FabSwingers.com forum: Why do men get so abusive

By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

Give me a message

Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Yep....I had that all day yesterday! Flipping joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on.

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By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

Give me a message

"Yep....I had that all day yesterday! Flipping joke "

Yeah it's a joke haha

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By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

Give me a message

"Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

Yeah that's what I'll be doing. Sad men haha

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By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

Give me a message

"They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on. "

That is very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One minute they want to have sex with you, next you're a racist, fat slag slut! Says a lot about them if that's who they're wanting to fuck hey? Laught it off, block and report as required! Don't let trolls get you down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some blokes just don't handle rejection too well. And they seem to think its a sex free for all. They simply don't get it.

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By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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Thanks guys, yeah I know! I really am genuine and if I say I'll meet them I will. What I'm not going to do is meet people that I am not interested in.. that doesn't make sense

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"They don't handle rejection well."

Rejection is no problem for me... I've had loads of practice.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't handle rejection well.

Rejection is no problem for me... I've had loads of practice.

Cal

Is Cal the full name or is it short for something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys can't take rejection and don't understand the swinging world, I got rejected twice yesterday and waiting to be rejected again today, I'm not for everyone, I get that, so if I do get a no thanks, I just move on, sending an abusive reply is there way of making you feel bad because you rejected them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could you add the word 'some' to the men bashing comments pls..

Were not all arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No use reporting them cause the admin do sweet fa.

And single males prob the main source of income too

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

I can't understand the logic of getting upset and sending abusive and insulting messages. Accept it gracefully, no one person appeals to everyone and tastes and likes are so diverse. These morons are doing no one a favour with their Neanderthal behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on. "

If that's the case I agree with you but personally I normally just say "okay, but thank you for the response". If I don't get a response I just don't message again and move on, there is at least one gentleman on here!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Could you add the word 'some' to the men bashing comments pls..

Were not all arseholes. "

Yes it is only some and a small minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore"

Because they're pricks. Just ignore it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've had messages saying i look good and when i delete i get another saying wouldn't fuck you anyway fat cow. I usually reply saying thank you gent

and then block them!!

Personally I'd prefer someone to delete a message of mine than reply telling they don't like me and why!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see it as verbal abuse see it as a verbal warning and you had a lucky escape...

Image actually being lulled in by someone like that and them turning on you in person! Block button is your friend x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"They don't handle rejection well.

Rejection is no problem for me... I've had loads of practice.

Cal

Is Cal the full name or is it short for something? "

Super Cala fragilistic expialidocious.

Cal is better

Buck.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on.

That's the type of reply I usually get to my "no thank you" messages, my block list is very short because of it

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By *irdyray1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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It is great to see that not all men are the same on here. You do get some genuine lovely guys and it's a shame that they are the ones who suffer because of the other assholes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a mixture of abuse or referrals to various dating sites

filters been on for over a week now cos I can't be arsed with the pettiness and I don't want it to taint my view of some of the wonderful men on this site.

Don't let them get you down OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

What's a reverse racist?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

What's a reverse racist?"

Reverse racism is a term used to describe acts of discrimination and prejudice perpetrated by racial minorities or historically oppressed ethnical groups against individuals belonging to the racial majority or historically dominant ethnical groups. In other words, it is reverse discrimination based on racial criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the don't decline view. I just delete most of the messages I get it don't even read.

PTU XXX

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on. "

It is not just men who struggle with rejection..

As swingers surely it's a huge part of the lifestyle..accept,block and move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

What's a reverse racist?

The ones who often shamelessly pull the race card while crying harassment, victimisation and racism over fuckall, making everyone else desensitised to the plight of anyone being genuinely victimised. They are the same ones who do this

When they get 'yeah I am a racist, so what?' As an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore"

May I respectfully say women do it too, quite a bit. Even had all my veries contacted by some who couldn't believe I would turn them down... and yes...got called racist, masoganist and homophobic. They then gave abuse to my veris.

Some people just don't know how to handle rejection.... everything is turned into a personalisation for whatever reason.

I'm sorry to hear anyone who faces this. It dies ruin much of the fun experience that can be had on here. One reason I don't meet formites. Too much baggage and they end uptalking and bitching about those they've met or can't meet etc etc. It's not why I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore"

Gorgeous body. Ignore the haters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get a no thank you message, it means that person took the time to say no thanks. That can be a rarity in itself. We tend to get the silent treatment, we take that as a rejection!! Some don't have the decency to say no thanks.

If we get a no thanks, we message back to thank them for considering us, bid them best wishes and if plans change in the future, we're just a message away. Then we just move on.

