FabSwingers.com forum: When you're nice and polite but still get blocked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Doesn't make you feel very happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brush it off pal, we're not for everyone no matter how polite you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to it pal its no big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get used to it pal its no big deal

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are weird.. rude.. odd. Be thankful you won't have to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really not worth worring about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?"

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Good job I'd just swallowed ma tea before I read that

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

You left out 'their loss'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems it's not just me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

Are you saying that a lot of the replies here are based on the gender of the OP? You mean something new every day on fab......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

You left out 'their loss'

gawd of course! schoolboy error!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

It happens. Even polite messages don't get replies as we get so many messages every day. And unfortunately the guys who reply to 'no thanks' responses with vile abuse are contributing to the block culture on here. Chin up (& cock too

) and carry on jx

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

You've just got to accept it, even if your profile is decent, the next thing you find is that you get some interest but they're either miles away or your diary is chalk and cheese..

Time and personality are key, keep plugging away..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suck it up buttercup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection, being ignored is to be expected on here OP.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Blocking does seem quite extreme. It's used so much on this site by so many.

But it does guarantee no more messages from that particular person. Filters are quite general and block whole groups of people, so aren't always the best option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol....sorry shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A block just could mean they're not if meeting. We don't block unless someone is rude but would just politely say we're not for them. Others use the site differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you just caught them at a bad time. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Standard answer to these types of thread:

If the OP is male : suck it up Pal, man up! You aren't owed or entitled to a reply. Move on. Quit whinging.

If the OP is female : aw Hun, sorry to hear that - they must be crazy!! Great pics by the way!

As you're male the first answer applies in this case

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?"

Perhaps he felt there was something in common, what's wrong with him being unhappy about that? Whether his expectations were unrealistic or not is not for us to judge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been blocked for saying sorry your not my type or not playing as playing with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?"

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick yourself up! dust you're self off! And start all over again

Hey that might make a good song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol....sorry shag"

What has patience got to do with anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?"

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human *reaction (I fixed it)

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion. "

This........infact I'd go as far to say that if you can simply just brush off rejection without feeling anything, that you're probably going to struggle if you did get to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Aww bless you, here have a hug x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been blocked for saying sorry your not my type or not playing as playing with someone.

By blocking you they are simply ensuring they don't make the mistake of messaging you again. If you don't want to meet/chat it saves you the bother of blocking them. Don't matter who does it...effect is the same.

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

"Blocking does seem quite extreme. It's used so much on this site by so many.

But it does guarantee no more messages from that particular person. Filters are quite general and block whole groups of people, so aren't always the best option.

That is pretty much what we do. . If your not suited for us or we don't feel the connection we block them. . Nothing personal but it save us getting a repeat message a few days later. .

We have replied with the thanks but no thanks messages but some guys can't take no for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?"

A side note. A guy in here ( no longer with us) I had thought he'd blocked me, and vice-versa. It was a glitch.

Not everyone blocks because they don't want to meet.

I've got people blocking me I'd love to just have a chat with because I like them. I don't want to meet them and never will. But it does make me a little unhappy that they will only talk to people they want to fuck. Supposed to be a social thing too isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion.

This........infact I'd go as far to say that if you can simply just brush off rejection without feeling anything, that you're probably going to struggle if you did get to meet someone.

Why would you struggle on a meet if you can just brush off rejection?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Patience is the key lol....sorry shag"

He's slacking recently, needs constantly reminding to post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such is life mate

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

) and carry on jx"

This. I spent 9 months replying to every single message, I finally lost it because of that type of behaviour. Life's too short to deal with someone tantruming on a daily basis. No reply is sucky, and if it was something you put effort into, it can make you feel bad. For my money you need to work out how to mitigate that feeling, as on here, it's one everyone gets at times for one reason or another! Good luck!

XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

If it makes you feel like that I'd probably say you're over thinking it and perhaps you need to adjust your expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens but i always find theres plenty that are interested its just peoples preference but it does piss u off when there rude and dont even reply but guess what just think to yourself its there loss lol

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion.

This........infact I'd go as far to say that if you can simply just brush off rejection without feeling anything, that you're probably going to struggle if you did get to meet someone.

Why would you struggle on a meet if you can just brush off rejection?"

Feelings or lack of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Hello Mr

you're still free to message me hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion.

This........infact I'd go as far to say that if you can simply just brush off rejection without feeling anything, that you're probably going to struggle if you did get to meet someone.

Why would you struggle on a meet if you can just brush off rejection?

Feelings or lack of them."

Sorry, I don't understand your point?

Because you can cope with rejection it means you won't have feelings in other areas of your life?

Or are you suggesting that only highly emotional individuals are any good at swinging?

Because from what I gather on here - most people don't want emotions or feelings in their swinging.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Sorry, I don't understand your point?

Because you can cope with rejection it means you won't have feelings in other areas of your life?

Or are you suggesting that only highly emotional individuals are any good at swinging?

Because from what I gather on here - most people don't want emotions or feelings in their swinging."

No need to apologise

My point isn't about coping, it's about not feeling anything when it happens. I feel something when it happens but do I cope, yes of course I do.

