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By *obodys fool 69 OP   Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just walk away!!

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By *akeyousmile30Man
over a year ago

greenwich

Just walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option A.

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By *obodys fool 69 OP   Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"Option A. "

I'm liking this option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Option A.

I'm liking this option"

Go ahead, make some waves fs, sometimes it's just the feelgood one needs. #Kaboom

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Walk away!! If you blab, you'll be vilified yourself as you continued to see his cheating arse.

I've been in your position before, it's why I now don't see cheaters. You're hurting, it'll hurt for a while but you'll eventually let go and find other cocks to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.. Walk.. Let destiny sort it out... Onwards... Ever onwards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He'll do the exact same to her, so just sit back, watch that space and enjoy when it goes tits up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Option A.

I'm liking this option

Go ahead, make some waves fs, sometimes it's just the feelgood one needs. #Kaboom"

That's hilarious lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a pal who has herpes and send her in then he will have to tell his wife

If the friend new then f#ck her if she didn't warn her

If not just walk away he will do the same thing

But face it you joined a swinging site with him wtf did you expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Burn the fuckers down option A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

I say tell the wife. But some people just want to watch the world burn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

Why do you feel it was acceptable for him to chest on his wife with you but unacceptable for him to "cheat" on you with another woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Why do you feel it was acceptable for him to chest on his wife with you but unacceptable for him to "cheat" on you with another woman?"

Exactly what he said!!!

Sx

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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why tell the wife? you was happy enough to deceive her before this.

this is between you and him, and you're not even with him now. dunno if your friend promised to stay away as well but if she did then have it out with her too, otherwise leave her out of it. but let her know what he's like might be a good idea.

i'd have a go at him, let him know what you think of him and his lies and how he treated you. get it all out but vent your feelings at him, even if he doesn't care at least you get to say what you wanna say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Why do you feel it was acceptable for him to chest on his wife with you but unacceptable for him to "cheat" on you with another woman?

Exactly what he said!!!

Sx"

I'm afraid that I also agree with this.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

Oh lord... why did I have to see this at 3:40am...

You sound like you are fuming and smoke is coming out...

Your thread title:

'About to blow this shit up'

We will never know the full story/dynamics, but you have explained your version.

OP I have a request...

Don't rush into any quick decision. Because there is no rush... right?

Get some sleep and then go through this thread later to see what opinions you get.

Please read this:

You knew he was married, but you was hooked. He got you into swinging and looking at your verifications you are having more fun then most on here...

You knew he was a player, swinger and cheater... and yet you 'asked him' not to do your best friend. You must realise there is a high chance he has done a lot more then you currently think. It is possible he is 'hooked' ...

You didn't walk away when you had the chance after 4 months into your relationship... so look what happend.

You now have a second chance to walk away... ask yourself do you want to be the person to have that pressure hanging over you knowing the wife will feel soo much worse then you are right now...

Your anger and hurt will bring much more pain and hurt to the wife.

All you have to do is walk away... less headache...

Less stress... less drama...

Focus your time to move on and start the next chapter. Prehaps continue as you are on here because you seem to be getting what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you feel sorry for his wife when u was banging and swinging with him. No, so why break her heart just because yours is. Walk away. What happens on fab should stay on fab. We all know what everyone is on here for so deal with it and move on and find another swinging partner, and enjoy yourself

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Walk away, fuck em! Have some new cock and be done with em

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Its a hard situation when feelings start getting involved if u are the" other "...

U new what u were getting into..

And in honesty it sounds like yr more pissed off he banging ya."mate".

His wife may suspect he plays away but happy that.she aint got him over her..

He trying to get under yr skin buy doing ya mate....and has buy sound of it...

Just get yr own back and fuck his mate and fuck yr mates ex......hey simple.

But don't tell the wife to hurt him.........just hurt him..fuck his mates ..do his head in...let them tell him how u fucked them...lol

I once had a woman suck me off while her screaming ex was shouting down phone all angry...it was funny..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

Walk away.. but have lots of fun while you're walking... i call it.. falking. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Walk away.. but have lots of fun while you're walking... i call it.. falking. .. "

Falking!!! Good one!!

Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah fuck his mates and tell them he had a small prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His wife has done nothing to you, so why destroy her life because you have found out his true colours? Your friend is a different matter. She has betrayed you (that's if she was a real friend) I'd leave karma to deal with that bitch. I've had someone like that in my life and doing nothing was the thing to do. The fella she professed was sooo in love with her has been banging half of the site behind her back and she's just seen as a total joke amongst people who were close friends. Karma - the bitch with high heels, red nails and a shit hot memory.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Yeah fuck his mates and tell them he had a small prick "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away and hold your head high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mate is not his wife by any chance is she. Now that would be funny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Oh lord... why did I have to see this at 3:40am...

You sound like you are fuming and smoke is coming out...

Your thread title:

'About to blow this shit up'

We will never know the full story/dynamics, but you have explained your version.

OP I have a request...

Don't rush into any quick decision. Because there is no rush... right?

Get some sleep and then go through this thread later to see what opinions you get.

Please read this:

You knew he was married, but you was hooked. He got you into swinging and looking at your verifications you are having more fun then most on here...

You knew he was a player, swinger and cheater... and yet you 'asked him' not to do your best friend. You must realise there is a high chance he has done a lot more then you currently think. It is possible he is 'hooked' ...

You didn't walk away when you had the chance after 4 months into your relationship... so look what happend.

You now have a second chance to walk away... ask yourself do you want to be the person to have that pressure hanging over you knowing the wife will feel soo much worse then you are right now...

Your anger and hurt will bring much more pain and hurt to the wife.

All you have to do is walk away... less headache...

Less stress... less drama...

Focus your time to move on and start the next chapter. Prehaps continue as you are on here because you seem to be getting what you want."

Such good sensible advice. Sometimes you just have to pull your big girl pants up and walk away

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

So disappointed...

I thought this was the first site thread for bomb techs...

Not a single mention of how to dems an ied or ww2 bomb...

Oh well, while I'm here, I may as well comment...

Op, you have the chance to walk away with your head held high, don't fuck that up cos if you do tell the wife, it's likely to blow up in your face and cause you even more upset to you and drag you deep into a world of shit..

Let it go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So to make you feel better you want to hurt someone else?

No. You had the chance to get out and you didn't. That is down to you. Asking a man who is cheating to not cheat on you? Well that's like telling the sun not to shine in a desert.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get over him. Pronto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this enough advice for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds to me the only reason you want to tell the wife is to try and stop him and your friend because your hurting , not due to any concern for her. Walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have him one last time if you can, and leave a pair of knickers under the passenger seat of his car lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shit, I've just realised I'm the one she's been talking about lol jokes

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

you were happy to be his bit on the side, but now you're annoyed he didn't respect your wishes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What goes around comes around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around comes around. "
it sure does, very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away, get new fella from here, but go to pubs, or places your ex goes to, karma bite his arse from 2 ladies he have none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it you will break his wife's heart just to make yours feel a bit better

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were quite happy to be "the other woman" and not give a fuck about his wife's feelings when he was shagging you behind her back. And then because he treated you in the same way you are suddenly the victim. Poor you.

And because you are hurting you want to hurt his wife even more."Hey you don't know me but I was your husband's bit on the side, do you know he's such a bastard he was sagging my mate behind both our backs". Maybe you can bond over your shared hurt...

Are you really that vile? Have some self respect and more importantly don't be the spiteful bitch that ruins someone else's life just because you feel hard done by. You are no way at all the innocent victim in this story

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

'Close friend'?

Where's the girl code?

Horrid cow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty?? No sure that's what you want but looks like your getting it.

You played with fire and you got burnt, simple. You only have yourself to blame, not his wife, not him or your friend!

What made you think that he wouldn't cheat on you? If he can't stay loyal to the woman he married, the one he goes home to after fucking you and probably makes love to. What makes you think your that special?

