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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

Dunno how you could....but I'm not married

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Sometimes you don't. I was seeing someone for a couple of months before he told me that he was married. I didn't have a clue.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i couldn't tell either. was meeting a guy a few times a week and he had a mrs. it was only when i got to know him and he mentioned her that i found out.

another was a guy i was seeing regular and he asked me to be in a relationship, so i was even less suspicious. turned out he had a girlfriend already as well.

i have noticed they tend to want more regular meets than unattached guys so can't really see any downside to them (apart from your own moral compass).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

"

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Maybe he had a sick mum????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

Wooo block caps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

But Caps Lock escapes you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

Ok don't shout.

So you don't know..you're assuming.

Could have been something tragic for all you know, could have been anything.

He might NOT have been married, you just think he was because that's the only that makes sense in your head, that's understandable, seeing as you don't actually know who was on the other end of the phone....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

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By *unlover101Woman
over a year ago

Herts

I was seeing a guy once for 3 months... he was with me nearly every night. I found out he was married when his wife turned up at mine in his car. Needless to say we were both shocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

But Caps Lock escapes you?"

No. However politeness clearly evades you.... I haven't posted to have an argument. I haven't been disrespectful or named and shamed. So therefore show a little respect and either jog on or add something valid to the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."

I quite agree. I'm not here to judge. However I'm not here to be lied to either. We're all adults. There's something for everyone, so let's just just be upfront and allow people the respect of making informed decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

Take it your not interested in married men then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm My wife is out of the country for 6 or 12 weeks at a time.

We have a 4 bedroom home, so could hide all woman stuff in one of them.

I don't wear any rings.

Everyone who knows me including my wife knows I probably forgot to take my mobile out.

Don't know how you would know, unless I told you... Oh yes the cat... She would grass me up for a dreamie everytime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying?? "

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Take it your not interested in married men then?"

Im more interested in making informed decisions, not judging

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

So you don't know for sure just making a wild guess and a thread about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down. "

Who paid for the drinks?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

You'll never know what the message was. Don't or it bother you and move onto the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

But Caps Lock escapes you?

No. However politeness clearly evades you.... I haven't posted to have an argument. I haven't been disrespectful or named and shamed. So therefore show a little respect and either jog on or add something valid to the thread. "

But you did shout when asked a question. That's pretty rude and disrespectful but never mind. Your thread, your rules. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down.

Who paid for the drinks?"

He paid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How funny Choo, your making a simple statement and the forumites are using view points to spark a reaction, it's obviously working.

However you've made a very good point! Some people just need to get a grip lol

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"How funny Choo, your making a simple statement and the forumites are using view points to spark a reaction, it's obviously working.

However you've made a very good point! Some people just need to get a grip lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down.

Who paid for the drinks?

He paid. "

Result then

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."

Absolutely agree with you. People have their own reasons as to why they are on this site married or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

"

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Is it when they go offline for half an hour to do their duty?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes."

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background "

Yes haha! Or another classic - there's floral bedding with two bedside cabinets his and clearly hers lol

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By *layloverMan
over a year ago

leeds

Could have been the old give me a ring in 20 minutes trick, see how its going? Cant imagine because you look lovely.

With regards to married or not, byron says that mistresses are adored and worshipped where as wives are made slaves of...which would you rather be?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

Yes haha! Or another classic - there's floral bedding with two bedside cabinets his and clearly hers lol"

Not always. We met a guy a couple of times, most definitely single. However I questioned him before we met because he sent pictures with floral bedding and pink accessories. Turns out he was renting a room in a friend's house.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Could have been the old give me a ring in 20 minutes trick, see how its going? Cant imagine because you look lovely.

With regards to married or not, byron says that mistresses are adored and worshipped where as wives are made slaves of...which would you rather be?"

