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"Go seek help. The hardest thing to do is say "I'm drinking to cover up other problems"... Now you've said it to yourself, you'll be anxiously looking about for someone else to tell, because a cry for help is outward. Go see your GP, take a deep breath, you might well find they'll offer you more help than you thought was available. You're NEVER alone. To which end, if you need to talk, pm me. No fuss, I totally understand. The fact you've "vented" on here? It's a brave start. Get out later, go walking, exercise, breathe. Good luck, and remember this can change... " Thanks mate its just I feel like everyone else can go out have a drink and laugh without feeling bad about it or worrying then getting your self in to a attack of sweating shaking with your head going a 100 miles an hour I went to my gp 4years ago and she put me on pills and tbh they do help but I still have days where I just wanna hide away for days | |||
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"Go seek help. The hardest thing to do is say "I'm drinking to cover up other problems"... Now you've said it to yourself, you'll be anxiously looking about for someone else to tell, because a cry for help is outward. Go see your GP, take a deep breath, you might well find they'll offer you more help than you thought was available. You're NEVER alone. To which end, if you need to talk, pm me. No fuss, I totally understand. The fact you've "vented" on here? It's a brave start. Get out later, go walking, exercise, breathe. Good luck, and remember this can change... " Well said that man! Also 'venting' on here certainly shows a lot of courage. Guys aren't exactly helpful with each other's personal issues at the best of times let alone when they're on this site and their main motive is to get their end away! If you can, seek professional help from an expert. Support from random people on the internet is nice and demonstrates how ever alone you may feel their are people who care, however it doesn't replace expert advice. Leave the house, go for a short walk (maybe do some errands), embrace the mediocre weather we have in the UK, find private place with a nice view (there are plenty in Yorkshire) and make a phone call. Call your GP and book an appointment to discuss the best plan of action. Do the whole "deep breath" thing (even though it's clichèd and a tad dramatic). Make a promise to yourself that today is the day that you will tackle your issues instead of sweeping them out of your mind temporarily. Don't be unrealistic in your goals, accept that you will can have bad times again but that you will trend upwards and continue to improve over time | |||
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"Alcohol is a depressant and shouldnt be drank if on meds for it, its hard to stay away from it but it wont help in the long run. Speak to your gp again or mind and see if you can get a therapist or someone who can just be there to support you when down " You can also self refer to your local talking therapies service - most NHS trusts have an online option to do so. | |||
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"Go seek help. The hardest thing to do is say "I'm drinking to cover up other problems"... Now you've said it to yourself, you'll be anxiously looking about for someone else to tell, because a cry for help is outward. Go see your GP, take a deep breath, you might well find they'll offer you more help than you thought was available. You're NEVER alone. To which end, if you need to talk, pm me. No fuss, I totally understand. The fact you've "vented" on here? It's a brave start. Get out later, go walking, exercise, breathe. Good luck, and remember this can change... Well said that man! Also 'venting' on here certainly shows a lot of courage. Guys aren't exactly helpful with each other's personal issues at the best of times let alone when they're on this site and their main motive is to get their end away! If you can, seek professional help from an expert. Support from random people on the internet is nice and demonstrates how ever alone you may feel their are people who care, however it doesn't replace expert advice. Leave the house, go for a short walk (maybe do some errands), embrace the mediocre weather we have in the UK, find private place with a nice view (there are plenty in Yorkshire) and make a phone call. Call your GP and book an appointment to discuss the best plan of action. Do the whole "deep breath" thing (even though it's clichèd and a tad dramatic). Make a promise to yourself that today is the day that you will tackle your issues instead of sweeping them out of your mind temporarily. Don't be unrealistic in your goals, accept that you will can have bad times again but that you will trend upwards and continue to improve over time " Thank you I do post a lot on here when.iam down.so it.helps.letting me get.it all.and off mt chest Getting out and walking would help.me but its just I cant even think of getting out of bed but your veryy right I do have a few people to talk too and the problem is I feel iam always moaning to them about it so I dont like going on and on about it The thing was.I went out this time as I am.off work I have a good night planed tonight and I am getting in to a new job im after but me been me I feel great drink or what ever andddd then a hoir or so later I feel back down | |||
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"Alcohol is a depressant and shouldnt be drank if on meds for it, its hard to stay away from it but it wont help in the long run. Speak to your gp again or mind and see if you can get a therapist or someone who can just be there to support you when down " Your right it is but I just wanna be like any other lad after work have a pint then home tbh if I drink at home I feel fine as I.lock the door and make sure I dont go out so if iam at home I cant get in any trouble | |||