A guy got in touch, we declined and he sent a thank you message back. We past his details on to someone we know, she hooked up with him and fucked his brains out. So guys that get abusive might unwittingly spoil it for themselves further than they think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's every point OP. Not all guys are like that. Just took offence and not being wanted. Just report, block and move on

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they insult your appearance point out how only 5 seconds ago they really wanted to fuck you.

I really think this is the sort of place that doesn't play well with egos and they should be checked at the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men are like this though

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Small dick"

Unlike yours

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"I agree with the don't decline view. I just delete most of the messages I get it don't even read.

PTU XXX "

Why would you just delete them all?

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Katie got approached last night on here by yet another "straight" guy want to fuck katie, just to make sure he knew I was a tv and not a real woman I wrote back saying so just so there was no confusion, and pointed out that his profile says he was straight.I also looked at his veri's from women he had met,so he was a genuine "meeter".

He wrote back saying that he fancies TVs and loves fuckingvthem and that he won't put anything on his profile as it scares women off meeting him.

I replied with what about the possibility of leaving these women who are thinking they are meeting a straight guy exposed to STI's etc and why lie about what he likes as clearly he gets off on playing with a tv and if hisnprofile said sonthen he would get genuine replies from women who didn't mind he did and that he could have even more fun with women who also wanted a guy and a tv to play with,

Back came the verbals and abuse and at the end of it he said "did I still want him to fuck me"........did I still want him to fuck me I thought when did I agree that then!!!!!!

Nice to be treat like a real person I thought, good job he wasn't just thinking of katie as a hole to fuck ......... really glad he respects the real women he meets I thought and that he puts their health and wellbeing at the fore of his thought process.

I'm sure you real women on here can look after yourself but I do genuinely getnpissed off when guys like that lie to you and unknowingly put you at risk, take care and I'm sure I don't need to tell you to be careful with who you trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One minute they want to have sex with you, next you're a racist, fat slag slut! Says a lot about them if that's who they're wanting to fuck hey? Laught it off, block and report as required! Don't let trolls get you down! "

Well said and please ladies don't put us all in that category there is some genuine gentlemen on here.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Lots of keyboard warriors on here.

I don't really understand why women even allow men to contact them.

If I were a lady on here, I would block all men and just wink those I fancied.

At least then I would be getting abuse off guys I fancied. But I bet I would get none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of keyboard warriors on here.

I don't really understand why women even allow men to contact them.

If I were a lady on here, I would block all men and just wink those I fancied.

At least then I would be getting abuse off guys I fancied. But I bet I would get none.

That's what I do

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

"It is great to see that not all men are the same on here. You do get some genuine lovely guys and it's a shame that they are the ones who suffer because of the other assholes lol "

Yes to many racist and offensive assholes here ruining it for the rest of us guys. Your deffo not fat btw he should actually of gone to specsavers as your figure is pretty trim really. Then again he obvs couldnt handle you rejecting him. But its no excuse to be offensive especially to any women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some expect you to give them some back if they haven't pressed block so they can try and report you.

It's not just single guys though the other day I had a screen full off a couple.

No where on my profile does it says MF MM or FF couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the way the site is set up to i reckon thats why i jacked it in the last time.

Site encourages anti social behaviour how about the admin get thier fingers out of thier asses and think of something why is thier so many angry men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't decline just delete and block the message.

And I have noticed some serious reverse racists on here.

What's a reverse racist?

Very succinctly put, might copy that.

I know this thread is just a snap shot of Fab but if ladies are getting so much vitriol and vileness by the Neanderthals on here why don't they try a true gentleman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the way the site is set up to i reckon thats why i jacked it in the last time.

Site encourages anti social behaviour how about the admin get thier fingers out of thier asses and think of something why is thier so many angry men.

What's it got to do with admin??? They aren't responsible for other people's behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of keyboard warriors on here.

I don't really understand why women even allow men to contact them.

If I were a lady on here, I would block all men and just wink those I fancied.

At least then I would be getting abuse off guys I fancied. But I bet I would get none.

It's not that easy. Some guys I have met and really liked - i would never of winked at them based on a cock profile pic haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the don't decline view. I just delete most of the messages I get it don't even read.

PTU XXX

Why would you just delete them all? "

Because I've not asked for messages and ive no interest in reading them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the way the site is set up to i reckon thats why i jacked it in the last time.

Site encourages anti social behaviour how about the admin get thier fingers out of thier asses and think of something why is thier so many angry men.

How does it encourage antisocial behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get many abusive messages, most are polite. Those that are I just block and forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just down to an over inflated sense of entitlement ..

