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vanilla = normal = vanilla ???????

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By *eeside OP   Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Wots rong with just saying normal ???

I just don't get it.

Y use a spice name to describe sumthing as normal ???

It just don't make sence.

Wots your thorts on it

This is NOT a debate its just a quesjon.

And to those hoo use vanilla as the word normal.... Y make things confusing ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was honestly hoping this was going to be about Ice Cream mate

But yeah I get your point

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't like the word vanilla used to describe people with different ways of enjoying sex to anyone else. It seems a bit exclusive to me. I don't know why we need to differentiate really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla is supposed to mean bland, as opposed to Neapolitan or mint choc chip.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I guess it's from ice cream. Vanilla is the regular one, other exotic ones are available....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because everyone's version of normal is different and how would somebody feel if they were told they weren't normal because of their sexual likes.

Vanilla is nice, vanilla is one of the most popular flavours and is a great Base for adding a few extra sprinkles

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Vanilla is supposed to mean bland, as opposed to Neapolitan or mint choc chip.

"

I love Neapolitan mmmmmm, although there are much better flavours around!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because vanilla is the base level so to speak.

Normal is relative.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't use the word vanilla,it seems it's a bad thing when someone does or that you're dull. It's like ooh look at me I'm kinky and I belong to some superior group and you vanilla peoples can just go and do your missionary position stuff and don't darken my door

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I think it's because vanilla is the base level so to speak.

Normal is relative."

So is 'vanilla'. We might call a non swinging party vanilla. Hardcore bdsm people might call a swingers party 'vanilla'.

It's just a handy phrase, useful if the people are into the same kind of things as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's because vanilla is the base level so to speak.

Normal is relative.

So is 'vanilla'. We might call a non swinging party vanilla. Hardcore bdsm people might call a swingers party 'vanilla'.

It's just a handy phrase, useful if the people are into the same kind of things as you."

Yeah, I suppose you're right. Vanilla is often described as somewhat conventional without any aspect of kink or fetishism. But again, it's all relative

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I don't use the word vanilla,it seems it's a bad thing when someone does or that you're dull. It's like ooh look at me I'm kinky and I belong to some superior group and you vanilla peoples can just go and do your missionary position stuff and don't darken my door "

We do, but not in a snooty way. If we were talking to a swinger friend we might say we were going to a Vanilla Party, so they didn't think we were going to a swinging party.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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when you use words like normal that can kind of imply anything outside of that is abnormal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit of a tutti-frutti girl myself

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Normal is a judgemental word.

Vanilla is just another flavour.

It may be standard, bland, most popular or default

If I want a different flavour, that is just my choice, not being abnormal. If I want a two scoops of different flavours and a flake, I'm greedy, not wrong

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"Normal is a judgemental word.

Vanilla is just another flavour.

It may be standard, bland, most popular or default

If I want a different flavour, that is just my choice, not being abnormal. If I want a two scoops of different flavours and a flake, I'm greedy, not wrong "

This

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Language changes and social groups develop their own languages. I wouldn't choose it but it's widely known and reinventing the wheel isn't happening. Normal has undertones that are unpleasant too, so I avoid it

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