FabSwingers.com forum: 4 things that make a woman lose interest....

By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

OK, I'll start this - come on ladies, just give us the top FOUR things that you would really like the guys to know put you off? This is your chance to make your own experience better!! I'll add mine later

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

If the initial message or profile already hasn't, it would be the following:-

Too pushy - wanting to meet after a couple of exchanges, clearly desparate

Oral - discovering they really aren't passionate about it

Sense of humour - if I have to keep explaining mine hence they obviously haven't got one

Conversation - incapable of holding one other than that of a sexual nature, or those who exhibit toxic tendencies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are mega horny

They are the best at oral than anyone else.

Heavy cummer

Can fuck for hours.

There mine but different for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the initial message or profile already hasn't, it would be the following:-

Too pushy - wanting to meet after a couple of exchanges, clearly desparate

Oral - discovering they really aren't passionate about it

Sense of humour - if I have to keep explaining mine hence they obviously haven't got one

Conversation - incapable of holding one other than that of a sexual nature, or those who exhibit toxic tendencies "

I would go with that that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. liars, about situations, relationships, getting cold feet etc

2. Text speech in a message along with no respect or being pushy

3. Sending a cock pic that looks like it needs a good wire brush and dettol on it.

4. Not reading a profile in full and taking into account what I want not just what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1)Endless dick pics

2) Smarmy patter and wannabe Mr Greys

3)Whinging about a rejection or delay. (when did whining or agression ever turn a NO to a YES)

4) Bragging. "Never fails", "will defo make you scream"

Honey, not all women are the same, if you think this is some colour by numbers game I'm pretty certain you're a shit shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

facial hair - cocky/pushy - guys that plead please meet me give me a chance - and last but not least not reading the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above. "

I'm finally doing something right then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you all just put breathing x 4 and be done wi us fs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bookmarked. Thanks frisky.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

Keep at something for long enough you're bound to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying- about anything.

Blowing hot and cold.

Rushing me.

Finding out through chat that you aren't on the same page, sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above. "

Faf? Lol. Xx

This doesn't rock your boat then?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Why don't you all just put breathing x 4 and be done wi us fs!

Well you're all currently breathing through your ears anyway fs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of a couple, men that say they're so much better than mr.

Messages asking what I'm wearing and pics for wank fodder.

Not being able to hold a conversation.

Asking to meet with out partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics

Bad grammar ( especially text language )

No manners

No respect

Please don't hun or babe me you don't know me

Expecting me to open my legs 24/7

Wanting to see my bits ( sorry just because you send your dick to everyone doesn't mean I will show you my bits)

Looooooong messages ( I do have a life)

Yeah thats about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't you all just put breathing x 4 and be done wi us fs!

no 5 = breathing

there happy now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

Faf? Lol. Xx

This doesn't rock your boat then? "

Father my children immediately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway. "

Prefer man shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

*cane in hand*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first message being a scenario of what they want to do to me when we meet. They aren't sexy at all. Please stop doing them.

No face pics. Please send one with your first message, you can see what I look like, it's only fair that I can see what you look like.

Endless chat without any sign that you actually want to meet up.

Not liking football or supporting a shit football team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

*cane in hand*

Kinkayyyy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

*cane in hand*

Kinkayyyy

It's a plastic pimp fancy dress cane off eBay. Still ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

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Kinkayyyy

It's a plastic pimp fancy dress cane off eBay. Still ok?

I'm all about trying new things. If you'd got it from Amazon I'd be out though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first message being a scenario of what they want to do to me when we meet. They aren't sexy at all. Please stop doing them.

No face pics. Please send one with your first message, you can see what I look like, it's only fair that I can see what you look like.

Endless chat without any sign that you actually want to meet up.

Not liking football or supporting a shit football team

5. Liking football a lot. We will not be compatible because I have zero interest in it. So no smalltalk about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

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Kinkayyyy

It's a plastic pimp fancy dress cane off eBay. Still ok?

I'm all about trying new things. If you'd got it from Amazon I'd be out though

Ooh you snob you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

*cane in hand*

Kinkayyyy

It's a plastic pimp fancy dress cane off eBay. Still ok?

I'm all about trying new things. If you'd got it from Amazon I'd be out though

Ooh you snob you

Yeah, because eBay is where posh people shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Wanting to agree a meet ASAP without sufficient rapport building on here.

2. Text speak or Rude-boys. Ugh.

3. Weird habits like putting kisses after every sentence. Odd and creepy looking / sounding when you read it.

4. Usual boring cliche phrases we've all seen in this thread above.

I'm finally doing something right then.

No offence meant to anyone, purely for educayyyshonarl porpoises you understand

Feel free to educate me further in private

*cane in hand*

Kinkayyyy

It's a plastic pimp fancy dress cane off eBay. Still ok?

I'm all about trying new things. If you'd got it from Amazon I'd be out though

Ooh you snob you

Yeah, because eBay is where posh people shop

Fightin' taaalk 'ere like!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"The first message being a scenario of what they want to do to me when we meet. They aren't sexy at all. Please stop doing them.

