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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " Sometimes it's easier said then done...kids...finance 'sorry ect | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." Naw | |||
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"Because I'm not a nun and have needs!! I won't expand in a thread, if you genuinely want to know more PM me, if you want to be judgemental I'm not interested!! " Well said My dad was a nun Every time he was in court the judge would ask occupation he would answer nun | |||
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"Everybody cheats period. Naw" You mean 'Every Kint cheats, period.'  . Don't let it slip now  | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." I disagree. I have never had the urge to cheat on my husband. I would never want to risk hurting him like that, I love him. Before swinging, I had never been with another person other than Adam and I never intended to be. Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. "The same way that people judge Bi guys, people who bare back and so on. There will always be people who disagree and will therefore feel the need to pass comment. It's natural I guess. In and out of the swinging/sexual world. Eve. | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. "Well said  | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex.
The same way that people judge Bi guys, people who bare back and so on.
There will always be people who disagree and will therefore feel the need to pass comment. It's natural I guess. In and out of the swinging/sexual world.
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship Sometimes it's easier said then done...kids...finance 'sorry ect" I agree that's a big factor for me  | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." Sorry but that is bollocks | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve." The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going  | |||
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"Roll up, roll up for today's anti-married tarring & feathering thread! Don't forget to tune in tomorrow for another exciting instalment ..
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"Who knows why anyone does anything but life is complicated and I guess some people want to have their cake and eat it, some are scared of taking the leap, some genuinely love their partner but have no sex life, some are just shits and don't really care who they hurt. But it's their life so it's their choice. Unfortunately their partner doesn't have the choice of knowing and making a decision based on that knowledge. I always wonder how the ones who cheat, would feel if they found out their partner was also cheating. Would they forgive ? " I cheat, if you want to say that, my marriage has some issues, and as you have mentioned people have reasons. I've been judged many times on here, too many to mention, lots of haters have beaten me in the forum and also in pm's. We all have a story, but in answer to 'how would I feel if I found out my partner was cheating', well it might actually put my mind at rest and allow me to move on. We're all different, but at the same time, we all have needs. Everyone feel free to attack.. | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." That's a sweeping statement and completely unfounded!! | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going "Ha ha what I mean is that the reason we started swinging was because Adam wanted to see me with a guy. Not because I wanted to sleep with other men and not because he wanted to sleep with other women. Unless it was all a clever ploy mwuahahaha!
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"Why did I cheat? I didn't want to give up on my marriage but I had sexual needs. When I started on that journey I didn't expect to ever get emotionally involved, it was just sex. Last thing I expected was to fall in love with a meet! I left my ex husband, moved in with shaggy, got divorced and we got married 2 years ago. Now we use fab to enhance our life together " Glad you're in a happier place and enjoying your life together xxx | |||
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"Why did I cheat? I didn't want to give up on my marriage but I had sexual needs. When I started on that journey I didn't expect to ever get emotionally involved, it was just sex. Last thing I expected was to fall in love with a meet! I left my ex husband, moved in with shaggy, got divorced and we got married 2 years ago. Now we use fab to enhance our life together " | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. " | |||
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"Things are never that simple. If only. There are lots of varying reasons and contributing factors to why a person cheats, and even more complicated reasons as to why they don't leave. Personally, I try not to judge people when I know nothing about their situation." Good comments  | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! " Pity others don't adopt your philosophy xxx | |||
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"Right if it's your relationship to ruin then fair enough crack on, but the majority of people that have posted they are cheating, don't have it on there profile, which I think is massively wrong you are conning innocent people in to a situation they may not want to get in, " The majority of people aren't cheaters, I'd say it's equal. I'm not. I agree that people need to be honest about it if they are, though. To at least give people the option to say no. | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! Pity others don't adopt your philosophy xxx" I just think it's a very personal issue for some. Most of us have been cheated on and felt that pain and some still feel very strongly about it! | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. " | |||
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"Everybody cheats period. I disagree. I have never had the urge to cheat on my husband. I would never want to risk hurting him like that, I love him. Before swinging, I had never been with another person other than Adam and I never intended to be. Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve." That's more or less the same as where me and my partner are with our relationship. I respect that other people have their reasons, and I definitely understand the good that sleeping with other people can do for a relationship. But personally if never be able to do that behind my partner's back. | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " Sex isn't everything in a relationship. You should know that by virtue of being on here ..... | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going "I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely? | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?"Apologies having a very blonde moment  . Doesn't seem to me like she's been coerced!!! | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." No they don't,I never have. | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?"Sometimes it takes someone suggesting it to make you realise you want it... | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. " This.
