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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok just wondering. I've recently sent a few polite emails to single ladies and couples. Only to be blocked for no reason.

Would be nice if I was told we are blocking you because you are Indian or that I'm an ugly sod. I can accept that.

Anyone else experience the same ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may look and decide your not what they are looking for..and where as in an ideal world they would send you a message they simply may have to many messages..

Or you may well have not read what they were after so they automatically block.. I do that with some..

Katie. x

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By *hiz2112Man
over a year ago

south wales and gloucestershire

it happens to everyone mate.dont let it get to you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get it as well

not worth moaning about it just move on

there plenty more out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only they know why they blocked u. happens to everyone i reckon.

just move on mate, u`ll eventually get someone interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I read the profiles and if they say no Asians or single guys I don't mail them.

Possibly one or two may actually know me living in a small town lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I've had some great meets from this site and met some wonderful people.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Never waste a minute of your life you won't get back over it...

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By *hiz2112Man
over a year ago

south wales and gloucestershire

move on then and dont worry about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not that fussed really. Was just wondering if it was just me lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats twice you have mentioned no asians,not everyone is racist,you just must not be what they are after.full stop.get over it,you arent the first to be blocked n im sure wont be the last

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Ok just wondering. I've recently sent a few polite emails to single ladies and couples. Only to be blocked for no reason.

Would be nice if I was told we are blocking you because you are Indian or that I'm an ugly sod. I can accept that.

Anyone else experience the same ???"

three words for you...

such is life.....

it happens, so move on.. you'll never know the reason, they don't have to give one... if it gives you that much angst this is not the activity for you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YUP

all the above are fair comments

don't assume why you have been blocked, just accept you aren't what they are looking for and draw a line under it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep I agree with you all..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It could have been an error, and blocks are reversible, so they may be in touch at some point. In general, I think it's good etiquette to not persistently message someone that one doesn't hear from, either if one has been blocked or not.

As others say, just accept that they're not for you, and you can continue having your hot fun with others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all...

Time to move on.. Their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im curious as how you know you have been blocked, is this after you have sent a message or messages you are instigating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok just wondering. I've recently sent a few polite emails to single ladies and couples. Only to be blocked for no reason.

Would be nice if I was told we are blocking you because you are Indian or that I'm an ugly sod. I can accept that.

Anyone else experience the same ???"

People always have a reason. They don't have to say what the reason is, they don't have to mail you. Its all about choice and if you can't accept others have a choice then you might have a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you try and _iew their profile after a few days or whenever and you cant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok just wondering. I've recently sent a few polite emails to single ladies and couples. Only to be blocked for no reason.

Would be nice if I was told we are blocking you because you are Indian or that I'm an ugly sod. I can accept that.

Anyone else experience the same ???"

Our policy is to simply delete messages from people who very clearly haven't read our profile properly,but to send polite rejections to those who clearly have, but in whom we are not interested. Most of the recipients of these messages thank us for taking the trouble to reply, or just 'move on', but

a few take umbrage. One, funnily enough, called himself a British Indian and asked us whether we were 'racist'.I resisted the urge to give him a lecture on the real definition of the term 'racism' and to tell him that having been to India twenty times, each time for a minimum of two months, I had therefore probably seen more of India and Indians than he had, and simply blocked him.

People are different, and there's no pleasing everybody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate. I wouldn't worry about it and it isn't you that has the problem by any means.

You ask a reasonable question and as ever it gets the bones picked out of it.

I think probably the answer is that there are so many guys that people look at your message and profile and if they decide you aren't for them (for whatever reason) they block so you can'tmessage again.

Bit of a screening process to whittle people down. I wouldnt worry about it at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks everyone for your comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I block someone it's none of their business why.

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By *hiz2112Man
over a year ago

south wales and gloucestershire

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could have been an error, and blocks are reversible, so they may be in touch at some point. In general, I think it's good etiquette to not persistently message someone that one doesn't hear from, either if one has been blocked or not.

As others say, just accept that they're not for you, and you can continue having your hot fun with others. "

error. lol bless you!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just create a second profile and ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just create a second profile and ask them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just create a second profile and ask them "
then yeh get block an get reported lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Just create a second profile and ask them then yeh get block an get reported lol

"

Sure but at least reaffirms it was block they clicked on...and not a friends invite and they fucked up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats twice you have mentioned no asians,not everyone is racist,you just must not be what they are after.full stop.get over it,you arent the first to be blocked n im sure wont be the last"

*Nods in agreement*

I noticed that too! OP as you've noticed a lot of single men get blocked, it doesn't have to be because you're Asian: lose the chip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all...

Time to move on.. Their loss "

No...it's not!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"thats twice you have mentioned no asians,not everyone is racist,you just must not be what they are after.full stop.get over it,you arent the first to be blocked n im sure wont be the last

*Nods in agreement*

I noticed that too! OP as you've noticed a lot of single men get blocked, it doesn't have to be because you're Asian: lose the chip! "

I dont have anything against people having their opinions on the colour of a persons skin. Didnt mean to come accross like I have..

As i said before it's their loss..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"+1"

+2

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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As i said before it's their loss.."

but the point sassy is making is that is isn't really there loss... they made a decision... move on!!!

and you were the one that brought up you were asian twice... no one else!!!

if this is the way you take rejection again i would suggest this is not the activity for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably best if you dont get a reply to take it as a no and dont go looking at their profiles or contacting them again, I block if ive said no and they still scour your profile for days its creepy.

And as for the its their loss comment, get over yourself, its about not being suitable and that comment makes you sound very immature. IMHO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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As i said before it's their loss..

but the point sassy is making is that is isn't really there loss... they made a decision... move on!!!

and you were the one that brought up you were asian twice... no one else!!!

if this is the way you take rejection again i would suggest this is not the activity for you...."

That is a very good point. The your loss thing just makes someone look petchulent.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Don't let it bother you,some people find it easier to hit the block button than have to explain any reasons for you not being what they're looking for

You have a few meets under your belt so you're doing something right and having fun along the way

Just concentrate on the fun side of being here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol ok I was just saying im not really that fussed was just wondering if its common practise to block people without sending them a message..

Ive been on here a while now and met some great people. And yes there is a larger number of males on here than females or couples and appreciate that they must get inundated with messages.

It was only a general question......

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