FabSwingers.com forum: Put off by 'Newbies'

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do know this is a swinging site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to state the obvious or anything but isn't that what fab is for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You feel stupid for thinking a new user would be someone who didn't have much sex?

You honestly thought that being new meant they didn't have sex with other men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I met someone the other day who joined fab two days ago. They were verified by someone who said they had met before and thar they were re-verifying them.

Anyways they were totally genuine but in the space of 4 nights they've got two new veris from men just meeting her.

I feel pretty stupid for meeting a newbie. She's going through men like literally there's no tomorrow and I'm normally quite picky about people's verification history.

Anyone else been burned like this? Think I'll be giving newbies a miss from now on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're going to get a lot of people who fuck a lot who don't have the verifications. Do you ask women how many partners they have had?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

If you are seeking virgins on pedestals perhaps this isn't the place to look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel you were burned?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Not to state the obvious or anything but isn't that what fab is for? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations."

On fab? What else could you expect?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations."
Maybe you should try a dateing site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations."

Could be social verification too.

Just because she's had a few now doesn't mean anything has happened.

Unless they've said it has in their veri.

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

Sounds like your feeling jealousy, maybe swinging isn't for you, I'd give it some serious thought about why you're feeling this way, I mean some people could get a ton of verifications from one night in a club .

If you're suggesting they're easy then I think your missing the point of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations.

Could be social verification too.

Just because she's had a few now doesn't mean anything has happened.

Unless they've said it has in their veri.

Yeah they did in detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations.

Could be social verification too.

Just because she's had a few now doesn't mean anything has happened.

Unless they've said it has in their veri.

Yeah they did in detail."

I knew I'd be wrong. Move on and talk to someone else if you are dissatisfied?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got the feeling that someone who had just picked me up to go to his was worried about the amount of men I'd met here. So I said loads and said he could turn the car around and take me home; which he did. It totally put me off him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her? "

It's not that I didn't enjoy myself, or that she's meeting others. I do expect that on here. It's just the gave she's had two obvious new meets and verified on graphic detail and has the cheek to message me saying I haven't verified her. It's that that has annoyed me and started my ranting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the reason why I don't trust Veri's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations.

Could be social verification too.

Just because she's had a few now doesn't mean anything has happened.

Unless they've said it has in their veri.

Yeah they did in detail.

I knew I'd be wrong. Move on and talk to someone else if you are dissatisfied?

I certainly will not be meeting her again. X

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By *traightcockloverMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Who's to say she wasn't on here previously for let's just say 5 years? And she had 10 verifications and she's getting them to re-verify her now she as come back. 10 people in 5 years is a very small percentage. Don't be so quick to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Part of the reason why I don't trust Veri's. "

Or the lack of them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that. "

Pretty much yeah.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site "

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who's to say she wasn't on here previously for let's just say 5 years? And she had 10 verifications and she's getting them to re-verify her now she as come back. 10 people in 5 years is a very small percentage. Don't be so quick to judge "

The verification start with 'Met today', 'Met last night' so...

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

I don't understand the problem,

Let's say she had a meet Friday and another meet Saturday, why is that any different than one meet in Feb and one meet in March?

Is it the quantity of meets that bothers you or that she's had so many in a short amount of time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah."

I did note on your profile you say you don't mind if it's long term, short term or a one off. Isn't that saying you'd be willing to do exactly the same?

Just looked out of curiosity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

Outit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah.

I did note on your profile you say you don't mind if it's long term, short term or a one off. Isn't that saying you'd be willing to do exactly the same?

Just looked out of curiosity

Definitely not wouldn't meet people every other day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

Yes, because I, nor any other woman on here, use any dating sites

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By *traightcockloverMan
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah."

I'd be put off if someone just wanted a fuck and to be verified. Swinging site or not, I still have to feel attraction before meeting. I wouldn't want to be a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah.

