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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've found recently my motivation to get moderately to fairly important stuff done has just, gone.

Kind of gone to bed each night the last week or two pissed off at myself.

Just wondering, does anyone else go through moments like this, and how do you motivate yourself to stop procrastinating and break the habit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll come back to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me know when you find out. My mojo has got up and gone x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Sorry I am busy watching TV at the moment will get back to you later

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I've lost my oomph to do much, as well...

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I've been terrible at this for a while now

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you "

Hmmm...could be both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meditating has recentred my focus this year

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Meditating has recentred my focus this year"

I use my Focus for meditating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you "

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll come back to this. "

Brilliantly sarcastic :P

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?"

Not silly at all as it seems a double blow, you're losing something you really enjoy and it sounds like cash is tight.

Both things that don't feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meditating has recentred my focus this year

I use my Focus for meditating."

Is that meditating?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?

Not silly at all as it seems a double blow, you're losing something you really enjoy and it sounds like cash is tight.

Both things that don't feel good "

mmm true. Its just annoying as the more I put stuff off each day the more worried and stressed I get, and the angrier I get at myself.

I can kind of feel it reflecting in my work too. As i'm turning up to work slightly agitated and tired each day. Despite the fact that I'm not actually sleeping particularly bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no,,i get on with stuff,,im hyper active

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to start a masters degree in this but I've put it off until next week

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Happens to me, then I set a target and a time, bomb everything out and feel better again.

If it goes into the next day I don't beat myself up I just try and double my efforts to get through, hardest thing is actually starting in the first place..

Don't really know the answer as we're all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a world class procrastinator..

usually around about the time I have to try and knuckle down to writing a 2500 word essay, I suddenly realise I have so many other, better, nicer things that need to be done...

actually, it doesn't even have to be that nice a thing, just as long as I'm not writing my essay

eventually I end up with a 48 hour window in which to write the fecking thing but it always gets done with time to spare

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Meditating has recentred my focus this year

I use my Focus for meditating.

Is that meditating?"

Maybe it was more of a religious experience?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?

Not silly at all as it seems a double blow, you're losing something you really enjoy and it sounds like cash is tight.

Both things that don't feel good

mmm true. Its just annoying as the more I put stuff off each day the more worried and stressed I get, and the angrier I get at myself.

I can kind of feel it reflecting in my work too. As i'm turning up to work slightly agitated and tired each day. Despite the fact that I'm not actually sleeping particularly bad."

mention to your boss you've got money problems and feeling a bit stressed about it all. at least that'll explain the agitation at work if anyone else notices that.

he might even offer a bonus or pay rise or some other help. but if not he could be sympathetic hopefully.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

The only way I get stuff done is if I have deadlines. I procrastinate with everything and I can't help it.

I'm actually wondering whether to plan a house party just to get me to finish the decorating and tidy up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me know when you find out. My mojo has got up and gone x "

losing your mojo and wondering whether you should get up and try and find it are two separate things, I'd say...

to procrastinate is to put off doing stuff, having your mojo go walkabout is not giving a flying feck about it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's natural that our zest for things comes and goes, rather than being fully stable. It's good to honour yourself and what this means, rather than trying to force ourselves to be something we're not at this point.

Take the time to listen to your inner self and what you may really be needing.

Alongside this, refocus your priorities and just take small manageable steps at a time. Don't overload yourself. When the burden is lifted, it can be easier for your natural instincts to go and get things sorted to come alive. Even then, take it steadily.

Treat yourself as a best friend. Nourish your spirit. Get off the treadmill and ensure you make the time where you're giving back to yourself - choose things to enjoy that are meaningful to you.

If you're truly listening out to yourself then you may find that there are some things in your life to address. If so, just take these at the same respectful pace. Less is more.

If there's anything really critical, then enlist support.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

There is nothing quite as urgent in my vocabulary as manjana.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?"

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That kind of thing, if out of the ordinary, is often either a medical thing or something is troubling you

I've recently found myself getting more and more agitated over small, fairly irrelevant things.

I've been wondering if I'm sliding into a depressive episode again - as I've noted that when these come on I go through long stints of low motivation and having a short fuse.

The thing is, I don't know what could have triggered this as there has been no dramatic change in events. I mean I had to cancel my gym membership to save a bit of cash and I know exercise helps motivate me, but is it silly to put it down to that?

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis. "

All of this

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