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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sick to death of time wasters on here ? right so i message a lady or she messages me we chat on kik or watts App for a while then phone chats then you dont hear nothing from them and they block and ignore you ???? just a polite no thanks would do no halm !!! #justsaying

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Why is it timewasting? You had a chat, she decided against it. Isn't that how you find out if you are suited or not?

OK we would say no thanks to be polite, but if someone decided not to do that it doesn't make them a timewaster...I would say it was nore not polite enough to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just enjoy the flirt the attention the ego boost and the sexual titillation that places like this and the people in it can provide.

They have no intention of meeting anyone and thats ok as its their choice .

But its unfair to not be honest about their intentions I suppose.

But honesty and places like this unfortunately don't always go hand in hand.

It is what it is .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only guys that waste my time are those who don't turn up for an arranged meet...only happened once and I had a Plan B.

Not wanting endless chat, deciding not to take conversations further or blocking without warning doesn't make someone a timewaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes your rite it is what it is but its bad when a meets sorted like after chatting for a couple of weeks then totally ignored !!! frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up "

yes i agree with that but its frustrating when a meets been sorted then you dont hear from them again !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you "

it cost nothing to be polite !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to agree not a time waster just a bit of a pain in the arse for the OP especially if you think things are going well.

I feel your frustration.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only guys that waste my time are those who don't turn up for an arranged meet...only happened once and I had a Plan B.

Not wanting endless chat, deciding not to take conversations further or blocking without warning doesn't make someone a timewaster "

when a meets sorted then you dont hear from them i think its time wasting and rude #justsaying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's not a timewaster, she just decided she wasn't interested in meeting. At least you weren't left waiting somewhere for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only guys that waste my time are those who don't turn up for an arranged meet...only happened once and I had a Plan B.

Not wanting endless chat, deciding not to take conversations further or blocking without warning doesn't make someone a timewaster when a meets sorted then you dont hear from them i think its time wasting and rude #justsaying "

That's not what you originally posted though is it? #backtracking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!"

It doesn't but some women can't say no thanks to the 100s of guys that are messaging, so they usually don't reply or will block you, just take it as a no thanks and move on, no point stressing about it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!"

You're right. In your case, a no thanks maybe should be in order. Hey that's fab swingers for you! Onwards and upwards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!"

It's a swinging site not a politeness site,swingers can be just as rude as everyday folk.It's part of life,I'm sure you come across it every day.

Having a rant isn't going to make folk any less rude,just get yourself unnecessarily agitated.forget about them,move on,stress less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She's not a timewaster, she just decided she wasn't interested in meeting. At least you weren't left waiting somewhere for her."
i call it igronant and time wasting just my opinion but thanks for for comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!

It's a swinging site not a politeness site,swingers can be just as rude as everyday folk.It's part of life,I'm sure you come across it every day.

Having a rant isn't going to make folk any less rude,just get yourself unnecessarily agitated.forget about them,move on,stress less."

yes thanks for for comment happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!

You're right. In your case, a no thanks maybe should be in order. Hey that's fab swingers for you! Onwards and upwards!"

correct happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!

It doesn't but some women can't say no thanks to the 100s of guys that are messaging, so they usually don't reply or will block you, just take it as a no thanks and move on, no point stressing about it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to everybody I think it's just part of swinging

It does not bother me unless they just don't turn up for the meet, only had 2 no shows so not done to bad but it is annoying when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got cancelled on yesterday.

And so did a lady friend of mine aswell.

Happens to everyone mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not the first to say it op. I do t think you'll be the last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snores,,, goes back to bed ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happens to everybody I think it's just part of swinging

It does not bother me unless they just don't turn up for the meet, only had 2 no shows so not done to bad but it is annoying when it happens"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got cancelled on yesterday.

And so did a lady friend of mine aswell.

Happens to everyone mate."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your not the first to say it op. I do t think you'll be the last. "
cheers matey !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes your rite it is what it is but its bad when a meets sorted like after chatting for a couple of weeks then totally ignored !!! frustrating "

Agree, it's totally fucking rude and ignorant. I get sick to death of people sticking up for those that have no manners. It's NOT ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up yes i agree with that but its frustrating when a meets been sorted then you dont hear from them again !! "

If a meet was sorted and she doesn't reply after that then yes she's a time waster.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!"

Suck it up fella, starting a thread moaning about it will only serve to make you look well like a moaner with some..

It happens, move on to pastures new..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yaaaawwns*

I thought this was a thread about time wasters fs! Och well back tae my scratcher.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up yes i agree with that but its frustrating when a meets been sorted then you dont hear from them again !!

If a meet was sorted and she doesn't reply after that then yes she's a time waster. "

yes cheers ar least your reading what ive put some clearly aint !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you it cost nothing to be polite !!

It doesn't but some women can't say no thanks to the 100s of guys that are messaging, so they usually don't reply or will block you, just take it as a no thanks and move on, no point stressing about it."

#readtheFAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would it not have been a waste of both your time to continue chatting if one or other had decided it wasn't going to progress?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yaaaawwns*

I thought this was a thread about time wasters fs! Och well back tae my scratcher. "

yawn indeed !

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"

#readtheFAQs"

To be fair he isn't talking about not getting a reply to a mail, he is talking about having a chat with someone for a while and they don't bother saying thanks for the chat but a meet won't be happening etc etc

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

She may speak again in the future .....she may well have a busy work and family life .... not all people have time to be on fab as much aa orhers .... im sure your not the only friend she has made on here .... chin up ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would it not have been a waste of both your time to continue chatting if one or other had decided it wasn't going to progress? "
i didnt get chance to find that out as we arranged a meet on the thursday to meet saturday then didnt hear from her again all iam trying to get across is a polite no would of been nice thats all thats just one of a few if its not time wasting then i guess i should not of even put a post up lol iam over it for sure but my point it is dont lead some one up the garden path and just ignore them !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up yes i agree with that but its frustrating when a meets been sorted then you dont hear from them again !!