OP if you don't know the full circumstances how can you possibly make such a sweeping comment? It's none of your business and nobody on here has to explain themselves.
If you don't want to meet cheaters then that's fair enough, just avoid them. Threads like this one have been done to death and casual judgements say more about the commentator than the subject.
And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants!  | |||
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" And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants! "Haha, brilliant!! That just goes to show how fickle and 2 faced so many people are. I don't give a toss whether people are married or not, its their life. Who says it's cheating anyway? The church? How many people are religious on here?? | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex.
This.
OP if you don't know the full circumstances how can you possibly make such a sweeping comment? It's none of your business and nobody on here has to explain themselves.
If you don't want to meet cheaters then that's fair enough, just avoid them. Threads like this one have been done to death and casual judgements say more about the commentator than the subject.
And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants! "Oh you have the op all wrong, here we have a guy posing as a couple. He thinks all married women are desperate and the perfect way to attract them was this post, took 2 messages for me to figure him out!! | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! " Very true,but at the end of the end whatever someone's reasoning they're still ultimately doing the same thing,they're cheating. Which reasoning do we say is socially acceptable and which reasoning isn't. Are their partners going to agree that their reasoning when they're found out,maybe maybe not. Thing's are never black and white as you say and these threads's are alway's the same,some will agree some disagree and some don't give a stuff. The usual don't judge I have my reasons etc etc etc. The one's that appear to jump up and down 'look at me I'm a cheat and I love it' piss me off tremendously,those that quietly go about their business I may have more respect for. and that's my input which means fuck all to the daily 'cheater's thread. I'm now awaiting my daily reply from said person...  | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?" I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason. | |||
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" And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants! "Oh yes, rather a common act on here. Hilarious. | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex.
The same way that people judge Bi guys, people who bare back and so on.
There will always be people who disagree and will therefore feel the need to pass comment. It's natural I guess. In and out of the swinging/sexual world.
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"Everybody cheats period. I disagree. I have never had the urge to cheat on my husband. I would never want to risk hurting him like that, I love him. Before swinging, I had never been with another person other than Adam and I never intended to be. Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve." | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason. "Too many Lost count of how many messages I get asking to perform with a female to fulfil the males fantasy & their not actually Bi | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason.
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Lost count of how many messages I get asking to perform with a female to fulfil the males fantasy & their not actually Bi " | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?"I am definitely here because I want to be! Hence why I have just set up a solo account to meet women alone. My sexual appetite meets and probably surpasses Adams. I had never considered swinging before but I certainly can't be forced to do anything, especially by Adam ha ha. Eve. X | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I am definitely here because I want to be! Hence why I have just set up a solo account to meet women alone.
My sexual appetite meets and probably surpasses Adams.
I had never considered swinging before but I certainly can't be forced to do anything, especially by Adam ha ha.
Eve. X"Spoken like a true feminist go girl!!!! | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason.
Too many
Lost count of how many messages I get asking to perform with a female to fulfil the males fantasy & their not actually Bi "Yes, I think lots, many couples would never admit to this though. One thing I know for sure is that we are both into it as we met on here | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! Very true,but at the end of the end whatever someone's reasoning they're still ultimately doing the same thing,they're cheating. Which reasoning do we say is socially acceptable and which reasoning isn't. Are their partners going to agree that their reasoning when they're found out,maybe maybe not. Thing's are never black and white as you say and these threads's are alway's the same,some will agree some disagree and some don't give a stuff. The usual don't judge I have my reasons etc etc etc. The one's that appear to jump up and down 'look at me I'm a cheat and I love it' piss me off tremendously,those that quietly go about their business I may have more respect for. and that's my input which means fuck all to the daily 'cheater's thread. I'm now awaiting my daily reply from said person... "Yeah, I'm not a fan of those who shout it from the rooftops like they're proud of it. It's a situation, which isn't ideal to most. There was one poster who would do this and then wonder why they were so negatively viewed. | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason. "I would say a fair amount do it for this reason but they're extremely unlikely to admit it on here. | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason.
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Lost count of how many messages I get asking to perform with a female to fulfil the males fantasy & their not actually Bi " and then they wonder why they can't get a single fem. | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " Why do people keep asking the same questions over and over again... | |||
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" And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants! "I have no issues with people judging me, I judge them about their life choices on here too. What I will say is have the balls to stand by your public convictions, don't message me later and ask to meet. | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! Very true,but at the end of the end whatever someone's reasoning they're still ultimately doing the same thing,they're cheating. Which reasoning do we say is socially acceptable and which reasoning isn't. Are their partners going to agree that their reasoning when they're found out,maybe maybe not. Thing's are never black and white as you say and these threads's are alway's the same,some will agree some disagree and some don't give a stuff. The usual don't judge I have my reasons etc etc etc. The one's that appear to jump up and down 'look at me I'm a cheat and I love it' piss me off tremendously,those that quietly go about their business I may have more respect for. and that's my input which means fuck all to the daily 'cheater's thread. I'm now awaiting my daily reply from said person...
