FabSwingers.com forum: A little windge

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "
A lot are just posturing when they say that not always true. You will get told to refer to FAQ'S no reply means not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would an inbox full of polite 'no's really make you feel better?

And no need for anyone to be swamped with messages - use the site tools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swamped..

Ppl who are generally have no filters on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "

Just get use to it. It happens a lot. Just makes me laugh when they say their bored, or their arranged date did not turn up. Well they should have replied to the honest decent blokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i had filters on and an age range of about 4 yrs and still got 100s. depends on your area and what people are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Just get use to it. It happens a lot. Just makes me laugh when they say their bored, or their arranged date did not turn up. Well they should have replied to the honest decent blokes.

Those honest decent blokes might be fugly though.. so doesnt matter how honest or decent they believe themselves to be it wont attract us to meet them

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "

people make these statuses as a way to let everyone know they cannot reply to all of them and so they don't message again being shitty/abusive/whinging.

yes it's shit not knowing where you are with someone but it happens a lot on here. this site is very NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An age old whinge, and a largely pointless one.

People have the right to choose if they answer or not, much the same as you have the right to choose to send a message or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Just get use to it. It happens a lot. Just makes me laugh when they say their bored, or their arranged date did not turn up. Well they should have replied to the honest decent blokes.

So instead of getting stood up by someone we actually fancy we should meet ones we don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a bit rude to message me without reading my profile first of all, but it happens a lot.

I have filters set including the one about not having any public pics but I still get messages from silhouette avatars with no pics for me to see.

There's no bloody way I'm replying to them.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Those statuses tend to be from oddball profiles in local updates. I'd ignore them.

They are only matched in number by 'why don't women reply' forum threads

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

This old chestnut. Zzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't sweat the small stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it a bit rude to message me without reading my profile first of all, but it happens a lot.

I have filters set including the one about not having any public pics but I still get messages from silhouette avatars with no pics for me to see.

There's no bloody way I'm replying to them."

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

It's something that has been mentioned lots over the years OP, but simply put, most women get more mail than the one direction fan club and they simply do not have time to reply or even read most.

If they do manage and your message isn't an eye opener, then you're unlikely to get a reply. Though some females do reply, with a no thanks. Just gotta suck it up and move on or you'll end up a cynical grumpy bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Just get use to it. It happens a lot. Just makes me laugh when they say their bored, or their arranged date did not turn up. Well they should have replied to the honest decent blokes.

Those honest decent blokes might be fugly though.. so doesnt matter how honest or decent they believe themselves to be it wont attract us to meet them"

I think this was about getting a reply not getting a meet. Who wants to met someone who cannot read properly. No matter how good they look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason. "

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This old chestnut. Zzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it a bit rude to message me without reading my profile first of all, but it happens a lot.

I have filters set including the one about not having any public pics but I still get messages from silhouette avatars with no pics for me to see.

There's no bloody way I'm replying to them."

I never message anyone that I've read there profile it would be more of a waste of my time

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By *ark_the_sexyMan
over a year ago

Cawood, between Selby and York

I wonder about this too

Doesn't take a min to do a polite reply and must be annoying seeing unread messages all time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

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Would be some false hope in a rejection message though just seeing a message appear. I don't see the benefit of it really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's something that has been mentioned lots over the years OP, but simply put, most women get more mail than the one direction fan club and they simply do not have time to reply or even read most.

Yeah maybe ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

You might be able to but many behave differently.

Often if i say no thanks to a guy they then reply saying why not and various other messeges and many eventually get rude and abusive saying they wouldnt meet a fat cow like me anyway so often its far easier to just not reply !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"An age old whinge, and a largely pointless one.

People have the right to choose if they answer or not, much the same as you have the right to choose to send a message or not."

It's got a reaction though ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't the word winge more fun spelt windge. I thought so anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're entitled to whinge as much as I'm entitled to decide which messages to respond to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

You might be able to but many behave differently.

I've no need to be rude I tend to just block then I don't accidentally contact them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder about this too

Doesn't take a min to do a polite reply and must be annoying seeing unread messages all time"

You can come n reply to the 364 unreads I have at the mo then

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"It's something that has been mentioned lots over the years OP, but simply put, most women get more mail than the one direction fan club and they simply do not have time to reply or even read most.

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No that is a myth in most cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "

First of all what is the maximum number of messages you would be prepared to reply to on a daily basis. Secondly, even if it's only 1 or 2 messages per daily, would you be prepared to spend every single evening writing a couple of rejection letters'?

Btw we do reply to the well thought out messages, but it gets bloody boring when you've spend 3 years with this daily admin chore, which admitted only takes a few minutes, but it's still tedious.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Btw we do reply to the well thought out messages, but it gets bloody boring when you've spend 3 years with this daily admin chore, which admitted only takes a few minutes, but it's still tedious.

Mrs"

Sorry it was just a little windge, just fed up with wasting my time composing messages to people I think I may be compatible with after reading there profile and not a word back.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now A lot are just posturing when they say that not always true. You will get told to refer to FAQ'S no reply means not interested."