No face pics. Please send one with your first message, you can see what I look like, it's only fair that I can see what you look like.

Endless chat without any sign that you actually want to meet up.

Not liking football or supporting a shit football team

The Rams are not shit I'll have you know young lady

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

4 you say??

1. Putting Mmmmmm after every message

2. Asking me what I'm wearing now or what I'm going to wear to meet them

3. Presuming I want to have sex with them after a couple of messages.

4. Pestering me, ie messaging me the second I come on line

*bites tongue* there's so much more!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *omesWoman
over a year ago

Surrey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 you say??

1. Putting Mmmmmm after every message

2. Asking me what I'm wearing now or what I'm going to wear to meet them

3. Presuming I want to have sex with them after a couple of messages.

4. Pestering me, ie messaging me the second I come on line

*bites tongue* there's so much more!!!! "

Sounds like a sexual predator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I can think of 4, but a big one is trying to make themselves seem better by making snide comments about my fiancé.

I've never mentioned anything about this being a cuckolding situation, I've not told you he likes to be humiliated, so making shitty remarks about the love of my life just earns you a one way ticket to my block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Endless messages, then clearly second (or third) best and messages ignored until they get bored and decide to say hello after two weeks.

2. Assuming I want to meet there and then and I have no life other than waiting for Mr Horny from fab

3. Intellectually challenged individuals who could not string a sentence together even if you gave them the words and a grammar book

4. Making assumptions about my personality or what I am into.

If I want you to know, I'll tell you.

There's a lot more but they are my top 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Sending ANOTHER Message before I've read and replied to the first one.

2. No conversation.. sends messages that are hard to reply to.

3. Coming across as weak or desperate. Begging for meets. Pleading. Over complementing...etc.

4. Not being available for weeks on end or only wanting to meet in the day time for an hour.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway. "

No, only horse shopping!!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

When the convo seems to be going ok so you agree to switch to another form of messaging and the first thing they say is.... "show me more of you babe"

In your area, are you free now?

Not wanting to know me. I'm more than just flesh. I'm a person ffs!

Seeing making me cum as a challenge when I admit it's rare, then guaranteeing me an orgasm

Wow, you know my body (and moreso my mind that well do you?!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway. "

You must be a really crap shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway. "

I couldn't think of anything more boring than shopping for shoes or handbags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never tell what puts me off, I much prefer that men not have the inside story.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Gosh I can't remember what I wrote yesterday now...hmm, I'm going to assume the profile is OK and we've started talking - what would most likely make me LOSE interest??

1 Someone trying to arrange sex without any real attempt to get to know me.

2 Not being able to 'know' them a little from their profile or first few messages - I need some insight into 'what kind of an animal' they are, and an empty or trite profile puts them at a huge disadvantage.

3 Failure to engage me somehow - those non-conversations that feel like someone going through the motions just to get to the 'can we fuck' question.

4 Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!

I think those are the hurdles that usually stop me deciding 'Yes, I definitely must meet THIS guy!!' and that's what I want, that's what I am here for - I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are mega horny

They are the best at oral than anyone else.

Heavy cummer

Can fuck for hours.

There mine but different for everyone

How about they speak a good England

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1- Not reading my profile

2- Dick pics

3- Constant messaging

4-Asking for phone/Skype sex

Arrrggghhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4. Not being available for weeks on end... "

Sorry

I think my job sucks sometimes too. I think they need to give me more time for extra-curricular activities

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up "

Time for another break maybe?? I find fab a lot better than dating sites - here they are just a bit clueless on the whole - on the dating sites they are truly Machiavellian!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds desperate

So many dick pics and no other photos at all

Puts up statuses like "any females want to suck me off now"

Sends multiple nagging messages.

H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When the convo seems to be going ok so you agree to switch to another form of messaging and the first thing they say is.... "show me more of you babe"

In your area, are you free now?

Not wanting to know me. I'm more than just flesh. I'm a person ffs!

Seeing making me cum as a challenge when I admit it's rare, then guaranteeing me an orgasm

Wow, you know my body (and moreso my mind that well do you?!)"

Oh god, the number of times I've heard the orgasm one!

Seriously if I say it doesn't happen often, you trying harder is just gonna make it worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the ones that tell me how beautiful I am even though they have only seen my boobs.

And then the ones that beg to meet you, total turn off.

I'm do have private face pictures but I'm cautious who I send to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway. "

In other words women lose interest in you a lot?

H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When the convo seems to be going ok so you agree to switch to another form of messaging and the first thing they say is.... "show me more of you babe"

In your area, are you free now?

Not wanting to know me. I'm more than just flesh. I'm a person ffs!

Seeing making me cum as a challenge when I admit it's rare, then guaranteeing me an orgasm

Wow, you know my body (and moreso my mind that well do you?!)"

Your first and last reasons are two of mine as well. I find it bloody rude when they want to message on kik and the first thing they ask is if I have any other photos of myself

And the orgasm thing- I'm exactly the same.

