FabSwingers.com forum: Stop being dicks!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right this is aimed at all the guys who are fucking it up for genuine guys on here. The amount of ladies that have to put in their status about don't abuse if they say no,is ridiculous. A friend has come off this site, down to the abuse she got for saying no thanks! End of the day,we all have the choice,and if it's not you...then move on!! Simple. As an attached man, a lot of my messages get deleted straight away...fair enough,no problem. No need to abuse the person.

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right this is aimed at all the guys who are fucking it up for genuine guys on here. The amount of ladies that have to put in their status about don't abuse if they say no,is ridiculous. A friend has come off this site, down to the abuse she got for saying no thanks! End of the day,we all have the choice,and if it's not you...then move on!! Simple. As an attached man, a lot of my messages get deleted straight away...fair enough,no problem. No need to abuse the person.

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Says it all

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They won't listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a genuine guy op?

How do you know other guys are f'in it up for you? I imagine the a'holes may fuck it up for the people the contact. But why does it mess yours up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a genuine guy op?

How do you know other guys are f'in it up for you? I imagine the a'holes may fuck it up for the people the contact. But why does it mess yours up? "

If anything,the so called non "genuine" folk,must make it easier for the "genuine".

Less (genuine) competition.

The twats are very easy to spot,and very very easy to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I don't approve of abusive behaviour from a selfish point of view I don't have such a problem with guys acting like twats. I think most women know we aren't all the same like I know they aren't and the more guys act like twats the less competition there is for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a genuine guy op?

How do you know other guys are f'in it up for you? I imagine the a'holes may fuck it up for the people the contact. But why does it mess yours up?

If anything,the so called non "genuine" folk,must make it easier for the "genuine".

Less (genuine) competition.

The twats are very easy to spot,and very very easy to block."

This is my point. Yes, I feel sorry for the people who experience the fallout from an abusive message, from another fab member. But shouting about it here is not helping.

The people who respect other people here need to lead as an example. And quit shouting at people when we've done nothing wrong.

I wasn't abusive, but I am a single make here, is this aimed at me because I didn't say I'm genuine?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Although I don't approve of abusive behaviour from a selfish point of view I don't have such a problem with guys acting like twats. I think most women know we aren't all the same like I know they aren't and the more guys act like twats the less competition there is for me."

Posting this OP won't stop men acting like twats. There are quite a few successful men who have no problem regardless of how others behave.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't really see why anyone would leave because someone sent them an abusive mesaage, there is a thing called "block button" and you press it then press report and hey presto the nasty person has gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a certain irony of being told not to be a dick by the man cheating on his wife.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Nobody fucks it up for anyone else.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Posting this OP won't stop men acting like twats. There are quite a few successful men who have no problem regardless of how others behave. "

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I don't mind them, they filter themselves out and I don't judge all men on another's poor behaviour.

Worked for me so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Head over to the white knight forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do get the point you guys are making,in theory it should make it better for the "genuine" ones on here. However talking with friends on here,a lot of them get inundated with messages,a lot abusive,and end up doing a mass delete of messages. So working off that, how many would be decent ones,how many arse holes??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naw

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Are you a genuine guy op?

How do you know other guys are f'in it up for you? I imagine the a'holes may fuck it up for the people the contact. But why does it mess yours up? "

If you look at it one way, the shitsters make the good guys stand out. However not every female can withstand the onslaught before learning about filters & quite a few will leave.

You could argue that they were never really serious about playing but some just don't need the grief . Then some like the OP will say "We never got a chance to find out" ergo being spoilt by others..

I guess, i'm not sure though..

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I could say that you as a cheating man ruins it for all the 'genuine' (hate that word) on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"However talking with friends on here,a lot of them get inundated with messages,a lot abusive,and end up doing a mass delete of messages. So working off that, how many would be decent ones,how many arse holes??

42. A'holes will always be a'holes. You can't change them.

As long as the people who want to keep this place a great site, treat people with respect & not pieces of shit. We can only hope the cocks drift away. (It's not just men that are ass holes either

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I could say that you as a cheating man ruins it for all the 'genuine' (hate that word) on this site."

*people

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By *s.KerryTV/TS
over a year ago

Blackpool

Being rather cynical here but this rather seems like it was a "Look at me I am genuine" type thread from the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the nature of the Internet.

Keyboard trolls can say and do what they want in a virtual world.

However ask yourself would most people talk to strangers on the street like they do to many on here?.. I doubt it very much without a follow up trip to A+E.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Thursday already?

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't approve of any kind of abusive behavior from guys, I really feel for guys who do this cause I know they need training on their game with women.

At the same time please don't assume that it is only guys that do this, chics do this a lot when I say no,chics have done it to my friends too.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Unfortunately those guys probably are genuine and single..

And i would suggest the reason for them being single is due to their attitudes and total lack of respect for others..

