughtful, sometimes a little impulsive - perhaps two facets at odds with each other. If anything I'm consistently present and don't give way in light of barriers - I've determination, occasionally bordering on obstinacy.

I like fab as we have such diverse people here. I'm surprised I'm still here after 7 or 8 years. It suits me as I don't pick up on pressure to conform much here.

Do men have more pressure to be something else, I wonder? (coming from myself who's gone away from societal expectations).

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"I'm

Me !!

No no! I'm me! You're you! x

Ok I'm me your you sorted "

But how can you be me when I'm me

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

I rather thinking of myself a very sensitive one. Wearing my heart on my sleeve life has slapped my face so many times...and yet I’m hard to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

not really, i act the same with family and friends and they have to accept me for who i am. which is why i don't speak to many of them any more...

i'd like to be more vulnerable on here, i love how with some people i can trust them and can tell them anything.

i'd say i stay fairly open, but not as much as i am usually, as i know there's people you can't trust on here and they will use some of what you say to do horrible things, can't really explain but some people i've talked to will know exactly what i mean. some people on here are fucked up. you can't be yourself wholly with people like that around and got to protect yourself from them.

just realised i meant that about me and not you, in case you thought that. "

I agreed with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

"

I tweak my behaviour to fit my surroundings but the fundamental basics are the same or at least I think they are.

I was recently analysing this as a close friend (made later in life ) said she thought I came across as very mature & sensible. Generally two words that aren't used to describe me!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

not really, i act the same with family and friends and they have to accept me for who i am. which is why i don't speak to many of them any more...

i'd like to be more vulnerable on here, i love how with some people i can trust them and can tell them anything.

i'd say i stay fairly open, but not as much as i am usually, as i know there's people you can't trust on here and they will use some of what you say to do horrible things, can't really explain but some people i've talked to will know exactly what i mean. some people on here are fucked up. you can't be yourself wholly with people like that around and got to protect yourself from them.

just realised i meant that about me and not you, in case you thought that.

I agreed with you "

oh, well it is late so that's my excuse lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

I tweak my behaviour to fit my surroundings but the fundamental basics are the same or at least I think they are.

I was recently analysing this as a close friend (made later in life ) said she thought I came across as very mature & sensible. Generally two words that aren't used to describe me!"

You come across as mature and sensible on here, to me. I don't mean to offend you by saying that.

I'd love to know what people think of me in real life but they will never say.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I am, so therefore I must be but I refuse to be a number on somebodys list...

That's all that matters....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide behind sarcasm, jokey comments, stockings and a wig.In real life, just the first two apply.

In reality , I'm painfully shy, borderline bi-polar and full of self doubt.I'm not sure I could actually carry off meeting someone off here, as I don't think I could allow myself to get physically close to someone, let alone for sex, since taking an emotional mauling from someone a few years ago, someone I really thought was the one I'd been looking for all my life

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I hide behind sarcasm, jokey comments, stockings and a wig.In real life, just the first two apply.

In reality , I'm painfully shy, borderline bi-polar and full of self doubt.I'm not sure I could actually carry off meeting someone off here, as I don't think I could allow myself to get physically close to someone, let alone for sex, since taking an emotional mauling from someone a few years ago, someone I really thought was the one I'd been looking for all my life "

i was like that when i first joined, this site really suited my need not to get to close to anyone.

hope you get over him/her and into a better head space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is real. Surely everyone has different aspects of themselves. They will behave differently with friends.. than with family.. than with work colleagues.

I tweak my behaviour to fit my surroundings but the fundamental basics are the same or at least I think they are.

I was recently analysing this as a close friend (made later in life ) said she thought I came across as very mature & sensible. Generally two words that aren't used to describe me!

You come across as mature and sensible on here, to me. I don't mean to offend you by saying that.

I'd love to know what people think of me in real life but they will never say."