Byron died in 1824, times have changed a bit since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

Yes haha! Or another classic - there's floral bedding with two bedside cabinets his and clearly hers lol"

Dont go giving the game away, they will do pics in hotel rooms in future

I think a married cheating person in their home town may get obvious, ducking under tables when the neighbors walk in etc. but away from home probably no real clues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background "

They could be his daughters tampax.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

They could be his daughters tampax."

Or maybe he's prone to nose bleeds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

They could be his daughters tampax."

It's the hairgrips you need to look for

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards"

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying?? "

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By *layloverMan
over a year ago

leeds

Haha did you have to google that. The theory has aged accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually except a sexy pose in a shower any photos taken in the bathroom are a bit suspect...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards"

Who let women in this club anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers "

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Haha did you have to google that. The theory has aged accordingly."

Yes, I did have to Google it. I'm rubbish at remembering dates like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hotel pictures! Hiuuuuuge giveaway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha did you have to google that. The theory has aged accordingly.

Yes, I did have to Google it. I'm rubbish at remembering dates like that."

See my goldfish thread

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go"

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The hotel pictures! Hiuuuuuge giveaway!"

That they've been to a hotel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could have been the old give me a ring in 20 minutes trick, see how its going? Cant imagine because you look lovely.

With regards to married or not, byron says that mistresses are adored and worshipped where as wives are made slaves of...which would you rather be?"

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The hotel pictures! Hiuuuuuge giveaway!

That they've been to a hotel?"

I have all my sex with married men in hotels, no time for photos mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The hotel pictures! Hiuuuuuge giveaway!

That they've been to a hotel?

I have all my sex with married men in hotels, no time for photos mind. "

I've been in many many hotels and not had sex in most of them.

I did order the porn channel once but the sound didn't work. They sent someone round to investigate

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The hotel pictures! Hiuuuuuge giveaway!

That they've been to a hotel?

I have all my sex with married men in hotels, no time for photos mind.

I've been in many many hotels and not had sex in most of them.

I did order the porn channel once but the sound didn't work. They sent someone round to investigate "

I would have had the most fun making up my own dialect

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Haha did you have to google that. The theory has aged accordingly.

Yes, I did have to Google it. I'm rubbish at remembering dates like that.

See my goldfish thread"

I did but I can't for the life of me remember what it said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up...."

The site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site"

You off back to vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?"

T minus 24 days and counting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting"

You'll have forgot by then

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting"

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles "

Not keen on vanilla myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles "

You are on my hotlist young lady i will pm you why im leaving at a later date if you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up...."

Like that ever really happens.....emphasis on the word really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it when they go offline for half an hour to do their duty? "

Is that a polite way of saying a visit to the toilet??

And where's my bloody cake!!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People who have perfected their techniques of deception will often be very hard to spot. They're professional - perhaps that's the meaning in profiles? - at lies and covering their tracks. Your own experience is the best bet but this probably means you have to have had their games played on you.

Use logic more than emotion to spot what's wrong.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles

You are on my hotlist young lady i will pm you why im leaving at a later date if you like"

Oh

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I just ask now. Most answer yes when asked directly.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

Like that ever really happens.....emphasis on the word really."

Are we talking on fab or at the door?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Is it when they go offline for half an hour to do their duty?

Is that a polite way of saying a visit to the toilet??

And where's my bloody cake!!! "

No I mean to fuck their wife.

I ate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Lickety said, ask and hope they are truthful.

I arranged to meet someone and he went silent on me, on the morning we were meeting.

I later found out he was married and his wife had returned home. If we had planned to meet earlier she would have walked in on us. Although, I might have realised he was living with a woman, when I got to his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles

You are on my hotlist young lady i will pm you why im leaving at a later date if you like"

Are you getting married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be hundreds of people on here cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

The site

You off back to vanilla?

T minus 24 days and counting

Vanilla is nice, but you need sauce and sprinkles

You are on my hotlist young lady i will pm you why im leaving at a later date if you like

Are you getting married?"

