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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it 23 years. Tried all sorts of meds. Currently on maximum dose of sertraline. Go talk to your doctor. You may need them increasing or changing. Don't suffer in silence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

Sorry to hear that nothing worse than depression, the anti depressants help but take ages to kick in, talking about it does help though so good for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same.

Currently at an all-time low, constant state of 0 motivation, suicidal thoughts etc, but I know things will get better in time

Chin up, OP, easier said than done, I know. But, have faith, all will work out

This too shall pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You tried fitness or acupuncture?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get depressed because i cant get peace or quite,i have tinnitus and its deafening i will never experience silence ever again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys!! It's just very hard at the mo..my family live down south and im generally quite a loner..I've never really let many people in..so I guess my network is pretty minimal..I know it passes but just dosnt feel that way at the mo..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

Good advice

At what point will the GP prescribe meds. I just feel like I'm going around and around trying stuff but I haven't a clue what is helping or if I'm supposed to do something to help myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys!! It's just very hard at the mo..my family live down south and im generally quite a loner..I've never really let many people in..so I guess my network is pretty minimal..I know it passes but just dosnt feel that way at the mo..x"

Online families are here constantly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, excerise like walking, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, sorry to see you are having a rough time struggling with your depression.

I know first hand how hard it can be when people who don't understand are telling you to be positive and look forward to the good things.

It does not matter how good things might be, you just can't see it for yourself.

Anyway. Enough of my rambling! Here if you want to talk. Salty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

Good advice

At what point will the GP prescribe meds. I just feel like I'm going around and around trying stuff but I haven't a clue what is helping or if I'm supposed to do something to help myself...

Say exactly what you've said here to the GP, and if you don't feel that GP is hearing you then tell them that, or ask / see another. Mind has useful advice in "finding the words" to speak to your GP on their website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meds are not always the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer"
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Its the microwaves of modern life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, sorry to see you are having a rough time struggling with your depression.

I know first hand how hard it can be when people who don't understand are telling you to be positive and look forward to the good things.

It does not matter how good things might be, you just can't see it for yourself.

Anyway. Enough of my rambling! Here if you want to talk. Salty x "

Agreed. It's okay to not feel positive -- you can't turn "happy" on and it's a false pretence to feel you have to ... also important to know that feeling down, low, hopeless, overwhelmed etc whilst draining, terrifying and can feel constant *can* change and is not the endpoint. Be where you are but tell people and ask for help, in the same way you'd want a friend or family member to ask you if it were them. #solidarity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer.

Its the microwaves of modern life!"

You come across as a really intelligent man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have experienced first hand how much fight you need when depression hits. But fighting is sometimes the last thing you want to do isn't it. Tell someone each time you're triggered to that dark place, if you're family aren't near and you can't pick up the phone, post on here. 1 in 4 people suffer with a mental health condition, depression and anxiety being the most common.

Remember, your thoughts are only your thoughts. Breathe deep and talk talk talk, you are not alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like to agree with what everyone has said on this to the op and hope things work out for you.

And to say thank you to everyone who has posted with all their positive comments as this has been one of the nicest responses I have seen on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get depressed because i cant get peace or quite,i have tinnitus and its deafening i will never experience silence ever again

blimey, that's hard to live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer"

True -- but -- and it's a big but -- *all* avenues of clinical support should be discussed with someone qualified, as everyone is different and it's important that people know to find out and not avoid speaking to a professional.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same.

Currently at an all-time low, constant state of 0 motivation, suicidal thoughts etc, but I know things will get better in time

Chin up, OP, easier said than done, I know. But, have faith, all will work out

This too shall pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have experienced first hand how much fight you need when depression hits. But fighting is sometimes the last thing you want to do isn't it. Tell someone each time you're triggered to that dark place, if you're family aren't near and you can't pick up the phone, post on here. 1 in 4 people suffer with a mental health condition, depression and anxiety being the most common.