No that's all good, thank you

I have a couple of 'very to the point' friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that different in real life to how I portray myself in the forums. I probably come across more confident on my profile and in my photos than I am in real life though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hide behind sarcasm, jokey comments, stockings and a wig.In real life, just the first two apply.

In reality , I'm painfully shy, borderline bi-polar and full of self doubt.I'm not sure I could actually carry off meeting someone off here, as I don't think I could allow myself to get physically close to someone, let alone for sex, since taking an emotional mauling from someone a few years ago, someone I really thought was the one I'd been looking for all my life

i was like that when i first joined, this site really suited my need not to get to close to anyone.

hope you get over him/her and into a better head space. "

It was a 'her'! One of the reasons I tried 'hims' was because I found it so hard to get over her, but it wasn't for me. In general I don't even like being touched in a non-sexual way anymore, the term 'hopeless case' springs to mind

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

In meatspace I have terrible social anxiety, constantly feel like I'm a failure/not good enough and have massive issues with body image.

But on the flip side, I'm terribly practical, feircely loyal to my friends, generous and insanely helpful.

I doubt that comes across here

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I hide behind sarcasm, jokey comments, stockings and a wig.In real life, just the first two apply.

In reality , I'm painfully shy, borderline bi-polar and full of self doubt.I'm not sure I could actually carry off meeting someone off here, as I don't think I could allow myself to get physically close to someone, let alone for sex, since taking an emotional mauling from someone a few years ago, someone I really thought was the one I'd been looking for all my life

i was like that when i first joined, this site really suited my need not to get to close to anyone.

hope you get over him/her and into a better head space.

It was a 'her'! One of the reasons I tried 'hims' was because I found it so hard to get over her, but it wasn't for me. In general I don't even like being touched in a non-sexual way anymore, the term 'hopeless case' springs to mind "

sorry, people can change sexuality so i put that him/her anyway, just in case.

that sucks, if it's bothering you. i am always comfortable with any form of physical intimacy now. it was just i didn't want to get emotionally involved with anyone. even gave up a great fuck buddy just coz he was getting too close for me to feel comfortable with and he was a great guy. i don't regret it, the timing was wrong but i regret how i ended it.

i spent 10 months getting myself some self help and this worked for me. i enjoy having new friends now and love them very much but also got a balance that i should love myself too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one of the best personalities going but am shy in person until I have meet someone a couple of times.

But all my friends say I am one of a kind and if you sleep with someone more than was is it a second night stand or what.

Also I find writing about myself is extremely difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty much the same. I only ever say on here, what I'd say in reality.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have one of the best personalities going but am shy in person until I have meet someone a couple of times.

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Modest to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all present ourselves differently depending on the environment we are in our mood desires or the nature of our relationships with others.

No person is just one dimensional and while our hopes and fears and dreams and joys may always be at our core and reflect our inner selves perhaps we should all love ourselves a little more accept our frailties and trust those who may be important in our lives.

It's all to easy to build walls around us become closed defensive wary of the world because of our personal experiences especially the negative ones.

Maybe we are all a work in progress and our fears are as important as our successes.. but if we live our lives as we think others wish to see us then we are not being true to ourselves.

OP you can only be you...

Don't try to be anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purveyor of dodgy snake oil

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I strive to be authentic and believe I do quite well on that score.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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sorry, people can change sexuality so i put that him/her anyway, just in case.

that sucks, if it's bothering you. i am always comfortable with any form of physical intimacy now. it was just i didn't want to get emotionally involved with anyone. even gave up a great fuck buddy just coz he was getting too close for me to feel comfortable with and he was a great guy. i don't regret it, the timing was wrong but i regret how i ended it.

i spent 10 months getting myself some self help and this worked for me. i enjoy having new friends now and love them very much but also got a balance that i should love myself too.

"

No apology needed, given my profile it was an understandable assumption!

