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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else find it hard to go on every day? Day after day of no sex knowing people think I'm a freak and an ugly fast bastard gets to much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else find it hard to go on every day? Day after day of no sex knowing people think I'm a freak and an ugly fast bastard gets to much "
There is someone out there for everyone mate . We will never be everyone's cup of tea . But will always be someone's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low, OP. It's really not uncommon. It's important to get some support though if you're struggling.

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard work,i have tinnitus which makes me depressed i feel your pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea I'm not a sufferer but if you genuinely feel like that, as in feeling the way you do, I can't think of a worse site to be on than this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no idea I'm not a sufferer but if you genuinely feel like that, as in feeling the way you do, I can't think of a worse site to be on than this.

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Fair comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its hard work,i have tinnitus which makes me depressed i feel your pain"

lol I've got self inflicted Tinnitus from years of MX bikes, I can't get all depressed about it cos I did it myself but fuck me, my ears are like rrrrrrinngggggggg all the time.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Take Estella's advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low, OP. It's really not uncommon. It's important to get some support though if you're struggling.

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis. "

Very thoughtful message full of kindness. Touched me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no idea I'm not a sufferer but if you genuinely feel like that, as in feeling the way you do, I can't think of a worse site to be on than this.

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Well said, if you get depressed about being rejected then fab isn't suitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its hard work,i have tinnitus which makes me depressed i feel your pain

lol I've got self inflicted Tinnitus from years of MX bikes, I can't get all depressed about it cos I did it myself but fuck me, my ears are like rrrrrrinngggggggg all the time. "

I have a high pitched tone in my head 24/7 i m suprised im still here....fact

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I have no idea I'm not a sufferer but if you genuinely feel like that, as in feeling the way you do, I can't think of a worse site to be on than this.

Well said, if you get depressed about being rejected then fab isn't suitable "

think it goes a lot more deeper than that.

i'm shit with this kind of thing anyway as i'm not sure if i'd accidently offend but hope you find someone you can relate to to talk about things with, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get rejected everywhere. It's there anywhere I wouldn't be? Thanks for the nice messages just one of those days that my depression is bad and was looking for a little support, silly of me to post on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get rejected everywhere. It's there anywhere I wouldn't be? Thanks for the nice messages just one of those days that my depression is bad and was looking for a little support, silly of me to post on here"

Not silly at all. You are most welcome in the forum. Post whatever you want (within site rules) and use the space in a way that you enjoy. Pleased to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not silly at all, the most important thing to do is talk, Wether its family/friend, GPS, councillor, even the postman. Just talk. You are not alone. There will always be the odd person to put you down or to judge you but the amount of people who are willing to help definitely outweighs them. People will reject you and they have a free choice to, you know that, the hardest part is not letting it affect you. I have always struggled with my mental health and have never been diagnosed with anything, but the majority of the time I have it under control. I've learnt to do this by change and determination, once you get the grasp of determination, change becomes much easier to deal with.

Not happy with your weight? lose it.

Not happy with your job? Get a new one

Not happy with where you live? Move

It won't be easy, but everyone deserves to be happy and strong, if you are determined you can be anything you want to be. It is NEVER too late

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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago

In amongst the Unicorns & fairy dust


"I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low, OP. It's really not uncommon. It's important to get some support though if you're struggling.

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who suffered with depression for five years, I would suggest that if you're really feeling that low, go and talk to your GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Estella's post put it all brilliantly. I just wanted to add that you don't have to ring the Samaritans. You can just e-mail or even write to them. Or if you ring, you don't even have to talk as they will talk to you. It's whatever you are most comfortable with.

If you haven't already seen your GP - please reach out to him/her. That first step is really hard, but they really can help.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"I get rejected everywhere. It's there anywhere I wouldn't be? Thanks for the nice messages just one of those days that my depression is bad and was looking for a little support, silly of me to post on here

Not silly at all. You are most welcome in the forum. Post whatever you want (within site rules) and use the space in a way that you enjoy. Pleased to meet you. "

Have sent you a message with some hints.

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"Estella's post put it all brilliantly. I just wanted to add that you don't have to ring the Samaritans. You can just e-mail or even write to them. Or if you ring, you don't even have to talk as they will talk to you. It's whatever you are most comfortable with.

If you haven't already seen your GP - please reach out to him/her. That first step is really hard, but they really can help."

