FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies who can't accommodate?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

No its generally due to children or women being more vulnerable.

I accommodate but only when my kids aren't here unless I know the person well enough to make that call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No... I cant accom. I single and child free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

Possibly, though it's probably more down to safety and feeling uncomfortable inviting a stranger into their home, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been accused of it but currently mine is due to being at my parents

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"No its generally due to children or women being more vulnerable.

This ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lodger would rather him not hear me fucking lol and visa versa

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By *atteriesnotIncludedMan
over a year ago

Buxton

"No its generally due to children or women being more vulnerable.

I accommodate but only when my kids aren't here unless I know the person well enough to make that call."

Would agree, until you have had a few meets some women esp if they have children would not invite strangers to there house, some who do not have children at home, and provided all goes well on the social meet will then meet at yours or theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't accommodate regardless of the kids, for potential weirdo and safety reasons

Ruby

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Some of us can't, some of us don't and some of us won't for all sorts of reasons, just like men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of us can't, some of us don't and some of us won't for all sorts of reasons, just like men.

This^

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I'm single. Technically I could accommodate as I live alone with my dog. My dog is the reason I don't though, he's very protective. I don't have a problem with guys who can't or won't accommodate, there could be many reasons other than being attached. There are other ways to figure out if there's a wife or partner at home.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

I don't assume that someone who cannot accommodate is married at all. Everyone has their own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share a house, although she is a fellow fabber, it's about consideration for one another. (Although Number One Chap is always very welcome, especially as he brings refreshments).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to host, I used to host my FWB before we parted company, if I met someone I connected with I might host them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids and safety are my reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

I assume it's for the same reason, yes.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. I can accommodate but I won't until I know them well. I found when I had I can on my profile, the assumption was that I would. Changed that and now it doesn't even come up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's slightly different for us as we only do club meets, but we like to keep our home life and fab life completely separate so wouldn't entertain the idea of accommodating and certainly wouldn't expect anyone else to host us in their home either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to accomodate and not because I'm married. I prefer a neutral place, hotels are my preference and I'm happy to share costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never understand people who expect to be invited to someone's home for sex, and assume they are attached if they aren't.

My home is my haven, mine and my children's safe place. Just because I don't want to trail men in and out of it doesn't automatically mean I have a partner!

Yes we all know there are a high percentage of people on this site cheating. But I find it so off putting to see the arrogant chain of thought around Fab where you must conduct your sex life in your home!!

Sorry rant over lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to accommodate as this is the home that I share with my children. Whether they are at home or not I would never feel comfortable accommodating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I have two young children and we live with my mum due to her poor health.

I'm single as a pringle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I have two young children and we live with my mum due to her poor health.

I'm single as a pringle."

But once you pop....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever assumed that anyone is married because they don't accommodate. I'm actually not concerned anyway as I only meet in hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't choose to accommodate even if my situation was different. My house is my family home, wouldn't feel right.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"No. I can accommodate but I won't until I know them well. I found when I had I can on my profile, the assumption was that I would. Changed that and now it doesn't even come up."

I agree and found this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

I can accommodate..but they better like dogs.

I have an Alsatian.

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley

Personally, I don't read too much into it as there are many reasons why someone may not want to, or be able to accommodate. For women I readily accept that one of the predominant reasons is that if they are alone it is a potentially very vulnerable situation you could be exposing yourself to. But it is by no means the only reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to. Simple as.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I do accommodate sometimes, but I've known them for years. I have no intention of letting any person I don't know find out where I live.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

I would think that women are generally vulnerable to pushy men, stalkers, etc. In any case, that is my reason

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I dont assume anyone is cheating just because they dont/can't accom.Some will be yes,but there will be many more giveaways than that.

We dont accom ,but use clubs or hotels to meet.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No its generally due to children or women being more vulnerable.

I accommodate but only when my kids aren't here unless I know the person well enough to make that call."

same

Young children at home. No secret partner. only accom on rare occasion ex remembers he has children. Also my folk live in same village, kinda don't want them knowing my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a lodger would rather him not hear me fucking lol and visa versa"

This among other things too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married"

By whom?

Not accommodating is just one possible clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

Awesome on so many new and deeply sarcastic levels of awesome. High fives in your general direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Statistically there are more nutter men out there than women so if I was a single woman no way I'd accom unless it was someone I'd met several times and known a long time

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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My husband and his lover don't really like me to interrupt their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"

Firstly I don't accommodate because I don't want to, and secondly I don't accommodate because I don't have to..