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By *umumCouple
over a year ago

LEEDS

Wanting to meet after 10 mins/ being agressive and pushy

Turning it into their fantasy like I'm just some kinda extra there to abuse

Asking if I'll fuck their mate too

Every message starts with 'Hi you OK? '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, I'll start this - come on ladies, just give us the top FOUR things that you would really like the guys to know put you off? This is your chance to make your own experience better!! I'll add mine later

1- will I do a gangbang

2- will I go bare back

3- will I let them breastfeed

4- will I play mummy & daddys

None of which are in my profile

Not my thing one bit!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This makes me smile. No wonder lots of guys find it so difficult on here. I'm glad I don't want to meet anymore. It's a minefield.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

1.Asking for more pics. That suggests you just want wank fodder.

2. Wanting to discuss in detail what we will do when we meet. Ditto

3. Talking about "your wife". Two massive assumptions there. That we are married and that the male is in control.

4. Blokes over forty using text speak. Just don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

Time for another break maybe?? I find fab a lot better than dating sites - here they are just a bit clueless on the whole - on the dating sites they are truly Machiavellian!!!"

I think I know when to take a break, especially as I'm not meeting anyone. Cheers though.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I'm a bit wary of answering this as I know my profile my profile doesn't exactly give very much away and after yesterday's 4 things for the men, I'll work on this

For me, it's being spoken to like I'm a collection of body parts, rather than a person.

I don't accommodate and this is because I have children, someone messaging me saying they could come round when the kids are asleep is big no and to me shows a lack of respect and understanding when I have already explained my stance on this.

Being pushy about my lack of availability. I work full time, have kids and friends/a social life so fab fits in where and when I can/want to make time for it. This may be seen as flaky, but I'm upfront about it and putting pressure on me when I've already said I'm not free puts me off. If I make plans I stick to to them, whether fab related or elsewhere in my life.

The feeling that I am being manipulated in to doing something to suit somebody else's agenda, rather than what suits both.

And finally, I'll respect other peoples choices to use fab and incorporate it into their lives however they see fit and don't appreciate being told how I'm doing it is wrong.

(Oops, that is five)

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Wow, I went on a bit didn't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh I can't remember what I wrote yesterday now...hmm, I'm going to assume the profile is OK and we've started talking - what would most likely make me LOSE interest??

1 Someone trying to arrange sex without any real attempt to get to know me.

3 Failure to engage me somehow - those non-conversations that feel like someone going through the motions just to get to the 'can we fuck' question.

4 Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!

Interesting post!

Coming back in here later...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow, I went on a bit didn't I?

Yes you should have signed off with:

/end of rant.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"Wow, I went on a bit didn't I?

Yes you should have signed off with:

/end of rant.

Oh, it wasn't intended to be ranty

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway.

You must be a really crap shag"

Not once the shops have closed...

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"I normally find that the opportunity to go handbag or shoe shopping makes most women lose interest in pretty much everything else for a while anyway.

You must be a really crap shag

Not once the shops have closed..."

I hate shopping.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

1 - physically beautiful people who are so up their own arses. Beauty is also within in my opinion.

2 - bad teeth.

3 - verifications they have wrote which are too descriptive.

4 - bitching about others to me.

This is not an exclusive things to males it covers women as well.

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over a year ago

1. Overly sexual language (especially in a first message!)

2. Being pushy.

3. Not able to hold a conversation.

4. Being jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1 - physically beautiful people who are so up their own arses. Beauty is also within in my opinion.

2 - bad teeth.

3 - verifications they have wrote which are too descriptive.

4 - bitching about others to me.

This is not an exclusive things to males it covers women as well. "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hmmm. I'm struggling again with how to make it not an essay. I need to work out how to put it succinctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to switch off at:

1 - graphic or vulgar language from the off

2 - pushiness

3 - any hint of me being seen as ok for a quick fuck but that's all (I'm not on here looking for a husband but if you would be embarrassed to be seen in public with me then you're not meeting my vagina)

4 - any hint of a wife or partner, aware or not.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"Hmmm. I'm struggling again with how to make it not an essay. I need to work out how to put it succinctly. "

Yep, I failed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing making me cum as a challenge when I admit it's rare, then guaranteeing me an orgasm

Wow, you know my body (and moreso my mind that well do you?!)"

That arse though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, specifically I hate it when I'm asked why I'm in a wheelchair. It's irrelevant and none of your fucking business.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Gosh I can't remember what I wrote yesterday now...hmm, I'm going to assume the profile is OK and we've started talking - what would most likely make me LOSE interest??

1 Someone trying to arrange sex without any real attempt to get to know me.

3 Failure to engage me somehow - those non-conversations that feel like someone going through the motions just to get to the 'can we fuck' question.

4 Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!

I couldn't have put it any better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My reply was aimed at new messages and other more long term acquaintances.

But if we stick to why you sometimes lose interest, we only have to look at relationships outside fab.

Sometimes there is no explanation of why we have lost any interest,it just gradually happens over time and I don't doubt that could happen on here too.