I did note on your profile you say you don't mind if it's long term, short term or a one off. Isn't that saying you'd be willing to do exactly the same?

Just looked out of curiosity

Definitely not wouldn't meet people every other day."

Does it really matter if, let's say you meet 20 people over the space of a year but she only meets 5 but in two weeks and no more.

Yeah that's improbable but theoretically possible.

Do you see what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah.

I did note on your profile you say you don't mind if it's long term, short term or a one off. Isn't that saying you'd be willing to do exactly the same?

Just looked out of curiosity

Definitely not wouldn't meet people every other day.

Does it really matter if, let's say you meet 20 people over the space of a year but she only meets 5 but in two weeks and no more.

Yeah that's improbable but theoretically possible.

Do you see what I mean?

I kind of see your point and where you're going with that theory. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are women on here who don't meet very often, but you shouldn't assume anything, going on verifications. Did you not enjoy the sex you had with her?

Do you think she just wanted the verifications and wasn't bothered about who she met? I'd be put off by that.

Pretty much yeah.

I'd be put off if someone just wanted a fuck and to be verified. Swinging site or not, I still have to feel attraction before meeting. I wouldn't want to be a verification. "

I do agree with this wholeheartedly.

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By *i-cambsMan
over a year ago

March

Get real. This is 2017 not 1917. Equallity and all that tosh. So long as its safe sex who cares how many blokes have met her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

Yes, because I, nor any other woman on here, use any dating sites

Ha ha. Me neither. Point taken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get real. This is 2017 not 1917. Equallity and all that tosh. So long as its safe sex who cares how many blokes have met her."

Plus if she was attracted to them and not using them for a verification, then well done that lady!

Luckier than most people in here

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

How long did you spend communicating before you met up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

Yes, because I, nor any other woman on here, use any dating sites

*books tickets in the circle for The Lion King at the Lyceum Theatre and a table for 2 at the Savoy and 2 nights at the Plaza

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth..."

I don't understand why you're upset. Genuinely, I'm not being an asshole. Is it that you think she's a slag now and wouldn't have had sex with her after 2 days of messaging if you'd known that first? Or were you expecting exclusivity? Or you feel used because she asked you to verify her? Again, genuine questions, I'm not trying to be provocative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

Same as above. I'm struggling to see what the problem is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

I think I know where you going with this.... yeah 'what did I expect if she agreed to meet after two days of talking' etc etc. Well I genuinely met with no expectations. What happened will remain private but I thought it was partly down to how well we got on so yeah I'm a bit disappointed but shouldn't expect anything less on here I guess then judging by most responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

Of course it was down to how well you got on, That's why she met you. But unless you are exclusive then why couldn't she have gotten on well with the others too?

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By *i-cambsMan
over a year ago

March

You should think yourself lucky to have met. I rarelly get a reply from a polite message even lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I said that totally wrong. Must actually be getting tired now.

Try not to be too hurt by anything.

Life's too short.

Just enjoy it on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I said that totally wrong. Must actually be getting tired now.

Try not to be too hurt by anything.

Life's too short.

Just enjoy it on here

Thanks and goodnight Guess you're off to sleep then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said that totally wrong. Must actually be getting tired now.

Try not to be too hurt by anything.

Life's too short.

Just enjoy it on here

Thanks and goodnight Guess you're off to sleep then? "

No. Just tired. There's a whole world of difference there

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

Same as above. I'm struggling to see what the problem is?"

So this guy speaks to a girl for two days, hooks up, has a great nights sex etc and all she asked in return was a veri! No drama not greif!

Dude, I'd chalk that up as a win!

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations. Maybe you should try a dateing site

Yeah, cos they're all prim & proper girl next door types butter wouldn't melt on there innit

Only some of them... like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth...

Same as above. I'm struggling to see what the problem is?

So this guy speaks to a girl for two days, hooks up, has a great nights sex etc and all she asked in return was a veri! No drama not greif!

