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Do opposites attract?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you find yourself attracted to people who are similar to you? Or do you look at polar opposites when fancying someone?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sexually I look for the opposite gender with similar preferences.

Relationship wise we have a mixture of similar interests and characteristics and contrasting but complimentary ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone opposite to me?

Like they would never tell dry jokes, cringe worthy puns, silence inducing one liners ?

That would be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, that's got me thinking. I have changed what I thought I was looking for. I like a man that is sure of himself so in that sense the opposite of me. But shares a similar sense of humour and moral compass. So a mix of the 2 x

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I can have an attraction to someone who's the opposite to me but ultimately someone similar excites me more

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I'm really unsure, I don't really have a list of things, it is only on meeting up that I'd have a real idea if I was attracted or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I seem to attract very polite, lovely men so if opposites attract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know what the opposite to me was. I find myself attracted to all kinds of men.

I know I don't find school boy humour or cockney geezers attractive. Or the Geordie Shore/TOWIE types attractive.

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We were very opposite when we first met and in some respects still are but we also found we have a lot in common once we got past the original constant sex phase haha

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm really unsure, I don't really have a list of things, it is only on meeting up that I'd have a real idea if I was attracted or not "

That's interesting so you would meet someone without there already being an attraction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually attracted to chatty sociable types who are usually shorter than me.

Because i'm so quiet i feel more comfortable with someone who talks a lot. It takes the pressure off me a bit and i relax more.

Sexually i go for dirty filthy men who are up for anything rather than smooth let's make love type lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm usually attracted to chatty sociable types who are usually shorter than me.

Because i'm so quiet i feel more comfortable with someone who talks a lot. It takes the pressure off me a bit and i relax more.

Sexually i go for dirty filthy men who are up for anything rather than smooth let's make love type lovers. "

I am polar opposite to you. I talk and talk and talk, love taller men, smooth take-your-time kind of guys.

Just made me giggle when I read yours. It was totally opposite way round. Xx

Thoughtful, broody (Not in the wanting children way!) So yeah my initial attraction would be to someone like that but as others have said, after getting to know them, in an ideal world we would have similar interests and views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like all sorts

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I like all sorts "

No you like Haribos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been attracted to people who share values or interests with me and some that don't really. But in all the cases where it worked the chemistry was good. There were a few where the chemical mix had a tendency to explode though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like all sorts

No you like Haribos "
Thatt is right I do too, the cola bottles are my favourites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so. I do get a lot of attractive gay men messaging me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. I like the challenge of someone opposite, especially if they're feisty and I need to persuade them to see things my way.

On the other hand someone who just gets me and my ways makes for an easier and sometimes more intimate experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. But there needs to be some middle ground or you'd just be clashing constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always have said opposites. But now I've met Mr N I've changed my mind. We are so incredibly similar, we even share the same birthday. We joke that our love is a form of extreme narcissism. We are so similar we are pretty much in love with, and fucking ourselves. He's true only one I've ever met who just gets me and seems to predict my needs and thoughts. And vice versa. Its odd and very satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to attract the naughty ones lol and the ladies are worse than us guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paula Abdul seemed pretty sure they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Paula Abdul seemed pretty sure they do "

Damn you!! That's an ear worm that won't go away in a hurry now!!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Paula Abdul seemed pretty sure they do "

Ah fuck sake That is that shite stuck on loop in my noggin now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I take, two steps forward I take two steps back, we come together cuz opposites attract "

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"" I take, two steps forward I take two steps back, we come together cuz opposites attract ""

I'm M.C. Kat on the rap so mic it

Here's a little story and you're sure to like it

Swift and sly and I'm playing it cool

With my homegirl, Paula Abdul

Best bit of that song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends, are we talking frantic shag against the wall, or 6 months in an ice bunker at the South Pole? it will change my attraction process quite dramatically.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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bit of both. i like highly intelligent guys, who are caring and affectionate. but my last decent ex, who was my most compatible, was really quiet and i used to be extrovert and i brought him out of his shell a bit and he nurtured my calm down side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like variety but it's mainly good looks I'm attracted to, intelligence and someone who will make me giggle.

Everyone's true colours show eventually though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a combination of both. Opposite but with a similar world view

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Noone would ever put me and my partner together. But it works for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends, are we talking frantic shag against the wall, or 6 months in an ice bunker at the South Pole? it will change my attraction process quite dramatically. "

Your right in a way. Something I've thought about for a while. Why I'm attracted to different people and not just one 'type'.

I'm attracted to opposites, in physical appearance even there attitude to sex. They teach me things I didn't know, or things I didn't even want or knew I'd like. If that makes sense.

Then there's those people that I can relate to, And I have lots in common with. I know what makes them tick, if they think like me, they probably find the same things enjoyable. It's a much more intimate/passionate type of thing.

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