FabSwingers.com forum: Women.. first to contact

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Afternoon fabbers,

As we all know the men to women ratio is far higher but do any women actually message men first or do you sieve through your many inbox messages seeing if there's anyone that catches your eye? I know it's probably been discussed before but there's that many topics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do, but on the other hand, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends if you take there fancy or not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged first because of a forum post or to compliment them on their pics and profile but never to arrange a meet.

I couldn't message someone first to arrange a meet unless I could see their face.

I'd just find it very hard to turn someone down if I wasn't attracted to them after initialising contact.

And I know they could say no to me anyway

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I do a bit of both

I'll message first if I see a profile I like or I'll see someone that intrigues me from my messages and merely reply

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes I do

Sometimes I don't

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes , my wife will often initiate contact with a guy if we are looking for a meet .

We know what we are looking for on here , and to sit back expecting it to land on our laps is crazy !

Works for us

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, I message first if I'm quite interested due to their profile or a forum post. It happens OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it makes perfect sense for the lady to message first ,we may get binned purely by volume ....

Don't all rush

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

"Yes, I message first if I'm quite interested due to their profile or a forum post. It happens OP."

Great ass Mel !!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Being as I don't send preemptive messages anymore, I kinda rely on the ladies messaging me first

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Virtually never, I never search profiles, though I do sometimes chat to people on the forums about a thread or something.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I wonder what would happen if guys stopped messaging women for a few days? It would be entertaining to see how good the women are at first contact, considering all the criticism they direct at the male population of fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since starting posting on the forums, I've started to get messages first off women.

Then they see how ugly I am and never return

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes, I message first if I'm quite interested due to their profile or a forum post. It happens OP.

Great ass Mel !!"

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Afternoon fabbers,

hard to sift through huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been contacted in the past, but it's usually from a forum user about a particular topic being discussed, never a fancy a social meet or more?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some great points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder what would happen if guys stopped messaging women for a few days? It would be entertaining to see how good the women are at first contact, considering all the criticism they direct at the male population of fab lol

I prefer to message men rather than the other way around, if they are crap at responding then I only have myself to blame...

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I prefer to message men rather than the other way around, if they are crap at responding then I only have myself to blame...

Go girl!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just because I'm bored OP

here's one from 58 mins ago....

so didn't involve too much searching

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/617923

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

I do, as I have blocked single men from messaging me, but will lift that block occasionally.

I much prefer to message first as I can message those I'm interested in and see where it goes from there. That way I can avoid having to waste a guys time that I'm not interested in.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Yes it does happen OP, usually as a result of a forum thread but occasionally as an unsolicited message too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first & it's normally off the forums. I'm filtered up to my eyeballs so I have to message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I never message first.

I is a princess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a bit of both I glad I have . I've had some good meets from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've messaged first if I've liked something they've said on the forums or how they come across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sieve, although I manage my filters, so as not to become inundated with unmanageable messages. I find it more productive than scrolling through hundreds of profiles to find someone to message.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Nope. I never message first.

I is a princess

Yes you is

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I do message fist at times.

but I have to admit that I go through all messages and hotlist some for later or to see how they get on. I may come back to them months after they messages and I deleted their message

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I do message fist at times.

but I have to admit that I go through all messages and hotlist some for later or to see how they get on. I may come back to them months after they messages and I deleted their message

Wpw i wanna move to Norwich !! Darn sexy hun xx

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I message first & it's normally off the forums. I'm filtered up to my eyeballs so I have to message first.

Lol thats funny !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. If someone catches my eye or ive seen something they've posted in here.

I find it hard to know what to write at times so I am guilty of just winking and hoping for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send messages first that often these days so mostly rely on women contacting first either by winking/fabbing or messaging.....works for me

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I sent one to another forumite yesterday but that's like the second one ever.

Usually too busy with the inbox to sit and search xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do and following on from the thread earlier about cock pics, I receive more frequent and higher quality first time messages now that i have no viewable pictures of my weiner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged the odd one but usually girls get so many messages that ya end up just answering ones you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do..some do,some don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I message first & it's normally off the forums. I'm filtered up to my eyeballs so I have to message first.

Lol thats funny !"

Why?

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I message first & it's normally off the forums. I'm filtered up to my eyeballs so I have to message first.

Lol thats funny !

Why?"

Filtered up to the eyeballs lol ...so you have to message lol

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By *ral ExtraordinaireMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I've messaged the odd one but usually girls get so many messages that ya end up just answering ones you have."

Wow hun you look great for 50 .. you sure your not fibbing abput your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, mostly if I see someone on the forum who catches my eye I'll either send a message or hotlist them for later

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