Remember, your thoughts are only your thoughts. Breathe deep and talk talk talk, you are not alone x"

Also there will be local mental health NHS crisis phonelines and online support or Samaritans etc. Samaratins often do late opening drop-in centres too.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I get depressed because i cant get peace or quite,i have tinnitus and its deafening i will never experience silence ever again

I get this too

know how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer"

I used to feel like this and then I realised that if you had an issue with your heart, or your liver, you'd have to take medication. Sometimes your brain just needs some help and much of the time, the medication will help you to be able to deal with talking about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer.

Its the microwaves of modern life!

You come across as a really intelligent man"
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I read loads about it few years back, its not just affecting the bees, are brains are getting interfered with by the electro magnetic microwaves, youngsters have much thinner skulls and it effects them much worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x "

Yes we can all be jesty and assholes from time to time but when push comes to shove and people need genuine help, advice or comforting humanity kicks in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x "

Because you are everyone one of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x "

Has something happened that's triggered off your current feeling?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I entered early stages of depression last year so I can only comment on what short period of time I endured unlike others.

I'd relatively few people to turn to, as I was working in a job that was inadvertently bullying me into the condition. Family were 300 miles away, the company had no HR dept on site, colleagues were stacked against me, and as a Man, I thought "I'll beat this, do it all by myself".

But I had help, in the form of a superb GP Surgery and the team of doctors and nurses who were there to advise and support.

The antidepressants would take 4 weeks to kick in; fortunately, I saw sense and handed in my notice and got out! I saw my GP, the day I left the area, and her advice was simple.

As a Man don't think you can take on the world in any similar future instance. Instead seek help, it's there.

Surprisingly, I found my brother to be my biggest supporter; he's not the easiest guy to know or get on with, but when I told him I'd left with no job to go to etc etc, he was the biggest advocate of getting help.

I still think that some talking of my experience helps, so never be afraid to talk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just like to agree with what everyone has said on this to the op and hope things work out for you.

And to say thank you to everyone who has posted with all their positive comments as this has been one of the nicest responses I have seen on here."

Yeah I agree...restores my faith in people..big hug to everyone who's been supportive and thanks again for taking the time to say what you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just like to agree with what everyone has said on this to the op and hope things work out for you.

And to say thank you to everyone who has posted with all their positive comments as this has been one of the nicest responses I have seen on here.

Yeah I agree...restores my faith in people..big hug to everyone who's been supportive and thanks again for taking the time to say what you have "

I hope you start to feel better soon! Don't keep it in, talk, talk and then talk some more! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get down...and I've been down enough...well...anyway...just remember that you just take one day at a time...do one little good thing for yourself or someone else and don't make big expectations. I've lived one day at a time for over a year. I'm still here

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x "

Ah, bless you. People do care, because many of us have been in the same situation. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group hug

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don't suffer but friends do. Google "I made you a nest". A few words but an amazing sentiment. I used it with a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

My ex wife has suffered with it for years. I've been chatting to her tonight as she's going thru a low point. We get on so I'm there for her when she needs me. It breaks my heart to see her like that and I just want to put my arms around her and tell her she'll be ok. Keep on at your doctor and don't be fobbed off, also ask for some counselling on the NHS, you'll wait a while but it'll be worth it. And don't be afraid to talk about your feelings, people will listen and you'd be surprised how many people will be in a similar position to you. Chin up x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Group hug

Yes, group hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't suffer but friends do. Google "I made you a nest". A few words but an amazing sentiment. I used it with a friend. "

One of my favs!

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

I too walk occasionally with a black dog(affectionately called Harry...currently asleep in front of the fireplace-metaphorically)

Medication and a routine helped me, I did school lunch prep sent them off then me and my actual dog went running...also did a tai chi class with meditation.

A few close friends and family helped but so did talking about anything with people at the end of forums also helped too....stay strong lovely...there are always people on here that will listen in the early hours or at any point during the day x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x

Has something happened that's triggered off your current feeling?"

