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"i know there's something wrong with me, i was horny before i even had sex and just always had an urge to have sex/be filled with cock. no idea why but there will be some kind of physical basis for that. do i think there's a psychological one? not in the sense that being fucked up makes me horny...how i act on it might give a clue to how fucked up i am though. "Psychology isn't about being fked up though, it's about how and why we behave as we do.. there are tonnes of theories to try and explain it, some make a lot more sense than others though obviously lol. I think this is one topic where Freud actually had a good handle on it.. he would have said it was a personality imbalance that causes the controls over your urges for gratification to be less effective and leading to 'deviant' behaviour | |||
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"i know there's something wrong with me, i was horny before i even had sex and just always had an urge to have sex/be filled with cock. no idea why but there will be some kind of physical basis for that. do i think there's a psychological one? not in the sense that being fucked up makes me horny...how i act on it might give a clue to how fucked up i am though.
Psychology isn't about being fked up though, it's about how and why we behave as we do.. there are tonnes of theories to try and explain it, some make a lot more sense than others though obviously lol.
I think this is one topic where Freud actually had a good handle on it.. he would have said it was a personality imbalance that causes the controls over your urges for gratification to be less effective and leading to 'deviant' behaviour"the question itself asked if there was something wrong with us. i know there is something wrong with me, i don't think it's made me physically feel horny all the time is my answer. it doesn't even make me want a lot of partners either, i'd like a lot of sex only. the more fucked up i was though the more partners i was open to, because sex was my coping mechanism and i needed sex as a way to ignore how i felt. it's also a way i form bonds, and a way for me to be intimate and let someone know i want them, it's different things at different times depending on how i feel about a person [i]and[/i] according to my mental state at the time ...now this is subjective to me and what i actually want for me. so what is a fucked up state for me and how i act on it might be a totally acceptable state for others. it's a really complicated topic because it can't be answered objectively, shame i'm knackered and really need to switch off before i get a bad headache coz it's an interesting topic really. and who gets to decide what is deviant also?  | |||
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"For lots this sort of life would throw up a lot of morality issues" It did for me to begin with  | |||
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"i know there's something wrong with me, i was horny before i even had sex and just always had an urge to have sex/be filled with cock. no idea why but there will be some kind of physical basis for that. do i think there's a psychological one? not in the sense that being fucked up makes me horny...how i act on it might give a clue to how fucked up i am though.
Psychology isn't about being fked up though, it's about how and why we behave as we do.. there are tonnes of theories to try and explain it, some make a lot more sense than others though obviously lol.
I think this is one topic where Freud actually had a good handle on it.. he would have said it was a personality imbalance that causes the controls over your urges for gratification to be less effective and leading to 'deviant' behaviour
the question itself asked if there was something wrong with us.
i know there is something wrong with me, i don't think it's made me physically feel horny all the time is my answer.
it doesn't even make me want a lot of partners either, i'd like a lot of sex only. the more fucked up i was though the more partners i was open to, because sex was my coping mechanism and i needed sex as a way to ignore how i felt.
it's also a way i form bonds, and a way for me to be intimate and let someone know i want them, it's different things at different times depending on how i feel about a person [i]and[/i] according to my mental state at the time ...now this is subjective to me and what i actually want for me. so what is a fucked up state for me and how i act on it might be a totally acceptable state for others.
it's a really complicated topic because it can't be answered objectively, shame i'm knackered and really need to switch off before i get a bad headache coz it's an interesting topic really.
and who gets to decide what is deviant also? "It is interesting, totally agree and yeah, vobjective to a degree.. i would bet that a common theme (and this is in me too.. well beyond just this place) is self esteem and confirmation of self worth.. but that will make people shout at me, so I'll stop lol. In this context, deviant is just something that doesn't conform with social norms.. which none of us do | |||
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"For lots this sort of life would throw up a lot of morality issues It did for me to begin with "Me too. I've seen a lot of people bounce out of this and the kink lifestyle over the years because they couldn't handle it. I don't think I have a problem with sex, it doesn't interfere with me living my life, it's simply my sex drive means I want sex several times a day. Personally I'd rather spend my time playing than watching TV, I can't see any way that that's a bad thing! | |||
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