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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On the whole, most members remain discrete with profiles and their personal details. Intricately cropping heads off photos and strategically avoiding identifying features of our homes it's obvious we value our privacy.

But if you were publicly outed on here, what would really happening to you?

I'd be in deep water with work...how about you? Or is it just blushes you'd suffer?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Nowt at all, I couldn't give a toss who knows I'm on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nowt at all, I couldn't give a toss who knows I'm on here "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nowt at all, I couldn't give a toss who knows I'm on here "

This is me also but I'm sure my mam would tell me off haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with ace although I think my mum n bro would be quick to denie my existence.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not worried about the impact on my life I'm more concerned about vicious small minded people who might alert my kids. I remain private to protect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nowt at all, I couldn't give a toss who knows I'm on here

This is me also but I'm sure my mam would tell me off haha "

Same but only because she is Catholic & wouldnt get it, she'd forgive me in a heartbeat though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I'm not worried about the impact on my life I'm more concerned about vicious small minded people who might alert my kids. I remain private to protect them. "

This

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I was outed at work once. Apart from a coincidental visit from the Vetting Agency, it was pretty OK. Half of them are on here anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" On the whole, most members remain discrete with profiles and their personal details. Intricately cropping heads off photos and strategically avoiding identifying features of our homes it's obvious we value our privacy.

But if you were publicly outed on here, what would really happening to you?

I'd be in deep water with work...how about you? Or is it just blushes you'd suffer?

"

I'm only cautious cos my ex turned stalker on me ... I'm now careful about details I share cos I don't want to be going thro that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband knows. My parents know. Work knows.

No problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" On the whole, most members remain discrete with profiles and their personal details. Intricately cropping heads off photos and strategically avoiding identifying features of our homes it's obvious we value our privacy.

But if you were publicly outed on here, what would really happening to you?

I'd be in deep water with work...how about you? Or is it just blushes you'd suffer? "

It's a good question, there was an article I was sent today about a Drupal developer who got fired because it became public knowledge that he was a dom. I'm also a web programmer; however I'm fully out about my dom side. My MD and his wife know and even have conversations and joke with me about it. All my colleagues know and some have seen my fetlife profile.

It's a shame that what people do in their private lives with consenting partners is still a social matter of shame to some.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Nothing as im singall.

In face it mite even help me find sumone

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Nothing as im singall.

In face it mite even help me find sumone "

You will

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Got busted 6 months ago, sometimes it can be a good thing, freedom or disaster thin line some walk.

Society is annoying, those wagging tounges, the true evil ones lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life. My choices

Some small really small minded people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrrrr...let me think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might get a bit messy.

But then it might be easier to find meets afterwards. If you don't mind meeting with a castrato

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In sometimes think it's what lgbt folk went through to be accepted into society ... 21st century is the time us kinkys came out and protested for our right to be anti vanilla shaggers haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it's great to be able to simply say who cares. But obviously we all live different lives with different responsibilities and professional obligations at times.

There are consequences to all choices in life, and as stated, sadly one of the biggest concerns here is being judged and our lives consequently suffering for indulging in an activity that generally causes no harm to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think it's great to be able to simply say who cares. But obviously we all live different lives with different responsibilities and professional obligations at times.

There are consequences to all choices in life, and as stated, sadly one of the biggest concerns here is being judged and our lives consequently suffering for indulging in an activity that generally causes no harm to anyone. "

There's just a conservative stigma around sex in the UK ... I blame the tories

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I think it's great to be able to simply say who cares. But obviously we all live different lives with different responsibilities and professional obligations at times.

There are consequences to all choices in life, and as stated, sadly one of the biggest concerns here is being judged and our lives consequently suffering for indulging in an activity that generally causes no harm to anyone.

There's just a conservative stigma around sex in the UK ... I blame the tories "

according to the press they're involved in it all usually !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think it's great to be able to simply say who cares. But obviously we all live different lives with different responsibilities and professional obligations at times.

There are consequences to all choices in life, and as stated, sadly one of the biggest concerns here is being judged and our lives consequently suffering for indulging in an activity that generally causes no harm to anyone.

There's just a conservative stigma around sex in the UK ... I blame the tories

according to the press they're involved in it all usually !"

Probably because the press own them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be in rather deep water in work..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" On the whole, most members remain discrete with profiles and their personal details. Intricately cropping heads off photos and strategically avoiding identifying features of our homes it's obvious we value our privacy.

But if you were publicly outed on here, what would really happening to you?