I think I've always been susceptible to issues with my mental health..but yeah last year was appualing in terms of things that happend, from problems at work, money issues, getting burgled, and a close family member being diagnosed with cancer among other stuff that's kinda personal..it took me ages to go back on Meds again as I didn't want to admit I couldn't cope, by which time I was really bad. I think as I result I'm kinda closed off so I find myself alone a lot of the time..I know I have to make changes and admit I have issues more..I've a lot of work to do regarding my self..but your support has really helped..thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Group hug

Yes, group hug

Nice ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Group hug

Yes, group hug

Nice ass

Nice location

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm another whose been going through the ups and downs for years, thankfully these days i'm much more stable, but it takes time/help/support. Like the others here, very best wishes, hope your soon feeling better, your not alone and you can do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Group hug

Yes, group hug

Nice ass

Nice location

Yep,i see youve changed your from rossendale

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Group hug

Yes, group hug

Nice ass

Thank you

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x

Has something happened that's triggered off your current feeling?

You'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The irony is all this talk about depression is making me depressed......not really just lightning the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The irony is all this talk about depression is making me depressed......not really just lightning the mood

Then step away from the thread

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"The irony is all this talk about depression is making me depressed......not really just lightning the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sat here crying..it's refreshing to hear people do accually care. I really appreciate these messages I know none of u know me but the kind words do help x x x

Has something happened that's triggered off your current feeling?

That's a lot to contend with. Be gentle with yourself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The irony is all this talk about depression is making me depressed......not really just lightning the mood

Then step away from the thread

Naaaaaa i feel at home in this thread,but thanks for your wonderful advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The irony is all this talk about depression is making me depressed......not really just lightning the mood

Then step away from the thread

Naaaaaa i feel at home in this thread,but thanks for your wonderful advice"

Great tits by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like you the now op slowly falling deeper in to that black hole,But I will not let it get the better of me.

It takes time to get back on track but you'll get there and remember your not alone no matter how far away someone is their always their for you, so you make sure you smile and you have that laugh no matter how guilty you feel about doing it and you'll beat this and if it happens again you'll take it head on and keep beating it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel better, OP. I'm stepping out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went back to work on Monday after being off work since Christmas with depression.

It sucks big time. I close myself off from everyone, I won't answer the phone or the door. Leaving my flat was out of the question.

My work has been fantastic. I had a panic attack at work yesterday but two friends sat with me and talked me through it. They made me realise I was being unnecessarily harsh on myself and I was expecting too much from myself so soon.

Today I was absolutely fine so I know that having a bad day doesn't mean I'll have a bad week and I don't have to be perfect. I am allowed to make mistakes.

And medication does help get you to a place where you can start taking small steps to join the world again. Well, it has for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meds are not always the answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feel better, OP. I'm stepping out.

Yeah estella thanks hun sweet dreams x x

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I was married to someone with quite severe depression for over a decade, It only came to the surcace, the cause of her depression after a particularly bad post-natal depression dragging up a repressed memory of her sexual abuse (apparently, I can't use the r-word).

She's making headway now, you have to find what works for you, for some it's drugs, for some its things like CBT.

I would say that if you can make youraself get out and excercise, it seems to help a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went back to work on Monday after being off work since Christmas with depression.

It sucks big time. I close myself off from everyone, I won't answer the phone or the door. Leaving my flat was out of the question.

Today I was absolutely fine so I know that having a bad day doesn't mean I'll have a bad week and I don't have to be perfect. I am allowed to make mistakes.

And medication does help get you to a place where you can start taking small steps to join the world again. Well, it has for me anyway."

A supportive workplace makes a big difference.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm uncontrolably emotionally rapid cycling due to Cyclothymia as the internet puts it "like bi polar but in a less severe more chronic form"

It politely ranges from manic, depressed and rage on a silly frequency that can be minute to minute. Personally it's a pain in the arse and gets in the way of everything.