Dude, I'd chalk that up as a win! "

Yep. A lot of single guys on here would be thrilled with such an outcome!

Plus the number of Veris are irrelevant, I've been up to all sorts with plenty of people in clubs and never verified any of them and vice Versa

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So for clarity, she joined the site recently and within 2 days of joining had already arranged a meet (and indeed followed through and met) the OP for sex.

And now he's worried that she's just a little 'too easy' and is just a little too happy to share the love

So it's fine to jump straight into bed with one guy but any more and she's a slapper?

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Some people are far too delicate for this lifestyle, however the OP's refusal to verify this obviously genuine girl strikes me as being very churlish.

Man up and verify her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since she joined so a dull two days and we chatted in detail sending loads of messages back and forth..."

You can meet - or not meet - whoever you want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So for clarity, she joined the site recently and within 2 days of joining had already arranged a meet (and indeed followed through and met) the OP for sex.

And now he's worried that she's just a little 'too easy' and is just a little too happy to share the love

So it's fine to jump straight into bed with one guy but any more and she's a slapper?

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ...

When I first joined fab in 2014 I had that many offers I went on socials every night for the first two weeks and about half of those turned into sex.. thats the fun of fab being able to meet so many different people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

"People are strange, when you're a stranger"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So for clarity, she joined the site recently and within 2 days of joining had already arranged a meet (and indeed followed through and met) the OP for sex.

And now he's worried that she's just a little 'too easy' and is just a little too happy to share the love

So it's fine to jump straight into bed with one guy but any more and she's a slapper?

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ...

Wow Dan thanks for drawing such a conclusion. Maybe if you read up you can see I've covered that one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Headline: Male ego gets damaged and turns on woman who damaged it.

Basically, you liked her, you met, it was good, and it would have been fine if she was totally smitten and lost all desire to meet other men, but she was not, met two other guys in rapid succession so now she is a total slag and you were duped.

Yup, that's fairly normal for a damaged ego projecting onto other people. ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is really annoying

I was verified after only being on here 2/3 days having never been on here before and I am far from a time wasters so to even make that assumption about some one based on that is silly

And ive also been on the recieving end of "you've met too many different guys on here for my liking" (by someone who I had actually met only once and 3 weeks previous to that conversation)

If you have an issue with how many people a single woman is or isn't sleeping with then fab isn't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad that other than that one guy the other guys I've met off here have actually been pretty amazing and not judgemental of what a single woman does with her time and body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she just had some free time so made the most of it.

Maybe she had been here before so they were repeat meets.

Maybe she likes lots of sex with lots of people. I wonder if you'd question it so much if it was a guy doing exactly what she's done.

You had a good time, so does it really matter ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then..."

What do you think swinging is then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP has clarified what his POV / expectations were of the site. They might not be the same as anyone else's but they're not wrong as they are his opinions.

OP there's been some really helpful posts which will hopefully show you how others use this site to meet.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then..."
your header reads that you are looking for someone naughty??

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Some of you men on here are so funny! So what is an acceptable amount of meet's to have for a woman before she turn into a slag I wonder!

Good god I can't keep up its one thing we have men complaining they can't get a meet,now we have a man complaining because he has had one!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then...

What do you think swinging is then?"

A shag behind the stands at Carrow Rd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So for clarity, she joined the site recently and within 2 days of joining had already arranged a meet (and indeed followed through and met) the OP for sex.

And now he's worried that she's just a little 'too easy' and is just a little too happy to share the love

So it's fine to jump straight into bed with one guy but any more and she's a slapper?

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ...

Wow Dan thanks for drawing such a conclusion. Maybe if you read up you can see I've covered that one. "

Ha, yeah I didn't mean to sound as much of an arse as I did when I read it back (so sorry about that

) but I guess (as the thread has shown) it's not unreasonable for someone on a casual sex site to have casual sex.

