FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it?

By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

That whenever I chat to couples on here you are predominantly talking to the male half. I understand they are a package etc but if your gonna be playing with the lady surely she would want to chat as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant resist taking a look when I see threads titled " why is it?"

That's all I got....

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"I cant resist taking a look when I see threads titled " why is it?"

That's all I got....

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So no input? I have my theories I just want to see other reasons being suggested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant resist taking a look when I see threads titled " why is it?"

That's all I got....

So no input? I have my theories I just want to see other reasons being suggested."

No just a friendly bump back up the page before the thread dropped off the page unanswered....

No need to thank me though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no theories, it's no big deal really.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm the only one who ever answers messages, writes verifications if asked or deals with any of the admin on the couples profile I share so in my case you're 100% wrong in that assumption OP. We even state so on the profile text we wrote together yet still get messages addressed to him congratulating him on pulling me and asking if they can have a go (I paraphrase but that's the gist). So he may as well be answering the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby generally runs our couples page because with the amount of ignorant and annoying messages we get, I'd have hit fuck it and pulled our page after the first week or so. It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder.

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"I'm the only one who ever answers messages, writes verifications if asked or deals with any of the admin on the couples profile I share so in my case you're 100% wrong in that assumption OP. We even state so on the profile text we wrote together yet still get messages addressed to him congratulating him on pulling me and asking if they can have a go (I paraphrase but that's the gist). So he may as well be answering the messages. "
Just what I have found to be the case so far and it doesn't seem like they answer the message together either just normally the male in the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it varies, most of the couples I speak to off of the forums it's the female that predominantly chats.

On the rare occasions I speak to couples re: a meet it is often the fella at first. I can only presume this is like a filter for initial vetting and to shield the female from some of the crap that they get sent.

It depends what you're after I guess - if it's a meet with them then it's important you get on with the husband (as well as his missus, of course!) if you want to end up having sex with his wife.

If it's just dirty talk via PM you're after then I guess talking lots with the fella is a bit of a cock-blocker!

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"Hubby generally runs our couples page because with the amount of ignorant and annoying messages we get, I'd have hit fuck it and pulled our page after the first week or so. It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder."
I send polite respectful messages addressing both as I understand the dynamic. It is off putting though just thinking that I am only talking to 1 half of the couple.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

How do you really know who is typing the message or forum post ?

Just because they say it ?

I could be a typing monkey for all you know

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I do all the chat on the couple profile ... and he communicates through his single profile.

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"How do you really know who is typing the message or forum post ?

Just because they say it ?

I could be a typing monkey for all you know

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You don't that's the problem with couples profiles I guess you can have intuition though that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the forums, it's usually me that chats but Adam comments now and then.

When men message us, it's mostly Adam that chats because it filters out the disrespectful guys who take offense when it isn't myself that replies to the 'suck me off' type messages.

I will chat when I have seen a little sliver of the guys personality and know whether I feel comfortable chatting to them.

We both chat to women.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete opposite here, Fred barely uses fab, he's not a fan of social media of any description so leaves me to run our fab account. On occasion, I have signed off a message as Fred and it was amazing how quickly the man backed off, so you could say that a lot of single men are only interested in the female of the couple, now it's sometimes a tactic of mine if I don't like the tone of the conversation.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We send out "no thank you" messages individually. But anything beyond that will have been a joint message, even if only one of us is doing the sending. We sign off to let people know who is talking, too.

Until we've had a social, or something, I have a hard time getting really interested in people (the messages people send leave a lot to be desired). If it weren't for Marc messaging (with my input) then I don't know how I'd ever really arrange meets

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"In the forums, it's usually me that chats but Adam comments now and then.

When men message us, it's mostly Adam that chats because it filters out the disrespectful guys who take offense when it isn't myself that replies to the 'suck me off' type messages.

I will chat when I have seen a little sliver of the guys personality and know whether I feel comfortable chatting to them.

We both chat to women.

Eve. X"
yeah I get that filter thing but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway."

And this is the answer you were looking to hear from people, I suspect.

There are "couples" who are really just single guys. There are couples where the guy filters. There are couples where the guy is the driving force, with or without the wife's utmost support. There are couples where the woman predominately messages. There are couples where both message. Etc, etc.

If you don't like the dynamic of the conversation in a message, then don't keep messaging. Find the couples who suit you best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby generally runs our couples page because with the amount of ignorant and annoying messages we get, I'd have hit fuck it and pulled our page after the first week or so. It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder. I send polite respectful messages addressing both as I understand the dynamic. It is off putting though just thinking that I am only talking to 1 half of the couple."

Why is it off putting? Or is it only off putting because it's the wrong half talking?

If the conversation was regarding a forum post I'd made then I would answer but when it's arranging a meet what does it matter who's typing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Mrs generally does all the messaging with us so we're another exception to your theory. I only get involved when theres a wanker messaging us.

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway.

And this is the answer you were looking to hear from people, I suspect.

If you don't like the dynamic of the conversation in a message, then don't keep messaging. Find the couples who suit you best.

Keep in mind, though, that in theory, *most* couples swing because they both like it. That means it turns one on as much as the other. I love fucking different guys. It turns me on. But it also turns on Marc that I like fucking other guys (and the same goes for him and women). It's his fantasy as much as it's my own."
Yeah I understand that so I haven't bothered pursuing or meeting them. Yeah from your earlier post you seem to operate like a proper couple which is good.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's Mike here and I tend to do all the chatting on here.If I'm interested in a message I'll ask Mandy what she thinks and take it from there.We're both comfortable with this arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That whenever I chat to couples on here you are predominantly talking to the male half. I understand they are a package etc but if your gonna be playing with the lady surely she would want to chat as well?"

