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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi! Nice to meet you, I'm socially awkward!

Does anyone have this trait? Being a lovely genuine person who isn't the best under pressure in a social environment? Can have you in stitches but can't always deliver the punchline in the correct wording? Can pay you a compliment that might come out as garbled nonsense? Once comfortable in their environment can be a totally different person to the first impression you once had of them?

Just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. I'm Pat and I'm socially awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was like this before i joined fab but it's brought that side out in me.

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Hello! I like to blame the fact I spend all day, every day talking to computers for my inability to talk to people.

Deep down I fear it is the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, right here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another one here

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"Hi! Nice to meet you, I'm socially awkward!

Just me?

No its not just you. I'm a complete social wreck and if I have you in stitches it's probably because I've done something stupidly clumsy. And garbling is my natural state

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby is exactly the same

Good job I'm the least socially awkward person (can be shy but will talk to anyone and everyone) which helps alot

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it count if like me you hold back a little when first meeting people. I do have a slightly twisted sense of humour, so I like people to know me a bit first so that they know when I'm joking.

Not the sort of person who goes out of my way to offend or upset people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the quiet one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I'm a social nightmare. Good job i find getting a meet so impossible or heck, i'd be forced to be sociable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

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By *hellshellWoman
over a year ago

Nam

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X "

Same here, and always jealous of people who just seem to do it naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

Same here, and always jealous of people who just seem to do it naturally"

Jealous. I stay away from the centre of attention people, loud mouths etc.

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Sometimes I am, others I'm just relaxed and will talk to anyone...usually nervous in some situations initially...can never remember jokes!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jealous. I stay away from the centre of attention people, loud mouths etc.

This is my tactic too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few weeks ago I had to go to a job fair, as soon as I walked in I saw the massive crowd, panicked and promptly burst into tears.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Im _eeside

I have Asperger's

Im verry socially awkward.

Im not good at eneything social.

Offton miss understood.

crouds make me nurvers so won't ofton talk unless sumone talks to me. Even then it be small talk till I setall.

If I go to a pub ill be the one sat alown at the back.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No it's just you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be, though my close friends say I'm very confident. I think I'm just better at putting on a front.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X "

Same here!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm usually very introverted and awkward when I don't know people I'm socialising with, often thinking of the right thing to say when it's far too late or bumbling awkwardly grasping for words.

Once I'm comfortable though I'm usually quite the opposite and blather away like an idiot!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on previous threads there are a few of us here which is amusing on one hand.

And it's not like I'm going to walk into a group social full of forumites in less than a week or anything

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Based on previous threads there are a few of us here which is amusing on one hand.

And it's not like I'm going to walk into a group social full of forumites in less than a week or anything

The irony of that wasn't lost on me either!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very social person and I can talk a lot however I like other to respect my personal space so hugging people makes me very anxious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi my name is Tequila and I'm socially awkward *waves*

I'm a nightmare before (and probably during) social events where I don't know what to expect, I turn into a petulant brat but I can't help it and can often come across as a bit of a snooty bitch if I don't want to engage in conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be a complete mess particularly before hand when it comes to social situations. But sexually I can be a total exhibitionist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

Same here, and always jealous of people who just seem to do it naturally"

Me too! I get incredibly jealous of those people. I wish socialising came easy to me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

Same here! "

I just wish that I found socialising easy! X

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

Same here!

I just wish that I found socialising easy! X "

Me too! I am much better than i used to be though, dunno if it comes with age or just because i practiced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends, if it's strangers and i don't know them i'm fine, i can chat to whoever and with work i'm bloody great at crowd control and getting big groups of folk to listen to me and do as i ned them to do...give me a soap box and i'm happy enough.

in fab play situations, i'm pretty happy to get out of my clothes and jump in with everyone else

however, if i know folk or relatives come round for example and i'm not in the mood i can be terribly awkward, i get so weirded out and uncomfortable. it's odd, i'd have thought it'd be the other way round, go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm awkward full stop

deliberately most of the time too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I had my kids I was chronically shy....

Once I joined fab I became more sociable and confident

So..hang in there

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm incredibly socially awkward

I hate it! X

Same here!