Leaving a veri is, of course, always a personal choice and nobody should be pressurised to do so, but if you had a good time and you liked her to refuse to do so because she's also met other guys in a relatively short period does sound a little churlish in my humble opinion. But it's your right obviously to choose who you do and don't want to verify but if you come onto a forum to highlight your views on her behaviour then it's 'fair game' for others (within the rules of the forum) to express theirs too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then..."

I was speaking in the broadest of terms. Being honest single people meeting people of the opposite sex isn't really swinging

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Women sometimes post similarly to this.

It is all down to expectations in my opinion and if yours differ from the people you meet one or both can end up feeling miffed.

Its probably best to establish at the communication stage if the person you're going to meet is what is often termed on profiles a "quality not quantity" person

(I don't see that the two are mutually exclusive though). That way you won't feel bad.

I would say that I hope the lady you met doesn't read the forum and recognise herself

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So for clarity, she joined the site recently and within 2 days of joining had already arranged a meet (and indeed followed through and met) the OP for sex.

And now he's worried that she's just a little 'too easy' and is just a little too happy to share the love

So it's fine to jump straight into bed with one guy but any more and she's a slapper?

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ...

...in a nutshell!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

Baffles the fuck outta me too!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Headline: Male ego gets damaged and turns on woman who damaged it.

Yup, that's fairly normal for a damaged ego projecting onto other people. ....

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its still good to have standards whatever site you use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing that I will never understand is people on a swinger's site judging people for swinging...

We have different ideas on what swinging is then...

I was speaking in the broadest of terms. Being honest single people meeting people of the opposite sex isn't really swinging "

Not in the basic meaning of the word, but the intentions are still there. People assuming a single person using the site is different from a couple are jumping to conclusions. Not all singles want to jump into bed with people they barely know and some couples do. Call it what you want, it can be the same for any number of people.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'd be blinking furious if I were said woman and I read this. Some men and there outdated view's on women and their sex life,one rule for them and one rule for us! Yes we all want to feel a little special and that we're not just a tick in a box and they're onto the next,but this place can be like that. What someone does with someone else has nothing whatsoever to do with us,the main thing is did you have a good time whilst they were with you!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I met someone the other day who joined fab two days ago. They were verified by someone who said they had met before and thar they were re-verifying them.

Anyways they were totally genuine but in the space of 4 nights they've got two new veris from men just meeting her.

I feel pretty stupid for meeting a newbie. She's going through men like literally there's no tomorrow and I'm normally quite picky about people's verification history.

Anyone else been burned like this? Think I'll be giving newbies a miss from now on..."

If it was a man joining a swinging site and having lots of fun with lots of people, would you think the same?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Were you expecting quick and easy NSA sex with a virgin......on a swinging site?

The woman is a stranger, you have no idea of her sexual history, or indeed of any of the women on here. For all you know any woman on here could have had 20 guy bareback gangbangs twice a week for 15 years before they found Fab.

Just because a profile is new doesn't mean they haven't been here before, haven't had a promiscuous past, been a 'working' girl, only had 1 lover and is now enjoying life. You have no clue about the stranger you have been exchanging mail with for a few days/weeks.

Get over yourself man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so it's now okay for you to disparage her openly on a public forum because she now doesn't fit your ideal of what a woman on a swinging site should be?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"If it was a man joining a swinging site and having lots of fun with lots of people, would you think the same?"

I doubt it very much Ruggers....

Can I do the thread closed thingy please

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

It's March too, lots of companies have holiday rules basically you take it before April or you lose it. Just maybe the lady has a stressful life with little time for hookups & has just thought "Fuck it, I've got x days/weeks off, i'm gunna get fucked silly before I have to go back to work".

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By *rgasmicFunCouple
over a year ago

Gwent

First of all,this is a fuck site for all weman men cpls gays trannys bi-men bi-weman.