Maybe cause the male is the dom and the female the sub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the forums, it's usually me that chats but Adam comments now and then.

When men message us, it's mostly Adam that chats because it filters out the disrespectful guys who take offense when it isn't myself that replies to the 'suck me off' type messages.

I will chat when I have seen a little sliver of the guys personality and know whether I feel comfortable chatting to them.

We both chat to women.

Eve. X yeah I get that filter thing but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway."

You couldn't be more wrong ha ha. My level of filth often surpasses Adams. It's just as much my fantasy as it is his.

Eve. X

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"Hubby generally runs our couples page because with the amount of ignorant and annoying messages we get, I'd have hit fuck it and pulled our page after the first week or so. It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder. I send polite respectful messages addressing both as I understand the dynamic. It is off putting though just thinking that I am only talking to 1 half of the couple.

Why is it off putting? Or is it only off putting because it's the wrong half talking?

If the conversation was regarding a forum post I'd made then I would answer but when it's arranging a meet what does it matter who's typing? "
Just feels like the man is the driving force, I'm not suggesting every couple is like that it's just a few I have encountered on here.

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"In the forums, it's usually me that chats but Adam comments now and then.

When men message us, it's mostly Adam that chats because it filters out the disrespectful guys who take offense when it isn't myself that replies to the 'suck me off' type messages.

I will chat when I have seen a little sliver of the guys personality and know whether I feel comfortable chatting to them.

We both chat to women.

Eve. X yeah I get that filter thing but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway.

You couldn't be more wrong ha ha. My level of filth often surpasses Adams. It's just as much my fantasy as it is his.

Eve. X"
I never suggested every couple is like that though. Do you look at the guy in the message then before your bf Adam replies to give him the OK to do so? Or does he know exactly what you find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the forums, it's usually me that chats but Adam comments now and then.

When men message us, it's mostly Adam that chats because it filters out the disrespectful guys who take offense when it isn't myself that replies to the 'suck me off' type messages.

I will chat when I have seen a little sliver of the guys personality and know whether I feel comfortable chatting to them.

We both chat to women.

Eve. X yeah I get that filter thing but some it just seems like it is more their fantasy than their wife's or gfs etc or that's how it feels to me anyway.

You couldn't be more wrong ha ha. My level of filth often surpasses Adams. It's just as much my fantasy as it is his.

Eve. X I never suggested every couple is like that though. Do you look at the guy in the message then before your bf Adam replies to give him the OK to do so? Or does he know exactly what you find attractive?"

My 'husband' knows what I find unattractive. Usually from the wording and then the pics. Then I look through the messages from respectful guys to see if I am attracted to any.

Eve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby generally runs our couples page because with the amount of ignorant and annoying messages we get, I'd have hit fuck it and pulled our page after the first week or so. It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder. I send polite respectful messages addressing both as I understand the dynamic. It is off putting though just thinking that I am only talking to 1 half of the couple.

Why is it off putting? Or is it only off putting because it's the wrong half talking?

If the conversation was regarding a forum post I'd made then I would answer but when it's arranging a meet what does it matter who's typing?

Just feels like the man is the driving force, I'm not suggesting every couple is like that it's just a few I have encountered on here. "

Those types set my alarm bells ringing. Scarper

I imagine the woman being 'surprised' he's sorted a meet

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Only one of us answers the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple and I do all the talking

Mrs

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

" It also means that people who are genuine actually start making plans to meet and those who aren't don't get free wank fodder."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not always. Its me the Fem half that's always on here. Hubby rarely comes on here.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 'husband' knows what I find unattractive. Usually from the wording and then the pics. Then I look through the messages from respectful guys to see if I am attracted to any.

Eve. "

and this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both on here equally. Strangely enough my husband wants to speak to men that want to stick their penis in me and if they're not capable of holding a civilised and polite conversation with him then it's never going to happen

Ruby

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

When I chat with a couple I expect to speak with the male first.. and then take it from there.. yes I do begin to wander if after a few days of chatting and I am still talkig to the male.. thats when I part ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples page I tend to answer the messages really as a filter due to the large number of timewasters,mostly single guys who seem unable to read a profile,but its Becks my FB who usually has the final say on meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are both on here equally. Strangely enough my husband wants to speak to men that want to stick their penis in me and if they're not capable of holding a civilised and polite conversation with him then it's never going to happen

Ruby"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I run our account usually (female)

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"When I chat with a couple I expect to speak with the male first.. and then take it from there.. yes I do begin to wander if after a few days of chatting and I am still talkig to the male.. thats when I part ways.

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See I thought when you message a couple you are speaking to a couple. A lot say 'We are a couple address as such' etc I guess the ratio of men on here compared to women effects this though. Especially attractive couples who get a high volume of messages per day.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We are both pretty active on here, probably Anita slightly more than me.

Cal

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I run our profile and send messages but when talking to someone new the wife is very much involved. i'll show her any decent, respectable messages and she will contribute to any reply that's sent. Once a rapport has been established it's me that carries on messaging. She's never involved in the forums.

It's mainly to with free time, I have more than her, but we both want to be on here as we both have fantasies we want to fulfill.

When talking to other couples though I've found it's the guy I'm talking to 75-80% of the time.

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By *op gooser OP Man
over a year ago

chester

"I run our profile and send messages but when talking to someone new the wife is very much involved. i'll show her any decent, respectable messages and she will contribute to any reply that's sent. Once a rapport has been established it's me that carries on messaging. She's never involved in the forums.

It's mainly to with free time, I have more than her, but we both want to be on here as we both have fantasies we want to fulfill.

When talking to other couples though I've found it's the guy I'm talking to 75-80% of the time."
yeah that's understandable and sounds a good system. See that is interesting you saying 75-80% I guess these forums aren't a true representation of the site at all then.

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