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"Alcohol is a depressant and shouldnt be drank if on meds for it, its hard to stay away from it but it wont help in the long run. Speak to your gp again or mind and see if you can get a therapist or someone who can just be there to support you when down Your right it is but I just wanna be like any other lad after work have a pint then home tbh if I drink at home I feel fine as I.lock the door and make sure I dont go out so if iam at home I cant get in any trouble " Have to agree about alcohol being a depressant and drinking alongside meds. I think In all honesty you should avoid drinking. I understand about you saying that you want to be like the lads but if they are good friends they will understand why it is better that you don't drink. If you are waking up and feeling that after drinking, that feeling will eventually take longer and longer to lift causing even more problems. Try and get some more sleep, get out for a walk and on Monday get an appt to see the gp, there's nothing wrong with saying you need a bit more help for the moment. Good luck op. | |||
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"Have you had any CBT as well? Talking really does help. Sometimes it's surprising what's worrying you in the recesses of your mind. You might find what it is through talking it through. Maybe have a soft drink after each alcoholic one too as you know drinking lots doesn't help how you feel." Cbt? And I dont drink.as.in binge but I drink.4 days a week but only 1-3pints but if iam not drinking beer its water but I do that just maybe not as much as I should eg I start water once I know iam pissed | |||
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"Alcohol is a depressant and shouldnt be drank if on meds for it, its hard to stay away from it but it wont help in the long run. Speak to your gp again or mind and see if you can get a therapist or someone who can just be there to support you when down Your right it is but I just wanna be like any other lad after work have a pint then home tbh if I drink at home I feel fine as I.lock the door and make sure I dont go out so if iam at home I cant get in any trouble Have to agree about alcohol being a depressant and drinking alongside meds. I think In all honesty you should avoid drinking. I understand about you saying that you want to be like the lads but if they are good friends they will understand why it is better that you don't drink. If you are waking up and feeling that after drinking, that feeling will eventually take longer and longer to lift causing even more problems. Try and get some more sleep, get out for a walk and on Monday get an appt to see the gp, there's nothing wrong with saying you need a bit more help for the moment. Good luck op. " My friends dont all drink.its more about me going in to a pub and not drinking knowing that when I wake up ill.feel freash and un worryed I did 3months before with out a drink I did feel better for it and had less anxiety attacks | |||
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"you guys that reply - ok maybe in jest - that go have a tug is the answer to all need to just check how you reply - real depression is no laughing matter and as much as the forum will always get those kind of remarks they are of no help at all to someone in a low state of mind- op if this is happening often try and keep off the alcohol as this alone is a depressant - exercise to lift your mood - small things but make the day copable with - see your dr and have a chat - x" Your right.I should get out and do some thing but when all.you wanna do is crawl in to a pit going for a walk in the park is a no go | |||
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"The old Beer fear! Try Hydrotherapy. Grab a cold shower, very cold so your hyperventilating. Start slow, minute by minute gently easing into it until it's a really uncomfortable experience. If it works you'll wonder what all the fuss was about. You said yourself, you worry about nothing. There is nothing to worry about, you brain and body are trying to expel a very powerful drug. You're gonna have a rough time, ups have to have downs. "Thats it lol I know I worry for nothing and then I.get angry at my self for been like that and so on | |||
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" My friends dont all drink.its more about me going in to a pub and not drinking knowing that when I wake up ill.feel freash and un worryed I did 3months before with out a drink I did feel better for it and had less anxiety attacks" I know it's easy for me to say as I'm not having to do but you've answered your own question, you felt better without the drink for 3 months. Can you not take that feeling forward and apply it to when you go out in the future? | |||
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"Get an emergency appointment with your gp on Monday. Get some medication and get a referral for cbt. Why suffer help is out there. Keep off the booze if you can. Go running. It will clear your mind. In fact do anything rather than sitting around. Get some help. Sorry not surewhat cbt is ? I dont mind going the docs.just sometimes feel like iam wasting their time when all I need are my.meds signing for Been there myself , came out the other side." | |||
