FabSwingers.com forum: Bad relations on Fab!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've hidden our profile for a while, here's why: the people we've come into contact with haven't behaved that nicely. These are examples:

We give out our details to couples, they start a Kik chat then can't be bothered to contribute. On occasions when there is good chemistry, it ends abruptly with group members leaving.

We organise to meet a couple. Two weeks in advance, we ask to change the meeting place to even out the driving time. They mess us around, don't reply etc. Finally we politely cancel a week before in light of the fact we haven't agreed a location. They ignore the text, leave the group, post a disgruntled status and then unfriend us.

We make contact with a great seeming couple. We exchange plenty of texts and photos before they tell us that they want us to be their first couple meet. We agree a date. Things go quiet. I ask if they're still on. Maybe, but can we send more Face pics. We cancel.

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

I know nobody owes us anything. Plans change and people change their minds. However, it would be easy to show some basic manners in these situations. I wouldn't treat people this way.

I've had so many great experiences outside of Fab and I've had a really good and varied dating history. Fab hasn't been good and it's because of the way members treat one another.

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds to me like you've been giving people a lot of wanking material.

It's why I don't use Kik.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Some of that bad experience is down to kik groups, not Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

"We've hidden our profile for a while, here's why: the people we've come into contact with haven't behaved that nicely. These are examples:

We give out our details to couples, they start a Kik chat then can't be bothered to contribute. On occasions when there is good chemistry, it ends abruptly with group members leaving.

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

I know nobody owes us anything. Plans change and people change their minds. However, it would be easy to show some basic manners in these situations. I wouldn't treat people this way.

I've had so many great experiences outside of Fab and I've had a really good and varied dating history. Fab hasn't been good and it's because of the way members treat one another.

Rant over."
you send it right there..manners don't cost the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to look at you selection procedure.

It's not foolproof though, there are a lot of dreamers just looking for wank-fodder x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

This isn't a couples Vs Singles thread. They are talking about being messed about in general.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

People do suffer with blowing hot and cold on here. One minute they want to fuck. Then they want to block you, then they want to fuck you again... the endless cycle of fab oddness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone mentions 'taking it onto kik' that's when alarm bells start ringjng

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

This isn't a couples Vs Singles thread. They are talking about being messed about in general."

You're doing it again.

You don't actually read the entire OP.

Read the WHOLE post as this is what I'm referring to, it was at the bottom:

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later. "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"If anyone mentions 'taking it onto kik' that's when alarm bells start ringjng

I always use kik. That way i can control who sees my face pic, and in what form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex and I tried a couples profile and I have to say it's harder to organise 4 people who are all attracted to each other. Often I got the attention which annoyed him immensely and we ended up splitting. We didn't manage to organise one meet with a couple in 3 months x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do suffer with blowing hot and cold on here. One minute they want to fuck. Then they want to block you, then they want to fuck you again... the endless cycle of fab oddness."

I don't know what you mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult sometimes with couples. You can't tell if they're both on the same wavelength. Best thing I've found is if everyone has a username and chats in a group. You kind of have to figure out the vibe for yourself. You can tell if you're being taken for a ride or if they're there to just see pics and chat.

Not everyone treats each other the same. Set some ground rules on how to proceed. Set some mutual expectations and go from there.

It's just one of those things.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

This isn't a couples Vs Singles thread. They are talking about being messed about in general.

You're doing it again.

You don't actually read the entire OP.

Read the WHOLE post as this is what I'm referring to, it was at the bottom:

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

Really? They gave 3 examples. 2 couples let them down and one single guy. You took it as a single guy bashing thread, again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

This isn't a couples Vs Singles thread. They are talking about being messed about in general.

You're doing it again.

You don't actually read the entire OP.

Read the WHOLE post as this is what I'm referring to, it was at the bottom:

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

Really? They gave 3 examples. 2 couples let them down and one single guy. You took it as a single guy bashing thread, again."

Huh??