Obviously you know nothing of this so when you say 'no thanks, not for me' that's really not what the want to see...

And then they show you what they are really like, so if you think about it they are actually doing you a favour

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"Could you add the word 'some' to the men bashing comments pls..

Were not all arseholes. "

it's not just men either. I've had a fair amount of abuse for not being bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question -- if you block and report, should you be leaving the offensive message in your inbox so admin can see it? I'm assuming blocking, reporting and then deleting the message actually means admin wouldn't be able to do anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a site like this you will find that although it's not nice to be called, you have to be thick skinned and take everything with a pinch of salt

I block, delete and move on

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

I'd block and report a lot are them keep sending messages like that to other women too so you would have one less if you did xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the way the site is set up to i reckon thats why i jacked it in the last time.

Site encourages anti social behaviour how about the admin get thier fingers out of thier asses and think of something why is thier so many angry men.

What's it got to do with admin??? They aren't responsible for other people's behaviour "

Maybe what they're saying is ...by not doing anything yet knowing it's happening and many have suggested actions that could be taken to help the site that they then become implicated by no action or inappropriate action that doesn't do anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you add the word 'some' to the men bashing comments pls..

Were not all arseholes. "

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"They don't handle rejection well.

Report, block and move on. "

had some nasty mail after saying " sorry but not for me" wont repost but quite horrible just block and move on x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore"

Because people are only human..nobody likes to be told no..some handle it well,others not so much so. Women aren't much better on here though. Men just tend to not say much about it. I've had some right abuse from women in the time I've been on here.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"In a site like this you will find that although it's not nice to be called, you have to be thick skinned and take everything with a pinch of salt

I block, delete and move on "

Nice and simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get abusive replies on here. The majority are just thankful to get a reply I've found.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Its the way the site is set up to i reckon thats why i jacked it in the last time.

Site encourages anti social behaviour how about the admin get thier fingers out of thier asses and think of something why is thier so many angry men.

It's because many if them become site supporters so they care less as money is coming in..the amount if faceless and pictureless profiles who are site supporters is unreal..so admin ain't doing s@#t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not all like that, honest.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"It is great to see that not all men are the same on here. You do get some genuine lovely guys and it's a shame that they are the ones who suffer because of the other assholes lol "

Why should they suffer if they've done nuting wrong..meks no sense to me. I don't treat people a certain way if they've not done me anything..male or female. It's wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more deletions than anything, some rejections having chatted briefly. Meh, move on....

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Why the hell do men get so abusive when you turn down their offer. I have just been called racist, fat slag, slut, attention seeker because i didn't want to meet them.. what is the point anymore

Some people just don't know how to handle rejection.... everything is turned into a personalisation for whatever reason.

I second that fully..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I replied with what about the possibility of leaving these women who are thinking they are meeting a straight guy exposed to STI's etc and why lie about what he likes"

While i agree with most of your post, i've gotta say, "Whoa...WTF"?

How is meeting someone on the DL "increasing" their chances of STI's etc, anymore than meeting someone with a vag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats life for you, some people have a few screws that arent wired up right, maybe something happened in their childhood to make them that way, maybe they have mental health issues or maybe some are just jackasses who are too entitled..

Personally I just laugh at the patheticness of those types of messages

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Lots of keyboard warriors on here.

I don't really understand why women even allow men to contact them.

If I were a lady on here, I would block all men and just wink those I fancied.

At least then I would be getting abuse off guys I fancied. But I bet I would get none.

It's not that easy. Some guys I have met and really liked - i would never of winked at them based on a cock profile pic haha "

You met guys with a cocktail pic profile

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have had it lots

Some of the men on here think they have a given right to meet who they want, when they want and heaven forbid we have an opinion that differs from theirs.

Dax refers to it as "tiny cock syndrome" as they feel they have to attack us to make themselves feel bigger about themselves

Block and move on

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Wait until they go offline to read and reply to the message then you have time to block them afterwards to prevent any further contact of any kind

Failing that block everyone and do the searching/messaging for yourself but even then you can still get them replying to you abusively with things along the lines of "don't know what a fat slag like you is message me" etc

It's why I prefer the first option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow just wow, I treat all people on here just like I do in real life, with respect and politeness. Saddens me that there are those who think members here are a sure thing for sexual contact and that they then get upset with a thanks, but no thanks.

Idiots like this sure make it harder for us that are most genuine.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men do.

I couldn't imagine what it's like to be on the receiving end of those people.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"They don't handle rejection well.

Rejection is no problem for me... I've had loads of practice.

Cal

Is Cal the full name or is it short for something? "

It's short for something, but my first name is very rare... easily identifiable.

Cal

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