Im daft but not that bloody daft!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to worry OP, if we were to ever meet for sex my wife will be the one taking your knickers off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what did he actually say after this text.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"J

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME"

Clearly you didn't.....and no need to shout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There must be hundreds of people on here cheating "

Most definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was seeing a guy once for 3 months... he was with me nearly every night. I found out he was married when his wife turned up at mine in his car. Needless to say we were both shocked."

Please say it ended in a threesome?

TSH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it into all your thick heads...all men are bastards

All of them, every single one.

Be gone stinkers

I love the lounge,i'll be sad when i go

Your lounge or this one.

Don't feel the need to go, unless your wife turns up....

Like that ever really happens.....emphasis on the word really.

Are we talking on fab or at the door? "

Both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them.

I quite agree. I'm not here to judge. However I'm not here to be lied to either. We're all adults. There's something for everyone, so let's just just be upfront and allow people the respect of making informed decisions. "

This is the key for me. Let people make up their own minds but give them all the relevant information to be able to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There must be hundreds of people on here cheating "

More like thousands I'd say but then it depends if you want to get 'technical' about what would or should be considered cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

"

although my ex loved sex he actually emotionally cheated on me and that was what pissed me off.

if he had just fucked someone i'd have been ok with that, not ok as in happy but i'd have got over that. as it was he emotionally neglected me for someone else so i fucked him off.

women can get sex easier than men so it's not that big a deal if i'm cheated on sexually. i will just fuck more people than he did and feel satisfied i did a better job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just fuck them, I make love to you".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

So you don't know for sure just making a wild guess and a thread about it "

Lots of guys jumping to his defence rather vociferously..... women have instincts which we don't know about. And why is he being defended? Guilt complex by proxy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab its a world that's not real to some people..... Its like a escape and so some pick to be different then in real life . You live and you learn here and I have over the years . lol Its hard to trust, But how can you when you really don't know who they are . Some you never really know them no matter how much you mail and see each other that takes time and years . People can be who ever here its the Net a web site.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

From experience we would say a clear majority of allegedly single men on here have a female partner of some sort, even if they don't live with them. Genuinely single guys are very rare.

We had one guy once who was a personal trainer happy to accommodate at his home as his girlfriend didn't live with him but refused to meet us first in a pub in case someone saw him. We pointed out that as we were quite a bit older than him anyone who saw him and us was likely to think we were potential clients rather than a sex date. He still wouldn't meet outside his home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

So you don't know for sure just making a wild guess and a thread about it

Lots of guys jumping to his defence rather vociferously..... women have instincts which we don't know about. And why is he being defended? Guilt complex by proxy?"

I knows a discworld geek when I sees one. Angua would so get it, amirite?

TSH

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here. "

Are you cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."

Define relationship.

I personally think they should be upfront even if meeting for a social. You should be allowed a choice of whether or not you want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here. "

Because its NSA an unknowing partner is a HUGE string.

Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However, OP, don't be too hard on yourself. I don't think it's easy to spot via messaging and a social!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here. "
I know people who are very happy at home and on here ... You don't have to be unhappy at home . Some just like playing away.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Are you cheating?"

The simple answer is yes the long answer not really, pm for long answer

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."

They are free to play...be honest about it, then others can choose to meet or not.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them.

Define relationship.

I personally think they should be upfront even if meeting for a social. You should be allowed a choice of whether or not you want to meet them. "

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Since my circumstances have changed and I can no longer do daytimes, I don't get half as many attached men contacting me and when they do and I say I can't do daytimes they soon loose interest

So my advice don't do daytime meets

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

"

Its more likely other women protected her during pregnancy.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

Its more likely other women protected her during pregnancy."

not from dinosaurs though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

Its more likely other women protected her during pregnancy."

Interestingly studies find that women who are pregnant (or on the pill) rate men with softer more feminine features attractive than when they are not pregnant where they rate more masculine men attractive

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be. "

I think you'll find thats wildly out of touch with current generations thinking.

