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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A Tuesday morning ponderable:

Does this ring true with anyone on here?

Would you fuck someone on here that you wouldn't otherwise want to / wish to associate with? Y'know the old 'wouldn't give them a second look in a pub' thing but quite happy to take advantage if they are happy drop their knickers (or boxers) for a quick knee trembler?

Do you "lower your standards" for a shag - any hole's a goal that sort of thing?

Interested if the male vs female response is any different?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I won't take one for the team, there has to be an attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done yes but not in a lowering standards way, more in a way that I've had sex with people that I wouldn't be compatible with for other things.

I have however been on the receiving end of what you describe, more than once..... lots of fellas up here like to fuck a fat lass but wouldn't want to introduce me to their mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I won't take one for the team, there has to be an attraction."

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Absolutely not, I won't sell myself short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just thought about this long and hard. (Less than a minute).

No. Whatever 'my standards' are, If I'm Interested in you here. I would be approaching you in a pub.

Sex really is about fancying someone and will never change because i need a shag or need to get my rocks off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't enjoy sex with someone I didn't find attractive. However whether my idea of what's attractive changes according to levels of sexual frustration is something that's yet to be tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

Next question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I won't take one for the team, there has to be an attraction.

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And thrice

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

There is a black guy that regularly says in forums he loves BBW to fuck but wouldn't date one as he'd be too embarrassed to be seen with one in public

Can't remember his username and if I could it may come under naming and shaming

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

No..I'm not going running into my neighbours houses and going into their bedroom saying I want to have sex with you so that would be something similar xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated."

pre-Fab I did as well. Needed a release when I was on another site, wasn't the best experience and you describe it perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think talking to people on here makes you see people differently than just that first look you'd take in a pub. So can make you feel more attracted to their personality, but no there also has to be a physical attraction.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No I don't lower my standards just for sex. I don't think I do anyway

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You're all assuming lack of attraction - I have no idea why? I've met some hot young tottie that there's no way I would consider dating so it works both ways! ! I'm also way more fussy about background etc in relationship prospects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done yes but not in a lowering standards way, more in a way that I've had sex with people that I wouldn't be compatible with for other things.

I have however been on the receiving end of what you describe, more than once..... lots of fellas up here like to fuck a fat lass but wouldn't want to introduce me to their mates

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Been there, done that, got more t-shirts than I care to count...

(Dunno what it is with the fellas up your way, though - they must be mad! Or shallow.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.

If it's a scene/role play we want to try then it's not always about attraction, more about mutual compatability for that situation, if it's sex for the sake of sex there needs to be an attraction.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think I do the more I think about it.

It's the 'Lidl' shag.

Fun whilst you're there and serves it's purpose but you'll still lie and tell all your friends you only shop at waitrose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't it depend on how low they are anyway?

But no, I wouldn't anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated.

pre-Fab I did as well. Needed a release when I was on another site, wasn't the best experience and you describe it perfectly

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Yeah this was pre-Fab too. Through chat room interaction. No social. Blurry cam at low speed to make the decision. And having made the effort to book the hotel room and get to the location I just did it. It was no doubt driven by a combination of frustration, not wanting to have wasted my own time and not admit to myself it was the wrong thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all assuming lack of attraction - I have no idea why? I've met some hot young tottie that there's no way I would consider dating so it works both ways! ! I'm also way more fussy about background etc in relationship prospects. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have, at a club, I will play with men who I don't necessarily have an attraction to and I've found that being attracted to someone doesn't always mean the sex will be better.

In fact, purely from the physical side of sex, some of my best experiences have been from men I wouldn't date in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I do the more I think about it.

It's the 'Lidl' shag.

Fun whilst you're there and serves it's purpose but you'll still lie and tell all your friends you only shop at waitrose"

I love Lidl

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

I need an attraction and a connection- even if it's just fun banter. Even in clubs, I find it hard to play infront of people I don't fancy..