Take it from me, I'm a cheater and I know!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

walk away and keep your pride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just walk away however I quite like the idea of ripping your so called friends head off!! But you don't want to deal with the mess that causes!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

There's some great advice on here OP, I hope you choose to walk away from both of them. What a messed up situation, no one needs that level of shite in their live's x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just walk away however I quite like the idea of ripping your so called friends head off!! But you don't want to deal with the mess that causes! "

So presumably the wife of the guy shes been shsgging for 2 whole years should really rip the ops head off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away, he doesn't deserve you to waste your time on him anymore.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Plenty of more fish in the sea move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of blown shit up..... just stand well back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From reading the opening post, it strikes me that there's a whole mess of wrongs here, and very little that's right.

Your hurt OP, and you want to lash out and share that hurt around. But that's just feeding all the wrongs in this situation, and ultimately it won't make you feel right again.

And if you 'blow this shit up, it won't heal you. More likely it will hurt you more. You need to heal yourself, and the best way to do that is to leave this toxic mess behind, not to feed it.

Walk away, because you're just as covered in the shit as everyone else.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

He was cheating on the wife what made you think he was telling you the truth

Your the one who won't come out of this well if you speak up it speaks of bitterness

He'll do the same to your friends live with that satisfaction

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

This should bge titled:

Bit on side finds out he has another bit on side

Whouda thunk it?

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By *aura66Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

The only merit that I can see in the wife having knowledge of any of this , is that her health is being compromised because of her cheating hubbys multiple sexual partners with no ability to protect herself .

Although as you're coming at this from a position of vindictiveness & getting your own back. I don't think that you're the person to do it

Whats that old saying

If they cheat with you , they'll cheat on you .

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

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By *aminxMan
over a year ago

North Lakes


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

See if you can set it up for the wife to catch him cheating with out actually directly telling her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily."

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Burn the fuckers down option A "

It's killed Karma......go for it big style!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

"

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned.Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.Seems this quote is quite apt. Don't do anything until you have calmed down. The most sensible answer is walk away. You had fun but now it's time to close that chapter in your life.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

What a picture option A would be. Can you imagine it.

Excuse me your husband is cheating on you. We have been seeing each other for 2 years and now i'm pissed off because he is cheating on me with my friend. What do you think I should do about it?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Didn't you ask this question a couple of months ago? If not someone else was in the exact same situation. .....walk away. No actually RUN!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id rag the head off ur so called mate ,and seek revenge on ur ex fella but wudnt tell the wife as she hasnt done anything to u failing this just walk away

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have some dignity and respect for yourself

Walk away and concentrate on moving on with your life

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"The only merit that I can see in the wife having knowledge of any of this , is that her health is being compromised because of her cheating hubbys multiple sexual partners with no ability to protect herself .

Although as you're coming at this from a position of vindictiveness & getting your own back. I don't think that you're the person to do it

Whats that old saying

If they cheat with you , they'll cheat on you . "
I like that saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the downside of going with attached people and personally I hope you chalk it down to experience and walk away with your head held relatively high.

Strikes me that option a is your preferred course (or the one you've already taken) and you simply wanted validation.

Your 'friend' and your lover have both shown their true colours and will get what is coming to them. You don't need to be the one to serve it up.

I'm sure you'll receive some advice privately from people who have been in similar situations.

Do keep us updated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't do it you will break his wife's heart just to make yours feel a bit better

Ruby"

I agree with this.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

To be honast it's your own fault.why would u believe he would be honast with you if he can't be with his own wife ffs but yea tell the wife and let us know the fallout haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away and be the better person. He's not worth wasting another seconds thought on.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

I like how the op is seeking the moral high ground on this

She willingly perpetuated a cheating relationship and was fine with that and seeking multiple partners in a swinging context.

Then she has the temerity to be surprised and upset that the man she was cheating with, cheated again.

What goes around ....

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Walk away your better than that xx he'll get found out in the end xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like how the op is seeking the moral high ground on this

She willingly perpetuated a cheating relationship and was fine with that and seeking multiple partners in a swinging context.

Then she has the temerity to be surprised and upset that the man she was cheating with, cheated again.

