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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you delete them without reading them?

Do you even read them?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If I've deleted them without reading them then I definitely didn't even read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Rarely.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

1) No

2)Yes

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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switched mine off coz i forgot to look in my inbox most of the time anyway. never notice when i get any really.

most i can read without opening them.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I read the profile first then decide whether to ignore or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of respect, we read them and we always reply, even if it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read, and reply...

I don't get that many, but they are mostly from friends apart from the odd chancer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1) No

2)Yes "

I think you'll find that's more or less 100% for men and the opposite for women solely due to one gets too many....and the other gets bugger all

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

No. They tidy themselves up eventually.

Yes. Even the ones I haven't. I can skim them pretty quick without having to open them to officially read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deleted all mine today cos too many to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got one of these once...was all yellow, freaked me out...got rid of it straight away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to read them but sometimes it can get a bit much so i have to bulk delete or hide my profile just to stop them.

I'm sure i missed a lot of amazing guys along the way but its just impossible to read everyone i just don't have the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just leave them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they delete them sometime put you on their ignore list without knowing you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prime example the latest one i just clocked is from Florida i mean come on guys really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 13/03/17 20:45:28]"

Wrong thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally just found out the person doesn't know if you read them before deleting! I've been reading them before deleting so people dont get annoyed at a wasted effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check profile. If I don't like what I see I just ignore. Might get round to deleting them, if not fab does it for me

Had a similar convo earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prime example the latest one i just clocked is from Florida i mean come on guys really. "

You look worth catching a flight for tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read them all and reply to anyone who has made an effort. If they haven't then we are more likely to ignore them.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them all but only reply if something grabs me in the message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice problem to have that you have the luxury of deleting unread messages....still get a tingling feeling when see that "1 unread" in the mail box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice problem to have that you have the luxury of deleting unread messages....still get a tingling feeling when see that "1 unread" in the mail box."

Do you mark it unread....so it stays there?

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Yes if I can read the whole message without opening it and there are no pics attached...delete

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received."

That's why I turned my filters on. That way people can't message me to get disillusioned in the first place. Took me a while of being on the site and feeling like I was honour bound to wade through ridiculous messages to figure that one out. Oddly enough, those didn't make me feel disillusioned either but that may just be me since I also don't tend to feel disillusioned when messages I send go unanswered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read, and reply...

I don't get that many, but they are mostly from friends apart from the odd chancer

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Prime example the latest one i just clocked is from Florida i mean come on guys really. "

Blimey, you're international!

I'm a bit jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if I can read the whole message without opening it and there are no pics attached...delete"

Only if it's a short message surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received.

Everyone is different, so some get disillusioned. Suppose it depends on empathy for others if people reply or not. We reply so at least they weren't left in limbo.

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

"If I've deleted them without reading them then I definitely didn't even read them.

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brilliant

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No and yes

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Mine are always from blokes

Still reply to say thanks but no thanks. Then the abuse usually comes haha

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes if I can read the whole message without opening it and there are no pics attached...delete

Only if it's a short message surely"

majority of mine are very short. they cba and i reckon they've either; given up on writing messages and just chancing it now, or they don't actually wanna meet but getting desperate, or they just spam everyone in the hope of success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read them.

I've gotta know what was in it.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received.

Everyone is different, so some get disillusioned. Suppose it depends on empathy for others if people reply or not. We reply so at least they weren't left in limbo."

And hence why I apply filters so I no longer have to go through hours of admin every weekend replying to a message influx. Luckily those that got through in those early fab days had empathy for what it must be like on here from my perspective and were patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received.

Everyone is different, so some get disillusioned. Suppose it depends on empathy for others if people reply or not. We reply so at least they weren't left in limbo."

Would you like a medal for your services to fab?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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my filters are for guys ages 37 - 41, so a four year range. there's still a lot of guys on here in that category it seems. i turned all messaging off now, just cba to get any messages at all.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

If the inital preview of the message piques my interest, I'll take a peek at the profile. If they look/sound kinda normal'ish I'll maybe open the message....

Gotta be honest, if I do, my usual reply is Thanks...

Never did manage to get 'Twin Peaks' into that load of drivel!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I generally read them all but viewing the sender's profile influences how I act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice problem to have that you have the luxury of deleting unread messages....still get a tingling feeling when see that "1 unread" in the mail box.

Do you mark it unread....so it stays there?

Didn't know you could do that, if I get one I try and remember that, cheeky sod!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread highlights the fact why so many get so disillusioned with the site the way many treat messages received.

Everyone is different, so some get disillusioned. Suppose it depends on empathy for others if people reply or not. We reply so at least they weren't left in limbo.

Would you like a medal for your services to fab?

fancy a camping trip

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you like a medal for your services to fab?

Is there an emoji for useless post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fancy a camping trip

Ruby x"

Only if you get a personality injected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and yes. To be honest if I spent my time on here sending messages I would have closed my account ages ago as 99.9% of the time it's pointless. You will enjoy Fab much more OP if you don't send messages at all.

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