I suffered in 2012, lost my job in 2008 and again 2011. The first step was indeed the worst, the toughest. GP put me into a mindfulness program, no meds, just resilience exercises. They combination was amazing, medication free path out of the darkness.

Here is no place for a depresses person, the many thousands of men to one woman ratio is likely to amplify the feelings of rejection. Take a break, get help, come back when stronger to socials and forums and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get rejected everywhere. It's there anywhere I wouldn't be? Thanks for the nice messages just one of those days that my depression is bad and was looking for a little support, silly of me to post on here

Not silly at all. You are most welcome in the forum. Post whatever you want (within site rules) and use the space in a way that you enjoy. Pleased to meet you. "

If only a lot more people were as considerate and helpful as you this world would be a better place x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said get some help.

I've been there, the death of my mum caused me to have quite a spectacular melt down. Being a man I thought I could just man up and soldier on, I was too proud to ask for help, saw it as a sign of weakness, don't do what I did.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think Estella has covered it with her wise words op

Hope you feel better soon xx

Miss

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I get rejected everywhere. It's there anywhere I wouldn't be? Thanks for the nice messages just one of those days that my depression is bad and was looking for a little support, silly of me to post on here"

It's fine - and especially if it helped you. The lounge is for chat about anything - within boundaries - and people here have a broad range of experience.

As it's tough for single men here, consider if your time spent here is going to be the soul nourishment that you need. The practical help covered by others is great. Keep your stress low, engage professional management of your condition with your GP and take small steps that support you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just been told I'm a lizard and a freak and I shouldn't be on here nor do I have the right to like any ones pictures. I'll need deleting soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been told I'm a lizard and a freak and I shouldn't be on here nor do I have the right to like any ones pictures. I'll need deleting soon"

That kind of insult says so much more about the person making them than you. You *know* that is a horrible, awful, unwarranted attack and meant to cause entertainment to a small indeed, awful person with no concept of their capacity to hurt and someone with a lot of issues to have to resort to this kind of behaviour to get their sad, little kicks. OP, do not let such a person/or persons affect how you want to enjoy Fab (or anything for that matter). Only leave if that's what you want. There are a large number of wonderful people here for every infantile eejit.

Be you. Be unique. Be wonderful. You are worthwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been told I'm a lizard and a freak and I shouldn't be on here nor do I have the right to like any ones pictures. I'll need deleting soon

That kind of insult says so much more about the person making them than you. You *know* that is a horrible, awful, unwarranted attack and meant to cause entertainment to a small indeed, awful person with no concept of their capacity to hurt and someone with a lot of issues to have to resort to this kind of behaviour to get their sad, little kicks. OP, do not let such a person/or persons affect how you want to enjoy Fab (or anything for that matter). Only leave if that's what you want. There are a large number of wonderful people here for every infantile eejit.

Be you. Be unique. Be wonderful. You are worthwhile. "

And report any such messages to Admin. For your sake and others'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been told I'm a lizard and a freak and I shouldn't be on here nor do I have the right to like any ones pictures. I'll need deleting soon"

Youve as much right to be on here as anybody else,ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't base your sense of self worth on whether others perceive you as physically desirable or not.

You're more than an exterior. Do positive things that strengthen your confidence and lift you up emotionally. Well done for admitting you're depressed!

The First step is one many struggle to make . Good luck.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I've just been told I'm a lizard and a freak and I shouldn't be on here nor do I have the right to like any ones pictures. I'll need deleting soon"

this place can be toxic if you let it be. it's basically a place where people only care to bother with people they want to fuck or who will make them look good so they can get more fucks/fabs/attention. if you make actual friends on here i am sure you consider yourself fortunate for doing so, i have done and it's nice chatting to them every day.

many are shallow but only on a level where they only are nice to those they want to fuck, some are nasty as you have found out and it makes them feel better about themselves to be like that. there also are people who are ok and have no particular agenda and won't bother you but neither care.

if you do want to leave then do that, you shouldn't have to or feel forced to though.

other things you can consider is to hide your profile while you think about leaving. block all from being able to message you to give yourself a break from messages that bother you (i do this a lot, i don't get nasty messages just most of mine are pointless and annoy me amd make me lose faith in humans just by being shit and selfish messages).

this place is also very accepting and you can be yourself here and some may judge or be nasty but the amount who are not might help you? i'm not sure as i don't know you.

i know depression is more complicated than getting help and having friends, although i don't fully understand it myself. i know having people to relate is affirmative and helps you feel normal, hope you find someone and they PM you instead.

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