I joined fab thinking I could fulfil a physical need without the emotional side raising its ugly head lol, but twas not to be! So getting back to the original question in the thread, my profile isn't really 'me' as I am now, but was possibly more accurate when I created the profile.Should I change it? Possibly, but would lessen my chance of meeting anybody even more than now.Best to stick to the forums and maybe something will happen when I'm least expecting it

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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sorry, people can change sexuality so i put that him/her anyway, just in case.

that sucks, if it's bothering you. i am always comfortable with any form of physical intimacy now. it was just i didn't want to get emotionally involved with anyone. even gave up a great fuck buddy just coz he was getting too close for me to feel comfortable with and he was a great guy. i don't regret it, the timing was wrong but i regret how i ended it.

i spent 10 months getting myself some self help and this worked for me. i enjoy having new friends now and love them very much but also got a balance that i should love myself too.

No apology needed, given my profile it was an understandable assumption!

I joined fab thinking I could fulfil a physical need without the emotional side raising its ugly head lol, but twas not to be! So getting back to the original question in the thread, my profile isn't really 'me' as I am now, but was possibly more accurate when I created the profile.Should I change it? Possibly, but would lessen my chance of meeting anybody even more than now.Best to stick to the forums and maybe something will happen when I'm least expecting it"

you sound the emotional opposite of who i was.

i hope you find what you need and want, it'd be nice if it helped i think.

this place has been good for letting me vent and work out what's been going on in my head at times, also to find people who seem to be good for me, some even think i'm good for them so that's nice too.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Im allways my self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to the question, I'm a mixture, but that's the same in real life too. I use humour ( not everyone will get it) to lighten a mood even if I'm not feeling it myself then sometimes I can be honest with my views, even if they don't agree with everyone.

Very very few will be privileged to see the real me on the forum.

But I have found some people to share good conversation on here by not trying to be someone I'm not. So, I'm at least being honest to myself in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I tweak my behaviour to fit my surroundings but the fundamental basics are the same or at least I think they are.

I was recently analysing this as a close friend (made later in life ) said she thought I came across as very mature & sensible. Generally two words that aren't used to describe me!"

I was described as a nice quite lad once. Taha laughter/comments from my friends who heard it was amusing. I think I must be adaptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are all onions, many layers and many skins and to be on fab means thicker than usual, the online aspects lets us hide so it's fine to be a bit wild on here yet shy in real life, Freud will look on here and say he was right, primal feelings cannot be kept down and what exactly is normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty much the same on here as I am in real life, except obviously I'm more open here about the sexual side of my life.

Basically I'm just as contrary, irreverent, obnoxious, annoying and mischievous.

I'm also as much of a 'white knight' in reality as I've been labelled recently on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a percentage of members who come to the site, experiencing what a lot of modern day folk do.

Questioning purpose,feelings,attachment,self worth,happiness etc. Why a predominantly sex site? Maybe our simplistic view of sex being a physical indulgence only is warped. Maybe we seek acceptance and closeness through it subliminally.

So a site like this allows folk to express what they feel and think, which perhaps in everyday life has led to judgement.

After all, for the more introverted amongst us, it's hard to reveal ourselves to people we care about only to face rejection then have to carry on in daily life. On here we can express, and simply log off if the interaction isn't as expected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsociable and shy in the real world.

Pretty much your average introvert here. Not flirtatious at all, i tend to give a "fuck off and die" vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unsociable and shy in the real world.

Pretty much your average introvert here. Not flirtatious at all, i tend to give a "fuck me" vibe.

"

Fify.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i tend to give a "fuck off and die" vibe.

"

Is that on lovehoney?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm pretty much the same on here as I am I the real world. Chatty, funny (well I think!) loyal to my friends and know what I want, I don't apologise for that either. I think eventually if you try to be something you aren't, you get found out, so it's easier to be yourself from the word go.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Nope, I'm the same me here as I am in real life. Most of the time I'm half naked, couldn't really care what people think about me, a little childish and I flirt far too much "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i tend to give a "fuck off and die" vibe.