Yeah, I'm not a fan of those who shout it from the rooftops like they're proud of it. It's a situation, which isn't ideal to most. There was one poster who would do this and then wonder why they were so negatively viewed. "I've seen people be proud about it, and they are supported. Personally I'd rather have someone be upfront and honest than being sneaky and devious. | |||
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" And funny that some folk who have been vociferous on other threads - not necessarily this one - about avoiding cheaters like the plague have by PM changed their tune and been desperate to get in my pants!
I have no issues with people judging me, I judge them about their life choices on here too.
What I will say is have the balls to stand by your public convictions, don't message me later and ask to meet."Like I've said before, I've been judged and I've moved on, We're not a minority so can't we all just have some fun, whatever our reasons.. | |||
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"For the record we are a couple not a single male check out our Verification " Well your flying solo impression was very impressive couples on here tend to swing together unless they also have individual accounts!! You seem to be using your couple account to behave like a Tom cat and I'm the one labelled a cheat, at least I'm honest!!! | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " They like to have their cake and eat it | |||
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"For the record we are a couple not a single male check out our Verification " You could have since split up, no! one of you could have cheated on the other hhmmmmmmm so is this the M or the F? | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?"But surely one person has to mention it first? | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
But surely one person has to mention it first? "As a single person? | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
But surely one person has to mention it first?
As a single person?"If you want to talk to yourself, feel free. I was referring to Eve (Gothamsfinest) who are clearly very happy and together in their lifestyle choices | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
But surely one person has to mention it first?
As a single person?
If you want to talk to yourself, feel free. I was referring to Eve (Gothamsfinest) who are clearly very happy and together in their lifestyle choices "Sorry, have I said something to offend you? I am not talking to myself, I am suggesting that some people who are single think of these things themselves. I am not making a comment on anyone else's relationship or on any of your comments, just adding to the debate, if you are allowing my to speak that is, without some bitchy comment??? | |||
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"OP you do realise there's not one answer that fits all & that you'll never understand others reasonings...? A relationship can have many components which comes together to make it work. If only one of those is not working, some people choose to find a work around as opposed to throwing the whole lot away." | |||
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" Hell, the only reason we are swinging is because Adam wanted to see me with another guy and I then realised it would be hot to see if with another girl too. Eve. The 'only' reason? I'd have said that's the best reason going
I don't think that is the best reason. Coming to it of your own accord rather than someone else suggesting it is, surely?
I do wonder how many people join swinging just to please their partners, maybe not this person, but there are definitely people out there doing it for this reason.
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and then they wonder why they can't get a single fem."Exactly, it's a tad annoying ...much! | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! Very true,but at the end of the end whatever someone's reasoning they're still ultimately doing the same thing,they're cheating. Which reasoning do we say is socially acceptable and which reasoning isn't. Are their partners going to agree that their reasoning when they're found out,maybe maybe not. Thing's are never black and white as you say and these threads's are alway's the same,some will agree some disagree and some don't give a stuff. The usual don't judge I have my reasons etc etc etc. The one's that appear to jump up and down 'look at me I'm a cheat and I love it' piss me off tremendously,those that quietly go about their business I may have more respect for. and that's my input which means fuck all to the daily 'cheater's thread. I'm now awaiting my daily reply from said person...
Yeah, I'm not a fan of those who shout it from the rooftops like they're proud of it. It's a situation, which isn't ideal to most. There was one poster who would do this and then wonder why they were so negatively viewed.
I've seen people be proud about it, and they are supported. Personally I'd rather have someone be upfront and honest than being sneaky and devious."There is a difference though - some are upfront, I won't use the 'h' word as it is a grenade, and let people make a choice. It is the first thing you read on my blurb, for example. Immediate move on or keep reading but you have the choice. Some are sneaky and devious. Don't say a word even after you have met. Some are sneaky because that suits them and their privacy needs. Not public but will reveal in private to those they trust. Others seem to revel in the fact they are cheating and don't care who knows here. They consider themselves untouchable and will never be caught. As a cheating married man, I'm aware that there are very few rungs below me on the fab ladder of opportunity but even I am not keen on the show off cheats. | |||
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"Life is rarely black and white. People cheat for very different reasons and I don't think we can judge until we've walked in someone else's shoes. I judge people on their individual situation, not putting every 'cheater' into a group and branding them all as terrible people! Very true,but at the end of the end whatever someone's reasoning they're still ultimately doing the same thing,they're cheating. Which reasoning do we say is socially acceptable and which reasoning isn't. Are their partners going to agree that their reasoning when they're found out,maybe maybe not. Thing's are never black and white as you say and these threads's are alway's the same,some will agree some disagree and some don't give a stuff. The usual don't judge I have my reasons etc etc etc. The one's that appear to jump up and down 'look at me I'm a cheat and I love it' piss me off tremendously,those that quietly go about their business I may have more respect for. and that's my input which means fuck all to the daily 'cheater's thread. I'm now awaiting my daily reply from said person...