What goes around .... "

Although she did say he wasn't honest at the outset.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury


"Don't do it you will break his wife's heart just to make yours feel a bit better

Ruby

I agree with this. "

.....will you really feel better about all of this if you do tell the wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why tell the wife? you was happy enough to deceive her before this.

this is between you and him, and you're not even with him now. dunno if your friend promised to stay away as well but if she did then have it out with her too, otherwise leave her out of it. but let her know what he's like might be a good idea.

i'd have a go at him, let him know what you think of him and his lies and how he treated you. get it all out but vent your feelings at him, even if he doesn't care at least you get to say what you wanna say."

If you just want to vent this is the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away, start looking forward, distance yourself from them all.

Living well and enjoying life is the best revenge,

laugh when it all falls apart for them but let it be by someone else's hand and you can smile from the side lines.

X

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"'Close friend'?

Where's the girl code?

Horrid cow."
but it's ok to be a complete dickhead to the guys wife because she is a stranger to her.why not just treat people how you would like to be treated yourself and she wouldn't be in this situation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like how the op is seeking the moral high ground on this

She willingly perpetuated a cheating relationship and was fine with that and seeking multiple partners in a swinging context.

Then she has the temerity to be surprised and upset that the man she was cheating with, cheated again.

What goes around .... "

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned comes to mind.....

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill


"Have some dignity and respect for yourself

Walk away and concentrate on moving on with your life "

Exactly this

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Walk away,don't degrade yourself even more by telling his wife.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I like how the op is seeking the moral high ground on this

She willingly perpetuated a cheating relationship and was fine with that and seeking multiple partners in a swinging context.

Then she has the temerity to be surprised and upset that the man she was cheating with, cheated again.

What goes around .... "

Ay,it's quite amusing isn't it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sorting yourself out on the inside is my advice on your priorities. Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be the better person in this situation and walk away from it

His wife is the innocent party in all this

I know your feeling hurt in all this which is natural

But is it fair to inflict you hurt, pain and misery on his wife

Has he got children? Just think of the damage you can cause if he has, just to make you feel better

You went into this with your eyes wide open

You knew he was already married

So in all fairness he was never really yours in the first place to take

Listen to the advice given

Walk away and let them get on with it

And as for your friend

Well she wasn't really a friend was she to do that to you if she knew how much you really liked him

Trust me he will do the same to her as what he has done to you

What's that saying a leopard never changes its spots

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

He sounds good for a fuck but not much else...find someone else to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

From my point of view, after reading the OP post, surely the initial mistake was carrying on with a relationship after you found out he was married.

I would have bolted at that point.

I know you say you were 'hooked' after 4 months when you found out, but surely that was your choice to carry on, knowing who he was.

It was your decision.

You could have chosen a different path so I'm sorry but to me, you are as much to blame.

Please move on. He has and there's nothing but pain, anger, resentment left. It's not worth wasting life on feeling that way.

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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago

york

I might be wrong but think the op only found out he was married after they had been together a while. So she didn't intentionally set out to be with a married man.

I know how you feel as I am in your situation op and at one point I wanted to tell his wife but then I realised that not only would I look a twat but it's not her or the kids fault. When I had calmed down I realised I would have caused innocent people a lot of grief and not achieved anything!!

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

What if the wife knew n they r in n open relationship or had some sort of agreement that he can do this n was just making out like he was cheating with you.I think two yrs is too long for not getting caught n still manage to go swinging.Whatever decision you take think hard before you act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have walked when you found he lied about being single.

Telling his wife might not have the desired effect and is spiteful.

You could end up being cited in a divorce case.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Walk away... I can't see how option a will benefit youbin any way shape or form.

Move on.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Op dont tell his wife,that smacks of spite and she is the innocent party in all this .

Miss

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Oh lord... why did I have to see this at 3:40am...

You sound like you are fuming and smoke is coming out...

Your thread title:

'About to blow this shit up'

We will never know the full story/dynamics, but you have explained your version.

OP I have a request...

Don't rush into any quick decision. Because there is no rush... right?

Get some sleep and then go through this thread later to see what opinions you get.

Please read this:

You knew he was married, but you was hooked. He got you into swinging and looking at your verifications you are having more fun then most on here...