Just a thought...sometimes you find it hard to give any reason at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm basing my thoughts on we're chatting / might have met as opposed to what puts me off in the 1st instance.

Being overly pushy,especially as you'll know my circumstances.

Assumptions

Taking the piss out of my good nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1.They tell me I need a real man/bull/cuckhold scenario etc etc

2. They tell me I'm gorgeous etc blah blah

3. They use text speak

4. They treat hubby as just an inconvenience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My reply was aimed at new messages and other more long term acquaintances.

But if we stick to why you sometimes lose interest, we only have to look at relationships outside fab.

Sometimes there is no explanation of why we have lost any interest,it just gradually happens over time and I don't doubt that could happen on here too.

Just a thought...sometimes you find it hard to give any reason at all

A sixth sense or what I call a gut feeling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for instashag.

Wanting wank fodder. I've found this a lot recently.

Assuming I'll accommodate.

Keep asking if a social will end in play when i've said it's purely a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) By not having a pic of him wearing a suit

2) Being shorter than 5'10

3) Expecting a booty call

4) Calling me Hun, babe, sweety. Writing mmmmm or hehe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My reply was aimed at new messages and other more long term acquaintances.

But if we stick to why you sometimes lose interest, we only have to look at relationships outside fab.

Sometimes there is no explanation of why we have lost any interest,it just gradually happens over time and I don't doubt that could happen on here too.

Just a thought...sometimes you find it hard to give any reason at all

A sixth sense or what I call a gut feeling?"

Both of those reasons

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"My reply was aimed at new messages and other more long term acquaintances.

But if we stick to why you sometimes lose interest, we only have to look at relationships outside fab.

Sometimes there is no explanation of why we have lost any interest,it just gradually happens over time and I don't doubt that could happen on here too.

Just a thought...sometimes you find it hard to give any reason at all

A sixth sense or what I call a gut feeling?"

Or just the lack of one......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My reply was aimed at new messages and other more long term acquaintances.

But if we stick to why you sometimes lose interest, we only have to look at relationships outside fab.

Sometimes there is no explanation of why we have lost any interest,it just gradually happens over time and I don't doubt that could happen on here too.

Just a thought...sometimes you find it hard to give any reason at all

A sixth sense or what I call a gut feeling?

Or just the lack of one......

Absolutely.

But then my gut feeling has been wrong on so many occasions.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

These are things that make me lose interest (I managed it! Sort of) -

1) How a person posts in the forum . 'ist anything? Not interested. Passive aggressive replies that show their mind is dull. General twuntery. Oh and forum saviours.

2) Ghosting. As described before, to me it's when we've been talking, date suggested by one of us. Silence for a couple of months, veris pop up and then interest again. Not interested.

3) Dull messages. I don't expect or particularly want one every day or other day. I'll still remember you without a 'What you been up to' type of message. Too many and I just think please bog off.

4) Messages all times of day about sex that show little consideration for me. Or any interest to get to know me. If I'm interested, I'll make the effort. If you don't? No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These are things that make me lose interest (I managed it! Sort of) -

1) How a person posts in the forum . 'ist anything? Not interested. Passive aggressive replies that show their mind is dull. General twuntery. Oh and forum saviours.

2) Ghosting. As described before, to me it's when we've been talking, date suggested by one of us. Silence for a couple of months, veris pop up and then interest again. Not interested.

3) Dull messages. I don't expect or particularly want one every day or other day. I'll still remember you without a 'What you been up to' type of message. Too many and I just think please bog off.

4) Messages all times of day about sex that show little consideration for me. Or any interest to get to know me. If I'm interested, I'll make the effort. If you don't? No thanks."

Thank you Meli for the word Ghosting.

That was my original point.

You gave it the embellishment it needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it might be easier to leave Fab.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Thank you Meli for the word Ghosting.

That was my original point.

You gave it the embellishment it needed

Ach, sorry! It's just something that's mildly irksome. Everyone has a life out of here obviously but yeah, that make do/second best feeling is crap.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think it might be easier to leave Fab.

I don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you Meli for the word Ghosting.

That was my original point.

You gave it the embellishment it needed

Ach, sorry! It's just something that's mildly irksome. Everyone has a life out of here obviously but yeah, that make do/second best feeling is crap. "

Dont apologise! You gave what I meant a name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending me constant messages. I don't want to chat all day, every day.

Being overly complimentary. It just makes me cringe a bit.

Being pushy or overly forward. It can sometimes come across as desperate.

I can quite easily be put off people in the forums depending on their posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it might be easier to leave Fab.

I don't get it. "

And if We men don't up our game in here. Neither will we.

I read the men's one as well, I think it's hard to describe what makes me lose interest.

I've lost friends, even a best friend in the past. I can't explain why because we got along. Sometimes things just happen.

fab/swinging is still very new to me, I wonder if they can introduce a 'lost interest' button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who think it's all about them

Men who think pussy licking is the be all and end all of anything!

Men who say 'but we are all the same lying down...'

