FabSwingers.com forum: Oooh ... awkward

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had that dreaded message from someone I know from outside fab world; and thought to be in an (on the outside) seemingly happy relationship, and I know the partner fairly well.

Very tricky. I let it pass as I figured that that's not my burden to carry. But, it has happened to me before; always difficult to know whether to say anything to them, be angry with them, (they have their reasons and who's to say their partner isn't doing it to them too...) or just let it pass.

Share your experience of this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had that dreaded message from someone I know from outside fab world; and thought to be in an (on the outside) seemingly happy relationship, and I know the partner fairly well.

Share your experience of this!"

thankfully, I haven't experienced that!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Thankfully I've not had this but it's quite the conundrum.

Block and ignore or let the woman know. Because most of us would like to know.

Very difficult

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

Have they recognised you as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thankfully I've not had this but it's quite the conundrum.

Block and ignore or let the woman know. Because most of us would like to know.

Very difficult

He has a very young child with his partner. Which further complicates the internal battle...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?"

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Thankfully I've not had this but it's quite the conundrum.

Block and ignore or let the woman know. Because most of us would like to know.

Very difficult

He has a very young child with his partner. Which further complicates the internal battle..."

How well do you know her?

For me if it was a best friend I would tell them as I'd expect the same from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would delete, block, ignore. It's clear you don't want the boundary crossed. Any reply even to say no invites a further response. And treat them as you would anyone else outside of Fab, respect privacy. Step away.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics. "

If he recognised you he probably wouldn't have sent a message.

I knew a guy on here who sent a face pic to his soon to be sister in law

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Step away as whilst I would prefer to know, i'd like to know from my lartner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thankfully I've not had this but it's quite the conundrum.

Block and ignore or let the woman know. Because most of us would like to know.

Very difficult

He has a very young child with his partner. Which further complicates the internal battle...

How well do you know her?

For me if it was a best friend I would tell them as I'd expect the same from them."

She's a friend of a friend really. I'm not at all close with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would delete, block, ignore. It's clear you don't want the boundary crossed. Any reply even to say no invites a further response. And treat them as you would anyone else outside of Fab, respect privacy. Step away."

Definitely. It's a shady line!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Step away as whilst I would prefer to know, i'd like to know from my lartner"

Yes agreed. And their lifestyles mean that she could well be doing it to him too, who am I to mess with destiny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very difficult, it depends on how well you know her. If not close don't get involved and block him. Unfortunately lots of people get into shooting the messenger states and you don't want or need that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

If he recognised you he probably wouldn't have sent a message.

I knew a guy on here who sent a face pic to his soon to be sister in law

Now THAT is a blunder! Ooooh how awkward!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless your planning to have sex with him its not really your problem.. Block him

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

Sounds like a good plan to me, it's a potential minefield you are stepping into if you engage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very difficult, it depends on how well you know her. If not close don't get involved and block him. Unfortunately lots of people get into shooting the messenger states and you don't want or need that x "

Oh yes I've totally stepped away from the fire!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unless your planning to have sex with him its not really your problem.. Block him

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I knew a guy on here who sent a face pic to his soon to be sister in law

Now THAT is a blunder! Ooooh how awkward!"

Two weeks before the wedding

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"She's a friend of a friend really. I'm not at all close with her. "

Then block and move on as others have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a message from a bloke whose wife and sister i know. I just immediately blocked him.

He'd an established profile and had 6 verifications.

None of my business. Blocked and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I knew a guy on here who sent a face pic to his soon to be sister in law

Now THAT is a blunder! Ooooh how awkward!

Two weeks before the wedding

Bites knuckles! Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She's a friend of a friend really. I'm not at all close with her.

Then block and move on as others have said."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a message from a bloke whose wife and sister i know. I just immediately blocked him.

He'd an established profile and had 6 verifications.

None of my business. Blocked and moved on."
my thoughts exactly.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd ordinarily say to keep out of it. I'd block and delete. If it was a very close friend, I'd prefer that they informed me and so I'd be hypocritical if I didn't explore something with them about their relationship status.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

I got a message the other day from a guy i used to work with asking if he could suck me off!!! Im sure his wife wouldnt be best pleased. Its shit like that why i dont have a face pic on profile.. much better to stay incognito and show the select few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I got a message the other day from a guy i used to work with asking if he could suck me off!!! Im sure his wife wouldnt be best pleased. Its shit like that why i dont have a face pic on profile.. much better to stay incognito and show the select few. "

Oooh super awks!!

