FabSwingers.com forum: New profiles that come and go

By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?"

Yes it happens so much... Which join-to-delete window do you find irritating? Two months? Two weeks, two days? Two hours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe the idea of it all excites them but they have no guts or theirvsituation means they can't actually meet.

Im not sure why they come back and speak to the same people though?!

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

We seem to get alot of the two day and two hour ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?"

We like the ones that join, arrange to meet, go UNLOS then return a week later and ask for another meet.... short term memory loss possibly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attention seekers

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"I think maybe the idea of it all excites them but they have no guts or theirvsituation means they can't actually meet.

Im not sure why they come back and speak to the same people though?!"

Exactly what we think, we had one guy do it with about six profiles.

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By *ackdaniels2016Man
over a year ago

Yarm

Even worse when you arrange a meet and then the profiles disappears

that's happened to me a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I get a message from someone whose profile says "back again" I always ask why they left and why they came back.

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?

We like the ones that join, arrange to meet, go UNLOS then return a week later and ask for another meet.... short term memory loss possibly?"

Had that as well lol

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"Even worse when you arrange a meet and then the profiles disappears

that's happened to me a few times "

Now that is annoying

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"Whenever I get a message from someone whose profile says "back again" I always ask why they left and why they came back.

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah maybe they're implulse UNLOSes, had a bad day, not getting any joy, maybe had a bottle of wine, had a 'fuck this' moment and UNLOSed only to wake up the next morning thinking 'arse, what did I do that for!?' ... it happens!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think it happens a lot, it's the dreamers and the picture hunters who hope to get on our friends list. They usual disappear when we say we have to meet first.

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By *ackdaniels2016Man
over a year ago

Yarm

"Even worse when you arrange a meet and then the profiles disappears

that's happened to me a few times

Now that is annoying"

Very annoying !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah maybe they're implulse UNLOSes, had a bad day, not getting any joy, maybe had a bottle of wine, had a 'fuck this' moment and UNLOSed only to wake up the next morning thinking 'arse, what did I do that for!?' ... it happens!

That used to be me when I had PMT!

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"Think it happens a lot, it's the dreamers and the picture hunters who hope to get on our friends list. They usual disappear when we say we have to meet first."

That sounds like a plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it"

Exactly. The general consensus is they got fed up and deleted but the lure of possible NSA sex was too much and they came back. I always ask why they expect it to be different a second time around but no one ever has an answer for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I get a message from someone whose profile says "back again" I always ask why they left and why they came back.

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it"

Because it's harmless and doesn't affect anyone, anyhow and in any way, shape or form

We come and go as we please. Why? Because we can and we do and it hurts no one at all.

God, if we listed everything that annoyed us on here there wouldn't be room for reply lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?"

don't see the problem fab is and can be very a negative place due to the fact whether you like it or not there are some right nut jobs on here who stalk and do far worse .

so people have to take a brake from the negative experience brought on by the behaviour of others and if its a stalker best to come back under a different alias to try and avoid being spotted by all those who turn fab into a negative experience in the first place .

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it

i can give you the answer to that

normal human beings blame themselves when they have a negative experience they think its something they did to bring it on themselves and being on fab does nothing to change or alter that normal thought process.

so when fab turns into a negative experience due to the lies and actions of those people we interact with .

the tendency is to look at ones self and feel negative about oneself and blame ones own actions for the negative feelings and negative results .

so some people leave then after a while the negative feeling dissipate enough and people start thinking if i do this and this with this differently maybe i can stop the kind of behaviour in others that lead me to end up feeling negative about myself and fab in general .

when this happen said people return in the hope that by modifying there behaviour things will be different second time around .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno?

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By *he-Dirty-Duo OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

"Whenever I get a message from someone whose profile says "back again" I always ask why they left and why they came back.

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it

Because it's harmless and doesn't affect anyone, anyhow and in any way, shape or form

We come and go as we please. Why? Because we can and we do and it hurts no one at all.

God, if we listed everything that annoyed us on here there wouldn't be room for reply lol "

It's just a bit annoying when you agree to met with them after chatting then they disappear, everyone has the right to come and go as they please but don't agree to things and mess genuine people about then delete your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is with people that create a profile chat for a while then leave, then come back with another profile then chat then leave again??

Is it just us or does anyone get this?"

I was just wondering the exact same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I get a message from someone whose profile says "back again" I always ask why they left and why they came back.

If they want a break why not just hide their profile instead of deleting it

Because it's harmless and doesn't affect anyone, anyhow and in any way, shape or form

We come and go as we please. Why? Because we can and we do and it hurts no one at all.

God, if we listed everything that annoyed us on here there wouldn't be room for reply lol

We've never done such a thing and never would, but can see how that would be annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons. "

We also realise this, but it's the repeat offenders who arrange meets with us then disappear and re-appear over and over that we don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some only want something to wank over and done want any evidence left.

Don't give them wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons.

We also realise this, but it's the repeat offenders who arrange meets with us then disappear and re-appear over and over that we don't understand."

Well why don't you just ignore these repeat offenders?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a regular troll who does this at least once a week. Always blocked and reported, but still he returns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why there should be a nominal membership fee, say £20, to use the site. Let them set up as many times as they want, it'll soon cost them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave and rejoin a lot. Usually I leave when fab starts to annoy me, I try hiding my profile but I still find myself logging in when bored so deleting the profile is the only way to guarantee a break.

I rejoin because there's a few people that I miss talking to and fab always seems better for the first couple of months.. Its a never ending cycle.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We have a couple of profiles in our updates ,that leave and rehoin every few days,they do our head in so we block as soon as we see them lol.

Miss

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

We have been winked & messaged by the same local guy on at least 5 different occasions - each time it is a different profile but the same pic.

We just add to him to the block list and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons.

We also realise this, but it's the repeat offenders who arrange meets with us then disappear and re-appear over and over that we don't understand."

Some are swing-curious, kind of would like to try it, but bottle it, if the fantasy has any chance of becoming real.

Other 'couples' haven't actually remembered to tell their partner they are getting into swinging.

Still more have to delete and purge because their partner wanted to borrow their computer.

Then of course you have the fake profiles, pics 20 years old, or not even them, wanted interaction, but know they can't actually be seen by anyone.

We spoke to all the above from our couples profile. None became timewasters, they either were never free to meet, or cancelled and vanished early on.

All part of the joy of the internet, then you have the catch 22 of verified meets only.

it's a weird old world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons.

We also realise this, but it's the repeat offenders who arrange meets with us then disappear and re-appear over and over that we don't understand.

Well why don't you just ignore these repeat offenders?"

We do ignore them and block

but would love to know what they are getting out of doing it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think maybe the idea of it all excites them but they have no guts or theirvsituation means they can't actually meet.

Im not sure why they come back and speak to the same people though?!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some leave because it isn't what they expected for lots of different reasons.

We also realise this, but it's the repeat offenders who arrange meets with us then disappear and re-appear over and over that we don't understand.

Well why don't you just ignore these repeat offenders?

We do ignore them and block

but would love to know what they are getting out of doing it?"

Im afraid only they will know the answer to that? And I doubt they would post it on here?

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