But the male species does baffle me..plenty willing to shag me here, but can I get a date in the vanilla world?..nope. Am I one of those "lower your standard for her"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated.

pre-Fab I did as well. Needed a release when I was on another site, wasn't the best experience and you describe it perfectly

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I agree with you chaps.

I did exactly the same in the past. But I was young daft and full of lager at the time.

I got myself a bad reputation unfortunately and the nice girls wouldnt touch me with a barge pole because of it.

I didn't do myself any favours in those days.

Now Im the complete opposite and can happily wait for the right person and that wait can be months into years .

Ive change alot but maybe thats because I'm older and wiser now?.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No I wouldn't. If I was that desperate I'd get my wand out.

What about you Dan?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not why should being on fab change your standard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I do the more I think about it.

It's the 'Lidl' shag.

Fun whilst you're there and serves it's purpose but you'll still lie and tell all your friends you only shop at waitrose"

Hmm! You may have possibly made me change my mind!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I wouldn't. If I was that desperate I'd get my wand out.

What about you Dan?

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I refer the Honorable Lady to the response I gave a few minutes ago

Yes, when I did when I was younger. Not now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First I thought definately not, but after reading the replies of course I do. Im not saying I drop my standards at all, but I do often pick people I wouldnt normally date but who I am attracted too, but who sexually we are very conpatable. I think that is the fun of it.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've long been the woman men fuck but not date!

After a social, I messaged a guy to say it was great to meet him but I don't want to shag him and he replied that he didn't fancy me either but he would have shagged me

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By *aggersMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

No chance ! Has to be attraction .. nothing worse than going soft half way through because there's no attraction between you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Adding my "no" vote...not only does there have to be a physical attraction but also, on some level, a mental one too. If there's no connection and chemistry to an extent then it's not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So looks like this thread reveals alot of men do/have fucked women they didnt find attractive for whatever reason?

Then pop the high ratio of men to women in places like this into the mix.

And you've got alot of women getting messaged and fucked by guys that don't really fancy them

I think this confirms what everyone knew already about if they are honest about it.

Whether its guys in internet dating sites or in a pub or nightclub.

Alot will fuck anything thats avaible if it means emptying their balls.

Not nice to hear but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated."

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a Feb who was probably the best looking guy ive ever been with, he was model material. The first few times were good but as I realised I didnt actually like him as a person it lost its appeal and the lust we had died down and it was like a chore to fuck him so no I wouldn't. Id rather have a wank than be with someone Im not really into.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

*throws self on floor and wails* I'm not really 'the hottest on here' after all. Just the same as the 455764 other single women. Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*throws self on floor and wails* I'm not really 'the hottest on here' after all. Just the same as the 455764 other single women. Ha"

No but at least you have a nice personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done in the fairly distant past. They were empty, depressing experiences not to be repeated.

Me too!

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The ways it's described here is the exact reason I won't do it. I don't want anything in my life that I will regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the distant past, my approach was all wrong & I was naive too.

Now I have to have both the physical & mental attraction.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

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Alot will fuck anything thats avaible if it means emptying their balls.

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I do hate it when people write some people will fuck anything. That 'anything' is still a person. Or do you mean any kind of object lying around the house etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Alot will fuck anything thats avaible if it means emptying their balls.

I do hate it when people write some people will fuck anything. That 'anything' is still a person. Or do you mean any kind of object lying around the house etc?"

Yes anything available warm blooded or inanimate objects.

Depends how desperate they are to empty their balls and whats available at the time I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all assuming lack of attraction - I have no idea why? I've met some hot young tottie that there's no way I would consider dating so it works both ways! ! I'm also way more fussy about background etc in relationship prospects. "

Yes you're right Frisky. Plus some wouldn't want age gap full on relationships, but for the joys of sex it works.

I don't have sex with anyone that I don't find physically and mentally attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites "

And vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have only fucked guys I would be up for fucking anytime... most I would consider dating if that was what I was looking for....but I'm not...they have all been lovely guys and all fairly different looks wise....I am sure most guys that message me wouldn't ever think about chatting me up on a night out...they don't really make it to my bed as their conversation ends up boring me n dropping off to the point I don't reply any more....especially when all ya get is a "hi" every month or so

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sorry M'Lord, I should have read the whole thread!!