Jobs as I can go from obsessed and loving my job, to simply walking out at any min as my brain says "why bother"

I don't take medication as everything I've read says anti represents are likely to push me to bi polar 1 or 2 (though tbf having friends with no 1 or 2 I'm starting to think they are better off in some ways just due to how less often they have bouts)

I now control it with gym and being self employed as I can't fire myself and while I used to hate myself for it, I now just accept it is part of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

Fuck off with that bullshit.

Seriously microwaves cause depression just fuck right off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

Fuck off with that bullshit.

Seriously microwaves cause depression just fuck right off"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's sites like meetup for finding groups to take part in for hobbies etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I wish you well, get better soon. Peace & love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most sincere of Huggles OP .mwah

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm on citilapram too. Took ages to kick in after coming off prozac. Talking therapy is really the best thing

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Oh and don't use Fab as a way of getting attention and company. I've tried that when feeling low and it works instantly but less so in the long run. Good luck hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and don't use Fab as a way of getting attention and company. I've tried that when feeling low and it works instantly but less so in the long run. Good luck hun"

Hugs for you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've dropped you a PM

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By *ack2071Man
over a year ago

bromsgrove

Yep I'm a depression sufferer too like said go to gp and ask to be reviews meds as they work for a time but do need changing as you get used to them .

Many things to help but finding wright thing for you is a challenge if you drink stop eat healthy diet, exercise if possible. Treat yourself. De clutter home . If hate job look for another. If unhappy look at why . Get some sunshine too.

Most importantly learn to love yourself....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have suffered since my teens as well it's not a nice thing to try and handle on your own. I've always kept away from the doctors but this last bout of depression has got really bad for me. I decided to goto a therapist instead of a doctor and I must say it's working. My own personal thoughts are give a therapist a go it may work for you.

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By *ugeload_atxMan
over a year ago

Goatstown

A purring cat in one's lap is a great help.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I've struggled with it for years - anxiety more than depression in recent times really.

If you told me I'd still be here 14 months ago, I'd have laughed at you. I desperately didn't want to think like that, but I was just a beaten man....,beaten by life and its ridiculous, cruel ways.

Still here though, bumbling through life ineptly, underachieving, anxiously worrying and posting loads of bollocks on the forums of a swinging site (not this post!),

Like others here, tinnitus was one factor (ironically, a known side effect of a medication it took). What a vicious thing that can be.

I guess my point OP is that, if I can get through the the above, you can too. It can and will get better. It has got better for me - life is still a steaming pile of dog mess in many ways, but it's definitely not as bad as that time.

You have to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself though.

Good luck

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By * inch DanMan
over a year ago

Chinnor

Venlafaxine is by far the best anti depressant out there, it's usually used in hospitals I'm on 225mg and completely stable now. I've been on most others and they don't work!!

If anyone gets suggested to go on mitazapine don't do it unless you enjoy being in a bubble when awake

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

Good advice

At what point will the GP prescribe meds. I just feel like I'm going around and around trying stuff but I haven't a clue what is helping or if I'm supposed to do something to help myself...

Just went to the Mind website and it made me feel worse! Honestly, some of the resources and people that work in the mental health field (e.g. receptionists) just make me wanna facepalm.

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over a year ago

"Venlafaxine is by far the best anti depressant out there, it's usually used in hospitals I'm on 225mg and completely stable now. I've been on most others and they don't work!!

If anyone gets suggested to go on mitazapine don't do it unless you enjoy being in a bubble when awake "

There is no better or worse medicstions really it depends on the person.

For instance you say that about mirtazapaine but for me it was perfect.

It had litrle to no side effects (no loss of libido, chronic dhiorreha etc) other than a great desire to eat sweet things. But gave much so much better nights sleep that ir gave me more energy and improved my mood a lot.

Citalopam worked wrll for me too but i found the inability to cum withour setting aside a good few hours for a wank off putting

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over a year ago

As others have said the meds work differently for each person. I'm on citilapram and like you OP didn't feel they were working at first but they do take a few weeks to really have the proper effect.

