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Those 'blue days.'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How on earth do you handle them?

This was my first one in months, and I was laid in bed until two, crying and grinding my teeth, then I forced myself to get up, shower and go shopping, but even now I'm not 100%. And I hate the way I am with people when I'm like that.

I don't even want to read or colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to be much help here but I simply hang onto this thought 'it is temporary and will pass'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not going to be much help here but I simply hang onto this thought 'it is temporary and will pass' "

Thanks

Thankfully I only have odd days like it now, instead of having worse symptoms for weeks like I used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On days like those I do one of two things:

1-put on the nastiest music I have at levels that make the neighbours doubt my sanity.

2- reach out to an old school friend who knows what it's like and knows I've been there for them in the past.

Other than that I avoid all utterly unnecessary social interaction, stay offline, no clicking kitten videos or even going to the shops except for hashbrowns, instant mash or ice cream.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On days like those I do one of two things:

1-put on the nastiest music I have at levels that make the neighbours doubt my sanity.

2- reach out to an old school friend who knows what it's like and knows I've been there for them in the past.

Other than that I avoid all utterly unnecessary social interaction, stay offline, no clicking kitten videos or even going to the shops except for hashbrowns, instant mash or ice cream.

"

1) I can do noisy rock

2) *sigh*... I don't open up to friends anymore after a supposedly close friend told me I was being stupid and to only talk to her after I'd 'settled down.'

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I go for a drive, music helps too.

Soak in the bath for a cry then I pull myself together

Chin up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Power through it my sweet, just power through n you'll be on the other side before you know it.

PTU XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to be much help here but I simply hang onto this thought 'it is temporary and will pass' "

I think that all the time you can hold that thought all is not lost. Grab that thought, OP and don't let go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go for a drive, music helps too.

Soak in the bath for a cry then I pull myself together

Chin up x"

I tend to either plug my headphones in and for a walk on the beach, or, like today, ignore the world, sob my eyes out, wash my face, put a mask of make up on and attempt to crack on. Thanks chick x

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I go for a drive, music helps too.

Soak in the bath for a cry then I pull myself together

Chin up x

I tend to either plug my headphones in and for a walk on the beach, or, like today, ignore the world, sob my eyes out, wash my face, put a mask of make up on and attempt to crack on. Thanks chick x"

Sometimes a day to yourself helps, gets tough putting on a fake smile sometimes so just do whatever gets you through the day x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Be kind to yourself,rest when you need to .Pamper yourself and do whatever you feel up to,I always try to get some fresh air too .

Hope yoy're feeling better now xx

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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1) I can do noisy rock

2) *sigh*... I don't open up to friends anymore after a supposedly close friend told me I was being stupid and to only talk to her after I'd 'settled down.'"

Normally it's very early Metallica, Burzum, Soundisciples or motorhead for me.

I'd offer an ear (digitally) if required as well. Quite a few mates come to me with their worries and I help out however I can, even if it's just a "yup life's shit" and a long Hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Google mindfulness

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Even on a blue day the world is still a beautiful place

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Music loud

Kill things on xbox(usually a lego game)

Shower

Go for run down canal...it used to be in the hills but it's too bloody flat here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to shove my headphones in and walk till I feel better. I hope you feel better soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a bit of a blue week

Can't sleep properly when i feel like this as well which doesn't help. You just have to ride it out kiddo

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick


"On days like those I do one of two things:

1-put on the nastiest music I have at levels that make the neighbours doubt my sanity.

2- reach out to an old school friend who knows what it's like and knows I've been there for them in the past.

Other than that I avoid all utterly unnecessary social interaction, stay offline, no clicking kitten videos or even going to the shops except for hashbrowns, instant mash or ice cream.

1) I can do noisy rock

2) *sigh*... I don't open up to friends anymore after a supposedly close friend told me I was being stupid and to only talk to her after I'd 'settled down.'"

Crikey....not much of a friend then. I myself like to cook when I get like that.....just go out, buy the freshest ingredients I can find and just cook.....I even have a playlist on Spotify solely for that purpose.

I'm sure there are plenty of people who would listen, me amongst them should you ever feel the need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£20 of fuel + Open country roads

Cuddles from our dachshund

Or thrashing a drum kit

I'll also book a full body massage if available and go chill out, a hot stone massage is beyond words for how relaxing it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How on earth do you handle them?

This was my first one in months, and I was laid in bed until two, crying and grinding my teeth, then I forced myself to get up, shower and go shopping, but even now I'm not 100%. And I hate the way I am with people when I'm like that.

I don't even want to read or colour. "

Churchill called them 'the black dog' but he still managed to do a fair bit with his life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curl up in a bed nest and listen to old broadcasts of Desert Island Discs or Private Passions on Radio 4 and 3 respectively (on iplayer) there's something about the talking and intermittent music and as its people mulling on their life it's always rather uplifting even when they're remembering difficult times they've faced.

And also radio dramas, for when I haven't the ability to read or draw. Closing my eyes is important.

Sending you strength to weather the storm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How on earth do you handle them?

This was my first one in months, and I was laid in bed until two, crying and grinding my teeth, then I forced myself to get up, shower and go shopping, but even now I'm not 100%. And I hate the way I am with people when I'm like that.

I don't even want to read or colour. "

when I get like that, I try to avoid adults ...

I tend to spend most of my working day alone anyway. I do have a little chap to look out for, so I make a gargantuan effort for him as he tends to pick up on my mood...

at the moment I'm totally stressed out and anxious so sleep is elusive...its a constant juggling act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not going to be much help here but I simply hang onto this thought 'it is temporary and will pass'

Thanks

Thankfully I only have odd days like it now, instead of having worse symptoms for weeks like I used to."
Remember, your success rate for getting through blue days is 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up.....chest out......tomorrow is a new day xx

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

It is incredibly difficult to focus on the positives when you're down like this. You've got through it before though and you will again.

First try surviving, living will follow.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I eat!

It'll pass, lovely x

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