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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

((hugs))

Well done, expressing it, even into the ether, can help.

There's some excellent advice on previous threads in the forum if you use the forum search facility -- please have a read through, great tips and camaraderie.

I've no doubt this thread will fill up similarly as the forum bunch is very caring.

I'm going to refund my advice from a thread as it best sums up my offer of ideas. Hang on and I'll retrieve it.

But you're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel as I have MDD but refuse medication for it! Do talk to your doctor as its possible therapy may help you, or even just knowing their is someone to help.

I know meds could help me but im on enough for my messed up hip and leg (funnily enough from playing rugby) that im loathe to take more.

If you want to chat im can relate to a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*re-find (no refund sorry!!)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening."

Sounds like you're teetering on the brink there - good time to get help! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go:

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your not the first person to vent on here and won't be the last, it's all good

you ain't alone, a lot of folk go trough periods of depression. a lot!

i'm not so good with stuff like this so won't waffle on but you'll get some good advice on here i'm sure!

good luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone.

I've been struggling with some long physical injuries and been reading recently how they can sometimes be a cause. I'm hopeful that I'll be straightened out soon. Couldn't wish this on anyone!

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Hang in there fella. Ive struggled for years. I think everyone finds there own ways of dealing with it. Youll get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone.

I've been struggling with some long physical injuries and been reading recently how they can sometimes be a cause. I'm hopeful that I'll be straightened out soon. Couldn't wish this on anyone!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone.

I've been struggling with some long physical injuries and been reading recently how they can sometimes be a cause. I'm hopeful that I'll be straightened out soon. Couldn't wish this on anyone!"

Keep on rockin' chief. Every now and then I get little glimpses of what depression is like for a day or so...so far it's kept away and I've rallied the nextcouple of days.. But for dues to anyone having to handle it proper stay groovy, matey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first step is admitting there's a problem, it took me over 2 years for that.

Get to your GP, find out the beat action to take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening."

Have a look at Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, there are websites with forums that are also helpful. I had gone down the route of medication from my G.P. in the past and that did help personally.

Seek help and advice is the best option..

P.m.me if you need someone to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've struggled with this in the past, 2 years ago. You've done the right thing by opening up and talking about it. I could write all day about what to do etc but you know where I am if you want to chat, drop me a pm. Will try and help if I can mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - firstly the fact you've openly expressed how you feel is massive. With any problem, no matter how small, actually saying "I'm struggling" is immensely brave and such a hard thing to do.

Although I've not struggled with the illness I do know that when you ask for help there are many out there who will help you. Nothing is easy but you've crossed a massive barrier. In a handful of hours people have reached out and they will continue to.

You've started the road to recovery, stay brave, keep talking and keep going.

All the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening."

Good luck on your road to recovery and remember your never alone.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening."

First of all, you have opened up on here so I will commend you. This is the first step to admitting to yourself you are struggling. 4 years ago I was going through a very similar process and it was a circle that I could not get out off

I would echo what others and said and reach out to doctor, and also seek counciling it helped me. Also encouraged me to open up about issues so that I am not so insular. There are a number of good resources around that could help Mind.

I still have my darker days (kinda in that place at the moment) ,but I find writing a list helps what I can influence and what I can't. The can't list goes in the bin then I focus on the can and get on with that

It is ok to be struggling and it's no sign of weakness. feel free to get in contact to talk buddy to buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Samaritans have a helpline you can call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis. "

They also have email and lots of online services you can use. They may even have a forum.

I know it can be hard to motivate yourself if you feel low, but setting small achievable tasks can help. Walking or exercise will get the endorphins going which can be of great help.

If you have a good friend you can talk to, please do, you'll be surprised how much talking therapy can help.

Some Doctors surgeries offer 6 weeks of counselling and your employer might have an assistance programme that might be of help too.

Keep talking on here or anyone you feel comfortable to. Talking it out is really important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't really got any advice since I've never suffered or been In close contact with someone who's suffered.

I hope it stays that way too, a broken leg you know when it's going to heal, depression you don't get that luxury.

Like anything emotional don't bottle it up, talking can be a great thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of good advice posted, the hard part is choosing to take advice sometimes

Have walked a mile in your shoes op,and i know as kind as people are its getting yourself to accept someone else suggestions that is hard

There are lots of people who are willing to support and encourage you if you let them, take advantage of that and hopefully things won't seem as bad

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only advice is to talk, talk and talk some more. Make sure your support network, be it family, friends, or both, know that you're suffering and don't try and handle it on your own!

