FabSwingers.com forum: Is it this bad at the clubs ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So many threads on here start so well ,and then plunder into argument on top of argument..then you wonder why some members don't join in with the chat ?.....is it like this at the clubs as well ?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope real peeps at clubs not key board hero's .. Anita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. You'll get to know the trolls and their wind up comments. They like to nit pick. You just simply ignore them.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Nar it is heck that's face to face isn't it,people aren't quite so brave then. Ps I haven't a clue really,I've only been to one club and I don't remember much chat going on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope real peeps at clubs not key board hero's .. Anita

Just find it strange ,I come on here try have a giggle ,not been to a club yet because in truth ...didn't want to go as a single guy

And after being in some threads and witnessing how they just fall apart it's put me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you ...I'm not shy and can hold my own just don't want that from here ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In face to face there will also be less people exposed to inflammatory sweeping comments then when they get made on written online forums, which also minimises the response from others -- hence may be perceived to be less explosive. Seeing inflammatory scaremongering comments written and remaining available to be read by others without challenge to curb them, is also a reason that those who find it disappointing and reprehensible behaviour can feel compelled to challenge them so there is a minimising of such attitudes.

It's not always because people wouldn't challenge the same behaviour if overheard spoken in person. I know would.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In face to face there will also be less people exposed to inflammatory sweeping comments then when they get made on written online forums, which also minimises the response from others -- hence may be perceived to be less explosive. Seeing inflammatory scaremongering comments written and remaining available to be read by others without challenge to curb them, is also a reason that those who find it disappointing and reprehensible behaviour can feel compelled to challenge them so there is a minimising of such attitudes.

It's not always because people wouldn't challenge the same behaviour if overheard spoken in person. I know would. "

Thanks sweet ..I get that ,and I'm a firm believer in standing up for what's right ...don't need the drama tbh want this to fun and laughter ...there's enough drama in the world as we've seen in your hometown just today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I en been on here 8 months and the majority of it has been a nightmare. I've been to one club and had the best night I've had in a long time everyone is friendly, on the same page and respectful. They are all there for the same reasons. On here you've no idea who you're really talking to and as others have said you won't find sad keyboard warriors in the clubs, well they might be there but probably wouldn't say feck all to someone in the flesh. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I en been on here 8 months and the majority of it has been a nightmare. I've been to one club and had the best night I've had in a long time everyone is friendly, on the same page and respectful. They are all there for the same reasons. On here you've no idea who you're really talking to and as others have said you won't find sad keyboard warriors in the clubs, well they might be there but probably wouldn't say feck all to someone in the flesh. Have fun

Thanks ...great pins by the way

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It's not always because people wouldn't challenge the same behaviour if overheard spoken in person. I know would. "

As perfectly put as ever. Yes, there are undoubtedly keyboard warriors on here but I don't think whenever someone disagrees it's the case they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not always because people wouldn't challenge the same behaviour if overheard spoken in person. I know would.

As perfectly put as ever. Yes, there are undoubtedly keyboard warriors on here but I don't think whenever someone disagrees it's the case they are. "

Definitely not all keyboard warriors ...just some seem to ruin a perfectly good thread ..and being honest ..it's killing it for me ..I've joined this for fun and maybe make a friend or two ...get enough arguments at work

Thanks

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Definitely not all keyboard warriors ...just some seem to ruin a perfectly good thread ..and being honest ..it's killing it for me ..I've joined this for fun and maybe make a friend or two ...get enough arguments at work

Thanks "

Well maybe just stick to the lighthearted threads? It's a forum - a place where people exchange and discuss their differing or similar ideas. If you just want fun, only read those that are 'fun'.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

haha no. Keyboard warriors live behind the keyboard.

Clubs have a mix of people, the same as you might find in the the pub, but more respectful, maybe because they tend to be aware of the need to maintain the right mix of naughtiness and respect.

There might be the odd one who acts up, but it is rare.

The forum is not a reflection of the whole site or swinging in general, by a long chalk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not like that at the clubs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My two experiences with clubs, Liverpool and Manchester left me put off completely. I was treated unwelcoming in both cases by couples and in one when I declined an invite to play I was told best of luck playing here.

Least on the forums you can block and that's the end of it. There are lovely people and ugly people both in real life and on line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never had any problems at any club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club .."

excellent!

Although say something inflammatory and I will tell you I disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club .."

It has been known for slanging matches and fights to kick off in clubs.

Its usually the women though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club ..

excellent!

Although say something inflammatory and I will tell you I disagree.

Is that all

..no right hook or a good spanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon the forum socials that get organised would be a right laugh

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I reckon the forum socials that get organised would be a right laugh

The forum social get together are a good laugh. I think the forums are more interesting than clubs because there is more intelligent debate and banter, not just mindless fucking, smarmy pushy people and up their own backside couples. Most sex we have seen at clubs is vanilla ...give me the forums any day

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"So many threads on here start so well ,and then plunder into argument on top of argument..then you wonder why some members don't join in with the chat ?.....is it like this at the clubs as well ?..."

Nope, nothing like that in a club. Not unless someone shouts for 'opinions' on inflammatory subjects using a megaphone, which is the equivalent of some of the threads here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club ..

It has been known for slanging matches and fights to kick off in clubs.

Its usually the women though

Does it ever progress to mud wrestling?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Thanks again guys ...I may one day soon bump into some of you at a club ..

It has been known for slanging matches and fights to kick off in clubs.

Its usually the women though

Does it ever progress to mud wrestling?

Only mud-slinging, unless at swingfields where there is plenty of mud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the forum and being at a club arent really comparable. You wouldn't go up to people in clubs and start a debate, its just general chit chat really. If anything is said that the other person doesn't agree with, then generally people just drift apart from each other.

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