FabSwingers.com forum: Would you go back?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Not been in that situation but my gut feeling is that it would be a no.

Id be thinking that they have just changed their mind because they havent had a better offer...

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Had it the other way. A guy contact me and I didn't find him physically attractive, so politely rejected

A couple of months later a guy contacted me and unusually for me we hit it off really well and laughed and joked online. He asked if we could meet and I said not without a face pic.

When he sent I realised who he was, but his personality had totally endeared me.

We are still seeing each other almost 2 and a half years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose it comes down to why they werent attracted

its hard to get a total mesaure of someone when you talking to them via the internet

people can turn out to be different if you meet them face-to-face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

had this a few times coz i am probably the least photogenic person in the world

some i have followed thru, some i haven't

plus sometimes, i think meets in the flesh lets the personality of the person shine thru

pics are 2 dimensional but alas that is what most of us use to base our decisions on 'to meet or not to meet'

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If anything its the other way round for me - want to meet them, meet them, never want to meet them again!!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I've been in this situation once and took the decision to follow my "gut instinct" to leave well alone. One can always wonder "what if" afterwards, but that is life!

I suppose it all works on the basis that each occasion or meet is decided on its own merits and circumstances.

It is an example of there isn't any right or wrong answer to suit everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

Same as you jack.

If i aint good enough first time round then i aint gonna give it a second thought ...certainly wouldnt go backwards .

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

umm we were rejected by a couple , while on another site, total rejection, not thier type, ect ect.

then they contacted us on here.. we have a differnt user name , but they have the same. messages passed, and had a social meet,, all going good now, just trying to find a mutually free time for all to play. we didnt say anything about previuos rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not been in that situation but my gut feeling is that it would be a no.

Id be thinking that they have just changed their mind because they havent had a better offer..."

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anything its the other way round for me - want to meet them, meet them, never want to meet them again!!

Sigh...I've also had a couple of those!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not been in that situation but my gut feeling is that it would be a no.

Id be thinking that they have just changed their mind because they havent had a better offer..."

or that we're not really as minging as our pics suggest

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Had this once as a single femme, the guy saw me at Chams at one of the socials, i told him to go fuck himself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if I can get back on a serious note, I really don't think I could get "up" for someone who has already told me they don't fancy me.

I don't think any amount of sexual inducement could get me back in the zone.

I've often said on here that I'm a relatively shy person, despite how I might come across on here most days, when I'm taking the p out of some of you lot, lol, so perhaps it's down to my self confidence taking a knockback, and my defensive shield coming down?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"if I can get back on a serious note, I really don't think I could get "up" for someone who has already told me they don't fancy me.

I don't think any amount of sexual inducement could get me back in the zone.

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Everyone has an ego Jack, be it a big or little one, if it takes a knock you go in to self defence mode, so i totally understand where you are coming from x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

I'm 100% with you on this one. Reject me/us once and you don't get to change your mind later. We're nobody's second best.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldnt be interested. But i did have a male friend who i was just friends with say to me i never used to fancy you but you grow on people

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

We joined here a couple of years ago with a different id. A couple were all up for meeting us - they'd seen hubby's face pic then saw one of mine and it went totally quiet.

A month or so ago they saw me on cam in chat and started messaging us - very, very keen to meet me/ us. I just couldn't - basically because of the 'rejection' 2 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We joined here a couple of years ago with a different id. A couple were all up for meeting us - they'd seen hubby's face pic then saw one of mine and it went totally quiet.

A month or so ago they saw me on cam in chat and started messaging us - very, very keen to meet me/ us. I just couldn't - basically because of the 'rejection' 2 years ago

How many more times do I have to apologise for that gaff?

For gods sake woman........let it go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LIke everything else on here, horses for courses.

I don't hold too much stock in peoples pictures, to me its a guide only. There is so much manipulation of pics on here, (people taking them from above their head to minimise double chin etc.) that personally speaking, making a judgement based only on a picture on here is impossible. Same in reverse, if someone didn't fancy me in my picture then changed their mind if I bumped into them in person and qualified it by saying something like 'that obviously wasn't a very good picture you sent us', then I'd be flattered and have no problem.

It just depends on your outlook

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we were told that we look better than our pics, but I couldn't get over the initial rejection.

From the other viewpoint, we've also turned people down and after meeting wished we hadn't, but no amount of coaxing would get me to play after and appear "two faced".

I just can't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I would. If they turned me down but then realised the error of their ways then yeah, I would.

hehe.

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By *rank_SimoneCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

We totally agree with you on this one Jack, once rejected we stay rejected and move on.

As for being better in person than your pictures we would also agree. We think thats true of all of us, thats why maybe you shouldn't make a decision until you have met in person.

But each to their own, thats why we are human and not robots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are always reasons why you can't meet, but if the other party said, "sorry, but there's no attraction" would you meet at a later date, if they changed their mind?

It's happen with us on a couple of occaisions, ie, we've written to someone, exchanged messages and pics and then been turned down at this stage.

We've then gone on to meet face to face at a later date, at a party and after chatting they want to play with us, but because of the initial rejection, I can't go through with it.

I can't be the only one who feels like this, and wondered what your thoughts are?

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Has happened to us to, and just like you the answer would be a no....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple messaged my last partner and I

And too be truthful they didn't appeal

However 6 months later we all met and have been good mates for over five years now xx

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

How many more times do I have to apologise for that gaff?

For gods sake woman........let it go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a similar experience. We were talking to a couple, made a few dates to meet, meets were called off by them and we saw verifications from others for those dates. Thats fair enough, they didnt want to play with us. We kept our friendship and exchanged friendly messages from time to time.

Then we met them face to face at a party and the guy couldnt take his eyes off my boobs, and it was obvious he really wanted to play. Later in the evening when play was taking place and everyone was involved, the guy groped my boobs, I let him do that, but moved away afterwards. We've had messages asking to meet since. My ego soared that evening (thank you god)

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