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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To some, "sub" means "piece of meat for the taking"... Idiots!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To some, "sub" means "piece of meat for the taking"... Idiots!"

Clearly twats that need avoiding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To some, "sub" means "piece of meat for the taking"... Idiots!

Clearly twats that need avoiding. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline? "

I get this all the time, I'm choosy and I wouldn't be willing to play with someone who I class as a munter either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline?

I get this all the time, I'm choosy and I wouldn't be willing to play with someone who I class as a munter either. "

Exactly. D/s or everyday. No to the munters. There isn't enough eye bleach in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline?

I get this all the time, I'm choosy and I wouldn't be willing to play with someone who I class as a munter either.

Exactly. D/s or everyday. No to the munters. There isn't enough eye bleach in the world. "
. No there is not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im normally dom but i still like to get to know the person who will be subbing to me, i like to know them better than just a piece of meat. Plus i like to know where their boundaries are and stuff it all helps in the end as i know what not to do and stuff

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

the I'M a dom do as I say routine I just block the idiots like that I would not be a sub to just any one I would need to be attracted to them first and then need to feel safe with them

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline? "

I haven't looked at your profile but just going by the picture attached to this thread you look to have a pretty good figure, so you are going to attract people. Whether you are a sub or not you are on a swingers site and a site to meet people open to sex. You are going to get mails from people because of this. It sounds like you don't want to get these mails so you can either find a site for your needs or change your filters and find people you like and message them yourself. It might stop a lot of unwanted mails and you feeling like a piece of meat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"the I'M a dom do as I say routine I just block the idiots like that I would not be a sub to just any one I would need to be attracted to them first and then need to feel safe with them "

Shame all the fakes don't undersrand that part. Helpful that they don't mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As my profile states I'm a sub( bedroom only) but where do these so called Doms get off thinking because my profile has that one little word in it I would just meet any minger because they claim to be a Dom. Surely like most things in dating/ sex/ kink/ and online it's all starts with some form of physical connection. Is their any other subs male or female willing to just play with any old munter because their sexual preferences are inline?

I haven't looked at your profile but just going by the picture attached to this thread you look to have a pretty good figure, so you are going to attract people. Whether you are a sub or not you are on a swingers site and a site to meet people open to sex. You are going to get mails from people because of this. It sounds like you don't want to get these mails so you can either find a site for your needs or change your filters and find people you like and message them yourself. It might stop a lot of unwanted mails and you feeling like a piece of meat."

Thanks for the advice but you've got it wrong. It was a so called Dom that couldn't get his head around the fact that I needed a physical attraction as well as the anything else. I'm aware of what kind of site I'm on thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing. "

Too true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing.

Too true "

Sorry to be blunt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing.

Too true

Sorry to be blunt... "

It may not change a thing with the idiots but you may find someone who you like who isnt an idiot

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field


"Im normally dom but i still like to get to know the person who will be subbing to me, i like to know them better than just a piece of meat. Plus i like to know where their boundaries are and stuff it all helps in the end as i know what not to do and stuff"

This

To acheive the physical pleasures, you need to get in to your subs head.

D/s is more about the psychological side- crack that and the physical side will sort itself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 14/04/17 12:24:58]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing.

Too true

Sorry to be blunt...

It may not change a thing with the idiots but you may find someone who you like who isnt an idiot"

Possibly...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Unfortunately there are more than enough dim doms (and they seem to be mostly male sadly) around who have seen elements of BDSM on-line, or *shudder* read Fifty Shades and think that D/s equates to a submissive being a weak person who is unable to make any choices for themselves and therefore only need to be told what to do, and they will blindly do it.

Quite the opposite is true of course, in that the submissive in some respects holds all the control and power until such time as they choose to hand it over to someone of *their* choosing.

Not a great deal to be done about the dim doms though, as invariably they'll trot out lines like "you can't be a true submissive then" and carry on blindly believing their own deluded fantasy version of D/s without actually taking the time to learn its true foundations which are based in trust, respect and indeed attraction, chemistry and connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be so horrible going through life as a hot female. All those fugly munter men desperate to fuck them. How can one live life knowing such horror?

I thank my lucky stars every day that I don't suffer this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slight different angle on the thread. I'm not a Dom or sub and prefer equal sexual partnership in the bedroom but the thing that interested me about the thread was the sub text....you still had to be *beautiful" ie not a "munter", is it only women can get away with such how long before a man would be hounded off the thread for stating same? Just wondering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slight different angle on the thread. I'm not a Dom or sub and prefer equal sexual partnership in the bedroom but the thing that interested me about the thread was the sub text....you still had to be *beautiful" ie not a "munter", is it only women can get away with such how long before a man would be hounded off the thread for stating same? Just wondering."

It made me too. But hey the women rule Fab yada yada. Bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slight different angle on the thread. I'm not a Dom or sub and prefer equal sexual partnership in the bedroom but the thing that interested me about the thread was the sub text....you still had to be *beautiful" ie not a "munter", is it only women can get away with such how long before a man would be hounded off the thread for stating same? Just wondering.

It made me too. But hey the women rule Fab yada yada. Bollocks. "

Careful, I'm toxic on here!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Slight different angle on the thread. I'm not a Dom or sub and prefer equal sexual partnership in the bedroom but the thing that interested me about the thread was the sub text....you still had to be *beautiful" ie not a "munter", is it only women can get away with such how long before a man would be hounded off the thread for stating same? Just wondering.

It made me too. But hey the women rule Fab yada yada. Bollocks. "

Bollocks indeed. I don't give a hoop if the guys I meet are conventionally attractive. If I find them emotionally attractive I fancy them. Job done. Whether or not they find me aesthetically pleasing might help initially, especially if they are more inclined towards the visual than I am, but I'd like to think it's not the main reason.