Being single/causual short term relatio ships is very common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

Its more likely other women protected her during pregnancy.

Interestingly studies find that women who are pregnant (or on the pill) rate men with softer more feminine features attractive than when they are not pregnant where they rate more masculine men attractive"

And when they are on their period they find a man with a fork in his eye the most attractive.

TSH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be. "

Is this the same for women too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be. "

Why are people so quick to jump to the conclusion that single people are non-voluntarily undetached!? Great if you're happily with someone, but single and casual is perfect for me and many others.

I don't have to share my Jaffa Cakes with anyone

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later. "

So the same as say somone with a job?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

So the same as say somone with a job?"

Or a life? Or children?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later. "

the guy who wanted a relationship with me, but was living with his already gf, was texting me constantly all day and night. like we were having proper conversations. so not always.

felt sorry for his gf, he must have been ignoring her for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

So the same as say somone with a job?"

Or kids

Or just a life outside of fab in general

Nobody told me in had to reply to all messages straight away or met when it suits the other person otherwise I'm married

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?"

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

I am making wild generalisations here of course and our experience could be completely unrepresentative my unscientific estimate would break down guys. Playing alone as follows

Attached and tells play partners but life partner doesn't know they play 40%

Attached but doesn't tell play partner and life partner doesn't know they play 30%

Unattached non voluntarily (i.e. Would like a life partner) 15%

Unattached voluntarily (i.e. Doesn't want a life partner) 10%

Attached and both he and life partner play separately with each others knowledge and consent 4%

Attached and he plays with partners knowledge and consent and she doesn't 1%

Completely unscientific as I say but based on 12 years experience of playing with guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

"

Youre kidding right?

Theres a reason that women outnumver men on dating sites

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

Youre kidding right?

Theres a reason that women outnumver men on dating sites"

Ah but how many of those women actually want to date and not just fuck I think you'd be surprised for how many it's the latter

Why do you think some guys like using POF more than fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a dating site now?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

So the same as say somone with a job?"

It's by no means definitive, but you may notice them being unavailable at certain times that would coincide with 'family activities'. EG School run times, Evenings maybe 4 to 7.

It can be noticeable if someone presents themselves as say single with no ties but their availability doesn't really correlate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this a dating site now? "

Yeah, you buying me lunch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

Youre kidding right?

Theres a reason that women outnumver men on dating sites

Ah but how many of those women actually want to date and not just fuck I think you'd be surprised for how many it's the latter

Why do you think some guys like using POF more than fab? "

They like it cause the ratios are less skewed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

So the same as say somone with a job?

It's by no means definitive, but you may notice them being unavailable at certain times that would coincide with 'family activities'. EG School run times, Evenings maybe 4 to 7.

It can be noticeable if someone presents themselves as say single with no ties but their availability doesn't really correlate."

Hang on I really don't want to come over as just picking fault here but are you saying single people don't have family activities or do school runs? Being single means just that it does not mean they have no family or a life

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

Youre kidding right?

Theres a reason that women outnumver men on dating sites"

Actually that's not the case. . The stats are these. Percentage of males first

Okc 53 47

Pof 55 45

E harmony 47 53

Match 49 51

(i have a link for the source but not allowed to post it I believe)

So pretty much 50 50 with women Tending to go for the more vanilla sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enpugh what you think the stats are for here.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"So how can you tell? Patterns. The can only meet at certain times, quite often lots of advance planning. You might also notice there will be times that they cannot be contacted or you won't get a reply until much later.

So the same as say somone with a job?

It's by no means definitive, but you may notice them being unavailable at certain times that would coincide with 'family activities'. EG School run times, Evenings maybe 4 to 7.

It can be noticeable if someone presents themselves as say single with no ties but their availability doesn't really correlate.