That is not true and should be removed from FAQS

Although it IS true for some it is not a universal fact and based upon this the concept is bad advice and unhelpful

This week alone I have reasoned that 3 ladies who did not reply had not done so NOT because I was rejected but because they had missed my message this was proven by 4 messages from me later being welcomed and replied to , conversation entered and meets arranged two fulfilled

The response from all was similar , hi sorry did not see your message , had mass delete due to too many messages

My advice to all women is if you have zero interest in a message sent DON'T waste time replying just block then everyone KNOWS where they stand

And yes I know YOU are not interested when YOU don't reply but we have no way of knowing if we are rejected or just lost in the sea of blurb

And why don't you want to block ? Block away , what do you mean you don't want to ? Why not , you have zero interest in ever communicating so why not block ? all you do is perpetuate your pointless (to the rejected) profile in their searches

Blocking is not mean or does your ego need a thousand men you would not spit on perving on your profile and fabing pics

My advice to fab is

Remove the FAQ suggestion regarding men taking no reply to mean not interested , although true for some it is not true for all

Replace it with a FAQ for women telling them to block any profile they have no interest in which is FAR more effective and practical advice

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"This old chestnut. Zzzzzzzzz

hay behave you sexy little minx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now A lot are just posturing when they say that not always true. You will get told to refer to FAQ'S no reply means not interested.

That is not true and should be removed from FAQS

Although it IS true for some it is not a universal fact and based upon this the concept is bad advice and unhelpful

The response from all was similar , hi sorry did not see your message , had mass delete due to too many messages

My advice to all women is if you have zero interest in a message sent DON'T waste time replying just block then everyone KNOWS where they stand

And yes I know YOU are not interested when YOU don't reply but we have no way of knowing if we are rejected or just lost in the sea of blurb

Blocking is not mean or does your ego need a thousand men you would not spit on perving on your profile and fabing pics

My advice to fab is

Remove the FAQ suggestion regarding men taking no reply to mean not interested , although true for some it is not true for all

Replace it with a FAQ for women telling them to block any profile they have no interest in which is FAR more effective and practical advice

I'd be less offended being blocked ha ha

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Too long to reply+quote but this 'block' idea above sounds sensible. If a lady gets dozens of messages / day , she might only want to meet somebody new once a month / every two months or whatever. In the meantime she might just delete most mails.

It does throw up the need for a better fab mail sytem too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be the change you want to see - stop messaging them and encourage all other blokes to stop too

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Btw we do reply to the well thought out messages, but it gets bloody boring when you've spend 3 years with this daily admin chore, which admitted only takes a few minutes, but it's still tedious.

Mrs"

i agree and this is why being a man on here is so much better in my opinion than being ether a couple or a single fern .

i cant moan about the quality of opening messages i receive because on the whole there all of a high quality which is not the case if your a couple or a single fern on here .

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now A lot are just posturing when they say that not always true. You will get told to refer to FAQ'S no reply means not interested.

That is not true and should be removed from FAQS

Although it IS true for some it is not a universal fact and based upon this the concept is bad advice and unhelpful

The response from all was similar , hi sorry did not see your message , had mass delete due to too many messages

My advice to all women is if you have zero interest in a message sent DON'T waste time replying just block then everyone KNOWS where they stand

And yes I know YOU are not interested when YOU don't reply but we have no way of knowing if we are rejected or just lost in the sea of blurb

Blocking is not mean or does your ego need a thousand men you would not spit on perving on your profile and fabing pics

My advice to fab is

Remove the FAQ suggestion regarding men taking no reply to mean not interested , although true for some it is not true for all

Replace it with a FAQ for women telling them to block any profile they have no interest in which is FAR more effective and practical advice

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You are a persistent motherfucker

that could be an excuse though. Women can be more selective online with more choice. Other plans or potential meets fell through so they become less fussy. I have messaged women who haven't replied then seen them in a club and played.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason. "

Plus a polite no thanks means that when, like me, you turn your filters back on, they can continue to message since you already responded. It might be months later and they may not remember the message, just see that so and so messaged you back so it gets their hopes up all over again. The site has tools and I use them but there are inbuilt flaws in their application.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never block someone just for messaging. We might change my mind at a later date. We play with a guy, who in my memory it took him a second message for us to agree to consider meeting him. He told us he's messaged about 4 times and the first 3 we responded to say we weren't looking. Can't remember. Glad we didn't block him though and glad he persevered.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now

Just get use to it. It happens a lot. Just makes me laugh when they say their bored, or their arranged date did not turn up. Well they should have replied to the honest decent blokes.

Is there a filter to show me who the honest decent blokes are?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"We would never block someone just for messaging. We might change my mind at a later date. We play with a guy, who in my memory it took him a second message for us to agree to consider meeting him. He told us he's messaged about 4 times and the first 3 we responded to say we weren't looking. Can't remember. Glad we didn't block him though and glad he persevered.

Mrs"

Why not block though? There is no reason but ego?