Plus it's nobodies business why not but it's definitely not because I'm married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!

I would think that women are generally vulnerable to pushy men, stalkers, etc. In any case, that is my reason"

It some cases the men are too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!

Possibly, though it's probably more down to safety and feeling uncomfortable inviting a stranger into their home, etc."

Yes, I would never invite a stranger into my home!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

You're a student. Surely you're expected to have women back to your room? Or was it different when I was a student in a shared house?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I won't accommodate as I don't want people knowing where I live.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!

Firstly I don't accommodate because I don't want to, and secondly I don't accommodate because I don't have to..

Plus it's nobodies business why not but it's definitely not because I'm married "

Hear hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Statistically there are more nutter men out there than women "

You sure about that? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

Oh this is ace!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It's another case of fab double standards really. A guy couldn't possibly be a single parent or value his safety/privacy could he?! Nope, automatically cheating scum.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I wonder how many of those who like to keep their home private and untainted by casual sex expect their meets to accommodate them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Statistically there are more nutter men out there than women

You sure about that? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy couldn't accommodate, I'd presume he had housemates, but then I do live in London and rarely do people live alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many of those who like to keep their home private and untainted by casual sex expect their meets to accommodate them? "

I don't ..

I'd rather meet at a hotel and split the cost..

That way it's more fun

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

Mine used to take a look at some of them and turn her nose up and flounce off in disgust - she could have reported me to someone, if she'd known the phone PIN.

As for accom, I have to be comfortable and trust them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I choose not to accommodate as this is the home that I share with my children. Whether they are at home or not I would never feel comfortable accommodating. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want someone on fab to come to my house. And I wouldn't want to go to theirs. Mainly for safety issues, but also because I think fab and reality should be kept separately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

You're a student. Surely you're expected to have women back to your room? Or was it different when I was a student in a shared house?

no that's true it is kind of expected haha however most of the women I've met off here have been a bit older so it would look weirder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want someone on fab to come to my house. And I wouldn't want to go to theirs. Mainly for safety issues, but also because I think fab and reality should be kept separately."

Fab isn't your reality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

You're a student. Surely you're expected to have women back to your room? Or was it different when I was a student in a shared house?

no that's true it is kind of expected haha however most of the women I've met off here have been a bit older so it would look weirder "

Yeah I only meet guys in their mid 20s and sometimes they live with parents or other lads...so I always bring them back to my lair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is generally taken for granted that men who can't or won't accommodate are married, is it true of the ladies as well? interested on your thoughts!!!"
there no guarantee that man who can't accommodate will get a meet where there more of a guarantee for women to get meets who can't accommodate

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I choose not to accomodate and not because I'm married. I prefer a neutral place, hotels are my preference and I'm happy to share costs.

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By *hiterabbit6Couple
over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

"I choose not to accomodate and not because I'm married. I prefer a neutral place, hotels are my preference and I'm happy to share costs.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must live in a tip and not be house proud fs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts....I can accommodate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

You're a student. Surely you're expected to have women back to your room? Or was it different when I was a student in a shared house?

no that's true it is kind of expected haha however most of the women I've met off here have been a bit older so it would look weirder

Yeah I only meet guys in their mid 20s and sometimes they live with parents or other lads...so I always bring them back to my lair

Are the poor wee things ever allowed to leave?

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't have different men coming in and out of my cat's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, they might just not want to.

I can't really accomm because I share a 6 bedroom flat

You're a student. Surely you're expected to have women back to your room? Or was it different when I was a student in a shared house?

no that's true it is kind of expected haha however most of the women I've met off here have been a bit older so it would look weirder

Yeah I only meet guys in their mid 20s and sometimes they live with parents or other lads...so I always bring them back to my lair

Are the poor wee things ever allowed to leave?

;-)"

Only when we run out of food

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I can accommodate and have accommodated. My place is small, tiny (not even compact and bijou) and so I choose not to unless you're very very very very special.

Also, I'm running out of places to hide my meet should my husband arrive home unexpectedly.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many of those who like to keep their home private and untainted by casual sex expect their meets to accommodate them? "

I don't expect anything from anyone. I prefer to pay for a hotel, mutual ground.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I wonder how many of those who like to keep their home private and untainted by casual sex expect their meets to accommodate them? "

I meet in clubs; I pay for my entrance; and expect them to pay for theirs without asking me to 'couple-up' with them so that they in get in for cheaper

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