Men, especially older men, who use text speak in their messages

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over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

You're right in your first sentence - you don't. That's not what I described as ghosting. I don't want nor expect people to message me daily or weeekly that matter with any random crap - I even listed that as something that makes me lose interest. But words are subjective and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy..."

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

"1)Endless dick pics

2) Smarmy patter and wannabe Mr Greys

3)Whinging about a rejection or delay. (when did whining or agression ever turn a NO to a YES)

4) Bragging. "Never fails", "will defo make you scream"

Honey, not all women are the same, if you think this is some colour by numbers game I'm pretty certain you're a shit shag.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to thank you ladies for taking the time to help us be better fab men. Some of us appreciate the effort.

I must admit that I find it a bit sad that your words will be ignored by some, that some guys will carry on doing the things that women have agreed irritate them and then post on the forum that no one replies to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to thank you ladies for taking the time to help us be better fab men. Some of us appreciate the effort.

And thank you too for being a white knight (another pet hate of mine but the rubric was for 4 reasons)

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I immediately lose interest on here if

1) They are rude or have bad manners.

2) They are crude in their messages.

3) They are excessively nosey.

4) They attach photos of their pride and joy to messages.

Having said that, overwhelmingly guys are very lovely when they message me so no complaints here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought ghosting was when you completely shut someone out. Ignoring them.

We learn something everyday I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

I'm pretty sure the original definition mentioned setting a date, whether tentative or not, and then going quiet only to resurface a while later with verifications from others at or around said date.

Oh and apologies for any bombardment of messages. I sometimes get over excited. And yes, I realise this isn't about me... carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

You're speaking to someone, at some point they don't return your message. They go silent for a few months and then, one day, you get a message asking if you want to meet. That's ghosting. For me personally, that moment has gone and I'm not interested in rekindling anything because it's now convenient for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought ghosting was when you completely shut someone out. Ignoring them.

We learn something everyday I suppose.

This is what I think it is too...

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By *antescarletCouple
over a year ago

newbury

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

Time for another break maybe?? I find fab a lot better than dating sites - here they are just a bit clueless on the whole - on the dating sites they are truly Machiavellian!!!"
after reading through this thread it makes me think that its impossible for a man on here.Worse than a dating site lol

And how many of you ladies bother to reply normally not text to speech and so on or actually taking interest in the person contacting you.This is very one sided and as per usual you ladies are the victims.I believe all of us when we came on this website took that in consideration they will be morons and silly ladies but hey we are still on here.We have been here a few months now and out of at least 100 people that we talked to , maybe 5 were decent enough to ask about us and genuinely take interest.And out of all you ladies that are commenting on this thread , none of you had a good thought to say about the so rare gentlemen that take the time and so called genuine interest ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure the original definition mentioned setting a date, whether tentative or not, and then going quiet only to resurface a while later with verifications from others at or around said date.

Oh right. I was miles out then.

But no..I've never done that and never would do that...not to someone I'd previously met..no way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

Time for another break maybe?? I find fab a lot better than dating sites - here they are just a bit clueless on the whole - on the dating sites they are truly Machiavellian!!!after reading through this thread it makes me think that its impossible for a man on here.Worse than a dating site lol

Well the thread is about what makes us lose interest not about what keeps it or who has and how nice they are

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By *iss Suzy SparklesTV/TS
over a year ago

Woking

3. Sending a cock pic that looks like it needs a good wire brush and dettol on it.

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're speaking to someone, at some point they don't return your message. They go silent for a few months and then, one day, you get a message asking if you want to meet. That's ghosting.

Your definition is different to Alleycats.

I don't really see anything wrong with your definition though tbh.

Life happens. People go off radar.

It's normal.

But I'd never arrange to meet someone, disappear and meet someone else.

Nope. And definitely not to someone I'd previously met.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"And out of all you ladies that are commenting on this thread , none of you had a good thought to say about the so rare gentlemen that take the time and so called genuine interest ?

Whoooooosh.

This thread is about things that make you lose interest in a man ergo there will be points about what will make you lose interest. Kind of makes sense?

There's no need to write a disclaimer every time you write a post and say 'disclaimer - thanks to the wonderful men who do take the time to show interest in me and fuck me so well; you know this doesn't apply to you'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

If you look a few days ago, I think there were two threads praising guys. As this is a thread about what makes women lose interest, the replies will be connected to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're speaking to someone, at some point they don't return your message. They go silent for a few months and then, one day, you get a message asking if you want to meet. That's ghosting.

Your definition is different to Alleycats.

I don't really see anything wrong with your definition though tbh.

Life happens. People go off radar.

It's normal.

But I'd never arrange to meet someone, disappear and meet someone else.

Nope. And definitely not to someone I'd previously met."

Life happens, but a lot of the time it's because they've met someone else. If someone doesn't message me back, I don't bombard them with messages, I just assume someone else has taken their fancy, but they shouldn't expect me to meet them when they then get back in touch...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to thank you ladies for taking the time to help us be better fab men. Some of us appreciate the effort.