I would never dream of sending an abusive message due to a refusal..but then I suppose most people have manners and don't go out of thir way to offend others..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody fucks it up for anyone else. "

this.

Mind you, isn't it nice of the op to take it upon himself to sort the rude guys out.

Lovely.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

no one fucks it up for anyone else. your friend had filters and a block button. use them and no drama!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's Tuesday

Most users don't see the forum, nor the feedback it contains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Operator error on the ladies behalf

The tools are there to prevent any abuse. Say no thanks and then block and/or use filters to search yourself.

I hate to break to you but if believe it's this type of behaviour from other guys that's holding you back......it's not them, it's you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very little abuse. My reply is:

'Thanks so much for the kind message. Sorry attraction not there for me but good luck and best wishes x'

Easy copy and paste job.

99.9999% of the time i get a thanks for the reply.

It's all about an easy let down ladies even if their message is creepy or weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other men are not fucking it up for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say " nice try loser. You really think a princess like me would be interested in a toad like you? Get a grip and aim a little nearer your league".

They all thank me for my honesty and tell me I'm gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get any fuckin messages abusive or otherwise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people who take any of this shite too seriously ought to question whether they are cut out for the reality of internet based contact sites,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get any fuckin messages abusive or otherwise!!

Oh fuck off

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I left before because of one guys screaming abuse. It was the straw that broke the camels back

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I don't really see why anyone would leave because someone sent them an abusive mesaage, there is a thing called "block button" and you press it then press report and hey presto the nasty person has gone

Agreed. Just report the abusive post, block, and delete. Easy peasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

did you ever stop to think OP, that some 'ladies' write any old tripe just so they get some attention...

same goes for some men too imo

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Nobody fucks it up for anyone else.

this.

Mind you, isn't it nice of the op to take it upon himself to sort the rude guys out.

Lovely.

We should be grateful he is being so generous with his time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get any fuckin messages abusive or otherwise!!

do you send any though?

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

"I left before because of one guys screaming abuse. It was the straw that broke the camels back"

How come you didn't just block and forget?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i just block all men from messaging if they piss me off too much.

but if people could stop being dicks that'd be nice. i'm not gonna stop being a dick myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a genuine guy op?

How do you know other guys are f'in it up for you? I imagine the a'holes may fuck it up for the people the contact. But why does it mess yours up?

If anything,the so called non "genuine" folk,must make it easier for the "genuine".

Less (genuine) competition.

The twats are very easy to spot,and very very easy to block.

This is my point. Yes, I feel sorry for the people who experience the fallout from an abusive message, from another fab member. But shouting about it here is not helping.

The people who respect other people here need to lead as an example. And quit shouting at people when we've done nothing wrong.

I wasn't abusive, but I am a single make here, is this aimed at me because I didn't say I'm genuine?

How could it be aimed at you if this is your first post on this thread.I'm not psychic.

Unless of course you and the op are one and the same person

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thanks ladies for being so real, lot's of love to all real ladies on here.

The ladies know how important attention is to some ladies, I don't support any kind of abusive behavior from ladies or guys. At the same time by saying some guys fuck it up for others it's like saying the ladies are doing guys a favor which is far from the truth .

This is an amazing market where we shop for what we like in sexual partners without any strings attached, that's great cause it gives me the opportunity to be direct and have very beautiful women married or single, in the same environment, where else is this possible.

They can have me too or me and my friends at the same time , with no strings attached , this is absolutely amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres a certain irony of being told not to be a dick by the man cheating on his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

But all men are bastards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people who take any of this shite too seriously ought to question whether they are cut out for the reality of internet based contact sites,,,,,

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

But all men are bastards.

and kints.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no need to abuse anyone... Unless they ask nicely of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Other men are not fucking it up for you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eeeeeer perhaps she didn't get my previous 2 messages? Perhaps she missed my message by accident? Have you never heard the saying, "if a camel breaks its back, drag it to the infirmary"? I believe in the chase and I'm chasing women like a cat chases rabbits.

Thanks for the advice though!

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By *aul020269Man
over a year ago

bidford on Avon

So right no means no. It's nice to meet for a drink and if you click all well and good if not just say bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

But all men are bastards.

and kints."

And all the wise bitches are prepared for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not a single other soul has effected my time on here. stop blaming others for your perceived lack of any success on here.

and i don't think folk like the assumption that they need someone to step in and get folk told how to behave..i'm sure your very honourable in your intent op but people aren't idiots, they're very capable of navigating fab on their own without having folk place jackets over every puddle.

concern yourself with YOUR actions on here and don't worry about all the others, you have no control or say whatsoever over other folk on here, only yourself.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

But all men are bastards.

and kints.

And all the wise bitches are prepared for that

i just block them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If everyone just took ownership of their own experiences on here I'm sure there would be less ranting

But all men are bastards.

and kints."

