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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi all I have been approached by a couple desperate for a child, they cannot affort IVF treatment and believe best way of conceiving is natural rather than artificial ( turkey baster) should i help them or ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all I have been approached by a couple desperate for a child, they cannot affort IVF treatment and believe best way of conceiving is natural rather than artificial ( turkey baster) should i help them or ?"

Could you live by and watch a child that is yours grow up without it knowing who you are ?

Could you stay out of how they brought the child up if you didn't like how they did things ?

I couldn't

And I'm sure there many other questions to ask and answer

Only you know your own mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're seriously going to allow opinions expressed on an internet forum to influence your decision I would suggest giving the whole idea a wide berth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be asking more questions, if they cant afford ivf then whats wrong with sperm donation which is a lot less invasive, you cant really say you want it but cant afford it then say you want another man to shag you to knock you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're seriously going to allow opinions expressed on an internet forum to influence your decision I would suggest giving the whole idea a wide berth "

I tend to agree

Why can't they get IVF on the NHS?

If they can't afford at least one round of IVF how are they going to be able to afford to raise a child for the first year, let alone the rest of its life?

It all smells a little whiffy to me???

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Can you afford 18 years of child support payments and would you want to have a child yourself?

The fact is if you go through with it you are legally the parent and have all the responsibilities that go with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just a breeding fantasy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think nearly all NHS groups will offer at least one round of IVF for free. This course of action could lead to all manner of complications, think very carefully. IMO is your having to ask then there is doubt in your mind already so I would say no!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm pretty sure this happens all the time one way or another.

Personally I wouldn't want to be involved in this from either perspective but that's easy for me to say.

Think long and hard, what do you know aboout the couple, what do they know about you? What are their objections to the "turkey baster" method?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Probably best if they go to a sperm donation place. If you want to do however do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the general consensus. This is a personal issue between you and the couple. It has nothing to do with swinging or even sex. This is about creating a new life and the emotions/ obligations and consequences that surround it. Get some professional advice from people who are experienced and qualified to give it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IVF isn't free to all. Postcode and age of the couple is a factor.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Asking people over the net is not a wise decision however I'll be the odd one out at 52 i'd say fuck it but you have to consider the parent and kid life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surrogacy is also a pretty commonplace thing now.

I'm not saying it is to be entered in to lightly. But it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking crazy idea.

You could have diseases or genetic abnormalities that could be passed on to the child for starters.

Never mind the usual issues that others have pointed out.

Never ceases to amaze me the stupidity of some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sensitive chap aren't ya?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Surrogacy is also a pretty commonplace thing now.

I'm not saying it is to be entered in to lightly. But it happens."

Yep and people usually say how unselfish the surrogate is. Admittedly the commitment of a surrogate mother is greater and sometimes she carries the genetic child of the "parents" but its still someone helping people to have a child who wouldn't otherwise be able to.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Fucking crazy idea.

You could have diseases or genetic abnormalities that could be passed on to the child for starters.

Never mind the usual issues that others have pointed out.

Never ceases to amaze me the stupidity of some people."

Can always rely on Jesus for empathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surrogacy is also a pretty commonplace thing now.

I'm not saying it is to be entered in to lightly. But it happens.

Yep and people usually say how unselfish the surrogate is. Admittedly the commitment of a surrogate mother is greater and sometimes she carries the genetic child of the "parents" but its still someone helping people to have a child who wouldn't otherwise be able to."

Said much more succinctly and clearer than my attempt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd want to know exactly why they arent using the NHS firstly...that would bring up questions from me...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I am quite astounded by the lack of knowledge shown on this subject.

Go read about it people.

IVF isn't quite as simple as rocking up at the doctors and saying you can't conceive then being sent to the IVF clinic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am quite astounded by the lack of knowledge shown on this subject.

Go read about it people.

IVF isn't quite as simple as rocking up at the doctors and saying you can't conceive then being sent to the IVF clinic.

"

This, we're still waiting. 5 years after first asking.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I am quite astounded by the lack of knowledge shown on this subject.

Go read about it people.

IVF isn't quite as simple as rocking up at the doctors and saying you can't conceive then being sent to the IVF clinic.

This, we're still waiting. 5 years after first asking. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you're interested then consider it from the kids perspective. It's potentially a massive financial liability that you are opening yourself to.

Try visiting a professional venue as they may also assist with suitability.

If they are so keen for you then it won't matter if it's baster or sex - their pish for sex hints sexual fantasy etc

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"If you're interested then consider it from the kids perspective. It's potentially a massive financial liability that you are opening yourself to.

Try visiting a professional venue as they may also assist with suitability.

If they are so keen for you then it won't matter if it's baster or sex - their pish for sex hints sexual fantasy etc"

Except that I would imagine that you are far more likley to concieve through natural service than you are taking raw semen and putting it in a turkey baster.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Can you afford maintenance till the child is 18 when they go for a DNA test and take you to the CSA ?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Basically, it is a bit of a shit storm and I would be saying no.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

Avoid like the plague. There can be no long term happy ending for anyone in this scenario.

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