And thank you too for being a white knight (another pet hate of mine but the rubric was for 4 reasons)

I'm hoping on getting a bit of a tan on Sunday if the forecast is correct.

I've learned a lot. This was a good read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

From my own experience (very limited but been here before under a different name) its when you almost get to the point of meeting up. You're Looking forward to it, dare I say excited. You've invested a lot of time and thought arranging a meet, exchanged lots of messages and then NOTHING. A deafening silence.

You can see they are online, but that message you sent is still unanswered.

A week or so passes and they get a few verifications. Great you think, we weren't exclusive anyway so you get on with your life on fab.

Then all of a sudden a yellow mail box appears and they've messaged you after 3/4 weeks of silence to ask if you still want to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. female forum chasers. I've noticed an increase in this. Men who make it their mission to get in the knickers of as many female forumites as possible. That's ok, nowt wrong with that as such, but they're not for me.

2. Men who have hidden agendas.

3. Sex talk 24/7

4. Men who Get in touch when their other women are busy. And neglect to mention they have other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze...."

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

"
..

Oh thankyou..some sence...im sure all the women on here commenting have there floors.

Kh im 1 of the 5...lol

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

This is about what makes women lose interest and it started with the what makes the guys lose interest thread started yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

That's actually what I was going for

Gotcha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

Here's another one..

Men who get butt hurt over something they clearly didn't understand in the first place..

This thread is in response to one posted yesterday BY A MAN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

That's actually what I was going for

Gotcha!"

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

Here's another one..

Men who get butt hurt over something they clearly didn't understand in the first place..

This thread is in response to one posted yesterday BY A MAN

Aagghhhhhh you beat me to this comment.

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

That's actually what I was going for

Gotcha!

Thanks.

Just been accused of white nighting so thought I'd be a bit of a dickhead so women would like me more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

That's actually what I was going for

Gotcha!

Thanks.

Just been accused of white nighting so thought I'd be a bit of a dickhead so women would like me more

Yeah that failed too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing? "

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there was me thinking "ghosting" was when you made clay vases with Patrick Swayze....

Got that damn song stuck in my head now. Earworm

That's actually what I was going for

Gotcha!

Thanks.

Just been accused of white nighting so thought I'd be a bit of a dickhead so women would like me more

Yeah that failed too

That's a shame because...

Time goes by so slowly and I hunger for your touch....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday. "

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Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics with the cock bright red or purple.

Lying about cock size.

Lying about age.

Wanting meets now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

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Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

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Yessss.

DO IT.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

That one closed. Too big.

Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

. "

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought ghosting was when you completely shut someone out. Ignoring them.

We learn something everyday I suppose.

This is what I think it is too... "

It appears I ghost almost all my friends if it's what is described on here. I'm confused with these urban slang terms introduced on fab.

I think I'll stick to text speak. At least we know wtf we're all in about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read yesterday's thread and this one and it makes me think I'm right just to stick to meeting people at socials.

there's 1 women to at least 100 men so men have to jump through hoops.

Women get hundreds of emails a day so it's rear that emails get read and even rarer guys get a reply.

Guys can spend ages chatting and messaging but never actually meet.

plus you cant relly know if there's an attraction until you meet them in person.

Women complain that men can't write emails but then reply with one word replies themselves or emails written in a way that makes it hard to understand what they mean.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Near Okehampton.

What an interesting topic

Lets see if it changes anything

ok for what it is worth my irritations are

1. Clearly not reading the profile re verifications

2. The Usual cut and pasted message that must go out to everyone.

My name is ...... My age is...... I am often in your area, i am VWE, My KIK name is....you wont be dissapointed

3. Hows yous !!! Grrrrrrgh

4. When we have said a polite no thanks, they want to argue a point..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

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Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

. Genius.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

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Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

I guess when the women's thread finishes, you'll want another one. And then another after that.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

'All you ladies'? I did make a positive comment about guys if you read the end of my post. I don't have an issue with anyone on here and I chat to some lovely people but the thread wasn't about praising the fellas (but I am more than happy to do that ) it was about what would make you lose interest and that is how I have responded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That one closed. Too big.

Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh I can't remember what I wrote yesterday now...hmm, I'm going to assume the profile is OK and we've started talking - what would most likely make me LOSE interest??

1 Someone trying to arrange sex without any real attempt to get to know me.

3 Failure to engage me somehow - those non-conversations that feel like someone going through the motions just to get to the 'can we fuck' question.

4 Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!

"
Am away to put some txt on my profile

or put my ass pic up again

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

" I WANT you to succeed in making me want to meet you!!

That's a really interesting thing to say. It's made me realise I'm beyond that now, and not only have given up all hope they'll make me want them, I'm actually looking for them to fuck up

It was a gent that set the subject up yesterday for men's top four woes - and asked to hear from the ladies today - I can start the mirror image thread if you like!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Gosh I can't remember what I wrote yesterday now...hmm, I'm going to assume the profile is OK and we've started talking - what would most likely make me LOSE interest??