I'd suffered all my adult life but like a typical (dumb) bloke thought I was strong enough to deal with it myself. Eventually a couple of years ago it just overwhelmed me and coupled with anxiety attacks i just couldn't face the world outside.

I did however realise at that point that I needed some help. Went to GP and the meds were prescribed. A month later felt like they were starting to have the required effect so phoned my boss and went back to work. He was very supportive and met me on my first day back. He could see my anxiety levels rising by the minute and I also realised I was not properly ready to face life. Went back to GP that day and he increased the dosage and signed me off for another few weeks until the new dosage kicked in. I have to say that this dosage really works well but that is just me, like I and others have said everyone is different.

Try and find coping mechanisms in addition to meds as others said. Art, exercise, anything that works for you.

There's plenty of people you can turn to for a shoulder to cry on or even just a supportive ear to listen to.

Big hugs and just hang in there. Things can and will get better.

Always here if y want to chat xxx

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over a year ago

"I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling low op

I've been quite lucky that I've only ever suffered mildly, but my sister, fiancé and nan all suffer really bad so I've seen how horrible it can be

If you ever need a friendly ear or a shoulder to cry on, feel free to drop me a message 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that life is tough and sending you a hug. I work in mental health and massively advocate Mindfullness. If you can, treat yourself to a book by Mark Williams: Mindfullnes:A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Sorry to hear that life is tough and sending you a hug. I work in mental health and massively advocate Mindfullness. If you can, treat yourself to a book by Mark Williams: Mindfullnes:A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World

Xx"

I like mindfulness too.

I will never take another medication again, and prefer to work on the root causes by addressing lifestyle, thought processes etc.

That's not to say people shouldn't take medication and millions swear by it, including obviously lots of good people in this thread.

The only thing I would say is be aware of the side effects. All powerful meds have them and, for some, those effects can cause difficulties too. If you feel you need them and the benefits are greater than any possible downsides, then fine.

It's still possible to combine a programme of meds with my exploring techniques etc to help tackle the situation, of course.

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over a year ago

"I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

Breath in. Chin up and go and talk to someone who knows you. Family a friend and then a doctor. Get help.

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By *ountryfansCouple
over a year ago

huntingdon

I (adie) suffer with depression. I am on meds for it. They work. But i also went through cbt which opened my eyes to alot of what triggers my problems. I am a work in progress trying to change my mindset. But it is helping.

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over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

Fuck off with that bullshit.

Seriously microwaves cause depression just fuck right off"
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Its true, they make you aggressive to

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours.

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over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours."
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Yeah its not easy but there alot weaker coming thru brick walls. Or you can put aluminium foil on your walls that weakens them as well

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours..

Yeah its not easy but there alot weaker coming thru brick walls. Or you can put aluminium foil on your walls that weakens them as well

It's more their TV's and opening closing of doors through the night

I'm a light sleeper

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, there's a lot of good and positive advice on this thread.

I take antidepressants when I have to. I choose to come off them when I feel strong enough as I enjoy feeling the full range of emotions in all their Technicolor glory. Good feels so much better when you can remember what bad felt like.

We all have to find the combination that works for us.

I do colouring in to switch off. I spend too long on the Fab forum when I am avoiding something (as recently). I force myself to face people when I am anxious. It all keeps me functioning.

I hope you find your combination soon.

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over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours..

Yeah its not easy but there alot weaker coming thru brick walls. Or you can put aluminium foil on your walls that weakens them as well

It's more their TV's and opening closing of doors through the night

I'm a light sleeper "
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Yea nobody likes a noisy neighbour but getting good sleep at night is essential and helps with the free radicals and cell division.

Insulation really helps cut down on noise but you cant beat being in the middle of nowhere on angelsey, its so quiet you can hear your heart beat

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours..

Yeah its not easy but there alot weaker coming thru brick walls. Or you can put aluminium foil on your walls that weakens them as well

Why not wear an aluminium foil hat? Then you can be protected at all times and not just when you're at home.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"OP, there's a lot of good and positive advice on this thread.