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I would just message him and tell him you not interested and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Share your experience of this!

thankfully, I haven't experienced that!"

Same. And I'd hopefully be able to ignore it. Their reasons for living their life, their way, is none of my business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just Io clarify posters, I'm not in need of advice on this, he's been blocked etc before I started this thread. I just want to hear your experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What goes on Fab, stays on Fab. I don't get involved in back stories even if I know the people involved. The guy must have his reasons or he's a dickhead, either way, too much drama to be involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What goes on Fab, stays on Fab. I don't get involved in back stories even if I know the people involved. The guy must have his reasons or he's a dickhead, either way, too much drama to be involved. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the male half of a couple who my hubby and I were friends with approach me at a party and tell me he'd seen my profile.

It turns out he had single guy profile and wifey knows nothing of it.

Told him I was not impressed and he should delete profile and introduce wife to the scene. Haven't ever said anything to her because it would rock her world and I don't think he had actually done anything - no meets or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Showing my face means I don't get messages from people that I know and who are attached, so i don't have that dilemma. However, if I did, I'd be tempted to tell them to inform their partner, or I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankfully I've not had this but it's quite the conundrum.

Block and ignore or let the woman know. Because most of us would like to know.

Very difficult

He has a very young child with his partner. Which further complicates the internal battle...

How well do you know her?

For me if it was a best friend I would tell them as I'd expect the same from them.

She's a friend of a friend really. I'm not at all close with her. "

Ignore then and keep schtum. Not your place. Everyone has their reasons and it's no one else's business.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

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"Just had that dreaded message from someone I know from outside fab world; and thought to be in an (on the outside) seemingly happy relationship, and I know the partner fairly well.

Share your experience of this!"

Had this happen on too many occasions. I've remained quiet and politely declined their advances. Always wondered what makes them think I'm approachable or that I'd be ok with them behaving in this manner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had the male half of a couple who my hubby and I were friends with approach me at a party and tell me he'd seen my profile.

It turns out he had single guy profile and wifey knows nothing of it.

Cheeky for him to approach you in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just had that dreaded message from someone I know from outside fab world; and thought to be in an (on the outside) seemingly happy relationship, and I know the partner fairly well.

Share your experience of this!

If they know who you are, very cheeky. If not, d'oh! They're rumbled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully never found myself in that situation . In theory though if it was one of my close mates I'd definitely speak up . Anyone else I'd do as you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the male half of a couple who my hubby and I were friends with approach me at a party and tell me he'd seen my profile.

It turns out he had single guy profile and wifey knows nothing of it.

Cheeky for him to approach you in the first place! "

Especially given his wife and my hubby were at the party.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics. "

You certainly show enough of your face to give a good idea of who you are to anyone who might know you. He could well suspect it is you, given the nose ring and spectacular cleavage as further possible identifiers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage. "

Cleavage wouldn't scare me off xxx

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage. "

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized."

Titnotized; What a great profanisaurus entry that would be - you should submit it.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized.

Titnotized; What a great profanisaurus entry that would be - you should submit it. "

It is already in, otherwise I would have requested first hand experience to fully measure the mesmeric qualities.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized.

Titnotized; What a great profanisaurus entry that would be - you should submit it.

It is already in, otherwise I would have requested first hand experience to fully measure the mesmeric qualities. "

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized.

Titnotized; What a great profanisaurus entry that would be - you should submit it.

It is already in, otherwise I would have requested first hand experience to fully measure the mesmeric qualities.

Look into my cleavage, not around the cleavage, look at my cleavage ...3-2-1 aaaaaand your back into the womb

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have they recognised you as well?

I'm not sure. I didn't send a face pic, but my face is heavily suggested on many of my pics.

Looks like I scared him enough to go UNLOS! Must've been the cleavage.

And what a cleavage. It certainly had me titnotized.

Titnotized; What a great profanisaurus entry that would be - you should submit it.

It is already in, otherwise I would have requested first hand experience to fully measure the mesmeric qualities.

Look into my cleavage, not around the cleavage, look at my cleavage ...3-2-1 aaaaaand your back into the womb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this happen, we immediately recognised him, know his partner but not well. Just messaged back with a no thanks and blocked him, and stayed well out of it.

It seems that the messenger is often the one that gets a load of grief in that sort of situation and you don't know what is going on behind closed doors.

If it was the partner of a close friend I'm not sure what we'd do. Hope it never comes up.

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