Also, depression happens to many of us, it's completely normal and most likely a reactive depression due to your injury. Sending loads of well wishes! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have done something big OP, putting this out there and reaching out.

I work in mental health and it's close to my heart.

What hit home for me was the sheer volume of people this touches, 1 in 4 people at any one time. The amount of support that is available is incredible

First step, visit your GP. It could be the best thing you ever did.

I think it's hard to find someone who doesn't know someone close who's been touched by depression. Many, many people win this, and you'll be one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you op being confident enough to put it out there, i understand where you are coming from and as was said previously your best course of action is talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe in it, it's a first world problem, look at all the people who should be the ones saying they are depressed and don't. We all have a shitty day or two but you have to keep a positive mind frame and positive things will happen. Man up and chin up OP everything will be fine.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Well done OP for speaking about this.

The first part is to admit that a problem exists.

Keep speaking out and seek help.

It wasn't nice seeing an ex go through this. Having to check his wrists to see if he had self harmed. But now he is coping with medication and counselling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't believe in it, it's a first world problem, look at all the people who should be the ones saying they are depressed and don't. We all have a shitty day or two but you have to keep a positive mind frame and positive things will happen. Man up and chin up OP everything will be fine."

Do you not think that maybe these people who you say should be depressed arent worried about something else first and so are fighting the depression as well as other things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wanna say how brave i think you are by putting your feelings down and letting people in . You are stronger than you think you are and have my full respect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't believe in it, it's a first world problem, look at all the people who should be the ones saying they are depressed and don't. We all have a shitty day or two but you have to keep a positive mind frame and positive things will happen. Man up and chin up OP everything will be fine.

Do you not think that maybe these people who you say should be depressed arent worried about something else first and so are fighting the depression as well as other things?"

I once cried because I had no shoes until I saw someone with no feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up is the last thing you wanna hear if ur feeling down . That and 'Shake ya sen' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chin up is the last thing you wanna hear if ur feeling down . That and 'Shake ya sen' lol"

That and oh its not a real thing everyone gets upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op please google Mindfulness,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't believe in it, it's a first world problem, look at all the people who should be the ones saying they are depressed and don't. We all have a shitty day or two but you have to keep a positive mind frame and positive things will happen. Man up and chin up OP everything will be fine."

OP, this can be a typical reply to someone with depression.

Ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't believe in it, it's a first world problem, look at all the people who should be the ones saying they are depressed and don't. We all have a shitty day or two but you have to keep a positive mind frame and positive things will happen. Man up and chin up OP everything will be fine."

Man up?

It's that kind of shitty comment that drives people over the top

I had that for years, knowing there was something wrong inside and having people say, oh don't be so soft,it's all in your head,behave like a man and think positive

Well, there was something wrong inside my head as it turns out, a pituitary tumour, so forgive me, but your comments about man up are just offensive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are meant to be fun, if you find yourself fuming, offended or writing long angry messages you're probably best taking a break from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that. "

*thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums are meant to be fun, if you find yourself fuming, offended or writing long angry messages you're probably best taking a break from it."

The op reached out for support, not to be told to man up, that deserves a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums are meant to be fun, if you find yourself fuming, offended or writing long angry messages you're probably best taking a break from it."

I'd say that if you find yourself writing replies trivialising someone's very real, genuine issue, then you maybe need to re-evaluate a few things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, its just my opinion is all the OP will have a choice to read from and follow the advice best suited to them. I personally don't believe in it, I've helped others turn their lives around by not beliving in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey, its just my opinion is all the OP will have a choice to read from and follow the advice best suited to them. I personally don't believe in it, I've helped others turn their lives around by not beliving in it."

I don't believe you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums are meant to be fun, if you find yourself fuming, offended or writing long angry messages you're probably best taking a break from it."

My friend was close to suicide last year. Lucky we could get her the help she needed before it went that far. Asking them to snap out of it or ignoring a REAL problem could potentially have been devastating. No one asks to feel like that. I'm not sure what FUN you find in this topic, but try not to trivialise it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey, its just my opinion is all the OP will have a choice to read from and follow the advice best suited to them. I personally don't believe in it, I've helped others turn their lives around by not beliving in it.

I don't believe you. "

Perhaps your taking credit for the work other people where also doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey, its just my opinion is all the OP will have a choice to read from and follow the advice best suited to them. I personally don't believe in it, I've helped others turn their lives around by not beliving in it."