I just wish that I found socialising easy! X "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it depends, if it's strangers and i don't know them i'm fine, i can chat to whoever and with work i'm bloody great at crowd control and getting big groups of folk to listen to me and do as i ned them to do...give me a soap box and i'm happy enough."

This

I'm quite shy at times but I work in customer service, and when I'm comfortable in my work environment I'm as confident and chatty as anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what mood I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

I'm quite shy at times but I work in customer service, and when I'm comfortable in my work environment I'm as confident and chatty as anything."

work seems to draw a slightly different side out of me, i'm very confident in my work i guess as i've been doing it for years and i just sort of quietly know i'm very capable. odd how a 'work head' can differ from our day to day selves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Based on previous threads there are a few of us here which is amusing on one hand.

And it's not like I'm going to walk into a group social full of forumites in less than a week or anything

The irony of that wasn't lost on me either!!

Kinky says it will be fine so it will be

Kinky says...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Based on previous threads there are a few of us here which is amusing on one hand.

And it's not like I'm going to walk into a group social full of forumites in less than a week or anything

The irony of that wasn't lost on me either!!

Kinky says it will be fine so it will be

Kinky says..."

You'll be well looked after i'm sure so try not to worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shy in big groups but not so bad in one to one social meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im shy. Sometimes I avoid social gatherings and stay home in my own little bubble of safety and unawkwardness. My friends push me and I love them for that, im not a loner per se but I do spend a fair bit of time on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No socially awkward here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean FAB isn't an acronym for The Guild of Socially Awkward Perverts? Bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell over on the way into this thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

While staring at something on the floor that all of a suddenly became fascinating in the presence of strangers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

While staring at something on the floor that all of a suddenly became fascinating in the presence of strangers?"

Kinda. Just remembering how to walk, breathe, negotiate doors, do this life thing...is all a bit of a dorky, klutzy calamity in this body and mind. Hey ho, managed 40years thus far.

Hi fellow social awkwardites. Shall we wave/hug/bump head kiss/drop bag/all speak at the same time?

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By *eyMrJackMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi. I'm Pat and I'm socially awkward. "

Haha!! Best Fab name ever.

Just saying,

As if someone else is actually called Mrs Doyle as well! Actually watching the episode right now.

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By *eyMrJackMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Another one here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

While staring at something on the floor that all of a suddenly became fascinating in the presence of strangers?

Kinda. Just remembering how to walk, breathe, negotiate doors, do this life thing...is all a bit of a dorky, klutzy calamity in this body and mind. Hey ho, managed 40years thus far.

Hi fellow social awkwardites. Shall we wave/hug/bump head kiss/drop bag/all speak at the same time?

Id rather just sit here with the dog if thats ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

While staring at something on the floor that all of a suddenly became fascinating in the presence of strangers?

Kinda. Just remembering how to walk, breathe, negotiate doors, do this life thing...is all a bit of a dorky, klutzy calamity in this body and mind. Hey ho, managed 40years thus far.

Hi fellow social awkwardites. Shall we wave/hug/bump head kiss/drop bag/all speak at the same time?

Id rather just sit here with the dog if thats ok

That sounds eminently preferable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm crap I tend to go into insane chunner mode n piss everyone off.

tbh I do all my socialising on the internet now.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm crap I tend to go into insane chunner mode n piss everyone off.

tbh I do all my socialising on the internet now.

PTU xxx "

It's the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guess it's not just me!

Who finds they're more confident online then they are in person? Or do people generally think they're the same with both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guess it's not just me!

Who finds they're more confident online then they are in person? Or do people generally think they're the same with both?"

I don't think I am socially awkward. However, I am probably more confident online than I am in person. I will say a lot when messaging someone that I won't say face to face.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Guess it's not just me!

Who finds they're more confident online then they are in person? Or do people generally think they're the same with both?"

It's not so much a case of being more confident - more that on-line you have that breathing space to think things through and formulate a response that you don't off-line...if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guess it's not just me!

Who finds they're more confident online then they are in person? Or do people generally think they're the same with both?

It's not so much a case of being more confident - more that on-line you have that breathing space to think things through and formulate a response that you don't off-line...if that makes sense?"