You knew he was a player, swinger and cheater... and yet you 'asked him' not to do your best friend. You must realise there is a high chance he has done a lot more then you currently think. It is possible he is 'hooked' ...

You didn't walk away when you had the chance after 4 months into your relationship... so look what happend.

You now have a second chance to walk away... ask yourself do you want to be the person to have that pressure hanging over you knowing the wife will feel soo much worse then you are right now...

Your anger and hurt will bring much more pain and hurt to the wife.

All you have to do is walk away... less headache...

Less stress... less drama...

Focus your time to move on and start the next chapter. Prehaps continue as you are on here because you seem to be getting what you want."

Just this....dust yourself down and move on.....plenty of men on here....fill your boots.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"From reading the opening post, it strikes me that there's a whole mess of wrongs here, and very little that's right.

Your hurt OP, and you want to lash out and share that hurt around. But that's just feeding all the wrongs in this situation, and ultimately it won't make you feel right again.

And if you 'blow this shit up, it won't heal you. More likely it will hurt you more. You need to heal yourself, and the best way to do that is to leave this toxic mess behind, not to feed it.

Walk away, because you're just as covered in the shit as everyone else. "

Pretty much this..

Creating a shit storm may seem a good idea when your angry and hurt but later on with the mess it will cause it will reflect badly upon mainly yourself..

Self respect is all. Walk away and be the bigger person..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may well choose to tell the wife but what if in telling the wife out of anger and jeously you actually make her life better?

PTU XXX

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

I haven't read the thread so some of these may have been asked..

For over 2 years you saw him every day or every other day and was in constant contact? You spent time at his house and saw him every weekend? You went on holidays together and went out to restaurants and pubs? He introduced you to his friends and if he didn't you didn't think it odd?

Someone cheating for that amount of time is going to have to be pretty good to get away with not doing any of the above. Maybe own up to a lesson learned instead of trying to act like you never knew anything about a gf or wife in the first place?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

I haven't read the thread so some of these may have been asked..

For over 2 years you saw him every day or every other day and was in constant contact? You spent time at his house and saw him every weekend? You went on holidays together and went out to restaurants and pubs? He introduced you to his friends and if he didn't you didn't think it odd?

Someone cheating for that amount of time is going to have to be pretty good to get away with not doing any of the above. Maybe own up to a lesson learned instead of trying to act like you never knew anything about a gf or wife in the first place?"

I think she found out after 4 month's,I may be wrong though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

Why tell the wife?

You was fucking her husband for two years and that was fine? But now he's fucking somebody else you feel she needs to know sounds very selfish to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Why do you feel it was acceptable for him to chest on his wife with you but unacceptable for him to "cheat" on you with another woman?"

Exactly this

He has made a commitment to his wife by marrying her you was just a fuck in the side, if he can't be true to his wife surely you didn't expect him to be true to you

And now you want to break his wife heart because things didn't go your way

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

What goes around comes around I guess. My sympathy lies with his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seduce his wife? then walk away

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"What goes around comes around I guess. My sympathy lies with his wife. "

I was just going to say the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

option A or option b? that is the question.

Go with your gut feeling, simple as. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now.

Why do you feel it was acceptable for him to chest on his wife with you but unacceptable for him to "cheat" on you with another woman?"

This guy...asking the real questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand."

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading


"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand."

Understand what

That the OP thought she was something special and deserved different treatment and loyalty, but found out she’s not

So now wants to stir shit up.

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By *arahandmatCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

At the end of the day you can't change what has happened, so your anger will not be resolved. Yes, you may feel better at first because you've turned his world upside down (and his potentially innocent family's) however when all this kicks off... it is him with the shoulder to cry on. You may end up strengthening what you loathe so much.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Karma.... it's a bitch

He fucks you behind his wife's back and you're ok with it.

He fucks someone else behind his wife's back and your back and you want to tell her?!

News flash: All three of you doing the fucking are as bad as each other and Karma has come to visit.

The only innocent one in all this is the wife and you want to hurt her too?!

Take a long look in the mirror and have a word with yourself.