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites "

Well, that depends I suppose on whether they're here purely for nsa sex or might be open to dating. Whatever ... the implication in your rather sweeping statement however seems to be that women on sex sites are no better than they ought to be - the whole tired old Madonna/whore thing

How come it's perpetually women who seem to be regarded in this outdated way by some ? ... it's unusual to see 'men on sex sites' spoken about in the same vein

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't lower my 'standards.' For me, it's about compatibility. Attraction is part of that but it much more than just that. Personally, for sex, yes it's attraction. If I were to be looking for a relationship, I'd have to connect on both an intellectual basis, as well as the physical attraction.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I wouldn't say I lower my standards, but I meet guys that I wouldn't date. I just don't look for the same level of compatability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the ladies didn't lower their standards I'd have no hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

Well, that depends I suppose on whether they're here purely for nsa sex or might be open to dating. Whatever ... the implication in your rather sweeping statement however seems to be that women on sex sites are no better than they ought to be - the whole tired old Madonna/whore thing

How come it's perpetually women who seem to be regarded in this outdated way by some ? ... it's unusual to see 'men on sex sites' spoken about in the same vein

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I don't think it's possible for me to agree with you more....

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Just no never, no even if he was the last man on earth, no connection, no shag! What would be the point no fulfilment

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

Well, that depends I suppose on whether they're here purely for nsa sex or might be open to dating. Whatever ... the implication in your rather sweeping statement however seems to be that women on sex sites are no better than they ought to be - the whole tired old Madonna/whore thing

How come it's perpetually women who seem to be regarded in this outdated way by some ? ... it's unusual to see 'men on sex sites' spoken about in the same vein

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Perfectly put.

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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago

york

"Just no never, no even if he was the last man on earth, no connection, no shag! What would be the point no fulfilment

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^^^^^ this !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

Well, that depends I suppose on whether they're here purely for nsa sex or might be open to dating. Whatever ... the implication in your rather sweeping statement however seems to be that women on sex sites are no better than they ought to be - the whole tired old Madonna/whore thing

How come it's perpetually women who seem to be regarded in this outdated way by some ? ... it's unusual to see 'men on sex sites' spoken about in the same vein

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done yes but not in a lowering standards way, more in a way that I've had sex with people that I wouldn't be compatible with for other things.

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this - more played as the mood/moment/situation led to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i have to fancy them.. part of why I havent had sex in ages, i can be attracted to them but something turns me off.

In reference to the 'Men wouldnt date women on here' actually yes they would, ive been asked out on dates, how do you think people meet fellow swingers to become a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Where is the issue? You are not breeding with them.

I find ugly guys with nice cocks shag just as well if not netter than good looking ones. The only difference is the ugly ones try harder and are usually far less self obsessed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alright alright Dan, I'll fuck ya.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Alright alright Dan, I'll fuck ya.

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Ah ... the rest of us are so gullible, whereas you've correctly identified the *real* purpose of this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright alright Dan, I'll fuck ya.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

This thread reads like the exceptional meets only has been replaced with attracted to and chemistry only club. Spells the end of any spontaneity and meet tonight posts and means long haul messages and character assessments.

If you are swinging down the pub then there is no need to be on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread reads like the exceptional meets only has been replaced with attracted to and chemistry only club. Spells the end of any spontaneity and meet tonight posts and means long haul messages and character assessments.

If you are swinging down the pub then there is no need to be on this site.

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I have met some great guys off the cuff...but I was very attracted to them....and I tend to leave d*unk pick ups alone now....leads to crap decisions lol...I like to be sober whilst picking my sexual partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not.not that desperate for the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction I won't compromise on.

It has to be there no matter.

I'm no oil painting myself, but that doesn't change the fact I still have to be attracted to that person and I'm quite specific.

