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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yes, of course. "

Oh hello! *waves* Not seen you for ages, missed you.

(Sorry, complete sidetrack)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Especially as i get older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but my anxiety does...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. I like to focus my attention on whatever I'm doing or experiencing. However processing emotional stuff is probably the main thing that distracts me.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Rules are made to be broken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. I like to focus my attention on whatever I'm doing or experiencing. However processing emotional stuff is probably the main thing that distracts me."

How's Brazil?

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By *ong legs n LingeireWoman
over a year ago

it up to me neck. :-)

Yes. All the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. Kids and work tend to stop any "living in the moment"

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Rules are made to be broken "

If you break your own rules where does that stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. I like to focus my attention on whatever I'm doing or experiencing. However processing emotional stuff is probably the main thing that distracts me.

How's Brazil?"

Just going dark. Been a pleasant day but the travelling was exhausting- 27 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

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no, my anxiety stops that happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, though spontaneous acts aren't always possible.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go.

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

What rules?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go."

Illegal and dangerous sit above the rules as an overarching was of living. Then I have rules and then guidelines.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"What rules? "

Are you able to live in the moment because of the no rules?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go.

Illegal and dangerous sit above the rules as an overarching was of living. Then I have rules and then guidelines. "

Can you give an example of what you'd call a rule and what you'd call a guideline?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go.

Illegal and dangerous sit above the rules as an overarching was of living. Then I have rules and then guidelines.

Can you give an example of what you'd call a rule and what you'd call a guideline?"

Yeah, I would be interested. I mean, don't eat a scorching chilli on a first date is a given, but is it a rule?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

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Responsibilities, yes.

Aren't they just rules we chose rather than had imposed upon us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh yes, of course.

Oh hello! *waves* Not seen you for ages, missed you.

(Sorry, complete sidetrack)"

Hello back to you

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go.

Illegal and dangerous sit above the rules as an overarching was of living. Then I have rules and then guidelines.

Can you give an example of what you'd call a rule and what you'd call a guideline?"

A rule would be to not meet at someone's home until I have known them for some time. A guideline would be to not have sex on a first meet.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

Responsibilities, yes.

Aren't they just rules we chose rather than had imposed upon us?"

It is about those we choose. The imposition of rules is another layer but one that we can't (or have less) control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have rules per se, more guidelines. If its illegal or dangerous then I won't be doing it, but otherwise I'll give it a go.

Illegal and dangerous sit above the rules as an overarching was of living. Then I have rules and then guidelines.

Can you give an example of what you'd call a rule and what you'd call a guideline?

A rule would be to not meet at someone's home until I have known them for some time. A guideline would be to not have sex on a first meet.

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Right. I understand. They'd take me out of the moment

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can't think of a rule that stops me living in the moment? Not sure of your context....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh terribly. Not as much now, but the buggers still get in the way.

I'm trying, but bugger me they little fuckers do like to sneak on me.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I can't think of a rule that stops me living in the moment? Not sure of your context....? "

Any context. I have an oddity about not getting up except on a 'proper' time (5 past is fine, 4 past isn't), for instance. I have worked hard to move this from being a rule to being a guideline. I hope it becomes an irrelevance at some point.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land


"Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

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Oh yes. This happened to me at the weekend

However, it just means it will be another, more eagerly anticipated moment at another time

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do you let your own rules get in the way of you living in the moment?

Oh yes. This happened to me at the weekend

However, it just means it will be another, more eagerly anticipated moment at another time "

I hope it goes with a bang.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Probably, but they are there for a reason

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Probably, but they are there for a reason "

That's what I think too (about most of mine).

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I can't think of a rule that stops me living in the moment? Not sure of your context....?

Any context. I have an oddity about not getting up except on a 'proper' time (5 past is fine, 4 past isn't), for instance. I have worked hard to move this from being a rule to being a guideline. I hope it becomes an irrelevance at some point.

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I'm astonished everyone is saying yes - I can't think of any?

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond


"What rules?

Are you able to live in the moment because of the no rules?

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Always

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It does depend on what I made my 'rule' for

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

For example, my no coffee after 3pm rule allows me the chance to sleep at night

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"For example, my no coffee after 3pm rule allows me the chance to sleep at night "

Even if you want to stay awake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my rules sort of make sense, others don't seem to have any place in a sane mind

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Some of my rules sort of make sense, others don't seem to have any place in a sane mind "

Sane? It's overrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules are made to be broken. I live for the moment as life is too short not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rules are made to be broken. I live for the moment as life is too short not to."

Live life to the full enjoy the adventure do what you want when you want

Be silly

Go crazy

Life is way too short enjoy every ducking moment....

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Rules are made to be broken. I live for the moment as life is too short not to."

I don't think life is too short and living for a long time with the consequences of breaking a rule can be painful, in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My rules are mostly flexible.

Except the one about talking with your mouth full of food. I have a special wall for people who do that and come the revolution the streets will run red.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My rules are mostly flexible.

Except the one about talking with your mouth full of food. I have a special wall for people who do that and come the revolution the streets will run red."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rules are made to be broken. I live for the moment as life is too short not to.

I don't think life is too short and living for a long time with the consequences of breaking a rule can be painful, in my experience.

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Depends obviously. I always take a 'risk assessment' when breaking rules. Life would be so boring if we all lived by the rule book. There wouldn't be many married swinging couples for starters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My rules are mostly flexible.

Except the one about talking with your mouth full of food. I have a special wall for people who do that and come the revolution the streets will run red.

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Misophonia is a bitch

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Rules are made to be broken. I live for the moment as life is too short not to.

I don't think life is too short and living for a long time with the consequences of breaking a rule can be painful, in my experience.

Depends obviously. I always take a 'risk assessment' when breaking rules. Life would be so boring if we all lived by the rule book. There wouldn't be many married swinging couples for starters."

I'm not talking about societal norms (rather than the law) as rules but your own rules.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My rules are mostly flexible.

Except the one about talking with your mouth full of food. I have a special wall for people who do that and come the revolution the streets will run red.

Misophonia is a bitch "

I don't like Miso at all.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Yep...

Until they get broken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of my rules sort of make sense, others don't seem to have any place in a sane mind

Sane? It's overrated.

"

And thank goodness for that

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My important rules probably don't get broken ever but the rest are guidelines. Sure I miss out on some things but I also miss out on poor experiences - hence why I have some rules.

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