I'd be in deep water with work...how about you? Or is it just blushes you'd suffer? "

Most people who matter to me already know I go to swingers clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would lose my job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of my friends either know or were made on here, the others wouldn't be that surprised, family for the most part is cool, those that aren't...well...who cares? my boss knows so all in all not a lot would happen at all. i'm happy enough with what i do that i use my real name on here, my face id on my profile, i have fabbers on facebook, i've had real friends come to fab, the line is extremely blurry here anyhow so whatever, out me, don't out me, i'm not fussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would affect what I do a great deal, x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Quite a few of us would apparently lose our jobs? But we're all prepared to take the risk ? Is this part of the appeal...having a hidden side to our lives for excitement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't really think any of our friends would be that surprised.

It wouldn't really affect our jobs. I don't see what the big deal is. We enjoy sex alot and we like adding extra people to our fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has happened before, and wasn't a particularly pleasant experience, so would rather not go through it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing much might be the butt of a few jokes for a few weeks at work but will blow over and my parents might be a bit disappointed but will soon forgive me so guess will be okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Quite a few of us would apparently lose our jobs? But we're all prepared to take the risk ? Is this part of the appeal...having a hidden side to our lives for excitement?"

Not for me. That's why I've chosen work where it doesn't matter. I don't find it fun to keep my sexual preferences closeted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Quite a few of us would apparently lose our jobs? But we're all prepared to take the risk ? Is this part of the appeal...having a hidden side to our lives for excitement?"

I was doing this job long before i started swinging. I have been swinging for almost 12 years now.

I dont find it exciting knowing i would lose my job if HR found out. I give out very few details about me and sometimes i even give out false details so as to avoid people knowing much about me. I have no wish for my work place or my family to know about my sex life. Nor do i wish to know about their sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone was malicious enough to attempt to ruin my life, I'd ruin every last inch of theirs to oblivion.

It's just not a cool thing to do and it's it would strike me as extremely vindictive.

It has been attempted and someone is actively trying to ruin a friend of mines life right now.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd rather not even contemplate it thank you

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

It would have no real impact on me, wouldn't even embarrass me.

Most of the people that know me well know I'm a very liberated free spirited person so it wouldn't shock them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone was malicious enough to attempt to ruin my life, I'd ruin every last inch of theirs to oblivion.

It's just not a cool thing to do and it's it would strike me as extremely vindictive.

It has been attempted and someone is actively trying to ruin a friend of mines life right now."

It's worrying what levels some people will stoop too...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I'm not hurting anyone, I'm not breaking any laws. So why should I care who knows, it's my life, not theirs and unless it affects them directly they have no say in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone was malicious enough to attempt to ruin my life, I'd ruin every last inch of theirs to oblivion.

It's just not a cool thing to do and it's it would strike me as extremely vindictive.

It has been attempted and someone is actively trying to ruin a friend of mines life right now.

It's worrying what levels some people will stoop too... "

You know about this and what I'm talking about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure a certain someone would use it against me at one last effort to ruin my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty sure a certain someone would use it against me at one last effort to ruin my life. "

Yeah and it's not cool at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone was malicious enough to attempt to ruin my life, I'd ruin every last inch of theirs to oblivion.

It's just not a cool thing to do and it's it would strike me as extremely vindictive.

It has been attempted and someone is actively trying to ruin a friend of mines life right now.

It's worrying what levels some people will stoop too...

You know about this and what I'm talking about. "

Ooooh...I sense gossip. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone was malicious enough to attempt to ruin my life, I'd ruin every last inch of theirs to oblivion.

It's just not a cool thing to do and it's it would strike me as extremely vindictive.

It has been attempted and someone is actively trying to ruin a friend of mines life right now.

It's worrying what levels some people will stoop too...

You know about this and what I'm talking about. "

I sure do, makes me angry & sad all at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty sure a certain someone would use it against me at one last effort to ruin my life. "

If you think that make sure you protect what privacy you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't affect what I do in the slightest...

I think most of my siblings know anyway, but I wouldn't tell my dad as he would want to join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be fired. And wouldn't be able to work in the same field again.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'm self employed - I reckon I'd let myself off with a stern talking to.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm self employed - I reckon I'd let myself off with a stern talking to. "

Not even a bit of discipline?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I'm self employed - I reckon I'd let myself off with a stern talking to.

Not even a bit of discipline? "

I demonstrably lack discipline and tend to resist it where I find it so, no...I think I'm too far gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my friends family and kids know I'm on this , as long as I'm happy and safe is the response.

If someone was that bitter and spiteful they will be in for a shock, when they turn round and say we already know ,and the said person would live in fear of revenge forever .

Because I'd have to even that right out

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