I've got to see their face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met some great guys off the cuff...but I was very attracted to them....and I tend to leave d*unk pick ups alone now....leads to crap decisions lol...I like to be sober whilst picking my sexual partners

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Alcohol impaired judgement is the sole (self-inflicted) factor responsible for all my poor "pulling" choices. Which is why I haven't gone on the pull or got d*unk in about 15 years - neither is worth the trouble the following day!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Things is you can look for different things from a purely sexual encounter than you would for dating.

A fit guy that can't stimulate me educationally, I'd fuck but wouldn't date as I like an intellectual equal as my partner

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"This thread reads like the exceptional meets only has been replaced with attracted to and chemistry only club. Spells the end of any spontaneity and meet tonight posts and means long haul messages and character assessments.

If you are swinging down the pub then there is no need to be on this site.

I have met some great guys off the cuff...but I was very attracted to them....and I tend to leave d*unk pick ups alone now....leads to crap decisions lol...I like to be sober whilst picking my sexual partners

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I have met women I wouldn't be attracted to physically offline but humour, fantasy, connection have all played their part in pretty much instant meets. It doesn't mean my attraction to them isn't being met, simply that I wouldn't date them. This thread seems near religious given then number of threads on 10 man gangbangs - bukkake there are.

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By *assybitchWoman
over a year ago

around the world

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if sober no. I get a bit more free and easy when i've had a Babycham though.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

Physical attraction is important but compatibility is higher on the list of priorities for me. I have had a few random messages from people offering to lower their standards for me though ......thanks mate, charity shags are so sexy

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

having sex with someone I wouldn't chat up in a pub? sure- because I can actually get to know them better on here. I don't have to go by looks but can go by personality and if we want the same things. yes I have to be attracted to the face but a face doesn't tell me if I like their humour or if we are happy to explore the same things.

However I had meets with people I wouldn't chat up in a pub who are considered attractive by a lot of others- and the sex wasn't as good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standards are important there needs to be an attraction and a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For quite a long time now I wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't at least consider dating. However if there was instant attraction I wouldn't hang around waiting to find out if we were potential soulmates. That said I'm not meeting nor interested in finding another soulmate, so it's all pretty much academic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For quite a long time now I wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't at least consider dating. However if there was instant attraction I wouldn't hang around waiting to find out if we were potential soulmates. That said I'm not meeting nor interested in finding another soulmate, so it's all pretty much academic

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But, but I thought you loved me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't and wouldn't fuck anyone I didn't fancy in my real life .probably why I struggle to get regular hunks in the north east who are tall and articulate.But now have a few friends. Think finding one regular is a fantasy on fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For quite a long time now I wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't at least consider dating. However if there was instant attraction I wouldn't hang around waiting to find out if we were potential soulmates. That said I'm not meeting nor interested in finding another soulmate, so it's all pretty much academic

But, but I thought you loved me? "

There are many forms of love as you well know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For quite a long time now I wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't at least consider dating. However if there was instant attraction I wouldn't hang around waiting to find out if we were potential soulmates. That said I'm not meeting nor interested in finding another soulmate, so it's all pretty much academic

But, but I thought you loved me?

There are many forms of love as you well know

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I want your soul, mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For quite a long time now I wouldn't fuck someone I wouldn't at least consider dating. However if there was instant attraction I wouldn't hang around waiting to find out if we were potential soulmates. That said I'm not meeting nor interested in finding another soulmate, so it's all pretty much academic

But, but I thought you loved me?

There are many forms of love as you well know

I want your soul, mate.

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The devil won that at a game of cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't fuck someone who I didn't find attractive, but I find different people attractive for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would, it is just a shag lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A Tuesday morning ponderable:

Does this ring true with anyone on here?

Would you fuck someone on here that you wouldn't otherwise want to / wish to associate with? Y'know the old 'wouldn't give them a second look in a pub' thing but quite happy to take advantage if they are happy drop their knickers (or boxers) for a quick knee trembler?