Hang on I really don't want to come over as just picking fault here but are you saying single people don't have family activities or do school runs? Being single means just that it does not mean they have no family or a life "

I said it's by no means definitive, but it MAY show a difference between what someone actually says they are and what their availability is. As a broad rule, I've noticed that people with partners and/or have a more regimented timetable. I said nothing about single people not having families or a life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Because its NSA an unknowing partner is a HUGE string.

Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair"

Or ring you at 2am screaming down the phone....and phone you repeatedly for weeks afterwards and send nasty text messages from their mates phones so you can't block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the old classic, men are more capable of having emotionless sex. Not to say women can't. If a guy's cheating it's because he's horny, if a womans cheating there's usually something lacking in her relationship, or she's a slutty slut.

Probabably goes back to caveman days where once a woman was pregnant she'd be more vulnerable to dinosaur attacks so would want to hold onto her fiercesome caveman to protect her during pregnancy.

TSH

Its more likely other women protected her during pregnancy.

not from dinosaurs though. "
. Actually, humans and dinosaurs never existed at the same time.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Fair enpugh what you think the stats are for here."

Fabs could tell us but. I scientifically I would say

Men 70%

Couples 25%

Women 5%

Actually that might underestimate the number of men as it would mean there are only two and a bit men for each couple or woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello everyone what an interesting discussion

Firstly to the lovely lady who started the thread the man is a fool and you look and sound fabulous

To other sweeping statement posts I appreciate that this is a forum and views and opinions are welcomed and are never wrong because opinion is not fact

Being a single parent and business owner leaves me with limited time answering to the needs of my family doesn't make me a liar just someone trying to do their best

Happy fabbing everyone emphasis on the happy especially you sprinkles'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fair enpugh what you think the stats are for here.

Fabs could tell us but. I scientifically I would say

Men 70%

Couples 25%

Women 5%

Actually that might underestimate the number of men as it would mean there are only two and a bit men for each couple or woman "

No that's fine 83% of couples and 57% of the women are looking for women or couples

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

And here's some scientific evidence

Just did a search for everyone within fifty miles. The first hundred broke down as follows

Men 74

Couples 16

Women 6

Tv/ts 4

So men and tv/ts outnumber couples and women by between three and four to one

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here. "

Totally agree. There is a saying; "If you're getting steak at home, you won't go looking for beef burgers" However, if you're not being fed at home, a hungry man (or woman) will look for food elsewhere

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Totally agree. There is a saying; "If you're getting steak at home, you won't go looking for beef burgers" However, if you're not being fed at home, a hungry man (or woman) will look for food elsewhere "

I think what people object to is the having your cake and eating it aspect (to pursue the food metaphor). If your sex life with your partner is unsatisfactory you should discuss it with them. Ditto if you don't want to be monogamous. If you can't reach a mutually satisfactory solution then splitting may be the only option.

I appreciate lots of people can't always face doing that and it is not something I have always done but certainly having sex with someone else behind your partners back is always going to be viewed negatively by a lot of people.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Totally agree. There is a saying; "If you're getting steak at home, you won't go looking for beef burgers" However, if you're not being fed at home, a hungry man (or woman) will look for food elsewhere "

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In my opinion there are very few hetero men who if they can get a regular gf would prefer not to have one. Hence most allegedly single men on here will in fact be attached in some way or other and those that aren't may be unattached in a non voluntary sense.

There may be some men who are voultarily single but there won't be very many of them. And the older they get the fewer there will be.

Is this the same for women too?

Nope. I think women tend to be more content with being single than men are.

Youre kidding right?

Theres a reason that women outnumver men on dating sites

Actually that's not the case. . The stats are these. Percentage of males first

Okc 53 47

Pof 55 45

E harmony 47 53

Match 49 51

(i have a link for the source but not allowed to post it I believe)

So pretty much 50 50 with women Tending to go for the more vanilla sites.