If you'd have helped me when i was ill,id be dead years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I no ezakley how you fill op.

All I can say is try and keep positive (easyarr sed I no) try to fockos on the things you do have and not the big black hole that's sukking the happy thorts out of anything happy for the fuechar.

Try and Find that 1 thing to keep going to......

That thing that maks you say at lest I got my --------------.

Best of luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicidal the OP hasn't, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred. "

m1cks I said clearly you don't know where he's at -- not saying the word 'suicidal' in his OP doesn't mean he might not be (also doesn't mean he is I warrant, which is clear in my comment) -- to not think about the potential impact of your comment is what's being trivial, IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicide, the OP hasn't used it, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicide, the OP hasn't used it, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred.

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See my response to your first posting of this point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicide, the OP hasn't used it, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred.

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Why? It was the depression that led her to feel that way. You can't pick and choose what parts you want to ignore. Saying you don't think it's a thing is quite frankly ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP is just having a bad few days, it happens to everyone my advise would be to firstly go see a Dr and then maybe take some time out and do stuff you enjoy doing find your smile again. I don't think sympathy is what you need at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP

Even now depression is massively overlooked and misunderstood.

Be brave ,be strong ,never give up.

And always remember you ARE worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my point m1cks in the main is actually if this had been a general discussion around mental health then maybe there's a place for your comment. You're entitled to your opinion, however much I fundamentally disagree with you (and wonder how you can disagree with qualified clinicians?) but there we go. Given it was someone "reaching out" and not feeling in a good state however, you merely trivialising his experience without the possible further knowledge that he was/is ok wasn't really the most compassionate thing to do. Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have done the hardest part- admitted that you are struggling.

If you can- go see your gp and discuss options?

Probably medication- it's a chemical imbalance in the brain, afterall, or talking therapy, or a combination of both.

I speak from experience here when I say I am proud of you for speaking up.

Now you need to try and act to help yourself.

It's not easy, but necessary.

Try to be kind to yourself.

There is a mental health charity called MIND that I found really helpful, look them up for a local number.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicide, the OP hasn't used it, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred.

Why? It was the depression that led her to feel that way. You can't pick and choose what parts you want to ignore. Saying you don't think it's a thing is quite frankly ridiculous"

No disrespect to your friend bud, but she is not him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP is just having a bad few days, it happens to everyone my advise would be to firstly go see a Dr and then maybe take some time out and do stuff you enjoy doing find your smile again. I don't think sympathy is what you need at all."

Saying *that* is better than saying his feelings don't exist (his feelings which at the time he expressed as depression, rightly or wrongly) and saying it's a first world problem -- as what you've done is expressed here that he should seek qualified advice. In your first post you didn't say that. You negated his experience with no mention of seeking advice from someone better qualified than you to give it. Irresponsible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think folk should stop mentioning the word suicide, the OP hasn't used it, that's the only thing 'trivalising' this thred.

Why? It was the depression that led her to feel that way. You can't pick and choose what parts you want to ignore. Saying you don't think it's a thing is quite frankly ridiculous

No disrespect to your friend bud, but she is not him."

Maybe don't say crap like you "don't believe in it" then. Because unfortunately you're wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP is just having a bad few days, it happens to everyone my advise would be to firstly go see a Dr and then maybe take some time out and do stuff you enjoy doing find your smile again. I don't think sympathy is what you need at all."

Few bad days?

That's probably your most arrogant suggestion yet,read his op properly. And if can't see the underlying message then stop posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point m1cks in the main is actually if this had been a general discussion around mental health then maybe there's a place for your comment. You're entitled to your opinion, however much I fundamentally disagree with you (and wonder how you can disagree with qualified clinicians?) but there we go. Given it was someone "reaching out" and not feeling in a good state however, you merely trivialising his experience without the possible further knowledge that he was/is ok wasn't really the most compassionate thing to do. Does that make sense?

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Aye it does make sense however on the other hand in my humble experience depression doesn't even exist in some situations where it should and does in situations it shouldn't, in situations that it does; not everyone deals with it the same way. Comprende?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point m1cks in the main is actually if this had been a general discussion around mental health then maybe there's a place for your comment. You're entitled to your opinion, however much I fundamentally disagree with you (and wonder how you can disagree with qualified clinicians?) but there we go. Given it was someone "reaching out" and not feeling in a good state however, you merely trivialising his experience without the possible further knowledge that he was/is ok wasn't really the most compassionate thing to do. Does that make sense?