If a meet was sorted and she doesn't reply after that then yes she's a time waster. yes cheers ar least your reading what ive put some clearly aint !! "

People tend to rant and not read. Don't take it personally, the ranters are all just hyped up with sexual frustration.. it makes them squint and the words look jumbled.

Hope you feel better for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She may speak again in the future .....she may well have a busy work and family life .... not all people have time to be on fab as much aa orhers .... im sure your not the only friend she has made on here .... chin up ... "
cheers thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't call that time wasting

Time wasting is if you agree to meet someone and they fail to show up yes i agree with that but its frustrating when a meets been sorted then you dont hear from them again !!

If a meet was sorted and she doesn't reply after that then yes she's a time waster. yes cheers ar least your reading what ive put some clearly aint !!

People tend to rant and not read. Don't take it personally, the ranters are all just hyped up with sexual frustration.. it makes them squint and the words look jumbled.

Hope you feel better for sharing. "

yes some of the comments have been positive thankyou x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

#readtheFAQs

To be fair he isn't talking about not getting a reply to a mail, he is talking about having a chat with someone for a while and they don't bother saying thanks for the chat but a meet won't be happening etc etc"

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Have to agree with OP. It is rude. She could've just text and said she'd changed her mind. When you've been chatting a while then arrange a meet it's rather different to ignoring someone on here. I've got a policy now - one chance only. Doesn't matter what the excuse is, if they let me down they're blocked. My time is precious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have to agree with OP. It is rude. She could've just text and said she'd changed her mind. When you've been chatting a while then arrange a meet it's rather different to ignoring someone on here. I've got a policy now - one chance only. Doesn't matter what the excuse is, if they let me down they're blocked. My time is precious "
thankyou exactly thats my point you answered just what i was thinking at the time !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you "

This exactly. Obviously you weren't for her, possibley said something on the phone that's made her mind up. It would be great if everyone said a polite no thanks but not for me, however alot on here can't handle rejection, may get abusive or start a thread calling people timewastets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#notatimewaster

Changed her mind

And in an ideal world she would have told you

This exactly. Obviously you weren't for her, possibley said something on the phone that's made her mind up. It would be great if everyone said a polite no thanks but not for me, however alot on here can't handle rejection, may get abusive or start a thread calling people timewastets. "

lol maybe yes

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

We have a system where we send confirmation texts on the day to confirm the meet. If we don't hear anything, even if we've seen then online here, but no message, then we assume the meet is off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's not a timewaster, she just decided she wasn't interested in meeting. At least you weren't left waiting somewhere for her. i call it igronant and time wasting just my opinion but thanks for for comment "

Well in that case im ignorant and a timewaster too because i dont always answer messeges of guys im not interested in. However i am following the sites rules lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a system where we send confirmation texts on the day to confirm the meet. If we don't hear anything, even if we've seen then online here, but no message, then we assume the meet is off."

Then they message you late at night or next day saying....

What happened to you guys though we was meeting tonight/last night ?

Hilarious NOT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How refreshing, a thread moaning about timewasters #justsayin

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She's not a timewaster, she just decided she wasn't interested in meeting. At least you weren't left waiting somewhere for her. i call it igronant and time wasting just my opinion but thanks for for comment

Well in that case im ignorant and a timewaster too because i dont always answer messeges of guys im not interested in. However i am following the sites rules lol"

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"We have a system where we send confirmation texts on the day to confirm the meet. If we don't hear anything, even if we've seen then online here, but no message, then we assume the meet is off.

Then they message you late at night or next day saying....

What happened to you guys though we was meeting tonight/last night ?

Hilarious NOT "

We always make this known to our meets and haven't had a timewaster. Sometimes, our meets are the first to message us on the day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a system where we send confirmation texts on the day to confirm the meet. If we don't hear anything, even if we've seen then online here, but no message, then we assume the meet is off.

Then they message you late at night or next day saying....

What happened to you guys though we was meeting tonight/last night ?

Hilarious NOT

We always make this known to our meets and haven't had a timewaster. Sometimes, our meets are the first to message us on the day!"

Dont you get the ones who vanish on the day with no contact to then re emerge another day as if everything is ok and ask if you are still on for a future meet?

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"We have a system where we send confirmation texts on the day to confirm the meet. If we don't hear anything, even if we've seen then online here, but no message, then we assume the meet is off.

Then they message you late at night or next day saying....

What happened to you guys though we was meeting tonight/last night ?

Hilarious NOT

We always make this known to our meets and haven't had a timewaster. Sometimes, our meets are the first to message us on the day!

Dont you get the ones who vanish on the day with no contact to then re emerge another day as if everything is ok and ask if you are still on for a future meet? "

No, not yet. We're very picky with our selection process I guess. We either go months before we decide to meet someon, or it's a repeat meet.The only no show we had was a lady, who texted saying she had car trouble 10 minutes before the meet and then couldn't make it. However, partner was pretty sure that he saw her walk through the bar. Hey ho, we were at the hotel anyway on business, so wasn't wasting our time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sick to death of time wasters on here ? right so i message a lady or she messages me we chat on kik or watts App for a while then phone chats then you dont hear nothing from them and they block and ignore you ???? just a polite no thanks would do no halm !!! #justsaying"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sick to death of time wasters on here ? right so i message a lady or she messages me we chat on kik or watts App for a while then phone chats then you dont hear nothing from them and they block and ignore you ???? just a polite no thanks would do no halm !!! #justsaying

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yawnnnnnnnn !!!

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