Second, how many ladies have u fucked and did u tell her about them all i bet not, and last u would never wright a bad verification, nor would u except one ,we have few but they r not all on there, maybe u should join BT they say its good to talk if thats what ur looking for xx

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

This site was a lot more fun when it was swinging.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with Bobby Tupper. Write her a verification

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you can have whatever criteria you want in the people you meet. The fact that this is a swinger/sex site doesn't stop you from being picky or wanting to meet a 35 year old virgin, if that's what you want.

But I have to admit that I'm finding your selection process to be pretty damn funny. You seek out newbies (presumably because they have fucked less people....maybe?) then meet them for sex within 2 days....and expect to know them well enough to judge whether they are indeed the discerning individuals you deem good enough to fuck? I mean, the very fact that this woman had a veri from her last time on the site should have called your theory into question.

If I were looking for people who were very picky about who they meet, I think I'd probably look for people who have been on a while, have established a pattern of meeting, and have shown themselves (via their veris) to be discerning. And that's IF I even trusted the veri system to be a good indicator of people's sexual practices - which I don't.

Like I said, its fine to have whatever expectations you want when meeting people. But I think you should re-evaluate whether your selection process is really tailored to get the results you desire. I think if you were burned by anything, it was your own reasoning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. I know you're right... I maybe had the wrong expectations."

there doesn't seem to be any 'maybe' about it

did you not think that because one person had re-verified them then others may have done so too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site was a lot more fun when it was swinging."

Do you not use it for swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. Alot of people have got quite angry about the OP's post here. I don't imagine he has meant this to be a personal attack on a woman's sex life. Giving you the benefit of the doubt here OP.

Whilst I don't share the same views as the OP, I actually do get what he's saying to a point and if he feels hurt or jealous or whatever then no one should tell him he's wrong for feeling that way. (They're his feelings and he's allowed to have them.)

I'm guessing the OP feels like a number. (Take a ticket, wait your turn sort of thing.) A forgettable one off which I'm sure most people don't like being.

For me this place is all about fun experiences with people you click with.

I'm thinking maybe the OP should take some time away from the site to decide if he wants to continue. Might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some (most??!!) people are happy to take a number and be the next piece of meat on the fuck conveyor. Good for them.

Why they feel the need to put down the OP for wanting something different is just very odd.

It's one of the reasons I dislike the verification system. Without verifications displayed people could be fucking 500 people a week and no-one would be any the wiser. I think the Fab world would be a happier place like that.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Wow. Alot of people have got quite angry about the OP's post here. I don't imagine he has meant this to be a personal attack on a woman's sex life. Giving you the benefit of the doubt here OP.

Of course - but he did not come on here saying 'I am hurt and jealous' he came on to say 'She's going through men like literally there's no tomorrow ... therefore 'I've been burned'.

He made a very public value judgement on someone else because of his own fragile, dented ego...that's out of order!!!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Stud - Slut

Only difference is one letter & possession of a willy.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I would question why you are on here, OP and your expectations of others. It is a sex site, for nsa fun. Ships that pass in the night. Hopefully the responses have helped you to understand that we are all different and I respect that you are different too.

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it really matters who met who and when on here.

The only thing that would ever annoy me is if a meet cancelled then put a veri up for the same evening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow. Alot of people have got quite angry about the OP's post here. I don't imagine he has meant this to be a personal attack on a woman's sex life. Giving you the benefit of the doubt here OP.

I'm guessing the OP feels like a number. (Take a ticket, wait your turn sort of thing.) A forgettable one off which I'm sure most people don't like being.

For me this place is all about fun experiences with people you click with.

I'm thinking maybe the OP should take some time away from the site to decide if he wants to continue. Might help.

Love how you guys encourage us other guys to take time away. But scared of the competition fella?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met someone the other day who joined fab two days ago. They were verified by someone who said they had met before and thar they were re-verifying them.

Anyways they were totally genuine but in the space of 4 nights they've got two new veris from men just meeting her.

I feel pretty stupid for meeting a newbie. She's going through men like literally there's no tomorrow and I'm normally quite picky about people's verification history.