I commented on the ONLY thing I could comment on.

I can't comment on the other things listed as I'm not a couple am I?...

But you know...carry on...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree. I've mostly had couples talk to me for a few days, then be super rude out of nowhere. Constantly get fake couples where a guy acts for a little while and then just asks for pics over and over, or says that they would like to meet but would want me to meet the guy alone first

urgh. But met a few nice people, had some good chats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've hidden our profile for a while, here's why: the people we've come into contact with haven't behaved that nicely. These are examples:

We give out our details to couples, they start a Kik chat then can't be bothered to contribute. On occasions when there is good chemistry, it ends abruptly with group members leaving.

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

I know nobody owes us anything. Plans change and people change their minds. However, it would be easy to show some basic manners in these situations. I wouldn't treat people this way.

I've had so many great experiences outside of Fab and I've had a really good and varied dating history. Fab hasn't been good and it's because of the way members treat one another.

Rant over."

Nice tittys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

Memories

Shut up...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Really? They gave 3 examples. 2 couples let them down and one single guy. You took it as a single guy bashing thread, again.

Huh??

I commented on the ONLY thing I could comment on.

I can't comment on the other things listed as I'm not a couple am I?...

But you know...carry on...

You managed to comment about couples being the most demanding though.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

Memories

Shut up...

Sorry. Yeah you were saying about the ONLY time.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really? They gave 3 examples. 2 couples let them down and one single guy. You took it as a single guy bashing thread, again.

Huh??

I commented on the ONLY thing I could comment on.

I can't comment on the other things listed as I'm not a couple am I?...

But you know...carry on...

You managed to comment about couples being the most demanding though."

Yes. In SUPPORT of the OP. NOT against....

Jesus fucking christ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

Memories

Shut up...

Sorry. Yeah you were saying about the ONLY time....."

You fucker..

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"If anyone mentions 'taking it onto kik' that's when alarm bells start ringjng

I always use kik. That way i can control who sees my face pic, and in what form. "

Lots of genuine people seem to use kik. It just seems to have a reputation of being the fakes friend, as they can't be thrown off it in the same way as they can on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This frustrates me as I genuinely want to meet a couple but even getting a response from initial contact is nigh on impossible.

I know there's a couple of reasons why couples might not want to meet me (I am honest in my profile, and I get that I have no veris so far so that doesn't help either). But I'd rather be completely honest from the start, saves any confusion down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only meet other couples but have recently changed our preferences to only meeting verified ones. Tired of 'holding hands' on here with the newbies, arranging a meet then they don't show.

We are very patient people, afterall everyone is new at first, but we also have manners. We've had to cancel before but we have always been able to message, apologise and rearrange - no matter what the emergency!

Male, female, couples or newbies - don't care, just please treat others as you wish to be treated

Will&Sara

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

"My ex and I tried a couples profile and I have to say it's harder to organise 4 people who are all attracted to each other. "

This is our experience... We've had more success at clubs or meeting singles... But we persevere in the hope that we'll have better luck with couples in the future... Otoh the chase can be quite fun too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the world of swinging OP ... that's quite often 'just how it is' and unfortunately you have to roll with it at times ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone mentions 'taking it onto kik' that's when alarm bells start ringjng

I always use kik. That way i can control who sees my face pic, and in what form. "

It's great for anonymity. Not so for talking to men who don't want to wank. I have 3 people on my Kik now, and talk to one, have one on Whatsapp and have met the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was a moan about Kik thread

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Be like us, cba, send no messages, don't bother trying to meet = no let downs

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I won't use Kik, so that throws that element out of the equation. If someone goes quiet up to a meet, I stay at home. In this day and age a quick message or text is not difficult, so I just assume they've changed their minds. I may even make alternative arrangements with people who show enthusiasm to meet up, and sack off the people who couldn't be bothered to stay in touch.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I like couples, but they are the most demanding.

The only time I'll go quiet, is when I start to think the whole thing is just one great big fucking fantasy in the mal half's head and she knows little to nothing about it.

