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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we all know how much others we spend time with at home , work or online have an effect on who we are and who we become.

Is there a significant person or people on fab who/whom have had an effect on who we are while online? Positive or negative. No names required unless you want to, but maybe share how.

I'll start, there are a few who fall in this categiry but there is one who has left who is a great friend. Am greatful for her shared insight into whose who on here. A true lady and very perceptive. I'll continue with others later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, there's one who makes me laugh. And things.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No-one changes who I am online, I strive always to be authentic, but some change my behaviour I guess - good and bad.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Tink/Knitter made me think hard about the way I spoke to somebody once.

I've been more thoughtful since I think whilst still saying what i feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No-one changes who I am online, I strive always to be authentic, but some change my behaviour I guess - good and bad."

Interesting.... yes I can see that in myself too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a few on here have made me more perceptive to how people can be someone they're not online.

I used to be fairly naive but I'm getting the hang of the whole online fibbing and general bulls**t that goes on daily.

It's taken some weeks to figure that out but glad for the negative experiences. They only help you learn from mistakes and become a lot more savvy.

All hail the numpties!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tink/Knitter made me think hard about the way I spoke to somebody once.

I've been more thoughtful since I think whilst still saying what i feel

Hi Hanky.... A great trait indeed. .. keeping true to your beliefs can be hard at times if face of adversity especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a few on here have made me more perceptive to how people can be someone they're not online.

I used to be fairly naive but I'm getting the hang of the whole online fibbing and general bulls**t that goes on daily.

It's taken some weeks to figure that out but glad for the negative experiences. They only help you learn from mistakes and become a lot more savvy.

All hail the numpties!

Hi Not - so - normal

. Hope your experience continues to give positive reflection. Sound like a wise owl.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, they helped me enjoy it a lot more. And also helped me remember that sometimes it is not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a few on here have made me more perceptive to how people can be someone they're not online.

I used to be fairly naive but I'm getting the hang of the whole online fibbing and general bulls**t that goes on daily.

It's taken some weeks to figure that out but glad for the negative experiences. They only help you learn from mistakes and become a lot more savvy.

All hail the numpties!

Hi Not - so - normal

. Hope your experience continues to give positive reflection. Sound like a wise owl."

Still a lot to learn but with the right people around me, I can't go far wrong surely.

Even the worst experiences in life enable you to learn and move on stronger than before.

There's a few I've talked to who I will keep as fab friends, those who know a lot more than I do. I call them my fab guru friends. I don't think they've changed me personally, I'm quite set in my ways now, but they've enhanced my experience of the site.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Tink/Knitter made me think hard about the way I spoke to somebody once.

I've been more thoughtful since I think whilst still saying what i feel

Hi Hanky.... A great trait indeed. .. keeping true to your beliefs can be hard at times if face of adversity especially on here."

I certainly try and if I can't word it in a way that doesn't sound nasty then I have just learnt not to say it.

Nobody is worth getting a forum ban for!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Theres been a few people on my fab journey who I've made some memories with. Some I've learnt from, some I've admired and some that make me wonder!

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By *hispers-40Woman
over a year ago

up the garden path

"Theres been a few people on my fab journey who I've made some memories with. Some I've learnt from, some I've admired and some that make me wonder!

Some that mak me wonder

i can second that !! .... but made me more cautious have met some lovely folks here and the learning process continues

But a lot wiser than when i first joined have a lovely circle of friends and hope to continue enjoying their company socially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. But this thread has.

. I very much put down what I think. If someone pulls me up, I might try to explain it if when reading back if I didn't put my point across well. But I don't change me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm very cautious sometimes, I enjoy the forumites company but still think I'm a bit naive in lots of ways.

I'm soon learning when to scroll past some conversations so I can stay true to who I am. I think the one thing that has changed since being on here is I'm more open sexually, but that's good isn't it. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No. I'm very aware that you can't rely on anybody on the net to be the person they're presenting. So while I will give the benefit of the doubt to everyone I won't change how I react because of how a person seems to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am me - pretty much on here how i am in real life - people who have met me have said as much as well - so im not fibbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same on here as i am in real life. No one from here can alter how i am as they are just people online on a website.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, they helped me enjoy it a lot more. And also helped me remember that sometimes it is not worth it."

It's good to get a right perspective and that's what friends here can do best for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Theres been a few people on my fab journey who I've made some memories with. Some I've learnt from, some I've admired and some that make me wonder!

Some that mak me wonder

i can second that !! .... but made me more cautious have met some lovely folks here and the learning process continues

But a lot wiser than when i first joined have a lovely circle of friends and hope to continue enjoying their company socially "

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"So we all know how much others we spend time with at home , work or online have an effect on who we are and who we become.

Is there a significant person or people on fab who/whom have had an effect on who we are while online? Positive or negative. No names required unless you want to, but maybe share how.

I met a young man (late 20s) online quite a few years back. It didn't last, but changed how I saw younger men.

I started talking to more men who were not strictly my age range, and this eventually led to me meeting my current long term partner partner, 15 years younger than I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So we all know how much others we spend time with at home , work or online have an effect on who we are and who we become.

Is there a significant person or people on fab who/whom have had an effect on who we are while online? Positive or negative. No names required unless you want to, but maybe share how.

I met a young man (late 20s) online quite a few years back. It didn't last, but changed how I saw younger men.

I started talking to more men who were not strictly my age range, and this eventually led to me meeting my current long term partner partner, 15 years younger than I am.

Goes to show that it can often pay to think outside the boundaries we set ourselves for whatever reasons they may be. There's often a surprise or 3 we'll never know about if we stick rigidly to things.

Great post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we all know how much others we spend time with at home , work or online have an effect on who we are and who we become.

Is there a significant person or people on fab who/whom have had an effect on who we are while online? Positive or negative. No names required unless you want to, but maybe share how.

Yes there is a lady on fab who has enlightened and brightened my world. However I have always been a social chameleon and an almost paradox with the people that I engage with.

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