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By *airymagic OP   Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

So my ex and I have a 3 year old, his gf off a year has said she see our daughter enough. 3 hours in a weekend and she expects him to not increase this. But this was always our plan

How do I handle this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You tell your ex its not her decision to make..

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"So my ex and I have a 3 year old, his gf off a year has said she see our daughter enough. 3 hours in a weekend and she expects him to not increase this. But this was always our plan

How do I handle this?"

Run her over? I joke! That's a really bad thing to do on her part though, you don't come between people an their kids it's out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Explain to her that the child isn't going to spend time with her, she's spending time with her father. If she doesn't want to be present, she can do something else while he enjoys his time with his child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope your ex is strong enough and sensible enough to put the needs of his daughter and himself first, rather than his inconsiderate and selfish GF.

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville


"Explain to her that the child isn't going to spend time with her, she's spending time with her father. If she doesn't want to be present, she can do something else while he enjoys his time with his child. "

Perfect response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope your ex is strong enough and sensible enough to put the needs of his daughter and himself first, rather than his inconsiderate and selfish GF."

I hope so too, as I know parents who have put partners before seeing their children and seen the effects it has had.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Horrible woman,she may not like it,but he has a child that he needs to have a relationship with.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Difficult to comment without knowing the full background but I'd suggest 3 hours a weekend is nowhere near enough and your ex should be standing up to his girlfriend to be able to see your daughter more, not less!!

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By *airymagic OP   Woman
over a year ago

goblin city

Thanks guys, it felt weird him asking me for advice.

I basically said she knew you had a daughter, he's a bit shocked I think. Wasn't expecting to be told his gf doesn't like his daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope he's man enough to stand up to her and put your daughter first for a few extra hours a week. My ex has all but abandoned his children due to an extremely nasty selfish girlfriend. It's not nice and damages the relationship between them.

Talk to him away from her then let him deal with her. She should keep out of parenting decisions x

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Kids come before new partners, if a new partner dosnt like that a kid is around they should bugger off.

I'm so lucky that wiggles treats my lad from previous relationship as one of her own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man that's been separated from the mother of his children ...I think your ex needs to question where his love and loyalty lie ....the children always come first ,no matter what ...if she's making demands now about time what's she going to demand in say another 2 years? ...package deals are exactly that ..love me love my kids if that's not in your plans your not for me

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By *airymagic OP   Woman
over a year ago

goblin city


"Difficult to comment without knowing the full background but I'd suggest 3 hours a weekend is nowhere near enough and your ex should be standing up to his girlfriend to be able to see your daughter more, not less!!"

Tbh he had a head injury n subsequent depression, so while she was a little baby we agreed limited time a couple of hours on a Wednesday. But slowly increase it, as and when suits all parties. He ideally wants her sleeping over one night when she starts school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why? Why? Why? What is wrong with this woman? You take on a new partner with kids you take on the kids. Period. I have no understanding of why people have an issue with this? She doesn't deserve to be around your daughter with that attitude but that is a decision for your ex to make. She should be encouraging him to take her more not less! She needs a good whack to the head to knock sense into her. Just my opinion of course xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your ex has any sense then he should bin his GF , his child comes first and if she thinks he is spending too much time with his kid then she is not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a man that's been separated from the mother of his children ...I think your ex needs to question where his love and loyalty lie ....the children always come first ,no matter what ...if she's making demands now about time what's she going to demand in say another 2 years? ...package deals are exactly that ..love me love my kids if that's not in your plans your not for me "

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens

When I was in this situation as an estranged father of young children, i can assure you no girlfriend would dictate how often or for how long I should see my children.

With the greatest respect and sympathy for your situation I would have to ask whether this decision comes as much from your ex as it is from his girlfriend? Because I can't imagine being that spineless as to say to you, I'm sorry but my girlfriend says I can only see the kids for 3 hours a week.

Him

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By *airymagic OP   Woman
over a year ago

goblin city


"When I was in this situation as an estranged father of young children, i can assure you no girlfriend would dictate how often or for how long I should see my children.

With the greatest respect and sympathy for your situation I would have to ask whether this decision comes as much from your ex as it is from his girlfriend? Because I can't imagine being that spineless as to say to you, I'm sorry but my girlfriend says I can only see the kids for 3 hours a week.

Him"

He rung me and said him and his gf are having problems, I pressed the question why.

We've been friends since we were 8 so guess I always thought our history would be the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my ex and I have a 3 year old, his gf off a year has said she see our daughter enough. 3 hours in a weekend and she expects him to not increase this. But this was always our plan

How do I handle this?"

She should be excepting him and your children if entering into a relationship. Warts and all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope your ex is strong enough and sensible enough to put the needs of his daughter and himself first, rather than his inconsiderate and selfish GF."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was in this situation as an estranged father of young children, i can assure you no girlfriend would dictate how often or for how long I should see my children.

With the greatest respect and sympathy for your situation I would have to ask whether this decision comes as much from your ex as it is from his girlfriend? Because I can't imagine being that spineless as to say to you, I'm sorry but my girlfriend says I can only see the kids for 3 hours a week.

Him

He rung me and said him and his gf are having problems, I pressed the question why.

We've been friends since we were 8 so guess I always thought our history would be the problem"

Then honestly he needs to pick his child over his gf otherwise she will never get to the point of staying over or him able to handle that long!

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By *airymagic OP   Woman
over a year ago

goblin city


"When I was in this situation as an estranged father of young children, i can assure you no girlfriend would dictate how often or for how long I should see my children.

With the greatest respect and sympathy for your situation I would have to ask whether this decision comes as much from your ex as it is from his girlfriend? Because I can't imagine being that spineless as to say to you, I'm sorry but my girlfriend says I can only see the kids for 3 hours a week.

Him

He rung me and said him and his gf are having problems, I pressed the question why.

We've been friends since we were 8 so guess I always thought our history would be the problem

Then honestly he needs to pick his child over his gf otherwise she will never get to the point of staying over or him able to handle that long!"

Yes thanks everyone

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Sounds like she feels threatened by your ex's relationship with his daughter. She should grow up and needs telling so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a vile horrible woman.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Difficult to comment without knowing the full background but I'd suggest 3 hours a weekend is nowhere near enough and your ex should be standing up to his girlfriend to be able to see your daughter more, not less!!

Tbh he had a head injury n subsequent depression, so while she was a little baby we agreed limited time a couple of hours on a Wednesday. But slowly increase it, as and when suits all parties. He ideally wants her sleeping over one night when she starts school"

Ah ok that clarifies it thanks. As everyone has said though, he really needs to stand up to his girlfriend and put his daughter first, if she doesn't like it that's her problem.

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