We all have to find the combination that works for us.

I do colouring in to switch off. I spend too long on the Fab forum when I am avoiding something (as recently). I force myself to face people when I am anxious. It all keeps me functioning.

I hope you find your combination soon.

Good advice from you, as always.x

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over a year ago

"Turn your WiFi off at bed time and your phone off too and get a good 8 hours in a dark room.

The microwaves cause alot of depression

It's okay turning your own stuff off, but getting 8 hours straight is an impossibility in my place, I don't have an off switch for 2 separate neighbours..

Yeah its not easy but there alot weaker coming thru brick walls. Or you can put aluminium foil on your walls that weakens them as well

Why not wear an aluminium foil hat? Then you can be protected at all times and not just when you're at home."
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Yea you could or just a motorcycle helmet would do the same trick

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

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over a year ago

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's. "
. Thats right, I do alot of exercise in the fresh air working and with a good sea breeze its pureer,id never met anyone with asthma till I moved to the mainland

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's. "

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

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over a year ago

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

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Just get out in the countryside and walk around, walk not stroll

But stay away from the phone masks

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By *eardedSilverFoxMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Bless ya Xx I suffer with Chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after 22 years in the Army, so I can relate to how you are feeling. It is a daily battle and some days are better than others. What I have felt is that when I am in a dark period it feels like the cloud will never lift. However over time I have found that it's best not to dwell on the bad days and just to remind myself it does get better. Also remember when it is good to enjoy that time to the fullest. Don't beat yourself up, be kind to yourself.

Lots of people here for you if you need a private chat.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's. "

Yes, it should be one of the first, if not the first things tried.

I go walking in the mountains as much as possible. I find it makes a massive difference.

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over a year ago

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

Yes, it should be one of the first, if not the first things tried.

I go walking in the mountains as much as possible. I find it makes a massive difference."

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over a year ago

Nothing better than talking to some one about it I did and help to find my way back still get down and want to do something stupid but I stop and think about my kids and stop my self. Depression is a bitch and no one knows what it's like till u had it no one understand us but when I spoke to someone which I payed private it helped took a while but did it no tablets now and just get on with life take Day by day as it comes and no one is better than u.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the fine weather coming back to us

Get out

Fresh air

Chat to friends

Best medicine - you can't beat good company and laughter

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over a year ago

Well said to the guy above

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

Kinda like telling a fat person to just don't eat so much...

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

Just get out in the countryside and walk around, walk not stroll

But stay away from the phone masks

Also, my doc doesn't class walking as exercise unless it's hiking. Whatever THAT is.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Excercise ia awesome at helping with depression or other mental conditions that invole emotions.

Goto gym, pick 1 excercise, lifting running any one you like and do it till you loose yourself.

Repeat untill you see it makes a physical change and then pick another.

It's like meditation, but works. You mind just drifts off and body takes over, creating a welcome break from problems and after you will ache, but it's a clean ache of having done something, not the dull gritty ache that seems to follow depression around.

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over a year ago

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

Just get out in the countryside and walk around, walk not stroll

But stay away from the phone masks

Also, my doc doesn't class walking as exercise unless it's hiking. Whatever THAT is.

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Who you use Dr Frankenstein

Proper waking where your out of breath say 3-4 mph is the best exercise its easy on your joints and you can still admire the view, get a dog if you can as well they force you out and you get good company

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Also if you do join a gym, look around for an avarage Joe gym, not one full of gym fit possers.

I love my gym, it ranges from fat, gym fit, huge lifters and people with no clue.

This helps you notice changes, the people are more friendly and it boosts confidence regardless of body shape.

I'm still a chubby guy, with lots to work on, but seeing a huge fat guy working out let's me think "ok if he can bloody turn up and work out, so can I"

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over a year ago

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

Just get out in the countryside and walk around, walk not stroll

But stay away from the phone masks

Also, my doc doesn't class walking as exercise unless it's hiking. Whatever THAT is.