Is that on lovehoney?"

Asda, near the condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just as sarcastic and rude in real life, it's a nervous reaction that I can't control.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'd say I'm just the same really.

I'm not as confident in real life as I can be on here though. I'm very insecure at times.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Who am I really?

I'm bashful and terrible at eye contact.

With my friends I am the funny flirty crazy one

With my family I am living caring and protective

And when I find someone to love that get all of me, passionately, whole heartedly, in every way possible.

When people piss me off I go crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i tend to give a "fuck off and die" vibe.

Is that on lovehoney?

Asda, near the condoms "

Condoms? What are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same on here as i am in real life.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers."

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the milky bar kid!

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I'm who I say I am..

I am a little bit crazy, in a nice way, I enjoy meeting people and having a laugh..

The only inaccuracy is i do not own a guide dog, that's just there for poetic licence in the context of my profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here. "

Cool...bet it was like the star wars bar !!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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" i tend to give a "fuck off and die" vibe.

Is that on lovehoney?

Asda, near the condoms

Condoms? What are they? "

Passion killers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here.

Cool...bet it was like the star wars bar !! "

That's not a bad description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quiet and shy in real life and a lot more introverted.

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By *ammskiMan
over a year ago

lytham st.annes


"When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really "
Don,t put yourself down,you are stunning,just grab every bit of courage you can muster and leave.It will only get worse,you have no need to be afraid ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm complex and mercurial, so I can probably seem inconsistent.

And I don't think I'm as negative as I come across on here.

At most I maybe dumb myself down on here.

I still stand by my policy of not posting anything that I wouldn't say to someone's face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm complex and mercurial, so I can probably seem inconsistent.

And I don't think I'm as negative as I come across on here.

At most I maybe dumb myself down on here.

I still stand by my policy of not posting anything that I wouldn't say to someone's face. "

Negative posts aren't necessarily down to the poster but the interpretation of the reader at times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really "

I remember you from before and you always came across as really confident. If you know your relationship isn't good for you, you need to take steps to sort that aspect of your life. Easier said than done, I know. I was the same in my late 20's, but one day I walked out without planning to. I never went back and I rebuilt myself. Be kind to yourself. Xx

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"There are a lot of ppl on here hiding behind humour "

Are we all clowns ?

Laughing in the outside

Crying on the inside ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more confident on here without a doubt. But I am the same person in real life. Just a bit more reserved until I get to know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you Wammski and Miss Argo xx

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't pretend to be someone else on here. but i dont necessarily show show all my sides. I stay detached emotionally and am more confident. but that's a mask I wear often in real life as well. I dont let others know when I am not well and can hide behind humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same person, selective about the company I keep and ignoring all the drama, bullshit and petty-minded crap that goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not trying to be be anyone I'm not. I'm relatively shy but confident in certain situations. I like a laugh and a giggle just like anyone and hopefully by way of my written word in here I portray this.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

apart from the clothing I'm pretty much the same.. when your barking mad it's very hard to pretend to be anything else..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I'm the kind of person who looks at a thread like this and thinks, "what the fuck is wrong with these people?". Then moves on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had time to think after my first comment on this thread....which was bullshit really

How am I being myself.....I portray as a bloody woman.....when in real life I'm a bloke 99.9% of the time! The reason is I hoped it would get me more meets with the type of ladies who may enjoy this side of me. But it doesn't seem to be bloody working as all the attention I get is from single blokes who I'm not looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had time to think after my first comment on this thread....which was bullshit really

How am I being myself.....I portray as a bloody woman.....when in real life I'm a bloke 99.9% of the time! The reason is I hoped it would get me more meets with the type of ladies who may enjoy this side of me. But it doesn't seem to be bloody working as all the attention I get is from single blokes who I'm not looking for."

