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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon when the sex stops, they start swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?"

If you've best pals and they get older and decide 'fuck this playing 5-a-side, getting hammered in sports bars every weekend and ogling burds, I'm settling down.' Is that it, end of that friendship, or have you built up something other than 'lad shit' that make the friendship worth hiding on to?

Not the best analogy perhaps, but something along those lines.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Kids are the only reason I'm still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you get divorced you can say you were married

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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the person themselves. usually it's based on what they contribute to my life and how they improve that.

for me it's never been financially motivated. only mentally, physically, and emotionally.

my relationships have changed over the years. i got less tolerant over time and this is based on my experiences with ALL other relationships, including friends and family. i've fucked off a lot of people as they drain me of my self.

sex would be an important part of any relationship but if other things override that and improve me then i wouldn't need as much sex. i'd still need intimacy.

i get why people cheat to save a relationship if they need sex but when you really think about it they're not usually investing in the other person and just using them for sex. nothing wrong with that i suppose but that's not the type of person i'd want any intimacy with. a poly person would be acceptable but not a user.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

I can only speak from personal experience but for me, well it's fairly simple, mr is my bestie, i can confide in him, I can laugh with him, I can cry with him and should all else around us ever fall apart, I'll always have my bestie Mrs blue eyes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

basically he's got my back and I've got his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love, deep friendship,

enjoying spending time and doing things together, kisses and cuddles, just being with each other....

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"basically he's got my back and I've got his.

"
. I love this, next time I'm asked I'm going to steal it hope that's ok Mrs blue eyes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"basically he's got my back and I've got his.

. I love this, next time I'm asked I'm going to steal it hope that's ok Mrs blue eyes "

Be my guest .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loveing your partner and putting them first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wanting a divorce at the same time. Simples

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

What makes a marriage?

Dont know yet but will hopefully find out soon....

Until then as long as he looks at me with that glint in his eye and says "face down, ass up slut" im just going to smile and say "yes Sir"

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

A relationship is not just about sex.

My partner is my best friend and my soul mate. Sex is not the reason I love him and want to be with him.

We enjoy each other's company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the laughter stops.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"When the laughter stops."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love,but not in love

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

What makes a marriage????

Him doing as he is told at all times .

That is how a marriage is made ...he hee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are friends and soul mates each other. We are in love and sex is a wonderful addition to it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

marriage works when you actually enjoy each other's company, laugh together and grow with each other! A great sex life is an added bonus to all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seperate houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no idea..

mine lasted 8 years and tbh that was 6 years too long..

I think it was when I realised that he was jealous of the attention our new son was getting was when it all started to go wrong...

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"marriage works when you actually enjoy each other's company, laugh together and grow with each other! A great sex life is an added bonus to all that "

I agree with this.^^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unwavering love for each other and the ability to adapt to each other's changing personalities through the years.

It helps that we were both instantly obsessed with each other when we first met at school.

We have spent the majority of the last two decades either laughing at each other or having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blood, sweat and tears

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"marriage works when you actually enjoy each other's company, laugh together and grow with each other! A great sex life is an added bonus to all that

I agree with this.^^^^^^^ "
yes if you have all these things leading up to marriage a (good) sex life would be sufficent for me.

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

I have the best of both worlds I'm in a happy marriage and I'm extremely content & he's happy to share and likewise.

Why stay in a relationship if it's dead anyway? Or even if you have children together you always hear from adults from a broken home how they wished their parents had split when growing up. I do.

You can't be happy living like that surly? I wouldn't be able too that's why I split with my ex partner after 14 years of misery well 11 years of it!..my only regret was I hadn't done it sooner enough!..xx

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

piss taking, insults, pranks.....

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By *aucycouple85Couple
over a year ago

Coalville

honesty, fun, laughs, trust.... and good sex

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Friendship, support, trust, fun and sex.

That and we know to much about each other now.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

A marriage certificate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are best friends, soul mates, felt like we had known each other forever when we first met. We are on the same page with pretty much everything. And I think that is what will make our marriage strong when we get married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in the beatles song. ''All you need is love.''