1 Someone trying to arrange sex without any real attempt to get to know me.

3 Failure to engage me somehow - those non-conversations that feel like someone going through the motions just to get to the 'can we fuck' question.

4 Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!

Am away to put some txt on my profile

or put my ass pic up again

It was your arse pic that did it lol!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

When messaging a man on here I'll lose interest the MOMENT he:

Dictates what I am to wear on a meet

Requests I bring along a female friend

Starts asking what I'll do in bed

Talks about the amazing meets he's had recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the initial message or profile already hasn't, it would be the following:-

Too pushy - wanting to meet after a couple of exchanges, clearly desparate

Oral - discovering they really aren't passionate about it

Sense of humour - if I have to keep explaining mine hence they obviously haven't got one

Conversation - incapable of holding one other than that of a sexual nature, or those who exhibit toxic tendencies "

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Btw (text speak for by the way, I used the acronym to keep this short)

Why was it 4 reasons? And not 3. Or just one. Was there a reason, is it a Japanese thing?

Ask the one who started the post yesterday.

That one closed. Too big.

Appropriate for a mans thread dont you think!

No. Appropriate would be if it says it's 175 posts and you realise it's only 50. "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't understand why people are getting huffy about this post. The blokes had two all for themselves yesterday, but as soon as the women start one we're picking on the blokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people are getting huffy about this post. The blokes had two all for themselves yesterday, but as soon as the women start one we're picking on the blokes.

One got pulled yesterday didn't it?

I don't think anyone's being cold or picking on the men, actually.

Everyone who's posted is doing everything the opening post asked.

List 4 things that make you lose interest in men.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

You can see they are online, but that message you sent is still unanswered.

A week or so passes and they get a few verifications. Great you think, we weren't exclusive anyway so you get on with your life on fab.

Then all of a sudden a yellow mail box appears and they've messaged you after 3/4 weeks of silence to ask if you still want to meet up.

Purely out of interest & this is to all ladies, you chat, you've maybe done the social, you both want to meet but YOU can't meet for 3/4 weeks due to real life stuff. They say no probs, have occasional chats to keep in touch but in the intervening time they receive a couple of meet veris.

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

You can see they are online, but that message you sent is still unanswered.

A week or so passes and they get a few verifications. Great you think, we weren't exclusive anyway so you get on with your life on fab.

Then all of a sudden a yellow mail box appears and they've messaged you after 3/4 weeks of silence to ask if you still want to meet up.

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

For sure, if we had reached 'critical mass' (see my reasons to meet thread) we would stay in touch anyway. There are women on here who like to demand a man does not meet anyone while waiting to meet them - but I think they are narcissistic drama queens on the whole lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sign of deception - lie to me about your status, your height, your length or show any kind of game playing bullshit.....whoosh, I'm gone!!"

This reminded me about a time I was at a club with a female friend.

She is tall and had been speaking to a guy who said he was over 6ft. His profile stated that, but he did not have a full length pic so she decided to give him a chance as we were already going to the club.

We were standing in a group when the guy introduces himself to my friend all excited!

But there was a problem...

He was shorter then me!!

My friend just said 'where is the rest of you?' In a tone that was not good... eeek

There was silence for only a few seconds, it felt much longer... then he said 'okay bye'

OMG I felt soo bad for him and before I could get over the shock of what happend! He was gone

She told me after it was because she does not tolerate deception... I still felt bad for him though! That was soo awkward.

I personally don't get why people lie about age, height and any other vital statistics

The only explanation I can think of is many men/women do get away with it... especially age/height as I know people who do it just to get past the online stage and wing it after

how cheeky is that!!

Anyway...

All the threads relating to this topic from yesterday and today have been very informative.

I need to add:

Jealous - That is 2nd point after breaking trust for me in why I could loose interest.

It is not a problem if light jealousy as we all can experience that, but the extreme cases is a no no

@Meli - You did put your post succinctly

I totally get the ghosting point. That is the word I was looking for in my original post in the 'mens' thread.

Thank you to the OP's for creating these threads.

Have a good evening.

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south

""Ghosting" I don't get it.

I only chat to people when I've got something worth chatting about.

I'm not going to message someone every living day and talk shite just to keep that person interested.

If they lose interest because they believe I've "ghosted" them, well, they should contact me with something interesting.

It's a 2 way street.

Who wants to talk to the same person everyday, either I'd get bored or they would.

I've got people on my whatsapp who I havent spoke to for weeks then I might pop up, never once has someone felt like I'd ghosted them.

They know I'm around and they know how I roll.

I'm not a clingy person..that doesn't mean I'm ghosting them either.

You don't understand what ghosting means. It's nothing to do with speaking every day or being clingy...

Damn right I don't.

My interpretation is:

Somebody "disappears" or "goes silent" and then resurfaces at a time that **seems** strange to the recipient.

That could/probably am wrong but that's my interpretation.

You can see they are online, but that message you sent is still unanswered.

A week or so passes and they get a few verifications. Great you think, we weren't exclusive anyway so you get on with your life on fab.