Do you "lower your standards" for a shag - any hole's a goal that sort of thing?

Interested if the male vs female response is any different?

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Occasionally I meet people with my partner who I proberbly wouldn't hang out with in person, but that's generally due to age rather than anything else. I don't think it's lowering my standards, but rather looking for particular BDSM traits that mean we open our age limits up (plus my partner prefers older men).

But very rarely would I do that one on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decorum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I simply don't understand how anyone could have sex with someone if there wasn't some level of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not if sober no. I get a bit more free and easy when i've had a Babycham though."

*sets sail for Bargain Booze*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if both people who have sex have had a good time who gives a shit if they wouldn't date each other in the real world.

There seems to be some very snobby people on here who appear to look down on those who just enjoy some good old fashioned nsa sex without there having to be a mental and physical attraction always.

I've found that having those with someone doesn't guarantee the sex will be fantastic.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I don't always look for the same kind of chemistry with someone to have sexual fun with, as someone to spend quality time and date excetera..

I have to be sexually attracted to both, but it doesn't have to be in the same way.

There might be somebody that I just want to but my body all over but not necessarily have a dinner conversation with.

And then there might be somebody else that I want dinner with first...

It is not adjusting my standards at all, it is just different situations for different situations.

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

If I have beer goggles on or if I'm in a club and there isn't much sand at the beach I will lower my standards a bit. It's OK though I would just give them the wrong username

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I don't lower my standards on here but at the same time I wouldn't approach anyone in a pub as I'm not confident enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure. I've been desperate enough. And weirdly it's made the experience even more of a turn on.

And im sure I've been the recipient of a few sympathy shags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never felt the urge to date any of the men I've fucked; I wouldn't want to ruin a perfectly good relationship with commitment.

I have to be attracted to the man to want to suck his cock though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry M'Lord, I should have read the whole thread!!

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you're excused! But only because I'm a serial perver of your pics!

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By *op gooserMan
over a year ago

chester

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites "
I think that's why a lot of women on here moan on here about a lack of respect. A lot of men think like this but the women don't realise it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sex with women I wouldn't date all the time. That doesn't mean that I don't fancy them, or even that there isn't a connection of some sorts. It's just a different level of contentment.

Does that really belittle them in someway? Because I'm pretty sure it works the other way round too.

I had an FB for 12 years. I liked her, I liked sex with her, and we got on well. But no, I wouldn't date her and she wouldn't date me. We simply didn't connect on that level.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Alright alright Dan, I'll fuck ya.

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Ha I'm pretty sure I AM that pity fuck that people look back on and think 'what WAS I thinking!?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Alot will fuck anything thats avaible if it means emptying their balls.

I do hate it when people write some people will fuck anything. That 'anything' is still a person. Or do you mean any kind of object lying around the house etc?"

apparently some women use a piece of rubber or plastic...I've heard some have used the side of a washing machine on fast spin too. Cucumber sales go up on school holidays according to Asda and Lidl... tescos value ones disappeared over night...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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I have met women I wouldn't be attracted to physically offline but humour, fantasy, connection have all played their part in pretty much instant meets. It doesn't mean my attraction to them isn't being met, simply that I wouldn't date them. This thread seems near religious given then number of threads on 10 man gangbangs - bukkake there are. "

surely a NSA fuck can be just that - meet someone, fuck, mutual need met, move on... does it matter if there's a connection or they're not a vision of (your idea of) beauty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

Well, that depends I suppose on whether they're here purely for nsa sex or might be open to dating. Whatever ... the implication in your rather sweeping statement however seems to be that women on sex sites are no better than they ought to be - the whole tired old Madonna/whore thing

How come it's perpetually women who seem to be regarded in this outdated way by some ? ... it's unusual to see 'men on sex sites' spoken about in the same vein

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... agree with this statement ..but will hold my hands up and admit im as bad .. im here for sex plain and simple .. i like variety so i guess im as bad as some of the men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites I think that's why a lot of women on here moan on here about a lack of respect. A lot of men think like this but the women don't realise it. "

Some of us do and some men want to get serious too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Alot will fuck anything thats avaible if it means emptying their balls.