I agree. Theres that vast space between you and they can't look at your face as you stumble over words and blush like a beetroot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been socially awkward, I know I can chat about anything, to anyone. I get super nervous beforehand though. Anxious, sweat moustache, panicky. Once in there though, I'm good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

Me too! I'm now sporting grazed knees my 5 year old would be proud of.....he'd have got a sticker for his war wounds though...when did we become to old for bravery stickers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Guess it's not just me!

Who finds they're more confident online then they are in person? Or do people generally think they're the same with both?

It's not so much a case of being more confident - more that on-line you have that breathing space to think things through and formulate a response that you don't off-line...if that makes sense?

I agree. Theres that vast space between you and they can't look at your face as you stumble over words and blush like a beetroot! "

This is true! I can be fairly articulate in a text/digital response. In person I end up with 5 umm's 3 ah's and a lot of quiet time

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

Sorry I wasn't there to help you up again.

Even after two years on the club scene, making many new friends, I still find starting a conversation at the bar with someone new incredibly unnerving. Can take me an age to pluck up the courage to just say "Hi, you new here?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

Me too! I'm now sporting grazed knees my 5 year old would be proud of.....he'd have got a sticker for his war wounds though...when did we become to old for bravery stickers?"

Ummm we're not too old for them!! I awarded myself an excellent effort sticker today for trying my best at an interview!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell over on the way into this thread....

Sorry I wasn't there to help you up again.

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By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD

"Im _eeside

I have Asperger's

Im verry socially awkward.

Im not good at eneything social.

Offton miss understood.

crouds make me nurvers so won't ofton talk unless sumone talks to me. Even then it be small talk till I setall.

If I go to a pub ill be the one sat alown at the back."

I'm the one sitting in the corner,looking down into my drink

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Will there be a "Socially Awkward" corner at this weekend's social where all us awkwardites can just sit and stare at ine another, go to say something every now and then and then discard it...or have it come out as errrmmm ummm ohhh before giving up?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will there be a "Socially Awkward" corner at this weekend's social where all us awkwardites can just sit and stare at ine another, go to say something every now and then and then discard it...or have it come out as errrmmm ummm ohhh before giving up?!

Like to see another new word I've slipped into the forum has transitioned to its second user. Good work G.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Like to see another new word I've slipped into the forum has transitioned to its second user. Good work G.

Aim high fellow awkwardite...it's the OED or bust!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like to see another new word I've slipped into the forum has transitioned to its second user. Good work G.

Aim high fellow awkwardite...it's the OED or bust!!

Two things I'm amply equipped with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be terrible. I'm actually quite good with people but it feels like a real chore sometimes and bit of a struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible. Having no confidence at all doesn't help

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

There is a recognised Syndrome named S.A.D. (Social Anxiety Disorder). I had this years ago; it's complex and lengthy to explain but whilst I'm competent in Public Speaking especially in Sales and Marketing, there are times when in my off duty time, I revert back to what used to be!

Usually, most other people don't understand the condition or can't accept it occurs. Those affected often suffer in silence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually, most other people don't understand the condition or can't accept it occurs. Those affected often suffer in silence."

Very true. And not to be confused with the SAD that is Seasonal Affective Disorder.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Usually, most other people don't understand the condition or can't accept it occurs. Those affected often suffer in silence."

I meant to add it blights your life. E.G., within work scenarios, especially training courses involving person to person interaction or role play situations; I've become very uncomfortable to the point of running out, & subsequently being marked down, meaning drops in status, salary etc.

Social events, parties within work circles became hell on earth. Invariably, I'd cover colleagues so they could go and enjoy themselves instead.

I get by these days far better than I used to, but there are times when I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, add me to this list of awkwardians. Hate that 'omg, cant think of anything to talk about so i'll just spout the first thing that comes into me head' moment.

Also the 'waiting for someone on your own in the pub'. Always makes me feel weird. I always like to be late now which probably wont go down to well on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone else make sure they are busy "working" on their phone so they have a genuine reason for not interacting without seeming like an awkward doofus? I can't be without my phone if I know I have to wait for someone or am expected to converse with strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else make sure they are busy "working" on their phone so they have a genuine reason for not interacting without seeming like an awkward doofus? I can't be without my phone if I know I have to wait for someone or am expected to converse with strangers

I don't even need a phone. I can quite comfortably ignore the only other person in a waiting room. That said, I don't always feel the need to, which is confusing.

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