In my heterosexual white middle class English closed mind I assumed you was looking for men, sorry, so without being condescending hopefully someone has benefitted from my thread about my pathetic emotional hang ups.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really "

Oh I am so sad it has turned into that - you would not expect the young lover to be the jealous one

I hope you find yourself anew - I'm still waiting for the book! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a harder time expressing myself in person. But its still me and my thoughts and feelings whether they get expressed or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had time to think after my first comment on this thread....which was bullshit really

How am I being myself.....I portray as a bloody woman.....when in real life I'm a bloke 99.9% of the time! The reason is I hoped it would get me more meets with the type of ladies who may enjoy this side of me. But it doesn't seem to be bloody working as all the attention I get is from single blokes who I'm not looking for.

In my heterosexual white middle class English closed mind I assumed you was looking for men, sorry, so without being condescending hopefully someone has benefitted from my thread about my pathetic emotional hang ups. "

That's it....we all see a picture or two and make a assumption that,that is the person.....I hope I can dispel that and thank you for the thread which has given me the opportunity to do so

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I'm me, if I can't be me, who is going to?

Quiet, shy until I know people, listen rather than talk, top of people's list when they need help.

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

I'm shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm complex and mercurial, so I can probably seem inconsistent.

And I don't think I'm as negative as I come across on here.

At most I maybe dumb myself down on here.

I still stand by my policy of not posting anything that I wouldn't say to someone's face.

Negative posts aren't necessarily down to the poster but the interpretation of the reader at times?"

True. Again it's down to fluctuating mood, and cynicism.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

What day is it ? What hour ? Who am I talking to ? What's your perception?

I'm me. I'm not 100% responsible for what you choose to see.

In real life ? WTF is that ?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here. "

I had more clothes on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really

Oh I am so sad it has turned into that - you would not expect the young lover to be the jealous one

I hope you find yourself anew - I'm still waiting for the book! ! "

Aaaw thank you hun. Yep good looking young man jealous of me ! So silly

Aaah the book ...... maybe one day lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm shy, not very opinionated, sexual or funny. "

This exactly. Although can be quite funny. Very sarcastic

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm me. No facade. No double life. I don't choose to tell worl about this but I am known even there as broadminded and open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here.

I had more clothes on... "

We need a more central meet like York. ...it's only around 2-3 hours travel for most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who am I really?

I'm bashful and terrible at eye contact.

With my friends I am the funny flirty crazy one

With my family I am living caring and protective

And when I find someone to love that get all of me, passionately, whole heartedly, in every way possible.

When people piss me off I go crazy "

This too!!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am who I am on here. Though there is a softer side of me to my son, family and friends, that doesn't come through with fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I guess a meeting of all regular forumites in person would be interesting dynamics!

The deeply profound may be exact opposite and the more vocal wallflowers.

You mean like a social that happened recently?

People were quite like how they are on here.

I had more clothes on...

We need a more central meet like York. ...it's only around 2-3 hours travel for most "

In fairness there's plenty of organised socials through out the country, including York.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Sadly what you see is what you get pretty much.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i am as i am on here. I can get a little shy in person though but that soon goes as i get confortable with someone x

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes


"I think i am as i am on here. I can get a little shy in person though but that soon goes as i get confortable with someone x"

And who doesn't (unless full of him/her self)

perhaps is the beauty of being human after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was on here before ( 3 years ago) I was Densol Milfy - legend lol. I was confident, assertive and met quite a few guys. I would go to clubs all over the uk on my own.

Now 3 years later and in a rather mentally abusive relationship ( keep getting accused of affairs when Im 100% faithful ) - Im now very shy and rather scared. I go out with my mates but hate being chatted up or even spoken to. I need to take the step to end my relationship and become who I once was. " On paper " I appear the same as I was on here .... but Im not really "

Don't beat yourself up for not being able to end the relationship. You'll find the strength at some point. 3 years went fast!! You've overcome sooooo much. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. x

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