You have zero interest in ever interacting with this man ? So block else daily you tease him by being in his searches or just clutter them up

Ego is the only answer as you want the hapless to view your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason. "

That's very true, I started just saying thanks for message etc but then get cross examined. And end up ignoring them or blocking. You can't win either way.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

For fuck sake read the fucking op message. Its about replying not fucking meeting. Got it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i stop sending mail out to females and couples because 97% of them get ignored since joining so i do not care anymore...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Why not block though? There is no reason but ego?

You have zero interest in ever interacting with this man ? So block else daily you tease him by being in his searches or just clutter them up

Ego is the only answer as you want the hapless to view your profile

You what?!? He's one of our most regular and valued playmates!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often a polite no thanks leads to being asked why not, or being abused, or ongoing and often unwanted messages so many won't reply for that reason.

I'm a grown up and can accept a polite no

You might be able to but many behave differently.

I've no need to be rude I tend to just block then I don't accidentally contact them again "

You may not be rude but many guys are hence some of us dont always reply when we arent interested.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Mrs

Why not block though? There is no reason but ego?

You have zero interest in ever interacting with this man ? So block else daily you tease him by being in his searches or just clutter them up

Ego is the only answer as you want the hapless to view your profile

You what?!? He's one of our most regular and valued playmates!!"

May I apologise xx I misread you xxxx

I did not realise on first reading you were agreeing that no reply does not mean don't message again she is not interested

Thus my comment regarding ego was certainly not appropriate for you xx it was meant for those who although NEVER interested and NEVER want another message don't see the benefit of blocking xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to construct a beautiful message like 'fancy a fucking big tits?' then attach 10 - 20 pictures of my penis....that's what people love, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to construct a beautiful message like 'fancy a fucking big tits?' then attach 10 - 20 pictures of my penis....that's what people love, right?

I wondered why I was not getting any replies ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't the word winge more fun spelt windge. I thought so anyway."

It's howlarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "

Thursday is rant day!! So you have a few hours to use productively and come up with something original

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Why not block though? There is no reason but ego?

You have zero interest in ever interacting with this man ? So block else daily you tease him by being in his searches or just clutter them up

Ego is the only answer as you want the hapless to view your profile

You what?!? He's one of our most regular and valued playmates!!

May I apologise xx I misread you xxxx

I did not realise on first reading you were agreeing that no reply does not mean don't message again she is not interested

Thus my comment regarding ego was certainly not appropriate for you xx it was meant for those who although NEVER interested and NEVER want another message don't see the benefit of blocking xx

Everybody automatically gets a message along the lines of 'we don't meet anyone new', which is true and is consistent with our profile. There could be hundreds that we've turned away but shouldn't have done. So our rejection message could mean 'not interested and never will be'. Or it could mean 'we've no idea if we are intetested but we don't have time to find out.' With regards to blocking, though, if someone enjoys looking at our profile, they are very welcome, and we won't prevent them from doing that if they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will send messages. People will receive them. What can you do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Isn't the word winge more fun spelt windge. I thought so anyway.

It's howlarious

You women notice everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't the word winge more fun spelt windge. I thought so anyway.

It's howlarious

You women notice everything

fuck! Is Jim a woman?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now "

I wouldn't reply to 100's every day tbf if I was a woman on here.

Therefore I don't take it personally when it happens to me.

It happens to everyone mate.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Thing is if you reply politely and they do accept it in good grace, weeks, Months and sometimes even years down the line they message again because they don't get the lovely warming telling them you've already messaged that person and not had a reply.

I will reply to people that politely read my profile before messaging me. I currently have 64 unread messages that I have no intention of even opening because I can tell in the first few previewed lines theyve not read my profile, they want to ignore what I've taken the time to write I've no intention of reading what they've taken the time to write in a message

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"I see statuses all the time complaining about the amount of messages your getting and you don't have time to reply..... but us blokes spend time thinking and writing them.

I just find it a bit rude not to reply to a message even if it's just a polite no.

Rant over for now A lot are just posturing when they say that not always true. You will get told to refer to FAQ'S no reply means not interested.

That is not true and should be removed from FAQS

Although it IS true for some it is not a universal fact and based upon this the concept is bad advice and unhelpful

The response from all was similar , hi sorry did not see your message , had mass delete due to too many messages

My advice to all women is if you have zero interest in a message sent DON'T waste time replying just block then everyone KNOWS where they stand

And yes I know YOU are not interested when YOU don't reply but we have no way of knowing if we are rejected or just lost in the sea of blurb

Blocking is not mean or does your ego need a thousand men you would not spit on perving on your profile and fabing pics

My advice to fab is

Remove the FAQ suggestion regarding men taking no reply to mean not interested , although true for some it is not true for all

Replace it with a FAQ for women telling them to block any profile they have no interest in which is FAR more effective and practical advice

Best response I've seen to this issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Isn't the word winge more fun spelt windge. I thought so anyway.

It's howlarious

You women notice everything

fuck! Is Jim a woman?! "

No but you are though????

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