FabSwingers.com forum: The Jealousy Gene

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you have it? I don't get jealous. I've happily shared previous long term partners and enjoyed doing so. I've wondered if my lack of jealousy is odd at times, but I think because I had complete trust in them, it just never happened.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Do you have it? I don't get jealous. I've happily shared previous long term partners and enjoyed doing so. I've wondered if my lack of jealousy is odd at times, but I think because I had complete trust in them, it just never happened. "

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really.

Actually, lately a fab friend and I have begun to find the same people attractive, so instead of feeling jealous that my friend has met people that I find attractive, it just turns me on instead.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think i was born without it. People find it hard to comprehend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a relationship I think jealousy is all to do with trust....if you trust someone then you won't get jealous....if you are unsure about your situation then ya will...is that simple for me at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did with my ex husband.but he cheated on me and had no qualms about rubbing my face in it. But my new mr I'm not jealous at all, I trust him completely and it does make a difference x

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have the possessive gene not the jealousy one - I like even my male dancing chums all to myself lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a jealous person. My ex used to fall out with me over it. I always tried to explain if he was gonna cheat hed do it anyway so why should I get worked up about it. He never understood my logic.

When it comes to group play i love watching their face as they play so seeing it from other angles is a turn on for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so sure it's a jealousy gene some of us have. More likely something in the trust or self confidence genes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex used to claim that I was emotionally retarded.

I figured it was because she took jealousy to a whole new level.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Yes as an ex cuck I used to get jealous when my master took my (then) wife away for weekends

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think its to do with self confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't care about you, I don't care what you do... won't even ask.

In a relationship....I'm both jealous and possessive. Once someone is mine, don't anybody touch him. And he better not look sideways

I expect him to know how to conduct himself. Respect for me at all times.

Though... I can. Double standards, what a bitch

I'm a bit Domme, and I've had cuck men before

I'm fully capable of being monogamous if asked. Simply depends on the dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been jealous, I have been the object of jealousy. I hated both feelings.

Now, my relationship is strong with a new person there is no need for jealousy. We are the relationship, others are just playthings. Nice, very temporary additions but not any sort of a threat. I think it helps that we seldom play with the same people more than once.

We also both have lots of friends of opposite sexes. Some are exes.

But they're no threat either. If we were meant to be in relationships with them, we would still be.

I don't have the time or energy to waste on such a destructive emotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, a strong relationship and total trust squeezes out jealousy. Jelousy kills relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"As others have said, a strong relationship and total trust squeezes out jealousy. "

Yes, I never had any jealousy in any of my proper relationships, well not mine anyway lol, I've had jealous boyfriends

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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which genetic variation(s) is it?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't like sharing. Simple as that."

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still."

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!"

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not."

Worse than that is going out with a massive group, some will drink loads (I rarely drink) and then announce we are splitting the bill equally. Now that kind of sharing pisses me right off.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not.

Worse than that is going out with a massive group, some will drink loads (I rarely drink) and then announce we are splitting the bill equally. Now that kind of sharing pisses me right off.

I hate that.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong? "

if it's a genetic trait then you are wrong.

i can't find any mention of the specific gene anywhere though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong?

if it's a genetic trait then you are wrong.

i can't find any mention of the specific gene anywhere though."

I imagine emotions are genetic or part of gene structure but rather human makeup, designed to influence our behaviour...stand to be corrected by others with factual evidence.

However I think we all get it at some point in our lives. Some manage it better and express it better.

Sure I get it. But I think I control it. You can't help what you feel...you can help how you react?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong?

if it's a genetic trait then you are wrong.

i can't find any mention of the specific gene anywhere though.

I imagine emotions are genetic or part of gene structure but rather human makeup, designed to influence our behaviour...stand to be corrected by others with factual evidence.

However I think we all get it at some point in our lives. Some manage it better and express it better.

Sure I get it. But I think I control it. You can't help what you feel...you can help how you react? "

they're influenced by a lot of things, chemicals mostly or rather we produce chemicals in response to an emotional state.

i know all cell proteins have specific functions but i doubt it the cells themselves, and our DNA that cause jealousy, and i can't find anything to back up either idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not a jealous person and particularly on a site where we all share each other. Jealousy is a waste of my emotions. I do, however, envy people, particularly a neighbour in my village who drives a Lamborghini!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations"

I don't have ... never have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive always thought i didn't have a jealous bone in my body till I met my current partner. Its only in certain situations.. ( if someone gets really sub to him ) but I have certainly had it at times. Not while sharing sexually though. Its more attention in a none sexual or submissive way. If that makes sense.