Then all of a sudden a yellow mail box appears and they've messaged you after 3/4 weeks of silence to ask if you still want to meet up.

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

And some dont like certain men meeting women who are near there area either.......or want to meet and have fb/fwb style meets with people who can accomodate but wont accomodate them and not everybody has the money to spend on hotels for regular meets that would suit certain people......on the whole I would say fwbs would gladly accomodate a genuine fb/fwb...so there are many reasons why chatting may stop if they realise sometimes things are very one sided perhapsand I am sure you and others can think of many more

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Purely out of interest & this is to all ladies, you chat, you've maybe done the social, you both want to meet but YOU can't meet for 3/4 weeks due to real life stuff. They say no probs, have occasional chats to keep in touch but in the intervening time they receive a couple of meet veris.

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

Yes, of course I would. I don't really care who they meet in the mean time. Life happens and the last thing I want is exclusivity. I would message them after I was less 'real lifing' but I would accept if they weren't interested. In that interim I would have sent the odd message though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

I think this is the difference. Some seem to drop off the face of the Earth and then get back in touch.

There seems to be some confusion that people who don't like to be ghosted are out for exclusivity and can't handle a few days of non-contact. It isn't the latter at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people are getting huffy about this post. The blokes had two all for themselves yesterday, but as soon as the women start one we're picking on the blokes.

The women were all over blokes post, the OP kept saying wait until tomorrow, you'll get your chance then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you still meet them if they ask? Or as you were the one that was tied up, would you message them when you were free?

I think this is the difference. Some seem to drop off the face of the Earth and then get back in touch.

There seems to be some confusion that people who don't like to be ghosted are out for exclusivity and can't handle a few days of non-contact. It isn't the latter at all. "

Thinking about it I've had this ghosting thing happen to me.

Hecalled himself flakey & laughed it off. The joke ran a bit thin after a year so I deleted his contact details & defriended him.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

1. Being an ugly fucker

2. Being fucking ugly

3. Being ugly when fucking

4. Fucking ugly little being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Being an ugly fucker

2. Being fucking ugly

3. Being ugly when fucking

4. Fucking ugly little being."

Tempted to send a fave pic and ask for marks out of ten.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading profile

Cut and paste messages

Assumptions

And cock pic profile pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Vulgar or graphic language especially in 1st message.

2. Saying you're single when you're not.

3. Text speak in a message.

4. Promises promises! "I will have you coming for hours" I highly doubt this!

Mrs Retro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things that will put me off:

1. Seeing a consistent thread of -ist attitude and beliefs through someone's posts and messages. Inability to take account for their judgemental, sweeping generalisations when challenged, or moderate/clarify if their post could be read differently to their intent -- appreciating that mature communication is not just pushing their intent but taking responsibility for how someone interprets it if it causes hurt, owning that and apologising for it regardless of a dissonance with intent.

2. Assuming that someone challenging them "hates" them, failing to comprehend the ability to vehemently disagree with an opinion and not being afraid to disagree does not mean lacking the ability to see someone beyond one of their opinions.

3. Mansplaining. Uninvited patronising twaddle. Forum saviours telling people how it is on fab and speaking on others behalfs, or putting words in others mouths without query.

4. Arrogance.

I've no doubt that some would feel that I am some of the above in their opinion. And it is their opinion, and therefore valid. Which is why we are incompatible and I delete your emails.

Diversity is to be celebrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly in my case,

1. Single

2. 57

3. Can accomodate

4. Can drive

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

1) an ego.....urgghh

2) displays lack of intelligence

3) arrogance

4) lack of a sense of humour

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Thanks ladies for the genuine replies, and entertaining us with the (shall we say) tongue-in-cheek lists, but you all missed off;

No. ? Living in Cumbria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) Thinking asking for a meet straight off

2) Lack of respect

3) Cum shots

4) Profiles that read "will fill in later"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Things that will put me off:

3. Mansplaining. Uninvited patronising twaddle. Forum saviours telling people how it is on fab and speaking on others behalfs, or putting words in others mouths without query.

4. Arrogance.

I've no doubt that some would feel that I am some of the above in their opinion. And it is their opinion, and therefore valid. Which is why we are incompatible and I delete your emails.

Diversity is to be celebrated.

We are so hot for each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Things that will put me off:

3. Mansplaining. Uninvited patronising twaddle. Forum saviours telling people how it is on fab and speaking on others behalfs, or putting words in others mouths without query.

4. Arrogance.

I've no doubt that some would feel that I am some of the above in their opinion. And it is their opinion, and therefore valid. Which is why we are incompatible and I delete your emails.

Diversity is to be celebrated.

We are so hot for each other "

No means no.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Pushy and not listening to me.

Insufficient interest in my satisfaction - it's mainly or only about their own demands.

Becoming difficult or unpleasant, typically if the meet isn't going to be immediately.

Poor selection of photos and vague physical details, usually when not in great physical shape - can be linked to assumption that a cock pic is enough to get legs open and begging.

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