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed


"Kids are the only reason I'm still here "

Ditto for me.

Read all of the posts and my marriage has none of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?"

Good point well made

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire


"What makes a marriage????

Him doing as he is told at all times .

That is how a marriage is made ...he hee. "

The next time will be the first and last!!!

Del

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?"

Laughter, companionship, the knowledge they have your back and you theirs. Having them in your life brightens it, the thought of not being with them "terrifies" you.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"A relationship is not just about sex.

My partner is my best friend and my soul mate. Sex is not the reason I love him and want to be with him.

We enjoy each other's company. "

Sounds about right ...

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Marriage should be all about team work. I always recall (as a child) my parents doing everything together around the home. Cooking, cleaning, garden tidy, finance etc They said if they had to have "words" with each other it was when my brothers and me were not around.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?"

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ....."

I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Marriage should be all about team work. I always recall (as a child) my parents doing everything together around the home. Cooking, cleaning, garden tidy, finance etc They said if they had to have "words" with each other it was when my brothers and me were not around."

Ideal marriage.

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

There was a song "How can we be lovers if we can't be good friends"

It seems to us that a good marriage is founded on friendship. Every thing else is built upon that foundation. Good sex with out solid friendship is just papering over the cracks.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

For us, it's companionship, loving each other's company, we are together all the time. Making each other laugh. Knowing what the other ones thinking. Lots of kisses and cuddles, sex is not everything Knowing when the other wants some quiet time. The list is endless for us

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way .....

I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together. "

Don't be sad for us !

We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other

If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .

If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .

We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way .....

I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together.

Don't be sad for us !

We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other

If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .

If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .

We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not "

I know you changed your minds about socials so maybe you'll change your mind on the sex thing too.

Desire may still be there but in older age the body might not perform for either of you. You seem happy and it would be a shame to lose that over just not having sex.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way .....

I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together.

Don't be sad for us !

We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other

If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .

If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .

We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not

I know you changed your minds about socials so maybe you'll change your mind on the sex thing too.

Desire may still be there but in older age the body might not perform for either of you. You seem happy and it would be a shame to lose that over just not having sex. "

That's the beauty of this life , we constantly change and adapt , and I guess we would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ....."

To be honest i think you make a good point.

When the sex stops (and you are of an age where it is still more important than just making it through the night alive!), then of course it impacts a relationship. Pretty badly if we are honest with ourselves.

You see it on parenting sites all the time, women deluding themselves that their fellas are ok with not having sex because they don't want it much anyway as too tired, can't be bothered, lack of interest.

And the thing is, women seem to accept that because they don't want sex then their fella shouldn't want it either. That that is it. They don't even consider going to the Dr's and getting checked out. Then months down the line suprise suprise they find out he's been cheating.

Of course it works both ways, women cheat too and men lose their sex drives too.

But sex is not just sex. It's intimacy. Bonding. Affirmation of desire. Lose that and what is left? Friendship and platonic love.

I want desire and passion. I want to reach 80 and be giving gummy blowjobs to the man unfortunate enough to end up with me. As well as laugh, share good times and bad etc.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones.

I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years.

Is sex all there is to relationships ?

When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?

If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship .

We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way .....

To be honest i think you make a good point.

When the sex stops (and you are of an age where it is still more important than just making it through the night alive!), then of course it impacts a relationship. Pretty badly if we are honest with ourselves.

You see it on parenting sites all the time, women deluding themselves that their fellas are ok with not having sex because they don't want it much anyway as too tired, can't be bothered, lack of interest.

And the thing is, women seem to accept that because they don't want sex then their fella shouldn't want it either. That that is it. They don't even consider going to the Dr's and getting checked out. Then months down the line suprise suprise they find out he's been cheating.

Of course it works both ways, women cheat too and men lose their sex drives too.

But sex is not just sex. It's intimacy. Bonding. Affirmation of desire. Lose that and what is left? Friendship and platonic love.

I want desire and passion. I want to reach 80 and be giving gummy blowjobs to the man unfortunate enough to end up with me. As well as laugh, share good times and bad etc.

"

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