Aye it does make sense however on the other hand in my humble experience depression doesn't even exist in some situations where it should and does in situations it shouldn't, in situations that it does; not everyone deals with it the same way. Comprende? "

Every person is individual. Comprende?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to your doctors op and get them to get you in to help groups, I think going to groups makes you understand that your not alone and your not going mad it can happen to anyone and at anytime in their life and that it can effect people in all different ways. And you should be proud of yourself for noticing that there is a problem that's your first step for taking this head on.

And don't listen to folk when they say give yourself a shake or man up, if only it was that easy we'd all be doing it instead of struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the hardest thing is trying to make them understand their worth and not sounding patronising or ignorance. But being there helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point m1cks in the main is actually if this had been a general discussion around mental health then maybe there's a place for your comment. You're entitled to your opinion, however much I fundamentally disagree with you (and wonder how you can disagree with qualified clinicians?) but there we go. Given it was someone "reaching out" and not feeling in a good state however, you merely trivialising his experience without the possible further knowledge that he was/is ok wasn't really the most compassionate thing to do. Does that make sense?

Aye it does make sense however on the other hand in my humble experience depression doesn't even exist in some situations where it should and does in situations it shouldn't, in situations that it does; not everyone deals with it the same way. Comprende?

Every person is individual. Comprende? "

My point exactly Ella not everyone is going to want the sympathy vote some of us need a kick up the erse every now and then to get ourselves back into gear, no.

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over a year ago


"My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up."

Thank you for modifying your comment to include seeking qualified clinical advice. That's all I was seeking, ultimately. I merely used extrapolation to a worst case to try and cause a rethink of your initial comment. Don't put words in my mouth, I never assumed OP was at his worst or not. My points have been direct to you, challenging you. For some reason you appear to have taken on board some need for a modification of your original post. Which is great

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over a year ago


"I think my point m1cks in the main is actually if this had been a general discussion around mental health then maybe there's a place for your comment. You're entitled to your opinion, however much I fundamentally disagree with you (and wonder how you can disagree with qualified clinicians?) but there we go. Given it was someone "reaching out" and not feeling in a good state however, you merely trivialising his experience without the possible further knowledge that he was/is ok wasn't really the most compassionate thing to do. Does that make sense?

Aye it does make sense however on the other hand in my humble experience depression doesn't even exist in some situations where it should and does in situations it shouldn't, in situations that it does; not everyone deals with it the same way. Comprende?

Every person is individual. Comprende?

My point exactly Ella not everyone is going to want the sympathy vote some of us need a kick up the erse every now and then to get ourselves back into gear, no."

Qualified clinical advice is not a sympathy vote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

Lifestyle changes that can treat depression.

Exercise. Regular exercise can be as effective at treating depression as medication. ...

Nutrition. Eating well is important for both your physical and mental health. ...

Sleep. Sleep has a strong effect on mood. ...

Social support. ...

Stress reduction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

Lifestyle changes that can treat depression.

Exercise. Regular exercise can be as effective at treating depression as medication. ...

Nutrition. Eating well is important for both your physical and mental health. ...

Sleep. Sleep has a strong effect on mood. ...

Social support. ...

Stress reduction.

"

Treating "depression" -- even better, we're acknowledging it's existence finally.

Great tips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

Lifestyle changes that can treat depression.

Exercise. Regular exercise can be as effective at treating depression as medication. ...

Nutrition. Eating well is important for both your physical and mental health. ...

Sleep. Sleep has a strong effect on mood. ...

Social support. ...

Stress reduction.

Treating "depression" -- even better, we're acknowledging it's existence finally.

Great tips. "

Its** (hate typos)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. I don't really know why I'm writing this. Or who I'm writing it for or what I intend to gain from writing it but writing it makes me feel like it's out there so here goes.

I think I'm struggling with depression.

Even though I've got friends and family around me I feel alone.

Even though I'm doing well professionally I always fear failing.

Even though I'm in a place where I'm comfortable and should feel happy, I'm not.

I get irritated so easily, at the smallest of things and don't let go of things that frustrate me.

I feel I'm never good enough or the right person, for anything, or anyone.

I feel that people never understand me. Or want to...

I feel like I'm always telling myself tomorrow will be a better day, but tomorrow only seems to get worse...