"

Well that saved me typing

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Mines pretty obvious to see in my profile, where ever discretion is mentioned, then someone is in the background.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

Er... isn't this a swinging site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long is this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Er... isn't this a swinging site ?"

What does 'swinging' mean to you out of curiosity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mines pretty obvious to see in my profile, where ever discretion is mentioned, then someone is in the background."

I kind of see that as an unwritten code. Where a marital status isn't clear, I find that in most cases a request for discretion often indicates either a partner or a bi side.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

Yes haha! Or another classic - there's floral bedding with two bedside cabinets his and clearly hers lol"

Oh wow.. How dull an unbalanced must your bedroom be..

A large bed deserves to have a cabinet either side to add balance to it... Don't you know that only one bedside cabinet is the main cause of subsidence in buildings.. there will even be a clause in the small print of your buildings insurance waiving any rights to claim should you own only one bedside cabinet..

And as for plain bedclothes, surely a pretty duvet is an extension of your persona...

Full bedlinen just means one thing...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Regardless of whether this particular guy was/is married or not I don't think there's a foolproof way of telling.

Look at pictures, clean carpet? Married. Matching bed sets? Married. Women with apron on and clean dishes? Married. Just jokes.

It's quite amusing though when "single" men take photos in their bathroom and there's tampax packets in the background

Yes haha! Or another classic - there's floral bedding with two bedside cabinets his and clearly hers lol

Oh wow.. How dull an unbalanced must your bedroom be..

A large bed deserves to have a cabinet either side to add balance to it... Don't you know that only one bedside cabinet is the main cause of subsidence in buildings.. there will even be a clause in the small print of your buildings insurance waiving any rights to claim should you own only one bedside cabinet..

And as for plain bedclothes, surely a pretty duvet is an extension of your persona...

Full bedlinen just means one thing... "

I cant argue against the stereotype I'm a single women with a large bed that as floral bedding and one bedside table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, if you saw the state of my bedroom, you'd think I was a teenage boy

Though in my defence it is filled with stuff from my living room whilst that is being decorated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Er... isn't this a swinging site ?

What does 'swinging' mean to you out of curiosity?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long is this thread?"

The idea is you keep scrolling until you die.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Never Ending Story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God, if you saw the state of my bedroom, you'd think I was a teenage boy

Though in my defence it is filled with stuff from my living room whilst that is being decorated "

Because of all the torn teenage boy clothes strewn around your cougar lair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."
yes to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs. "

I take there number and ring them mainly evening times and a few times lol if they are married they won't answer, if they have nothing to hide they won't mind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what an interesting thread..

but to get back to the OPs original post...

you wouldn't necessarily know they were married if they didn't tell you beforehand, and you are right, it is much better to be told beforehand so you can make an informed choice as to whether you will meet them or not...

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By *ill1411Man
over a year ago

Durham


"Who says married shouldn't be playing? Surely it'stheir life to do as they wish.

However, I do think that people should be upfront about being married though if the other person is expecting some sort of relationship from them."
well Thank you, I'm married and love my wife dearly but she has no interest in sex and hasn't for over 15 years but we're still together and I hope always will be. That doesn't mean I should be celibate for the rest of my life but I'm also a smoker which makes me doubly screwed for some, we're not innocents on here we're just looking for someone with the same liberal attitudes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but I personally opt to not meet involved people, therefore frustrating when you discover men are involved that you havr been meeting as it takes away choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it when they go offline for half an hour to do their duty?

Is that a polite way of saying a visit to the toilet??

And where's my bloody cake!!!

No I mean to fuck their wife.

I ate it. "

Nooooooo! My cake!!

And rude girl!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Totally agree. There is a saying; "If you're getting steak at home, you won't go looking for beef burgers" However, if you're not being fed at home, a hungry man (or woman) will look for food elsewhere "

What if you like cake instead of beef?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down. "

Forget the married bit. Was he drink driving Surely that would be worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

Maybe it was his excuse to get out of a meet he wasn't enjoying??