Yet sexist thing for me is to see him passionately kissing someone else. Id be jealous as hell if he met without me though. Hand on heart admit it x

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I am sure I don't have the jealous gene.

In fact I could only be happy with a woman who continues to take other lovers of her choice.

I would love to watch her make herself beautiful before she goes out knowing she will come home cream pied and tell me all about it.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

yes I feel jealousy but that's not what really gets to me or would stop me playing with someone .

no with me its about being made to feel like just another fuck if i even remotely end up feeling that way

i just wont play but its not about the numbers with me its about the quality of the other person and I'm only interested in playing with my opposite number to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not.

Worse than that is going out with a massive group, some will drink loads (I rarely drink) and then announce we are splitting the bill equally. Now that kind of sharing pisses me right off.

Yup had that and they drink bloody £10 cocktails so I just say you lot can split it im paying for what I had and ive you dont like its not my problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like sharing. Simple as that.

Nor me. Not even food...well it may have happened a couple of times but still.

I get right arsey if someone refuses their own chips and then pinches one of mine. Just no need!

Or you order a takeout and the words 'are we putting it all in the middle' are spoken

No no we are not.

Worse than that is going out with a massive group, some will drink loads (I rarely drink) and then announce we are splitting the bill equally. Now that kind of sharing pisses me right off.

I just pay for my own, they can fuck right off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong? "

You are not wrong,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong?

You are not wrong,

I rarely am. ...I'm a wife, a mother and a qualified teacher. Who could be more right? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong? "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking jealousy was an emotion that any one of us is capable of feeling. Am I wrong?

You are not wrong,

I rarely am. ...I'm a wife, a mother and a qualified teacher. Who could be more right? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations"

I agree.

I used to be incredibly jealous and I still am to be honest, I have just gotten better over time.

My jealousy is linked to my sense of worth, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem. Adam has tried to help me with those things but my demons are well rooted.

I'm not afraid to admit that I battle with jealousy.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations

I agree.

I used to be incredibly jealous and I still am to be honest, I have just gotten better over time.

My jealousy is linked to my sense of worth, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem. Adam has tried to help me with those things but my demons are well rooted.

I'm not afraid to admit that I battle with jealousy.

Eve. X

What a fantastic honest answer x x

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get jealous, sometimes. But we talk, work it through, channel it in a healthy way into reclaim sex- that makes it hot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yet sexist thing for me is to see him passionately kissing someone else. Id be jealous as hell if he met without me though. Hand on heart admit it x "

Yes that all makes sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations

I agree.

I used to be incredibly jealous and I still am to be honest, I have just gotten better over time.

My jealousy is linked to my sense of worth, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem. Adam has tried to help me with those things but my demons are well rooted.

I'm not afraid to admit that I battle with jealousy.

Eve. X

What a fantastic honest answer x x

Mrs "

Thank you doll. I wish I didn't struggle with jealousy, my mind isn't always the nicest place to live but it's not something I can just switch off.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get jealous, sometimes. But we talk, work it through, channel it in a healthy way into reclaim sex- that makes it hot!

If you can turn it into positive that's always good and nothing better than make up sex. I miss that type of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only jealous if I've completely fallen for someone, I don't like that feeling or being that person, so I only date women I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get jealous, sometimes. But we talk, work it through, channel it in a healthy way into reclaim sex- that makes it hot!

If you can turn it into positive that's always good and nothing better than make up sex. I miss that type of sex. "

Its a big "If" though. Totally get where Eve is coming from x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have it..i just think some manage it better than others in different situations

I agree.

I used to be incredibly jealous and I still am to be honest, I have just gotten better over time.

My jealousy is linked to my sense of worth, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem. Adam has tried to help me with those things but my demons are well rooted.

I'm not afraid to admit that I battle with jealousy.

Eve. X

What a fantastic honest answer x x

Mrs

Thank you doll. I wish I didn't struggle with jealousy, my mind isn't always the nicest place to live but it's not something I can just switch off.

Eve. X"

I know exactly how you feel , think that's why I appreciated you being so frank about it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It exists in everyone whether they admit it or not.

HOWEVER..

I would have to be extremely emotionally invested in that person to even get anywhere close to that.

It takes a LOT.

My ex was the most outrageous flirt ever and I didn't even flinch..and that was 80% of the reason she dumped me, she thought I didn't care.

She was fucking wrong though.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I do sometimes but only with those I really care about so it is an extremely rare feeling. I've learnt how to deal with it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get jealous, sometimes. But we talk, work it through, channel it in a healthy way into reclaim sex- that makes it hot!

We had this Friday night, first time cj had played without me and with someone new, once we had talked it through and how I felt the sex over the weekend has been pure electrifying x

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