I've been trying to change how I feel for months, living differently, being more active, taking time off Fab and other social media but nothing changes.

Anyways, rant over. Thanks for listening."

I know exactly how you feel mate...i fully Sympathise with you but im sure you will work it all out. Fair play writing this..i couldnt do that. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP is just having a bad few days, it happens to everyone my advise would be to firstly go see a Dr and then maybe take some time out and do stuff you enjoy doing find your smile again. I don't think sympathy is what you need at all."

It doesn't sound like the Op is having a bad few days, it sounds to me like depressive symptoms. And he's not asking for sympathy, he's asking for advice. I live with someone who has clinical depression and was suicidal. It is not something you can snap out of and doing happy things will not make it go away. He is very brave writing about it in an open Forum and clearly needs some medical help.

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over a year ago


"My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up.

Thank you for modifying your comment to include seeking qualified clinical advice. That's all I was seeking, ultimately. I merely used extrapolation to a worst case to try and cause a rethink of your initial comment. Don't put words in my mouth, I never assumed OP was at his worst or not. My points have been direct to you, challenging you. For some reason you appear to have taken on board some need for a modification of your original post. Which is great "

Ella if you wanted to challenge me or anyone else would it not be better to do it via pm as opposed to on this guys thred? I don't think seeing folk being 'challenged' is gonna help his cause tbh.

Anyhow this isn't about point scoring, it's about this dude who feels he's depressed I hope he gets the help he needs or snaps out of it on his own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up.

Thank you for modifying your comment to include seeking qualified clinical advice. That's all I was seeking, ultimately. I merely used extrapolation to a worst case to try and cause a rethink of your initial comment. Don't put words in my mouth, I never assumed OP was at his worst or not. My points have been direct to you, challenging you. For some reason you appear to have taken on board some need for a modification of your original post. Which is great

Ella if you wanted to challenge me or anyone else would it not be better to do it via pm as opposed to on this guys thred? I don't think seeing folk being 'challenged' is gonna help his cause tbh.

Anyhow this isn't about point scoring, it's about this dude who feels he's depressed I hope he gets the help he needs or snaps out of it on his own."

No m1cks, I challenge in public to help anyone reading understand the potential negative impact of your statement and recognise the importance of seeking qualified support alongside finding what works for them as an individual to combat their issue. (As per my original comments in response to OP at top of thread). It's the longevity of your public statement being written without challenge that concerns me. You're entirely missing my point if you think I would achieve what I held important by taking it to PM. I'm not point scoring. This is a subject that I feel strongly about and to think I would be interested in point scoring around a topic like this is way off the mark as to who I am as a person. It says more about you, than I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up.

Thank you for modifying your comment to include seeking qualified clinical advice. That's all I was seeking, ultimately. I merely used extrapolation to a worst case to try and cause a rethink of your initial comment. Don't put words in my mouth, I never assumed OP was at his worst or not. My points have been direct to you, challenging you. For some reason you appear to have taken on board some need for a modification of your original post. Which is great

Ella if you wanted to challenge me or anyone else would it not be better to do it via pm as opposed to on this guys thred? I don't think seeing folk being 'challenged' is gonna help his cause tbh.

Anyhow this isn't about point scoring, it's about this dude who feels he's depressed I hope he gets the help he needs or snaps out of it on his own.

No m1cks, I challenge in public to help anyone reading understand the potential negative impact of your statement and recognise the importance of seeking qualified support alongside finding what works for them as an individual to combat their issue. (As per my original comments in response to OP at top of thread). It's the longevity of your public statement being written without challenge that concerns me. You're entirely missing my point if you think I would achieve what I held important by taking it to PM. I'm not point scoring. This is a subject that I feel strongly about and to think I would be interested in point scoring around a topic like this is way off the mark as to who I am as a person. It says more about you, than I. "

Now you've just hijacked this dudes thred and made it about you fs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advise was to the OP not to the masses he can take it or it ignore it, I don't feel folk negating things and assuming the OP is at their worst is going to help.

OP first and formost contact a medical professional.

Secondly remain optimistic stay positive you can and will beat this.

Chin up.

Thank you for modifying your comment to include seeking qualified clinical advice. That's all I was seeking, ultimately. I merely used extrapolation to a worst case to try and cause a rethink of your initial comment. Don't put words in my mouth, I never assumed OP was at his worst or not. My points have been direct to you, challenging you. For some reason you appear to have taken on board some need for a modification of your original post. Which is great

Ella if you wanted to challenge me or anyone else would it not be better to do it via pm as opposed to on this guys thred? I don't think seeing folk being 'challenged' is gonna help his cause tbh.