No-one forced him to come back for a drink. No-one forced him to stay in the pub for three drinks. He received a message then went into melt down.

Forget the married bit. Was he drink driving Surely that would be worse "

He drank a pint and a half then a .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm My wife is out of the country for 6 or 12 weeks at a time.

We have a 4 bedroom home, so could hide all woman stuff in one of them.

I don't wear any rings.

Everyone who knows me including my wife knows I probably forgot to take my mobile out.

Don't know how you would know, unless I told you... Oh yes the cat... She would grass me up for a dreamie everytime. "

This made me LOL

Anything for a dreamie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm My wife is out of the country for 6 or 12 weeks at a time.

We have a 4 bedroom home, so could hide all woman stuff in one of them.

I don't wear any rings.

Everyone who knows me including my wife knows I probably forgot to take my mobile out.

Don't know how you would know, unless I told you... Oh yes the cat... She would grass me up for a dreamie everytime.

This made me LOL

Anything for a dreamie "

Apparently you quoting my post means she gets another 4 Dreamies now, she is sat looking at me drumming her claws on the floor...

So how did I became sub to a cat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm My wife is out of the country for 6 or 12 weeks at a time.

We have a 4 bedroom home, so could hide all woman stuff in one of them.

I don't wear any rings.

Everyone who knows me including my wife knows I probably forgot to take my mobile out.

Don't know how you would know, unless I told you... Oh yes the cat... She would grass me up for a dreamie everytime.

This made me LOL

Anything for a dreamie

Apparently you quoting my post means she gets another 4 Dreamies now, she is sat looking at me drumming her claws on the floor...

So how did I became sub to a cat?"

You should know that no one owns a cat. The cat owns you

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

Hold on..how do you KNOW he was married?..Do you know for a FACT it was his other half?..

BECAUSE I KNOW GUILT WHEN ITS IN FRONT OF ME

So you don't know for sure just making a wild guess and a thread about it

Lots of guys jumping to his defence rather vociferously..... women have instincts which we don't know about. And why is he being defended? Guilt complex by proxy?"

I'm not jumping to defend anyone but from what i have read the OP has just made an assumption she maybe right only the guy can tell you for sure i was just asking a question like others

what is this instinct that only women have please elaborate on that?

I just think that the line "oh he must be married then" is used way too often without any actual facts to back it up myself hence the reason i asked my question

(Which was ignored by the OP like most other comments that didn't just jump on a bash the guy as well)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Because its NSA an unknowing partner is a HUGE string.

Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair"

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just how do you filter out the "married" shouldn't be playing. Was on a social with a guy, when his phone has inadvertently rung " the other half"....... he's driven off at an alarming speed and deleted his account....... told me he was single. I must be a tad thick because I just didn't see any patterns or signs.

I take there number and ring them mainly evening times and a few times lol if they are married they won't answer, if they have nothing to hide they won't mind x"

That's rather presumptuous. They may be other reasons they don't answer their phone, some people may want quality time at home with their children for instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not married but I am with someone but I am upfront about it and only looking for people who are ok with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise."

The problem is that for many, myself included swinging has nothing to do with cheating.

Don't mind budging over a bit to allow cheaters to get some NSA sex, but don't really want to get involved with it.

So if you are a cheater and not a swinger be open about it and give swingers the choice.

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over a year ago


"Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise.

The problem is that for many, myself included swinging has nothing to do with cheating.

Don't mind budging over a bit to allow cheaters to get some NSA sex, but don't really want to get involved with it.

So if you are a cheater and not a swinger be open about it and give swingers the choice."

Cheaters can still be swingers though, right?

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over a year ago


"Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise.

The problem is that for many, myself included swinging has nothing to do with cheating.

Don't mind budging over a bit to allow cheaters to get some NSA sex, but don't really want to get involved with it.

So if you are a cheater and not a swinger be open about it and give swingers the choice.