Anyone else been burned like this? Think I'll be giving newbies a miss from now on..."
do you think its a bad thing then to have sex with a few men in a week.. what about in the same day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a newbie and plan on making a statement

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Hmmm, I think everyone else has pretty much covered it. I will add another little scenario for you.

I have met many more people socially than sexually but for some of them I leave a verification that could be interpreted as sexual. The recipient knows it is a true reflection of what happened but other readers may imply that a lot more happened. I do it because I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,'ve been on here before, am on another 2 sites and have fucked men off Craigslist as well, so my 2 verifications don't mean Jackshit and I,m not a newbie. And I,'ve done 2 meets in one day, twice.It's a sex site OP, people have sex, how many men your meet fucks after you is none of your business, and I hope she's not reading this XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I,'ve been on here before, am on another 2 sites and have fucked men off Craigslist as well, so my 2 verifications don't mean Jackshit and I,m not a newbie. And I,'ve done 2 meets in one day, twice.It's a sex site OP, people have sex, how many men your meet fucks after you is none of your business, and I hope she's not reading this XXX"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get your points..

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)"

Think I just puked a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

Come sit with me we will get over the trauma together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

Come sit with me we will get over the trauma together

Only if your little friends stands so a 'lady' can sit

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

Come sit with me we will get over the trauma together

Only if your little friends stands so a 'lady' can sit

Stop being so demanding just sit on it.... him I mean him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

Come sit with me we will get over the trauma together

Only if your little friends stands so a 'lady' can sit

Stop being so demanding just sit on it.... him I mean him

Only after we have been formally introduced

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms..

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

I think that just put me off as well

Come sit with me we will get over the trauma together

Only if your little friends stands so a 'lady' can sit

Stop being so demanding just sit on it.... him I mean him

Only after we have been formally introduced

Tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms.."

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms.."

Happy place happy place... la la la

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms..

Happy place happy place... la la la"

Every woman you've ever kissed has sucked dick..... Every-woman!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a newbie and plan on making a statement

Haha.. Go on then

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

some of us don't want to fuck the whole site but we want a lot of sex and that's the only way to get enough because how many guys on here are gonna give one woman most of their attention?

right now i'm going without sex knowing i could fuck load of guys to get it, i don't want the loads of guys, i want a few to give me loads of sex, or one would do really.

it's all good and well complaining someone went off and fucked someone else after you but did you offer to sort her out some more?

this is why i don't get guys, who've had previous meets, complaining they can't get a meet...surely they could fuck previous meets? i think they don't want to though and wanna fuck the whole site themselves.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms..

Happy place happy place... la la la

Every woman you've ever kissed has sucked dick..... Every-woman!...

Noooo surely not...... even what's here name the sllllllag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms.."

Sheeeeet!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms..

Sheeeeet!

No mate he said condoms

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

Think I just puked a little

Come on! You must have gone down on a woman at a club and thought how her pussy tastes of condoms..

Sheeeeet!

No mate he said condoms

Ha ha. I got that at least

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)"

I can make this a selling point: my mouth is cum free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

I can make this a selling point: my mouth is cum free.

We can change that.

TSH

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

I can make this a selling point: my mouth is cum free.

We can change that.

TSH

The price is very high for anyone who wants to try: I BITE

HARD!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The trick is to try not to think about how much cum has been in their mouths when your snogging them.

(And how recently..)

I can make this a selling point: my mouth is cum free.

We can change that.

TSH

The price is very high for anyone who wants to try: I BITE

HARD!!"

TSH always wanted to get circumcised, apparently it decreases the sensitivity making you last longer, the sluts shall be pleased.

Just a little of the back and sides please guv'nor.

TSH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications only tell a bit of the story and only the bit they want you to know.

Our last verification was October, but I could have fucked a football team on Friday and a rugby team Saturday* and you'd be none the wiser because quite frankly it's none of your business.

*I didn't, not that lucky

Ginger

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