Oh and your 'friend' is no friend, he's a prick that doesn't deserve a faithful wife. I hope she's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option C, get a life and move on none of you're business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around comes around I guess. My sympathy lies with his wife. "

What goes around does come around. I was going to say this in my previous post.

The keyword is karma ...

However...

The way the OP was coming across I thought this may not have been appropriate to help in calming the situation:

'Blowing shit up'

Nobody else needs to get hurt. What is done is done.

Enough opinions in here now for OP to make a choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having said all of that...

It appears the OP has moved on and recovered in record time.

Her verifications are coming in thick and fast!

That is interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Karma.... it's a bitch

He fucks you behind his wife's back and you're ok with it.

He fucks someone else behind his wife's back and your back and you want to tell her?!

News flash: All three of you doing the fucking are as bad as each other and Karma has come to visit.

The only innocent one in all this is the wife and you want to hurt her too?!

Take a long look in the mirror and have a word with yourself.

Oh and your 'friend' is no friend, he's a prick that doesn't deserve a faithful wife. I hope she's not."

Would like to borrow my tweezers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always go for option D

To get over a man get under a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option B. Take the one thing good from it ( swinging) and have FUN. Life not worth all the crap xx

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

"

but now she knows her friend is hurting, and if it was my friend i would be comforting them and not adding to that pain.

would you really participate in something that hurt your friend just for a fuck that you could get off someone else?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Understand what

That the OP thought she was something special and deserved different treatment and loyalty, but found out she’s not

So now wants to stir shit up.

"

that doesn't matter, if those are her feelings who are we to invalidate them? i don't agree with the revenge bit, i think it'll just cause more problems, all the rest you cannot invalidate coz you're feelings are you and what make you, you.

my point is her friend is adding to her pain and doesn't seem to care. that's sad.

if you're a friend you should support them and not add to her pain.

bet it was great finding out you mean nothing to a guy (who lied to you so is probably manipulative to get what he wants) and then you find out your friend doesn't give a shit about you either.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

B, walk away.

Your the better person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

but now she knows her friend is hurting, and if it was my friend i would be comforting them and not adding to that pain.

would you really participate in something that hurt your friend just for a fuck that you could get off someone else?"

Given that he was married, having an affair and actively swinging, maybe the friend didn't realise that he was off limit? She only said she told him to keep away from the friend

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

but now she knows her friend is hurting, and if it was my friend i would be comforting them and not adding to that pain.

would you really participate in something that hurt your friend just for a fuck that you could get off someone else?

Given that he was married, having an affair and actively swinging, maybe the friend didn't realise that he was off limit? She only said she told him to keep away from the friend "

if the friend knows she's hurting right now then she should class him as off limits for now.

it's all a fucked up situation, and i can see why people stay away from married men just down to this mess alone but, still just coz the OP did something bad doesn't mean she deserves to be put through more shit.

men you're fucking should never be a priority over someone you genuinely care for, is my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option A is vindictive.

Go for option B.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Walk away as telling his wife could seriously bite you in the bum!! Let him go you don't need the creep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd do option A when angry then regret it forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Karma.... there is always karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush. "

Thank fuck someone else sees the difference in reactions between men & women posting

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush. "

With any luck it was late night stupidity and she rethought in the morning.

However I agree - this is one of those times where she really should have had the same responses as a man posting the same. I've never heard of anything so selfish in all my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"advice please from a swingers point of view.

had a relationship for 2yrs after 4 mths found out he was married. it was to late I was already hooked. about 9 mths in he introduced me to swinging. I loved it still do. we finished 3mths ago got to difficult yada yada. find out today a very good friend is banging him and was before it finished. the only thing j ever really asked was that he didn't do her. so now I feel betrayed and hurt so do I a) tell the wife who has no idea and tear the so called friend a new one. or do I b) just walk away. I'll be honest option a is sounding really good right now."

Dnt do it. She's done nothing. What will you gain from it. I've been hurt but rise above that kind of shit. Also if you send photos uou can be prosecuted. Think yourself lucky to be rid of him

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading


"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

but now she knows her friend is hurting, and if it was my friend i would be comforting them and not adding to that pain.

would you really participate in something that hurt your friend just for a fuck that you could get off someone else?