Yeah, I'm not a fan of those who shout it from the rooftops like they're proud of it. It's a situation, which isn't ideal to most. There was one poster who would do this and then wonder why they were so negatively viewed.
I've seen people be proud about it, and they are supported. Personally I'd rather have someone be upfront and honest than being sneaky and devious.
There is a difference though - some are upfront, I won't use the 'h' word as it is a grenade, and let people make a choice. It is the first thing you read on my blurb, for example. Immediate move on or keep reading but you have the choice.
Some are sneaky and devious. Don't say a word even after you have met.
Some are sneaky because that suits them and their privacy needs. Not public but will reveal in private to those they trust.
Others seem to revel in the fact they are cheating and don't care who knows here. They consider themselves untouchable and will never be caught.
As a cheating married man, I'm aware that there are very few rungs below me on the fab ladder of opportunity but even I am not keen on the show off cheats." | |||
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"Right if it's your relationship to ruin then fair enough crack on, but the majority of people that have posted they are cheating, don't have it on there profile, which I think is massively wrong you are conning innocent people in to a situation they may not want to get in, " Agreed. While most defend the cheaters, for me, swinging is about openness, honesty and communication. The very opposite of cheating. And despite it's name, there's a minority on Fabswingers that hold those ethics dear. Funny how in other European countries, married people communicate better than the British. We cheat rather than discuss and deal with things. Seems quite silly really  | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " Although I haven't (and wouldn't) ever cheated, I would have thought that members of this site would have more of an awareness than most of the difference between sex and love... and the fact that the two things aren't not mutually exclusive. Cal | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship Although I haven't (and wouldn't) ever cheated, I would have thought that members of this site would have more of an awareness than most of the difference between sex and love... and the fact that the two things aren't not mutually exclusive. Cal" | |||
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"Right if it's your relationship to ruin then fair enough crack on, but the majority of people that have posted they are cheating, don't have it on there profile, which I think is massively wrong you are conning innocent people in to a situation they may not want to get in, Agreed. While most defend the cheaters, for me, swinging is about openness, honesty and communication. The very opposite of cheating. And despite it's name, there's a minority on Fabswingers that hold those ethics dear. Funny how in other European countries, married people communicate better than the British. We cheat rather than discuss and deal with things. Seems quite silly really "And back in the real world......... | |||
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We maybe different from most as we seek men rather than females to have fun with . | |||
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"Thankfully we don't live in a black an white world. Everyone's got their reasons, rightly or wrongly. Anyone given the right variables will cheat. " absolutely true , | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " Poor, low, or no morales. | |||
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"Everybody cheats period." Not so, never have, never will. | |||
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"Thankfully we don't live in a black an white world. Everyone's got their reasons, rightly or wrongly. Anyone given the right variables will cheat. absolutely true , "Not true. | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship Poor, low, or no morales." What a crock of shite. I'll live by my moral code & you live by yours. | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship " I know - simple huh!? | |||
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"Why did I cheat? I didn't want to give up on my marriage but I had sexual needs. When I started on that journey I didn't expect to ever get emotionally involved, it was just sex. Last thing I expected was to fall in love with a meet! I left my ex husband, moved in with shaggy, got divorced and we got married 2 years ago. Now we use fab to enhance our life together " | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. "Thank God someone said it
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship Sometimes it's easier said then done...kids...finance 'sorry ect" it's not always that easy to walk away | |||
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"Why do married men and married women cheat if the relationship is that bad why not just put an end to the relationship Poor, low, or no morales." Says the couple looking for sex with strangers | |||
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"Why do so many people on here feel the need to make judgement on married people? It might not be for you and you may say you don't want to meet married people why is fair enough, but there is no need to make comment on what anyone else is doing. No one can possible know the dynamics of someone elses relationship or why they are here. So judgemental about married people on a site where strangers meet other strangers for sex. "exactly it's not always black and white. Being that it's a sex site you would think people would be open minded. Each to their own. Wouldn't do if we were all the same. No one is without sin. | |||
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