FabSwingers.com forum: Am I odd re socials

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not keen on meeting for socials....

Think it's down to keeping my fab life separate?

Don't mind chatting at clubs and on fab but socials aren't my things.

Is that odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No, I have no interest - I have a good social life already, why would I want to meet a bunch of people off a sex site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't see the point in meeting purely for a social either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings."

Ive had socials that are dinner, coffee, walking the dog. Its actually nice to meet the person first and see they are who they say they are and that im actually attracted to them in person. No point inviting someone round for a meet they get their and you realise there's nothing there!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Each to their own,sounds like you just want to get down to it.Thats not odd,but lots of us like a drink and chat to gage the attaction and flirt etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings.

I was referring to large scale socials,ie meet and greet types, which is what I assumed the OP was referring to, perhaps he wasn't. We always have a "social" meet with someone we are considering playing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings.

No think he means one to one, men seem to dislike them more than women i've found out a lot also dont take women's safety meeting a stranger into account either, want to either come straight to a womans house or expect her to jump in their car.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Depends if you prefer to meet at clubs or outside of that circle

If in a club situation do you socialise in the bar area, or just "predate" around the play areas ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it's different if you already have a partner anyway ..

Most of the people who I know enjoy socials are single or are married and play together...

If you are purely here for sex then why bother with anything else

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I'm not keen on meeting for socials....

Think it's down to keeping my fab life separate?

Don't mind chatting at clubs and on fab but socials aren't my things.

Is that odd"

We never had socials, we always met at a meeting place, decided whether we all still get on after chatting on cam and if we all agreed, the meet went ahead that night. It was more fun for us that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely a social is part of the safety aspect,especially for a woman? Am i right?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Surely a social is part of the safety aspect,especially for a woman? Am i right?"

Yep,i insisted on them when i was a single on here.It amazed me the amount of men who refused them or expected an invite straight over to mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes has to be a social first, if you dont care who you fuck then, but a blow up doll saves you leaving the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a few social gatherings, they've been good, you get some great insight into other people's experiences in the swinging world, but personally, I'll always offer to meet socially first, and if it feels right, have a play that evening or arrange a second meet purely to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a social but I do chat to men for a while before I meet and have phone chats so I can judge if we're compatible. Hasn't let me down so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely a social is part of the safety aspect,especially for a woman? Am i right?"

For a woman yes..

For a man not so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes has to be a social first, if you dont care who you fuck then, but a blow up doll saves you leaving the house

Whatever floats your boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think socials with a view to play are ok....but what I see go on down this neck of the woods!

They meet up with their kids! And all have family days out

Kids meeting mummies ( or one of ) fuck buddy.

Seeing pics on Facebook and they're all tagged in it

Why?? That's taking socials to a whole new level! And I think it's weird!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I always meet for a social first, wouldn't dream of playing with someone I hadn't already met in person. I need to be attracted to the person I'm playing with otherwise what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes your odd.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I think socials with a view to play are ok....but what I see go on down this neck of the woods!

They meet up with their kids! And all have family days out

Kids meeting mummies ( or one of ) fuck buddy.

Seeing pics on Facebook and they're all tagged in it

Why?? That's taking socials to a whole new level! And I think it's weird! "

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We had trouble getting a guy for a threesome initially as they would just go silent at as soon as a social was mentioned.

We'd be happy (in fact prefer) to have a social in a club so we can play there if we do click but most don't seem to like that idea either.

But yes, whether we meet singles or couples we would need some kind of social first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Surely a social is part of the safety aspect,especially for a woman? Am i right?"

I think men and women need to take safety precautions about who they meet.

However an unsafe person can appear safe for a couple of hours so meeting socially is no guarantee they won't turn . We meet socially for two reasons, we enjoy it and I (f) find it easier.

As long as everyone meeting is in agreement its all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings.

This

, also big socials are a great, non pressured way to meet like minded people when you don't have a lot of time for 1-1 socials when you have a busy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy fucking our friends, so in order for them to become friends we need to socialise with them. We have vanilla friends too, but it's nice to have friends that we can't talk more liberally about sex. A lot of guys would rather just fuck and go - that's not a service we provide!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to talk to someone off line for a while before I meet them - I've been talking to a particular someone from here for six months now for example, we will meet but it's a case of finding a convenient time due to distance - and even then we have an understanding that it might just be socialising, though my socials tend to be open to something more intimate.

It means we'll both have a nice touristy weekend at the seaside regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I suppose it's different if you already have a partner anyway ..

Most of the people who I know enjoy socials are single or are married and play together...

