FabSwingers.com forum: I'm not that type of person.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure most of us have a preconceived idea of how we portray ourselves and how we are seen by others.

But have you ever been surprised to get feedback? How do you think you portray yourself and have you ever been told to the contrary?

I always think I'm friendly and approachable, but I was told I can be scary and intimidating

You?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the opposite problem. I think sometimes I can be harsh and close to the bone with my comments and sense of humour but people think Im a nice friendly girl!

At work if Im in a bad mood I have to actually tell people as Im still bubbly on the outside!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr tells me I'm naive and too friendly and nice. I think it's part of who I am. I don't look for confrontation but will defend myself and loved ones. I'm honest but not harsh. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No feedback surprises me, however I often learn more about the person giving it than I do about myself.

I present many faces to the world so it depends on which face(s) others see, what they might make of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently im abrupt and make my point known,but also been told i have a wicked sense of humour

. Nx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think i come accross as approachable and kind.. however i can be quite shy sometimes and i think that can come accross as a bit standoff ish x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have no idea how I come across but I try to present myself as the person I am off line and that's thoughtful, considerate, self-deprecating and friendly albeit a bit aloof until I know someone.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The men in my area seem to think I am really intimidating for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm perceived as an arrogant, uncaring, s**t stiring t**t but that's my own fault for having a defence mechanism for the real me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently i come across as the most beautiful, classy, desirable woman here.

*along with the other 99,568 women they've messaged that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently i come across as the most beautiful, classy, desirable woman here.

*along with the other 99,568 women they've messaged that day. "

Not just me then

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I've had some really sweet compliments today which is always wonderfully uplifting. Often it surprises me how ppl pick up on things in this environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently i come across as the most beautiful, classy, desirable woman here.

*along with the other 99,568 women they've messaged that day.

Not just me then

As I said, so are the other 99,568 women they've messaged that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently i come across as the most beautiful, classy, desirable woman here.

*along with the other 99,568 women they've messaged that day.

Not just me then

I'd say honest and homely.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I've no idea how I come across. I'm truthful to myself as to the type of person I am or at least think I am.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've spent my entire adult life being the quiet, pudgy, nothing to write home about girl who is comfortable in my own company and pretty shy with others until I know them. I still feel like that but apparently others now disagree.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm a cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure how others see me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've been called aloof a few times not just on here, I don't think I am, I'm just a bit shy until I know someone

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

Ah yes, forgot that bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'm sure most of us have a preconceived idea of how we portray ourselves and how we are seen by others.

But have you ever been surprised to get feedback? How do you think you portray yourself and have you ever been told to the contrary?

I always think I'm friendly and approachable, but I was told I can be scary and intimidating

You?"

Someone commented that I was a confident person after a meet, it boosted my confidence XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm perceived as an arrogant, uncaring, s**t stiring t**t but that's my own fault for having a defence mechanism for the real me."

Do we really know we're behaving like that though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think I was quite youthful for my age until someone said to me in an opening message "you look ok for your age" ... that was it!! the full extent of the message!! .... barsteward was my immediate thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to think I was quite youthful for my age until someone said to me in an opening message "you look ok for your age" ... that was it!! the full extent of the message!! .... barsteward was my immediate thought

If we're always guided by other people's thoughts what's the point in having your own? Oscar Wilde.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're always guided by other people's thoughts what's the point in having your own? Oscar Wilde."

I prefer OW's quote "Beauty is the only thing that time cannot harm" - that that would have been a much better first message ... just a thought

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Ive been told I have a resting bitch face!!!

And also unapproachable,, but then after talking to me they realise I'm really not unapproachable nor am I a bitch,, most of these people now are my best friends !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a cunt

That I'd like to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, that's a lot of self-reflection...

Anyway, I'm awesome and I think I do a good job of portraying that to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But have you ever been surprised to get feedback? How do you think you portray yourself and have you ever been told to the contrary?

No. But then I'm not trying to be something or someone I'm not and never have done on here.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i was surprised someone bothered to tell me i'm an ignorant bitch. i already knew that.

don't think anyone has told me i'm something i'm not. been surprised at the amount of men who don't like heavily tattoed women but approached me for sex so i guess i'm not that heavily tattooed or they need better eyesight.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to be very self conscious about other people's perception of me. I'm at that point in my life where I look back and think ,"what was that all about"

I'm all grown up now, I know I will never be a playboy millionaire porn star space captain......... well maybe there is hope?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

Ah yes, forgot that bit

I never will.

Apparently I come across as scary as fuck. I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt.

You're back aha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

Ah yes, forgot that bit

I never will.

Apparently I come across as scary as fuck. I am."

No your not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can read me like a book.

'That's not my pirate'. Or 'that's not my dog', you know the type.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

Ah yes, forgot that bit

I never will.

Apparently I come across as scary as fuck. I am.

No your not

Hush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a flying f**k what people think of me tbh.

I am who I am and that's it.

I have been surprised by how others perceive me but I don't care!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what people think of me. I recently returned to Fab after a break and a few people said they knew it was me. I'm a consistent old fuckwit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think of myself as devastatingly attractive and an hilarious raconteur who has no intellectual equal.

But apparently I'm a bit of a cunt with a sexy arse.

Ah yes, forgot that bit

I never will.

Apparently I come across as scary as fuck. I am.

No your not

Hush!

Sorry ......... didnt ya want me to blow your persona lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I couldn't give a flying f**k what people think of me tbh.

I am who I am and that's it.

I have been surprised by how others perceive me but I don't care! "

Maybe that's a good thing. But maybe you should reflect?

We're all who we are as the saying goes, but some of us need to realise that we are who we choose to become? Not aimed at you of course! But some people use that expression as an excuse for poor behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn't give a flying f**k what people think of me tbh.

I am who I am and that's it.

I have been surprised by how others perceive me but I don't care! "

. This could be the revival of punk rock in the U.K. With these lyrics.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't know what people think of me. I recently returned to Fab after a break and a few people said they knew it was me. I'm a consistent old fuckwit.

i didn't know it was you but i did like you and was secretly hoping to become your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are always suprised by how shy i am.

Not sure why, i do pre-warn them.

I'm sure i come across as a cold hearted bitch on here, but i am actually quite nice. Deep, deep, deep down.

I am a loner and my social skills aren't very well tuned so that doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are always suprised by how shy i am.

Not sure why, i do pre-warn them.

I'm sure i come across as a cold hearted bitch on here, but i am actually quite nice. Deep, deep, deep down.

I am a loner and my social skills aren't very well tuned so that doesn't help. "

Cold hearted bitch?

err not trying to be the sycophantic male because I'm just down the road but yet to see that? Another example of misconception?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'm sure most of us have a preconceived idea of how we portray ourselves and how we are seen by others.

But have you ever been surprised to get feedback? How do you think you portray yourself and have you ever been told to the contrary?

I always think I'm friendly and approachable, but I was told I can be scary and intimidating

You?"

Yes I have been surprised and confused by some feedback.

Being told I'm dangerous was a good surprise though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some feedback is good, but some people try to mould you to how they think you should be. I once had a boss who told me everything I think shows on my face, and I should try to remain impassive at times. Sorry that isn't me acting like some kind of robot. So I just carried on being me and no one has ever said that it's an issue for them since.

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By *ve 66Woman
over a year ago

Blackwood

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By *ve 66Woman
over a year ago

Blackwood

I was told I seemed a despicable person going off my profile. They didn't get the connection between Eve and Commandments. So added a little humour had no problems since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told different things by different people quite regularly so pay no attention.. it's just one persons perception and much about them as me

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