"
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I worked for nearly a year with one of Vodafones top engineers, I used to carry his stuff for him he was proper clever and really clued up, I told him I used to get really dizzy and sick within ten seconds of getting near the masts and he said alot of people do if there electro sensitive, he told me if you live within 100m of one hed look at moving as the microwaves mess with your bits in your brain that control hormones and stuff and that the phone companies suspect it but dont say anything like the tobacco companies did he even said wifi was the same and this was years ago before most people had wifi .

Anyhow I never taken any chances with mine since I turn everything off at night

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"One of the best things to help depression is exercise.

This should be prescribed by GP's.

That's what mine suggested. Don't even know where to begin with making THAT happen...

Just get out in the countryside and walk around, walk not stroll

But stay away from the phone masks

Also, my doc doesn't class walking as exercise unless it's hiking. Whatever THAT is.

Anyhow I never taken any chances with mine since I turn everything off at night

Fuck!

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over a year ago

Thats pukka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After being abused and r@ped as a teenage boy, and then my mam commiting suicide in 2000 and my dad passing away in 2009 I suffered from depression in 2009 and 2010. The doctor prescribed citalopram for me, which i took for a while but the side effects were terrible for me, couldn't sleep, couldn't get a boner so i weened myself off them over a few months. What i was told to do was just to sit outside in the sun and fill up on the vitamins that the sun gives you. I called on my beautiful wife and close friends who were very supportive, and told them everything that had happened. They were fantastic.

All i can say is call on your family and best friends and make sure you keep them close and feed off their vibes. Xxx

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over a year ago

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"After being abused and r@ped as a teenage boy, and then my mam commiting suicide in 2000 and my dad passing away in 2009 I suffered from depression in 2009 and 2010. The doctor prescribed citalopram for me, which i took for a while but the side effects were terrible for me, couldn't sleep, couldn't get a boner so i weened myself off them over a few months. What i was told to do was just to sit outside in the sun and fill up on the vitamins that the sun gives you. I called on my beautiful wife and close friends who were very supportive, and told them everything that had happened. They were fantastic.

All i can say is call on your family and best friends and make sure you keep them close and feed off their vibes. Xxx"

My mum keeps telling me that she'll pray for me and that God will work things out. That really does NOT help.

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"I've suffered since my early teens..currently on citilapram..but beginning to get blue again..that's it really..

Suffered for a long time on and off, mostly brought on by ptsd. But I've now found that actually changing my lifestyle has had a huge affect on it. No more tabs.

Exercise everyday, yoga, gym, bike, it dosen't have to be much. Spend as much time outside as possible and a complete diet change. Eat far more healthier now, lots and lots of salads with as little refined sugar as possible. The impact has been huge and off course spend as much time as you can around people, its good to talk

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"Some days you’ll have setbacks, but just know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.

Take pride in the little things, like getting out of bed, give yourself an inner hi 5.

Good advice

At what point will the GP prescribe meds. I just feel like I'm going around and around trying stuff but I haven't a clue what is helping or if I'm supposed to do something to help myself...

Just went to the Mind website and it made me feel worse! Honestly, some of the resources and people that work in the mental health field (e.g. receptionists) just make me wanna facepalm.

Sorry to hear that it wasn't useful for you, as mentioned everybody is different and it is useful for others. Perhaps someone else's suggestions could work for you, keep looking/asking and trying new things. As in any industry there are things (resources) that will work for you and those that won't. Also people who you find useful and those that don't. There are many wonderful and caring people working in the mental health field too, receptionists included! Hope you start to discover some aspects that you find beneficial soon. Good luck.

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By *okesyMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Depression can take decades to get over, if ever depending if its reactive or biological depression

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By *heekygent79Man
over a year ago

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I was suffering bad with depression then my wife left me took my boy. Was hard contemplated suicide but had some good friends that got me through it it's hard. There is good out there u just gotta get through and try and do as much as u can at the things that make u happy. Me I wait for the weekend till I get my son that's my happy times.

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