Meaning 'people'? Obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hardly a place for the genuine guy anymore...its truely fucked up big time. Saying that there's some totally messed up women that are ruining it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hardly a place for the genuine guy anymore...its truely fucked up big time. Saying that there's some totally messed up women that are ruining it too."

folk were saying that five years ago, and probably five years before that too (i dunno, i wasn't here then)...the tune never changes 'it's the fault of x and y that i'm not enjoying the site any more....'

folk love to place blame i guess.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Nobody fucks it up for anyone else. "

Totally agree the only person you can fuck things up for is yourself

If people what to behave like idiots then the reflection is on them . The decent ,well mannered eloquent people shine through the dross .So you should just be thankful to the cock wombles as ruling themselves out of any meets and there by making your chances better op .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Although you're intentions I'm sure are good (almost chivalrous) is the real aim of this post to publicise yourself as a "genuine" man?

If you're not a dick, it'll be noted regardless. If anything, it'll be highlighted more as a stark contrast to the others.

So maybe you should thank them maybe because then your "genuine" and nice guy personality should shine through.

I hate these threads lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post made me have a good long think.....I'd just finished typing out an abusive tirade then thought I'd have a look in the forum to see if there was any posts about the negative affect of abusive messages that could maybe change my mind before I hit send.

There wasn't any this time so I sent it anyway.....keep on moaning n getting us told though,someone might heed your words one day

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By *aggersMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Well said op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah the old 'some guys ruin it for all us genuine guys' rant. Whilst I agree with your sentiment OP, and I'm sure your intent with this thread was genuine and well intentioned, like many above have already said my success (or more to the point, lack of..

) on here is down to me and the way I behave and act on here only. The fact that other fellas act like dicks should make it easier for "the good guys" to stand out shouldn't it?

I have a lot of sympathy for those that feel hounded or harassed off the site and accept that not everyone has a strong constitution and are unable to easily ignore abuse, but those that do get upset by such things need to be more filter-savvy and block the twats before they upset them (easier said than done I know)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it this way:

You rummage through the tat and feel jubilant, when you come across someone shiny, like a diamond.

Or, you're staring at a plethora of diamonds, not knowing which one to choose.

A bit of rummaging makes you feel like you won a prize

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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

So fellas...(and no doubt some ladies?)...stop fucking it up for genuine people, and if you can't take the "no thanks". Don't message in the first place!!

Rant over."

Well said.

Some egos just can't handle rejection.and calling a woman names because of her shape or size or preferences is even worse.

Should be kicked off imo xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See the purpose of the "rant" was because of a conversation with said friend who had decided to leave. After talking with 2 other friends on here, who again have had the abusive messages,I decided to use the forum to say.

I made the mistake of bringing "genuine" guys into the post,as many have stated " an attached man stating genuine"!! I was repeating a comment that was said to me.

So anyway, after both good and comments...I still stand by the main point of the post....no need to be abusive if being turned down..simple as that. Some people can handle/deal/ block...where as others decide this is not for them. That's all folks.

Enjoy..have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See the purpose of the "rant" was because of a conversation with said friend who had decided to leave. After talking with 2 other friends on here, who again have had the abusive messages,I decided to use the forum to say.

I made the mistake of bringing "genuine" guys into the post,as many have stated " an attached man stating genuine"!! I was repeating a comment that was said to me.

Enjoy..have fun. "

that's all well and good...but do you now think you've hit your target audience and that this will make the slightest bit of difference to any messages a woman might get or not get? genuinely..do you? because unless you actually do believe this will help people , it just makes it look like your trying to improve your standing by having a go at how the rest of your peer group behaves, the 'white night' thing. coming in being all annoyed at other men..it doesn't usually wash very well in here apart from with a few other guys who think other people are to blame for their time on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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I take what you're saying on board, but is this not the reason we have the forum to air any issues or thoughts we have. If you think that this was to "improve my standing /white Knight "...then you're way off the mark.

Whether it will change the way people message each other...I very much doubt it. As for having a go at my "peers"..again way off the mark..my point was purely aimed at people who feel it's ok to be abusive on here. I'm sorry,but I don't think of those people as my "peers". I get why you might think I'm saying this to gain "points" or whatever... but I think you're missing the point that of my post.

Not getting into arguments at all buddy, just have a different view.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The people who mess people around are not usually the people on the forums. You might hit one or two, but not the majority. And it won't change anyway, because those people are never going to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person who can fuck it up for me, is me. No one else.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"The people who mess people around are not usually the people on the forums. You might hit one or two, but not the majority. And it won't change anyway, because those people are never going to change."

And besides which, the dickheads are part of the reason that I had plenty of meets, when I was meeting.

I raise a glass to you, twats of Fabs.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"I dont get any fuckin messages abusive or otherwise!!

Oh fuck off

That really made me giggle.

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