FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling low

By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm feeling low I get the Ben and Jerry's out a huge spoon and a good film

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"When I'm feeling low I get the Ben and Jerry's out a huge spoon and a good film "

Good idea,or a hot bubble bath and a book

Or choclate.

Hope you feel better soon

Miss xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wouldn't have cancelled the meet. Nothing helps me feel awesome more than a good time with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have those days, slouch out with a good movie, wine and some junk food until it passes, as I learnt from beauty and the beast, vanity is skin deep, you have to be confident and love yourself and middle finger to what anyone else thinks.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a good weepy film, have a bloody good cry, get a good nights sleep and then start again.

Hope you feel a bit brighter op xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I always feel unattractive unless I've "dolled up" to go out. So, doll yourself up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning"

Did you tell him why you cancelled?

He must have wanted to meet you because he liked you.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Having a few days like that myself lately . .

I get the cider and chocolates out ..

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass."

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

"This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning

Did you tell him why you cancelled?

He must have wanted to meet you because he liked you. "

Or he was treading water for another hottie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you felt the need to cancel, im sure he would be gutted about it.

A few days going hard at the gym good healthy food days, and a good old pamper session, painting me toes etc, generally brings me back to full confidence xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly"

I'm talking about me not you!!!

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!"

Sorry thought you were telling me to do that!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry thought you were telling me to do that!"

No,you asked a question I answered it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pamper myself, and treat myself to something new. Even if it's a new lipstick. Shame you cancelled though, but understand the feeling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!"

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?"

You must be talking to me

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning"

I hear ya. For one reason or another just now I feel like the shitty chocolate left in the box that no one wants

It'll pass I'm sure, just be kind to yourself. I'm having a massive g&t, going to have a hot shower with my nicest toiletries and climb in to my lovely clean bed with the optimistic thought that tomorrow will feel better. I hope it does for you too.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

The group hug is still going on, we've all come to make you feel warm and tingly

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

"This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning

I hear ya. For one reason or another just now I feel like the shitty chocolate left in the box that no one wants

Thanks, hope your day goes well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot bath, candles, bubbles, ice cold wine, movie, Chinese.

Teddy

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

If the weathers OK I go out on my motorbike, always cheers me up, weather not so good I'll go walk the dog in a muddy field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't one of those give me compliments threads

Simply, what do you do when you feel extremely unattractive. I've just cancelled a meet as his veris are really stunning"

He wouldn't have arranged the meet if he didn't want to meet you/fancy you etc. Don't put yourself down...imagine how good you would feel being on his "stunning" verification list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hot bath, candles, bubbles, ice cold wine, movie, Chinese.

Teddy "

Yes something to cuddle is soothing. I cuddle a pillow sometimes.

OP - have a good nights sleep. Tomorrow is another day. Be kind to yourself.

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By *arvin35Man
over a year ago

penrith

Trust that when he turns up he'll want you, it's not always just physical looks but looks combined with personality and wanton lust! If he asked to meet you he wanted you! Remember that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put some music on and dance around living room . Music always brightens my mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?"

I was giggling. Your reply was perfectly reasonable and I understood it. But it got misinterpreted as you telling the OP to stop snacking and exercise. Good old text conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs OP

Everyone feels like that sometimes - I've cancelled meets because of someone's veris before - it's really hard not to compare yourself to others.

I would just get a bottle of wine and some yummy things to eat and chat liads of shit on here.

Wake up tomorrow to a new day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?

You must be talking to me "

There's nobody else here

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?

I was giggling. Your reply was perfectly reasonable and I understood it. But it got misinterpreted as you telling the OP to stop snacking and exercise. Good old text conversations."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He wanted to meet you.

Reschedule the meet and have fun.

Hope you feel better very soon x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Stop snacking so much,get some exercise and make a bit of effort,but sometimes just wait for it to pass.

Erm it's not my body but thanks i feel ugly

I'm talking about me not you!!!

Sorry I shouldn't giggle on this thread...but a classic example of thinking about your words could be interpreted by others?

You talking to me?

You must be talking to me

There's nobody else here

Shush you

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

It's such a shame you felt you had to cancel ... I do understand how easy it sometimes is to feel 'ugly' in comparison to others if you don't have a lot of self confidence but I bet the guy you were going to see wasn't thinking like that at all. Chances are if you think he usually meets stunning women, then that's the category he sees you in too.

Like others have said, try to treat yourself to something you really enjoy and start again tomorrow. Maybe apologise for a huge attack of nerves (I sympathise hugely) and see if you can't rearrange things.

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

There's been alot of nice advice and understanding.

So thanks everyone xxx

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i never feel ugly, and i'm not being vain saying that, i just don't.

1) i never compare with anyone else or compete with them, i know my limits and happy to accept them and don't really care what anyone else thinks about me (if they don't care about me).

2) people are average looking (or slightly under or over but most people are neither stunning nor fugly, they are average like you & me) they can fancy themselves up with make up, clothes, accessories, grooming and make themselves look different.

my precious qualities go way further than my outside and that's another reason why i feel good about myself too. plus coz i'm average looking i do alright.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hey,

It will pass, be gentle to yourself and enjoy nature you know the little things in life we overlook can be of great comfort.

Take care and good vibes sent out x

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

I'm feeling a bit fragile at the moment, those who get to know me all say I'm great, but it's frustrating to not even get the chance to show it.

Normally I brush it off, but sometimes it just hurts.

As for advice, when I'm more positive, I will tell the OP to treat everything as a learning experience, go for everything, even if you learn that it was wrong, use that experience to make a better decision next time.

Embrace both the good and the bad, use them both to improve.

But I do realise how hard it can be sometimes.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP how do you know they were stunning? Photos on here can be deceiving.

I have in the past turned down men who only displayed verifications from slim women. So I do understand. I wanted to see women similar to me on the list. In my mind I doubted I was the exception to the rule, just that he favoured some people's verifications over others. Turned out I was right on that occasion.

I would be honest with him and tell him why you have turned him down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't have cancelled the meet. Nothing helps me feel awesome more than a good time with someone else."

Absolutely when I'm feeling shit a good session with My man makes me feel do sexy!!!!

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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

"I wouldn't have cancelled the meet. Nothing helps me feel awesome more than a good time with someone else.

Absolutely when I'm feeling shit a good session with My man makes me feel do sexy!!!! "

Maybe I'm missing my regular slot n now i feel like a wreck

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I wouldn't have cancelled the meet. Nothing helps me feel awesome more than a good time with someone else."

This

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