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By *oyuer99Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

If anyone does not appreciate to really be good for a sub you have to respect and protect then you don't want to allow them into a situation where you will be clearly at risk.

Happy Spanking Easter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with other sites, these messages are overwhelmingly from the men who don't know much if anything about power exchange and think barking orders will end up with them getting their carrots wet.

I can't say if it ever works as I have gotten to know every single woman who has subbed for me and shared a mutual respect.

If you're on fetlife look for a group called return to sender; it's a collection of pathetic messages from pathetic people. Quite amusing.

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Im normally dom but i still like to get to know the person who will be subbing to me, i like to know them better than just a piece of meat. Plus i like to know where their boundaries are and stuff it all helps in the end as i know what not to do and stuff

This

To acheive the physical pleasures, you need to get in to your subs head.

D/s is more about the psychological side- crack that and the physical side will sort itself out "

Thats very true but unfortunately most of the men that think they are dom just think you are there for their pleasure. For me it's more about getting into my head and figuring out how to get the best of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slight different angle on the thread. I'm not a Dom or sub and prefer equal sexual partnership in the bedroom but the thing that interested me about the thread was the sub text....you still had to be *beautiful" ie not a "munter", is it only women can get away with such how long before a man would be hounded off the thread for stating same? Just wondering.

It made me too. But hey the women rule Fab yada yada. Bollocks.

Bollocks indeed. I don't give a hoop if the guys I meet are conventionally attractive. If I find them emotionally attractive I fancy them. Job done. Whether or not they find me aesthetically pleasing might help initially, especially if they are more inclined towards the visual than I am, but I'd like to think it's not the main reason."

I'm the same.

I know looks are important to some people and that's cool. What's not cool is calling people names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but starting a thread won't change a damn thing.

Too true

Sorry to be blunt...

It may not change a thing with the idiots but you may find someone who you like who isnt an idiot"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately there are more than enough dim doms (and they seem to be mostly male sadly) around who have seen elements of BDSM on-line, or *shudder* read Fifty Shades and think that D/s equates to a submissive being a weak person who is unable to make any choices for themselves and therefore only need to be told what to do, and they will blindly do it.

Quite the opposite is true of course, in that the submissive in some respects holds all the control and power until such time as they choose to hand it over to someone of *their* choosing.

Not a great deal to be done about the dim doms though, as invariably they'll trot out lines like "you can't be a true submissive then" and carry on blindly believing their own deluded fantasy version of D/s without actually taking the time to learn its true foundations which are based in trust, respect and indeed attraction, chemistry and connection."

Couldn't have worded it better, well done

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think that this isn't restricted by guys - it's always them, so far - who message subs. The same clueless twats message with just about only a cock pic on the profile or message, expecting you to just open your legs and take whatever they see fit for you. I don't think anyone does agree a meet on that basis

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Unfortunately there are more than enough dim doms (and they seem to be mostly male sadly) around who have seen elements of BDSM on-line, or *shudder* read Fifty Shades and think that D/s equates to a submissive being a weak person who is unable to make any choices for themselves and therefore only need to be told what to do, and they will blindly do it.

Quite the opposite is true of course, in that the submissive in some respects holds all the control and power until such time as they choose to hand it over to someone of *their* choosing.

Not a great deal to be done about the dim doms though, as invariably they'll trot out lines like "you can't be a true submissive then" and carry on blindly believing their own deluded fantasy version of D/s without actually taking the time to learn its true foundations which are based in trust, respect and indeed attraction, chemistry and connection.

Couldn't have worded it better, well done "

Sometimes I wonder what the guy I see gets from our meetings. I seem to have all the fun as the sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chuckle at the amount of profiles that mention 50 Shades and the profile names With Mr Christian Gray and its variants in it... no fucking idea!

GentlemanBen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those offend by the sub thing maybe I should point out that reguardless to a persons sexual tastes I still have to find someone attractive in my eyes to begin with. Then there's all the other aspects added in persinailty etc.

Fancy a fuck with a profile picture with a cock next to a sky remote is equally as off putting as a message from so called profiles with the name grey attached to them!

My point was being I have to like someone initially , Dom, vanilla or anything else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For those offend by the sub thing maybe I should point out that reguardless to a persons sexual tastes I still have to find someone attractive in my eyes to begin with. Then there's all the other aspects added in persinailty etc.

Fancy a fuck with a profile picture with a cock next to a sky remote is equally as off putting as a message from so called profiles with the name grey attached to them!

My point was being I have to like someone initially , Dom, vanilla or anything else. "

Or personality even! Doh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows !

I take control of everything from work to pleasure !

I'm very straight talking and I know what I want . I wouldn't say I'm a Dom but I can esure you , I ain't ever been subbed !

But I wouldn't care if it was a porn star ?? if I ain't attracted to their face I'm not gunna even try wax on wax off with baby oil

But who knows , you could all be munters without make up and sexy outfits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who knows !

I take control of everything from work to pleasure !

I'm very straight talking and I know what I want . I wouldn't say I'm a Dom but I can esure you , I ain't ever been subbed !

But I wouldn't care if it was a porn star ?? if I ain't attracted to their face I'm not gunna even try wax on wax off with baby oil

But who knows , you could all be munters without make up and sexy outfits "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the I'M a dom do as I say routine I just block the idiots like that I would not be a sub to just any one I would need to be attracted to them first and then need to feel safe with them "

Amen to that a real Dom would never act like that its all built on trust over time. It is not started with a message telling me I'm to call them sir or daddy or some other pet name

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Filters come in many guises...

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