I like meeting couples who are both reading from the same page.

This isn't a couples Vs Singles thread. They are talking about being messed about in general.

You're doing it again.

You don't actually read the entire OP.

Read the WHOLE post as this is what I'm referring to, it was at the bottom:

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

Really? They gave 3 examples. 2 couples let them down and one single guy. You took it as a single guy bashing thread, again.

Huh??

I commented on the ONLY thing I could comment on.

I can't comment on the other things listed as I'm not a couple am I?...

But you know...carry on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone mentions 'taking it onto kik' that's when alarm bells start ringjng

I always use kik. That way i can control who sees my face pic, and in what form.

Lots of genuine people seem to use kik. It just seems to have a reputation of being the fakes friend, as they can't be thrown off it in the same way as they can on Fab."

you can block people just as easily on kik..

but I only use it to keep in touch with people I've met already anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't use Kik, so that throws that element out of the equation. If someone goes quiet up to a meet, I stay at home. In this day and age a quick message or text is not difficult, so I just assume they've changed their minds. I may even make alternative arrangements with people who show enthusiasm to meet up, and sack off the people who couldn't be bothered to stay in touch."

I can understand this but it's a fine line. Nobody wants to be the 'backup', but time to meet is precious x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I can understand this but it's a fine line. Nobody wants to be the 'backup', but time to meet is precious x"

I don't use them as back up. If someone comes across as flaky or reluctant, I just say I've changed my mind and meet someone less flaky or reluctant.

Who wants to wait to meet people who don't care about meeting?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We've hidden our profile for a while, here's why: the people we've come into contact with haven't behaved that nicely. These are examples:

We give out our details to couples, they start a Kik chat then can't be bothered to contribute. On occasions when there is good chemistry, it ends abruptly with group members leaving.

We arrange to meet a guy. He texts throughout day saying he's keen then goes quiet, doesn't show or bother to text until a few days later.

I know nobody owes us anything. Plans change and people change their minds. However, it would be easy to show some basic manners in these situations. I wouldn't treat people this way.

I've had so many great experiences outside of Fab and I've had a really good and varied dating history. Fab hasn't been good and it's because of the way members treat one another.

Rant over."

I find the more chit chat the less chance of a meet. Why bother with all if that nonsense, it just takes up time I dont have. Never had problems getting meets ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hate too much chit chat. Talking for two weeks is guaranteed to make us go cold. But we aren't here for the social side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arranging meets on here can be a pain, but minimal conversation, arranging the meet early on and not getting into too much sex talk works for us......

On the other hand some people can chat forever, keeping your hopes up only to mess you around big time....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"People do suffer with blowing hot and cold on here. One minute they want to fuck. Then they want to block you, then they want to fuck you again... the endless cycle of fab oddness."

Life happens and folk don't want to share all the gory details of why they're keen and then can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why the wife and myself mainly play alone, we have a couples profile but when we have fancied a 3some, it's been near on impossible to get a guy to actually turn up, we don't supply any wank fodder material, any guy who wants to talk about what we are going to be doing gets deleted. We've managed to meet just one couple in the time we've had our couples profile, mrs has plenty of attention on her single profile, as for me, well, single guy syndrome for me, do better than most I guess but always room for improvement

I only commit to meets, social or otherwise if I'm 100% sure I can make it. When I say I'll be there, I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab attracts a lot of dreamers and people with half cocked ideas what they want, particularly couples. We don't go looking for couples because getting that to work is hard on a place like this. Three way attraction is difficult in writing but four way even more so.

A lot of couples sign up to this site whilst horny in bed, snap a few pictures and try to get someone to join them. When reality his home and they aren't horny it doesn't seem as appealing and one of them bottles it.

If you want to meet couples you are probably going to find it easier going to a couples night in Portsmouth or bournemouth depending on the party location. We haven't been to these so can't really advise about them but the reviews seem good

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