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"Go seek help. The hardest thing to do is say "I'm drinking to cover up other problems"... Now you've said it to yourself, you'll be anxiously looking about for someone else to tell, because a cry for help is outward. Go see your GP, take a deep breath, you might well find they'll offer you more help than you thought was available. You're NEVER alone. To which end, if you need to talk, pm me. No fuss, I totally understand. The fact you've "vented" on here? It's a brave start. Get out later, go walking, exercise, breathe. Good luck, and remember this can change... Well said that man! Also 'venting' on here certainly shows a lot of courage. Guys aren't exactly helpful with each other's personal issues at the best of times let alone when they're on this site and their main motive is to get their end away! If you can, seek professional help from an expert. Support from random people on the internet is nice and demonstrates how ever alone you may feel their are people who care, however it doesn't replace expert advice. Leave the house, go for a short walk (maybe do some errands), embrace the mediocre weather we have in the UK, find private place with a nice view (there are plenty in Yorkshire) and make a phone call. Call your GP and book an appointment to discuss the best plan of action. Do the whole "deep breath" thing (even though it's clichèd and a tad dramatic). Make a promise to yourself that today is the day that you will tackle your issues instead of sweeping them out of your mind temporarily. Don't be unrealistic in your goals, accept that you will can have bad times again but that you will trend upwards and continue to improve over time " Everyone says that, go to your GP. The problem is, you can't even get an appointment to see one nowadays, it's a joke!!! | |||
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"Hugs OP A sex site is probably the last place you should be if your anxiety is that bad. Seek some help from your GP as soon as you can and lay off the booze! For now have a shower go to Holland and Barret and get some Valerian Root - Google it - it will save the day! X" Thanks hun x And oddly enough I have found people on here verrry helpfull and kind when iam having my bad days Going to docs today I will feel I need.it but tomorrow I will feel.like I dont thats my.problem also I.feel iam some times I.feel im.just wasting time when ,9 out of 10 times I just need them.to sign my meds | |||
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" My friends dont all drink.its more about me going in to a pub and not drinking knowing that when I wake up ill.feel freash and un worryed I did 3months before with out a drink I did feel better for it and had less anxiety attacks I know it's easy for me to say as I'm not having to do but you've answered your own question, you felt better without the drink for 3 months. Can you not take that feeling forward and apply it to when you go out in the future?" Your right I did feel better but I got big headed and felt like I was fixed and so I started having a drink again | |||
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"Go seek help. The hardest thing to do is say "I'm drinking to cover up other problems"... Now you've said it to yourself, you'll be anxiously looking about for someone else to tell, because a cry for help is outward. Go see your GP, take a deep breath, you might well find they'll offer you more help than you thought was available. You're NEVER alone. To which end, if you need to talk, pm me. No fuss, I totally understand. The fact you've "vented" on here? It's a brave start. Get out later, go walking, exercise, breathe. Good luck, and remember this can change... Well said that man! Also 'venting' on here certainly shows a lot of courage. Guys aren't exactly helpful with each other's personal issues at the best of times let alone when they're on this site and their main motive is to get their end away! If you can, seek professional help from an expert. Support from random people on the internet is nice and demonstrates how ever alone you may feel their are people who care, however it doesn't replace expert advice. Leave the house, go for a short walk (maybe do some errands), embrace the mediocre weather we have in the UK, find private place with a nice view (there are plenty in Yorkshire) and make a phone call. Call your GP and book an appointment to discuss the best plan of action. Do the whole "deep breath" thing (even though it's clichèd and a tad dramatic). Make a promise to yourself that today is the day that you will tackle your issues instead of sweeping them out of your mind temporarily. Don't be unrealistic in your goals, accept that you will can have bad times again but that you will trend upwards and continue to improve over time Everyone says that, go to your GP. The problem is, you can't even get an appointment to see one nowadays, it's a joke!!! " Lol I should not laugh as my gp has been great they have been really good with me tbf but I know what you mean | |||
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"you guys that reply - ok maybe in jest - that go have a tug is the answer to all need to just check how you reply - real depression is no laughing matter and as much as the forum will always get those kind of remarks they are of no help at all to someone in a low state of mind- op if this is happening often try and keep off the alcohol as this alone is a depressant - exercise to lift your mood - small things but make the day copable with - see your dr and have a chat - x" Take this ladies advice! | |||