Anyhow this isn't about point scoring, it's about this dude who feels he's depressed I hope he gets the help he needs or snaps out of it on his own.

No m1cks, I challenge in public to help anyone reading understand the potential negative impact of your statement and recognise the importance of seeking qualified support alongside finding what works for them as an individual to combat their issue. (As per my original comments in response to OP at top of thread). It's the longevity of your public statement being written without challenge that concerns me. You're entirely missing my point if you think I would achieve what I held important by taking it to PM. I'm not point scoring. This is a subject that I feel strongly about and to think I would be interested in point scoring around a topic like this is way off the mark as to who I am as a person. It says more about you, than I.

Now you've just hijacked this dudes thred and made it about you fs.

"

Man up m1cks, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP my advise to you is clear entirely up to you what you do with it, a hope you find your happy place again soon, a won't be engaging anymore in this thred as i dont want to steer it's serious nature off topic however if anyone wishes to challenge or further educate me on how to conquer Depression, filters providing, you know where to get me. PLR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask your Dr to refer you to "Healthy Minds" I too did not want to go the medicated route and found the congenative therapy route absolutely brilliant...an impartial therapy with some self help exercises that ticked my boxes.

I too had supportive family and friends, but this therapy took away the personal effect that support and advise from those close to you give...sometimes unintentionally restricting recovery.

Best of luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doctors and MIND is an amazing charity that help with mental health x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP- you could also look at an Internet forum called Big White Wall, all lower case, all one word.

And another called Headspace.

(Admin- hope I am not breaking site rules mentioning these, if I am, my apologies, please remove)

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over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that. "

My Nana suffered with depression even from an early age, when it got worse after a med change my uncle said to her depression isnt real and trivialised it, 2days later she committed suicide!

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over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that.

My Nana suffered with depression even from an early age, when it got worse after a med change my uncle said to her depression isnt real and trivialised it, 2days later she committed suicide! "

I'm sorry for your loss. X

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over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that.

My Nana suffered with depression even from an early age, when it got worse after a med change my uncle said to her depression isnt real and trivialised it, 2days later she committed suicide!

I'm sorry for your loss. X"

Thank you, just wanted to highlight jusy how very real it is when people dismiss depression, i believe I was born with MDD same as her and that its just how the brain is made up!

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over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that.

My Nana suffered with depression even from an early age, when it got worse after a med change my uncle said to her depression isnt real and trivialised it, 2days later she committed suicide!

I'm sorry for your loss. X

Thank you, just wanted to highlight jusy how very real it is when people dismiss depression, i believe I was born with MDD same as her and that its just how the brain is made up! "

This was exactly my point, and why I found it irresponsible posting, IMO, and wanted to challenge it rather than leave it to be read without further debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP only you can help you ......So Start Go see your G.P Stop over thinking things and look at the sites on the net your not alone. And if you need help call the Samaritans they are there 24/7 for you to open up too and chat about how you feel. xxx Big Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our attitudes towards the people unfortunate enough to suffer from this have consequences.

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By *ongspearMan
over a year ago

leeds

Hi mate. Fair play to you for accepting that you got depression. Iv had it since 2000, I seen councellibg every week. But, I know I'll have it for the rest of my life.

Have you seen a doctor about it?

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over a year ago


"m1cks, I'm pretty appalled at your need to trivialise someone else's experience in this way. At the very least (whatever your personal views) can you not think about the potential impact that kind of flippancy could have? Suicide is a real thing whether you believe in depression as a cause or not. You never know where somebody is / how somebody is when they read that kind of negating of their experience type of drivel. You should have passed this by. I though you were more compassionate than that.

My Nana suffered with depression even from an early age, when it got worse after a med change my uncle said to her depression isnt real and trivialised it, 2days later she committed suicide!

I'm sorry for your loss. X

Thank you, just wanted to highlight jusy how very real it is when people dismiss depression, i believe I was born with MDD same as her and that its just how the brain is made up!

This was exactly my point, and why I found it irresponsible posting, IMO, and wanted to challenge it rather than leave it to be read without further debate. "

I know, some dont realise just how irresponsible words can be and how much they can hurt if you arent able to think rationally at that time.

Your words and my experience of it happening hopefully stand out to others with this view and make them think twice. X

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