Given that he was married, having an affair and actively swinging, maybe the friend didn't realise that he was off limit? She only said she told him to keep away from the friend

if the friend knows she's hurting right now then she should class him as off limits for now.

it's all a fucked up situation, and i can see why people stay away from married men just down to this mess alone but, still just coz the OP did something bad doesn't mean she deserves to be put through more shit.

men you're fucking should never be a priority over someone you genuinely care for, is my point."

That's it though there is only one side of the story so assumptions are being made.

It's obviously a double whammy it's sad that she's feeling hurt and found out it's not fun when someone out for sex lies to the people they are with. Oh but now its happened to her it's okay to want have a go at people.

To me that smacks of someone believing they are so special the person wouldn't do it to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush. "

This would make it a killer thread

Makes a change from thread killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush. "

For sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do all realise the OP hasn't comeback since she posted so there's an awful lot assumption going on......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just scoffing chinese and a piece of meat went down the wrong hole, nearly suffocated myself, in fact to make matters worse my right chopstick is now wedged up my nose.

The reason I nearly suffocated was,I can't actually believe the OP has been cheating with a married man for 2 years and she's feeling all betrayed?...

Swap the OP for a man and if a man had posted this threa, it would be lit up like Moses and the burning bush.

Thank fuck someone else sees the difference in reactions between men & women posting "

We all see the difference we just can't be arsed to comment. It's clearly bollocks. If the op was remotely interested she'd be back to check responses.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i can get why you feel hurt though, as well as betrayed. it's sad your friend did that to you, never mind him.

only other advice i have for you is don't give your love or care to people who don't deserve that, and work on loving yourself for a while.

even though you did some 'wrong' things yourself, and everyone isn't impressed with that (i'm not either) i don't think we should have a go at you for having feelings and falling for a liar.

i hope you can see him for what he truly is coz it'll help you get over him more easily.

What did the friend fo wrong here though?

Rhe friend met a known swinger for a swinging meet both friend and the man are on fabs from the ops ranty profile heading.

she is hurting over this guy and her friend is fucking him.

there's other reasons i can think of but OP hasn't mentioned them so i won't say either. i don't think she has to justify anything either, although explaining might help people understand i doubt most people even want to understand.

Friend was swinging with him before she was "hurting".

but now she knows her friend is hurting, and if it was my friend i would be comforting them and not adding to that pain.

would you really participate in something that hurt your friend just for a fuck that you could get off someone else?

Given that he was married, having an affair and actively swinging, maybe the friend didn't realise that he was off limit? She only said she told him to keep away from the friend

if the friend knows she's hurting right now then she should class him as off limits for now.

it's all a fucked up situation, and i can see why people stay away from married men just down to this mess alone but, still just coz the OP did something bad doesn't mean she deserves to be put through more shit.

men you're fucking should never be a priority over someone you genuinely care for, is my point.

That's it though there is only one side of the story so assumptions are being made.

It's obviously a double whammy it's sad that she's feeling hurt and found out it's not fun when someone out for sex lies to the people they are with. Oh but now its happened to her it's okay to want have a go at people.

To me that smacks of someone believing they are so special the person wouldn't do it to them.

"

he probably made her feel like she was special tbh. but like you say, assumptions.

i don't condone the cheating. i just feel a bit bad just because she has done something wrong now people are trying to invalidate how she feels.

if she has empathy for others then i'm sure once her feelings aren't as strong she will realise how the wife feels. or (more likely) she probably knows already and just wants him to feel the pain she is feeling.

i just felt like she was being demonised for doing something wrong, which i also don't condone, and we sort of forgot she is a person too.

and i'd treat a guy the same way also, seeing as i notice the comments about that (and you didn't say them)

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Walk away .. but with your head held high and with a big thank you for introducing you to swinging .. and maybe you'll find Mr right .. or have a great time sampling all the naughty Mr wrongs

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why everyone keeps posting the OP asked a question and hasn't even been on to reply . I bet she will tell the wife regardless of help from this thread, as what's already been said she was ok to fuck him behind his wife's back but now she's got the hump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just totally condescended my own post

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