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"you guys that reply - ok maybe in jest - that go have a tug is the answer to all need to just check how you reply - real depression is no laughing matter and as much as the forum will always get those kind of remarks they are of no help at all to someone in a low state of mind- op if this is happening often try and keep off the alcohol as this alone is a depressant - exercise to lift your mood - small things but make the day copable with - see your dr and have a chat - x Take this ladies advice!" . * lady's | |||
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"Have you had any CBT as well? Talking really does help. Sometimes it's surprising what's worrying you in the recesses of your mind. You might find what it is through talking it through. Maybe have a soft drink after each alcoholic one too as you know drinking lots doesn't help how you feel. Cbt? And I dont drink.as.in binge but I drink.4 days a week but only 1-3pints but if iam not drinking beer its water but I do that just maybe not as much as I should eg I start water once I know iam pissed" That's still pretty regularly and it really won't help with depression at all. If you've done it before you can do it again. It sounds to me like you should knock drinking on the head totally. | |||
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing?" Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident | |||
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"Have you had any CBT as well? Talking really does help. Sometimes it's surprising what's worrying you in the recesses of your mind. You might find what it is through talking it through. Maybe have a soft drink after each alcoholic one too as you know drinking lots doesn't help how you feel. Cbt? And I dont drink.as.in binge but I drink.4 days a week but only 1-3pints but if iam not drinking beer its water but I do that just maybe not as much as I should eg I start water once I know iam pissed" While it will definitely take your mind off it short term I wouldn't recommend cock n ball torture as a permanent fix! Ouch!!! Seriously though op,it's good you've stopped drinking n I wish you all the best in your sobriety | |||
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"Have you had any CBT as well? Talking really does help. Sometimes it's surprising what's worrying you in the recesses of your mind. You might find what it is through talking it through. Maybe have a soft drink after each alcoholic one too as you know drinking lots doesn't help how you feel. Cbt? And I dont drink.as.in binge but I drink.4 days a week but only 1-3pints but if iam not drinking beer its water but I do that just maybe not as much as I should eg I start water once I know iam pissed While it will definitely take your mind off it short term I wouldn't recommend cock n ball torture as a permanent fix! Ouch!!! Seriously though op,it's good you've stopped drinking n I wish you all the best in your sobriety "I guess not I like a bit of pain but maybe not that much lol Thanks doing ok just trying to keep my head busy on my days off is all but with the other job iam doing well not drinking | |||
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"alcohol is a drug worse than most others so it comes with side effects that you seem to have experienced. i used to drink and feel bad so gave up well over a year ago and never looked back, best thing i did, i'm always sober, never make bad choices while d*unk, never stink of booze, never can't drive, feel healthier, lost weight, have more money, the list goes on.... i don't see a single attractive thing about booze any more best off without that muck op "Me too and over 2 years for me | |||
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing? Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident" my alcohol problems may have been worse than yours then, i was permanently pissed. i'm 20 years sober, so it can happen. good luck. | |||
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing? Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident my alcohol problems may have been worse than yours then, i was permanently pissed. i'm 20 years sober, so it can happen. good luck."And you are only 28 | |||
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing? Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident my alcohol problems may have been worse than yours then, i was permanently pissed. i'm 20 years sober, so it can happen. good luck.
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing? Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident my alcohol problems may have been worse than yours then, i was permanently pissed. i'm 20 years sober, so it can happen. good luck.
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"why do you miss drinking though? i looked at it this way when i gave up drinking: i couldn't remember my nights out because i was too d*unk, what was the point in going out to blackout and remember nothing? Tbh nights out I behave on as I know I have to last all nights its more in the day when iam off I end up drinking more I guess it makes me feel.more confident my alcohol problems may have been worse than yours then, i was permanently pissed. i'm 20 years sober, so it can happen. good luck.
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"alcohol is a drug worse than most others so it comes with side effects that you seem to have experienced. i used to drink and feel bad so gave up well over a year ago and never looked back, best thing i did, i'm always sober, never make bad choices while d*unk, never stink of booze, never can't drive, feel healthier, lost weight, have more money, the list goes on.... i don't see a single attractive thing about booze any more best off without that muck op
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