If you are purely here for sex then why bother with anything else "

On the one hand yes big socials are a no no but it more a phisical thing so if they are sexy then I'm happy. I personally don't need to know who they vote for or their relationship status. Talking at the bar is cool at a swinging club but that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And good views guys - especially that one social doesn't make someone genuine. Thank the lord for clubs !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had socials that are dinner, coffee, walking the dog. Its actually nice to meet the person first and see they are who they say they are and that im actually attracted to them in person. No point inviting someone round for a meet they get their and you realise there's nothing there! "

Completely agree - I like a sexual relationship with someone I get on well with and where there is mutual attraction of the mind as well as body.

A social away from a club/pub atmosphere is a great way to instigate true conversation and find out about someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like group socials at all. I'm not here to make friends so a group social is pointless to me. We get plenty of choice in who we meet just via the site.

However we do like to meet potential play mates for a social before we arrange a play meet

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No, we're introverts and non-drinkers, can't abide social gatherings.

Yes, and when I came here I was astonished how social it was - on the dating sites all I found was men wanting sex, but as soon as I came here they were asking me out to dinner and away for the weekend.....quelle domage!!

If you are looking for nsa panda sex then no, you might not want one, but for those of us looking for very few regular fwb's only, getting on socially is paramount.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not odd at all, I feel.

It's a swinging/sex site, primarily for the use of gaining a sexual partner.

If I wanted a relationship, I'd go on POF or something.

If I wanted to make friends, go for a drink with them, I'd re-activate my Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not odd at all, I feel.

It's a swinging/sex site, primarily for the use of gaining a sexual partner.

If I wanted a relationship, I'd go on POF or something.

If I wanted to make friends, go for a drink with them, I'd re-activate my Facebook.

That's very regimented of you. Fab for sex, Facebook for socialising, and POF for relationships. All in nice little boxes. Don't ever let those boundaries blur!!

What a lot of people forget though is that swinging is typically the combination of socialising and sex.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not odd at all, I feel.

It's a swinging/sex site, primarily for the use of gaining a sexual partner.

If I wanted a relationship, I'd go on POF or something.

If I wanted to make friends, go for a drink with them, I'd re-activate my Facebook.

That's very regimented of you. Fab for sex, Facebook for socialising, and POF for relationships. All in nice little boxes. Don't ever let those boundaries blur!!

What a lot of people forget though is that swinging is typically the combination of socialising and sex.

Mrs"

True I don't mind a meet to see who is who but I like to keep it separate and Fwb are cool but I have one female friend ( the wife ) so I keep it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not odd at all, I feel.

It's a swinging/sex site, primarily for the use of gaining a sexual partner.

If I wanted a relationship, I'd go on POF or something.

If I wanted to make friends, go for a drink with them, I'd re-activate my Facebook.

That's very regimented of you. Fab for sex, Facebook for socialising, and POF for relationships. All in nice little boxes. Don't ever let those boundaries blur!!

What a lot of people forget though is that swinging is typically the combination of socialising and sex.

Mrs

True I don't mind a meet to see who is who but I like to keep it separate and Fwb are cool but I have one female friend ( the wife ) so I keep it that way.

Separate from what? Surely everybody keeps their swinging friends separate from their vanilla friends?

Mrs

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We are happy to have a social with a view to play if we all connect . But a social which is purely a social , no matter what , hell no . That's never gonna happen . We don't get a sitter and get dressed up to just sit for hours chatting !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not keen on meeting for socials....

Think it's down to keeping my fab life separate?

Don't mind chatting at clubs and on fab but socials aren't my things.

Is that odd"
not one bit there is enough male tubes on here without having to put them all in the one room my worst nightmare lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you see as a social...

I see it as a meet in Costa (other hot beverage providers are available) for a sizing up of attraction and personality.

Plus... they might be a slurper.. . In which case you know to avoid the noise liquid snuffling bastards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what you see as a social...

I see it as a meet in Costa (other hot beverage providers are available) for a sizing up of attraction and personality.

Plus... they might be a slurper.. . In which case you know to avoid the noise liquid snuffling bastards..."

Very true, and if they order a 'Fine-filtered, slow-roasted, super-frothy, mega latte with ultra-rare, finely-grated & hand picked Ecuadorian 469 day old chocolate... they may be out of your league!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what you see as a social...

I see it as a meet in Costa (other hot beverage providers are available) for a sizing up of attraction and personality.

Plus... they might be a slurper.. . In which case you know to avoid the noise liquid snuffling bastards...

Very true, and if they order a 'Fine-filtered, slow-roasted, super-frothy, mega latte with ultra-rare, finely-grated & hand picked Ecuadorian 469 day old chocolate... they may be out of your league! "

Or a bottle of water.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are happy to have a social with a view to play if we all connect . But a social which is purely a social , no matter what , hell no . That's never gonna happen . We don't get a sitter and get dressed up to just sit for hours chatting !

Yup I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do socials first because from another site I had a scary experience so I never go straight to play.

I also thinks it's very different as a single female as opposed to a couple, whether you're playing together or meet separately as your other half has your back.

It's never been an issue, I've met a lot of people here socially. Some I've gone onto play with and some I haven't.

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