FabSwingers.com forum: A question for the single swingers...

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

....... and couples too, but you'll have to pretend it is the future and for some reason you are now single.

By single swingers, I mean singles who believe whole heartedly there is nothing wrong with purely recreational sex in 2’s 3’s 4’s and more … including when you are a couple and bringing other people into your sexual activities.

Let’s say you meet someone away from the scene and start dating. Everything you know about them so far makes you feel you were meant to be together and they say they feel the same.

I understand the activity of swinging not being the be all and end all… but it being more that something extra. So this question is NOT about ‘could you give up swinging for someone’.

The question is… could you and indeed would you hide your beliefs about swinging if your new partner had REALLY strong beliefs against it.

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

no. our attitudes and outlooks define who we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unlikely I'd be attracted to a girl with such a socially conservative/conventional outlook on life in the first instance.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i could not imagine falling for someone who did not share basic values.A sex positive attitude ,non judgemental and non possessive are hard limits for me.

So it would be a case of total incompatibilty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, in the past I've dated non-swingers and told them I've 'swung' entirely up to them to accept my past and if it has any bearing on my future with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one that hides it is treading on dangerous ground especially if he/she had been on the scene for a while

The truth has a funny way of outing xx

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"....... and couples too, but you'll have to pretend it is the future and for some reason you are now single.

Let’s say you meet someone away from the scene and start dating. Everything you know about them so far makes you feel you were meant to be together and they say they feel the same.

I understand the activity of swinging not being the be all and end all… but it being more that something extra. So this question is NOT about ‘could you give up swinging for someone’.

The question is… could you and indeed would you hide your beliefs about swinging if your new partner had REALLY strong beliefs against it.

What a complicated question for someone who has been married as long as we have, just glad we both enjoy the scene and don't have to try and convince the other one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one that hides it is treading on dangerous ground especially if he/she had been on the scene for a while

The truth has a funny way of outing xx

Ain't that the truth lol

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

complicated histry here.. i obviously didnt tell my ex husband i was "swinging" in the sense of meeting strangers for sex.

and luckly the man i am with now. my love, my life..

knew all about it because we were really good friends at work, but i did say when we got into a relationship i wouldnt be swinging anymore.and to be air i didnt miss it, . that lasted about a year, then one night during a debrif in bed

the subject of me liking a bit of pussy myself come up and that led to us talking about having fun as a couple.. so i am very greatful he has such an open attitude to sex .

so in answer to the question.. i dont think i could be with some one who didnt have an open mind and an adventurios spirit. and i could never hide my bi side or my past..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure that I could and if there views were that strong, best to stay away as I couldn't keep my gob shut, it only has a way of coming back and biting ones bum so best to be honest. And that's the important thing, what is the point in a relationship if there is no honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i could give up the sexual side of swinging, as if i met someone, then my full attention would be with them, and learning all there is to know about her sexually.

social side, on the other hand would be something i would find hard to give up.. I've spend many years on various swinging sites, and made a load of good friends, who i enjoy meeting in a social environment. so it would very difficult for me to stop doing that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i could give up the sexual side of swinging, as if i met someone, then my full attention would be with them, and learning all there is to know about her sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to tell them. Even if I'd walked away from the scene way before we'd met.

It's something that I feel I would be hiding from them and it won't sit right with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my partner on a swinging site, but I'm the only person he's ever met and I'm the third person he's slept with.

Until the age of 44 I'd only slept with my husband: I've since made up for that.

My "concern" is in the future will I become sexually bored and want to play with others and how my other half will react to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i could give up the sexual side of swinging, as if i met someone, then my full attention would be with them, and learning all there is to know about her sexually.

I know what you mean

Over the last few years I have been moving more and more towards the social side of swinging

Having been on the scene now fa nearly thirty years I have no vanilla friends so will continue on that side of things

However I will be stopping the meeting side eventually but wouldn't stop my partner from playing ever

(as long as i can watch now and again pmsl) xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its always been in me and will always be in me whether i play again or not. if your in a committed relationship with someone why would you hide part of who you are/where. Things cant be hidden for ever

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The one that hides it is treading on dangerous ground especially if he/she had been on the scene for a while

The truth has a funny way of outing xx

yes that happened to me with ex not swinging but strippers was out one night and we were out and one of my mates let it slip have not seen you on the stage for a while at the club had to admit everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, a case of take me as i am or not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, a case of take me as i am or not at all

Would love too xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Ok here goes... I have never cheated on anyone but I have got bored in relationships and have ended this.. Most of the time I found that we did not share the same open minded attitude which is sad as I have possibly thrown Mr right out the window..

Not that I am looking for anything but great friends on here you just never know and if I was to find Mr almost right then great. I would really only date someone who is open minded to swinging as I could not shut that side of me out... My vanilla friends never see the "real" me but my swinging friends see the real side of me..

I don't think I could give up the swinging as its part of me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in the situation, told her at the start and it created a problem for her/us.

Not sure of it being a constant part of your life,think its possible to burn out of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I not only swing, but I'm very into bdsm too and on top of that I'm polyamorous so I could never partner up with someone looking for pure, vanilla monogamy. It's not going to happen. I'd rather be single.

I wouldn't hide my sexual history from a potential partner and wouldn't want them to hide theirs from me. I don't think it's possible to go the distance anyway if you're not sexually compatible - relationships are hard work even if you are, but I absolutely could not be with someone who isn't a sexual match.

If a date said they were anti-swinging and monogamous, I'd end it, even if I was really into them. Because I know that long-term it wouldn't work for me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"....... and couples too, but you'll have to pretend it is the future and for some reason you are now single.

Let’s say you meet someone away from the scene and start dating. Everything you know about them so far makes you feel you were meant to be together and they say they feel the same.

I understand the activity of swinging not being the be all and end all… but it being more that something extra. So this question is NOT about ‘could you give up swinging for someone’.

The question is… could you and indeed would you hide your beliefs about swinging if your new partner had REALLY strong beliefs against it.

If I was single swinging and was packing it in to be with someone, I think I would say nothing. It would be in the past and I am sure hw would have skeletons too.

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

I (she) spent too long denying what I have always been. Now I have found my way there's no going back and who would want to. Love me love my swing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is… could you and indeed would you hide your beliefs about swinging if your new partner had REALLY strong beliefs against it.

yes

I really believe what someone did before they met me has nothing to do with me, and visa versa, the day i feel you have to be honest with someone is the day you make a commitment to them

If i met someone, away from swinging, and fell in love with them i would happily give up swinging and would feel i was doing nother wrong at all by not telling them i ever did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, a case of take me as i am or not at all

Would love too xx

he he thanks

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