Cheaters can still be swingers though, right?"

Not by my definition of swingers, but each defines the word to suit their view.

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over a year ago


"Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise.

The problem is that for many, myself included swinging has nothing to do with cheating.

Don't mind budging over a bit to allow cheaters to get some NSA sex, but don't really want to get involved with it.

So if you are a cheater and not a swinger be open about it and give swingers the choice.

Cheaters can still be swingers though, right?

Not by my definition of swingers, but each defines the word to suit their view. "

We shall agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a bunch of open minded folk, ya'll some judgemental people

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Theres no foolproof way to identify people cheating,but if they have discreet,cant accom and can mainly meet daytime only ,its a pretty good indication.

Also i think no pics on profile or ones taken in bathroom are a give away .

Thankfully many are upfront about being attached,but its the ones that arent that get peoples backs up,as the choice to meet them has been taken away.

When i had my single profile,if i doubted someome i just cut contact.

Miss

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"For a bunch of open minded folk, ya'll some judgemental people "

Wherever did you get the idea Fab was full of open minded folk?

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over a year ago


"Theres no foolproof way to identify people cheating,but if they have discreet,cant accom and can mainly meet daytime only ,its a pretty good indication.

Rather narrow minded,what about living with parents? Living in shared accommodation? Living with children? "

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over a year ago


"Cheaters can still be swingers though, right?

Not by my definition of swingers, but each defines the word to suit their view.

We shall agree to disagree. "

No problem I would not want to ban cheaters, nor would I want to ban my version of swingers from playing with cheaters, if that's what they want to do.

I like honesty though.

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over a year ago


"For a bunch of open minded folk, ya'll some judgemental people "

You can say that again

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over a year ago


"Cheaters can still be swingers though, right?

Not by my definition of swingers, but each defines the word to suit their view.

We shall agree to disagree.

No problem I would not want to ban cheaters, nor would I want to ban my version of swingers from playing with cheaters, if that's what they want to do.

I like honesty though. "

Honesty yes, I agree.

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over a year ago


"This may not be popular but I'm in a relationship and have no issue with married men, I'd be a hypocrite if I did. I spent a year on a chat site prior to coming on here most of the guys I still chat with away from the site are married. Trust me a married man is very easy to spot along with many other things, due to the fact they switch their brain to cock mode. They hide it because there is such a stigma on here which I don't get as it's NSA. Yes yes because they're cheating you're all saying but there is only a small minority that are greedy cheats, I won't go there and I don't understand that either!! The rest are in crap situations they can't leave and this is an escape, given the choice the vast majority would be happier if things were ok at home than being here.

Because its NSA an unknowing partner is a HUGE string.

Especislly when they turn up at your house screaming ablut your affair

The amount of times that actually happens in comparison to the amount of people cheating is actually minimal. People are usually extremely discrete, especially if both parties are cheating on partners. It's when you get singles meeting married people who don't seem to have the same respect to the need for discretion that problems arise."

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Theres no foolproof way to identify people cheating,but if they have discreet,cant accom and can mainly meet daytime only ,its a pretty good indication.

Rather narrow minded,what about living with parents? Living in shared accommodation? Living with children? "

Thats cant accom,i mentioned a few other things too that i said can indicate cheating.Its more than just not accomodating ,but experience has shown me a combination of a few things ,could mean someone is attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a bunch of open minded folk, ya'll some judgemental people

You can say that again "

One persons judgemental, is another's preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet attached men. It's not our relationship that's at risk. If they dnt choose to tell us they are in a relationship it's their choice but you can usually tell. It takes a cheater to spot one in my opinion. Lol Marie. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottom line is cheaters are not really having no strings anything, they have the string of secrecy requirement for a start. Must not leave marks, say hi if you meet in normal life, and many others issues that I as a swinger don't want to be concerned with.

So say upfront and we can make an informed choice.

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