I didn't mention swinging, not sure the OP did either, he was alluding simply communicating and being blocked when he was being polite. As for swingers feeling something, I guess some do and some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a message then delete the sent box. No looking to see if it's read etc. And breathe. Inbox is all that's relevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

Its happened to me and I prefer the idea of this. At least you know they're definately not interested. Without a response you don't know for sure they're not interested. You could say a no response tells you that but I know how many messages, especially single ladies, get. So your message may not even be properly considered. Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more fish in the sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

Don't quote personal messages on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

I always find solace in the fact that they obviously weren't worth contacting in the first place if they can't be as respectful and polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion. "

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Don't even stress about it OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've just got to accept it, even if your profile is decent, the next thing you find is that you get some interest but they're either miles away or your diary is chalk and cheese..

Time and personality are key, keep plugging away.."

Great answer, especially the distance factor, logistics and financial play a part too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're on a site with 10,000+ people on it, don't whinge about one profile blocking, I guarantee you there's multiple people better than them you'll have an enjoyable convo/meet with.

Just have in mind that not everyone's gonna like you, message multiple people (not the same message).

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Not nice but have to deal with it dont worry about it

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

Don't quote personal messages on the forum

Would it be easier for you if she typed fake whore bitch without the quotes?

In other news, you're invited to every party that I organise in the future. I need someone to liven up the place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or just plenty of fish lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

Don't quote personal messages on the forum

Would it be easier for you if she typed fake whore bitch without the quotes?

In other news, you're invited to every party that I organise in the future. I need someone to liven up the place...

You get a forum ban for quoting personal messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

Don't quote personal messages on the forum

Would it be easier for you if she typed fake whore bitch without the quotes?

In other news, you're invited to every party that I organise in the future. I need someone to liven up the place...

You get a forum ban for quoting personal messages"

It's ok, I've had several like that in the past. It could have been any one of them.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I get what the OP says but the other comments above are spot on about why its done.

I properly consider all messages.

But sometimes I just don't reply. Mostly because half the time I get responses back like the one I just got where I said 'I'm not interested' and he wrote back calling me a 'fake whore bitch'.

You can assume that if someone hasn't replied or blocks you then they have 'properly considered' your message.

Don't quote personal messages on the forum

Would it be easier for you if she typed fake whore bitch without the quotes?

In other news, you're invited to every party that I organise in the future. I need someone to liven up the place...

You get a forum ban for quoting personal messages"

Rules were made to be broken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they don't want to meet you. What's the problem?

It makes him feel very unhappy. He said.

Yeah, but why does it make him unhappy to be blocked, when he knows they wouldn't have met him anyway?

I'm not sure why it's so hard to understand why people can sometimes feel unhappy at rejection. I'd say it's a pretty normal human emotion. "

Normal for *some* people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send a message then delete the sent box. No looking to see if it's read etc. And breathe. Inbox is all that's relevant."

The wisest of words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are weird.. rude.. odd. Be thankful you won't have to meet them.

I use the block as a filter, saves time being wasted in future. If they're not for me for any reason, it means they won't come up in my searches and leaves me to find those who I might want to meet.

I'm not rude or odd. Perhaps a little weird though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are weird.. rude.. odd. Be thankful you won't have to meet them.

I use the block as a filter, saves time being wasted in future. If they're not for me for any reason, it means they won't come up in my searches and leaves me to find those who I might want to meet.

I'm not rude or odd. Perhaps a little weird though. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry about it op if someone is gonna do that would only take 1 minute to say look not interested ive got a hard time in the past sayimg not interested so gonna block you done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha.. I got blocked yesterday because I couldn't message back as I was in message jail and the guy sent me loads of abuse and blocked me

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Suck it up buttercup. Happens to us all

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't understand the sense of entitlement.

People tend to read the profile before the message. It doesn't matter how polite and nice the message, if you're profile doesn't meet what THEY'RE looking for they're not going to answer.

People complain about profiles that exclude them. It could be op the people you contact only want black guys but have been accused of objectification so removed race. In that situation no matter how polite you are you'll not get a response.

People turned down tend to want to know why or become abusive: delete and block avoids that.

If people accepted they don't have universal appeal, not all those they fancy will want them and approach the site with that attitude, the happier they'll be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Some people are not capable of being polite back. So consider yourself lucky you didn't get to meet them.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Sorry to say mate but just got.to deal with it some people dont reply its.not the end of the world

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Man up,wimpy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I was going to chuck in my two pennorth worth but as this thread is seven weeks old I think the O.P. will be dead from un getter overable rejection so i won't comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Does it really matter?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Does it really matter?

What's in your happy box today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Does it really matter?

What's in your happy box today?"

A mirror.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to persevere with it mate I'm afraid, just keep being polite, patient and respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Does it really matter?

What's in your happy box today?

A mirror.....

Oh and a laminated wipe clean photo of your arse ,,,,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Doesn't make you feel very happy

Does it really matter?

What's in your happy box today?

A mirror.....

Oh and a laminated wipe clean photo of your arse ,,,,

Look on the "hi" thread......

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p Move on mate, plenty more people around who won't block you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm blocked by a few people who comment on the forums. I couldn't give a shit, 3 and a half billion women in the world, not going to get upset because one or two don't want to talk to me

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