I do hate it when people write some people will fuck anything. That 'anything' is still a person. Or do you mean any kind of object lying around the house etc?"

And that person is some ones Family. Its a horrid phrase based on peoples own self important. If everyone had the same views, likes and desires 90% of the world would be single and unloved.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites "

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alright alright Dan, I'll fuck ya.

Ha I'm pretty sure I AM that pity fuck that people look back on and think 'what WAS I thinking!?'

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I highly doubt it.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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having lower standards for sex than dating doesn't mean you're an any holes a goal type of person.

most guys i've met i wouldn't consider dating, just because they aren't even relationship material but are suitable for something shallow (all they need to be is reliable).

most have been good looking, some have been hot, a few have been average. none of them lesser than average although i know some struggle to meet coz of their looks.

if anything, my standards for personality dropped coz i couldn't give 2 fucks about being friends with a user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

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I'd say at least 25% of the guys that I talk to (rather than just reject straight off) want some form of mostly-monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A Tuesday morning ponderable:

Does this ring true with anyone on here?

Would you fuck someone on here that you wouldn't otherwise want to / wish to associate with? Y'know the old 'wouldn't give them a second look in a pub' thing but quite happy to take advantage if they are happy drop their knickers (or boxers) for a quick knee trembler?

Do you "lower your standards" for a shag - any hole's a goal that sort of thing?

Interested if the male vs female response is any different?

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No.

But I sometimes want 'Mr Right-now!'

Rather than waiting for Mr Right!

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over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

I'd say at least 25% of the guys that I talk to (rather than just reject straight off) want some form of mostly-monogamous relationship."

My ideal would be having polyamorous relationships with a group of men and women that I am very attracted to and have a strong intellectual and emotional connection, but we are all autonomous but interdependent. I think it maybe a vision for another life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope I won't take one for the team, there has to be an attraction."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

I'd say at least 25% of the guys that I talk to (rather than just reject straight off) want some form of mostly-monogamous relationship.

My ideal would be having polyamorous relationships with a group of men and women that I am very attracted to and have a strong intellectual and emotional connection, but we are all autonomous but interdependent. I think it maybe a vision for another life though

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Why a vision for another life? That's basically what I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

I'd say at least 25% of the guys that I talk to (rather than just reject straight off) want some form of mostly-monogamous relationship.

My ideal would be having polyamorous relationships with a group of men and women that I am very attracted to and have a strong intellectual and emotional connection, but we are all autonomous but interdependent. I think it maybe a vision for another life though

Why a vision for another life? That's basically what I have."

My starting conditions were significantly different I imagine. Although the vision is compelling my circumstances limit its pursuit. The potential negative consequences far outweigh the motivation to make it a reality. It's a case of if that's a journey I wished to travel I wouldn't be starting from here at nearly 53 years of age. I could never say never...but realistically I will more than likely find contentment in my old age without realising that vision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt guys will be looking to date women they are looking for on sex sites

You'd be surprised how many guys on here want a NSA relationship with one female!

I'd say at least 25% of the guys that I talk to (rather than just reject straight off) want some form of mostly-monogamous relationship.

My ideal would be having polyamorous relationships with a group of men and women that I am very attracted to and have a strong intellectual and emotional connection, but we are all autonomous but interdependent. I think it maybe a vision for another life though

Why a vision for another life? That's basically what I have.

My starting conditions were significantly different I imagine. Although the vision is compelling my circumstances limit its pursuit. The potential negative consequences far outweigh the motivation to make it a reality. It's a case of if that's a journey I wished to travel I wouldn't be starting from here at nearly 53 years of age. I could never say never...but realistically I will more than likely find contentment in my old age without realising that vision."

*Shrug*

I know more poly older people than younger people. I know more people that have gone to poly *after* realising that monogamy wasn't for them.

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