FabSwingers.com forum: That L bomb

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When your FWB L bombs you.

Every instinct in my body mind and soul wants to block him.

How many times is saying you hate commitment, you won't ever promise an exclusive relationship and you break out in a rash and run from clingy people, even if I like how he makes me feel. Enjoy the affection and company. Crave being used.

If the no commitment thing is the only rule? How many times am I reasonably meant to let all these love you's slip?

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x"

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things. "

Oh god, darling please this is so lonely! Nobody is unlovable. Take a breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When your FWB L bombs you.

Every instinct in my body mind and soul wants to block him.

If the no commitment thing is the only rule? How many times am I reasonably meant to let all these love you's slip? "

I completely get what you're saying. As I'm not looking for commitment, if a fwb starts to become too attached then I would cut ties immediately. It's best for both parties.

Good luck mate

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

"When your FWB L bombs you.

Every instinct in my body mind and soul wants to block him.

If the no commitment thing is the only rule? How many times am I reasonably meant to let all these love you's slip?

I completely get what you're saying. As I'm not looking for commitment, if a fwb starts to become too attached then I would cut ties immediately. It's best for both parties.

Good luck mate"

Right well let's be perspective, you can like someone and it changes nothing. Who says either party becomes Clingy

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"When your FWB L bombs you.

Every instinct in my body mind and soul wants to block him.

If the no commitment thing is the only rule? How many times am I reasonably meant to let all these love you's slip? "

The thing about "no commitment" is nothing is forever. So you might have to call it a day. To keep them hanging on is not fair if deep down they want more. Good Luck!

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"When your FWB L bombs you.

Every instinct in my body mind and soul wants to block him.

If the no commitment thing is the only rule? How many times am I reasonably meant to let all these love you's slip? "

I love it! I'd never get intimate with someone I never had feelings for

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I love all my lovers

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I love all my lovers"

I Don't Want A Lover - Texas

www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4EI8OUEijY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love" doesn't mean "exclusive relationship" or "commitment".

I have strong feelings for my fuckbuddies and my friends and my life partners. I don't promise exclusivity or commitment to any of them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things. "

I know the last part of what you've written isn't true and I doubt the rest of it is either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things.

I know the last part of what you've written isn't true and I doubt the rest of it is either. "

Be honest with yourself OP. Are you deep down pleased he said it? Doesn't matter what the forum thinks. Take a chance on happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things.

Oh god, darling please this is so lonely! Nobody is unlovable. Take a breath"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your friend decides to love you that's his business, not yours. You can't dictate to people how they have to feel, what you can do is tell him the display of his affection makes you uncomfortable and to not expect you to return the affection, then it's in his court what he decides to do, he can walk away or be happy with what you can offer.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Love can be many things - I am very loving and quite primal - emotional intensity certainty makes for the best sexual experience for me regardless of expectations. Sometimes people need to give as much as receive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Having had a think and slept on it.

He can fuck off. I'm never going to reciprocate, it makes me really uncomfortable, I've already let him off with being far to pushy once. I'm not letting some one keep ignoring my wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a think and slept on it.

He can fuck off. I'm never going to reciprocate, it makes me really uncomfortable, I've already let him off with being far to pushy once. I'm not letting some one keep ignoring my wishes. "

Well I hope you break it him a bit more diplomatically and considerately than the above suggests - he obviously likes you so there's no need to be a dick about it when you do break things off..

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things. "

I love you all now give me pics lots of fabs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having had a think and slept on it.

He can fuck off. I'm never going to reciprocate, it makes me really uncomfortable, I've already let him off with being far to pushy once. I'm not letting some one keep ignoring my wishes.

Well I hope you break it him a bit more diplomatically and considerately than the above suggests - he obviously likes you so there's no need to be a dick about it when you do break things off.. "

I was polite.

Then got txt, kik, wazzap messages 'because he didn't know if I'd blocked him, can we meet up and talk about it?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a think and slept on it.

He can fuck off. I'm never going to reciprocate, it makes me really uncomfortable, I've already let him off with being far to pushy once. I'm not letting some one keep ignoring my wishes. "

Maybe you aren't a nice person. But you could change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship, who's it hurting x

Me.

I'm unlovable, tainted, nasty, sneaky, vile, and people only tell you they love you when they want things. "

Well, you're pretty intent on proving yourself right.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I don't need any more love in my life, just sex... and kisses. Someone that I'd been chatting too for ages, told me that they loved me right after we had sex for the 1st time, I couldnt tell her that I loved her too as I didn't. We stopped chatting after that day and never saw each other again. We had both agreed at the start that our relationship would be just for fun. Sad, as I really liked her.

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By *rW88Man
over a year ago

Lancaster

""Love" doesn't mean "exclusive relationship" or "commitment".

I have strong feelings for my fuckbuddies and my friends and my life partners. I don't promise exclusivity or commitment to any of them."

Agreed! I love Mcdonalds but it doesn't stop me going to BK for a whopper when a bigmac wont fill the hole or KFC when I want messy fingers!

. OMG now I'm horny and hungry!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a think and slept on it.

He can fuck off. I'm never going to reciprocate, it makes me really uncomfortable, I've already let him off with being far to pushy once. I'm not letting some one keep ignoring my wishes.

Well I hope you break it him a bit more diplomatically and considerately than the above suggests - he obviously likes you so there's no need to be a dick about it when you do break things off..

I was polite.

Then got txt, kik, wazzap messages 'because he didn't know if I'd blocked him, can we meet up and talk about it?'

I'd normally agree and say be tactful. But if you don't even want to be friends with him I now think it's best to be very blunt. Don't give him any hope. The more of an arse you are, the quicker he can move on. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don't always expect I love you back. Don't say it if you want something back.

Sounds like not much fun feel for other person.

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