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By *romageFraise OP Woman
over a year ago

London

...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

How so?

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By *romageFraise OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Pornography!

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

#alittlbitofgeneralisationdidnthurtanyone

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"Pornography! "

My question was how so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read that there's a huge increase in impotence of very young males because their expectations of sex aren't what they imagine.

The answer... Better sex education in schools. Teach children and young adults the realities of sex, relationships and body shapes.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Apparently so. Its a bit of a problem for the youngsters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think pornography always warped some mens expectations. To an extent I feel that if women don't ask for the kind of sex they want the expectations will remain.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Too many men think fingerblasting is all it takes to have us squirting like Niagara. They must have got that from somewhere.

Porn actresses are paid to make faces and noise. Doesn't mean they're enjoying it.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think it hard for youngsters growing up with it, differentiating between what actually hapens and what is a portrayal of other peoples fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not easy being a window cleaner nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think younger men are more affected by it as they appear to have unrealistic expectations ..

the amount of profiles I've seen from the younger generation saying 'looking for someone to wow me' or similar words, is unreal

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Has shown up modern women's sexual failings......discuss that

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"I think younger men are more affected by it as they appear to have unrealistic expectations ."

This I can agree with! I mean I watched porn as a kid and was massively disappointed as I though it always took about 10 mins for a plumber to turn up and they had a naked bird answer the door naked and dribbling.

Fucking three years of collage wasted I tell thee!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Has shown up modern women's sexual failings......discuss that

Sexual failure usually takes two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ..."

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There was a BBC Radio 1 Newsbeat special on pornography last year. They played it on the PM Show on R4 too. It's been taken off the iPlayer though.

It was on the back of an NSPCC report that found young people have become desensitised by porn, seeing it as a realistic portrayal of sex that they would like to copy. Not all, of course, but significant numbers.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent. "

I think there will always be people who can't or won't differentiate between what they see on screen and actual life. I know people who discuss Eastenders as if it's a documentary for instance and one friend in particular who talks about Elvis as if she knew him. Hopefully the majority know that whats on screen is fantasy.

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I was horrified what my daughter thought normal sex was, 16 old boys thinking anal was run of the mill? The young think porn is the norm, and real?

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By *romageFraise OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Pornography!

My question was how so? "

In that, (generally) women are gagging to be treated like sluts ....

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent. "

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Has shown up modern women's sexual failings......discuss that

Listening to young women talk about accepting abuse and worse because that's what they are 'expected' to do to meet the expectations of their boyfriends. That sort of sexual failing?

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Mills and Boon, Merchant Ivory and 50 shades has greatly warped some modern womens expectations of men....discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that there's a huge increase in impotence of very young males because their expectations of sex aren't what they imagine.

The answer... Better sex education in schools. Teach children and young adults the realities of sex, relationships and body shapes."

Or, tell them to not watch porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mills and Boon, Merchant Ivory and 50 shades has greatly warped some modern womens expectations of men....discuss

You mean there isn't a multi billionaire with emotional issues waiting for me to stumble into his life to treat me like a princess/sex goddess???

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When I was a young teenager our sexual role models were from magazines. Our expectations were wildly unrealistic and romanticised. Women were docile, passive partners, coy and undemanding sexually. I think that was quite damaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that there's a huge increase in impotence of very young males because their expectations of sex aren't what they imagine.

The answer... Better sex education in schools. Teach children and young adults the realities of sex, relationships and body shapes.

Or, tell them to not watch porn

That's like telling you not to lust over Lib

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

tyga drewhunny (the son of BenDover) did a bbc 3 doc on it the other year.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

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"Mills and Boon, Merchant Ivory and 50 shades has greatly warped some modern womens expectations of men....discuss

You mean there isn't a multi billionaire with emotional issues waiting for me to stumble into his life to treat me like a princess/sex goddess???

You might drop lucky and find some bloke who won £50 on the horses, who still lives with his mom and will take you for a spin in his Vauxhall Corsa if you promise him a gobble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?"

Because I'd hazard a guess that they would realise a woman wanting a 5 man anal gangbang and then have everyone cover her in cum is a bit out there.

I've always thought when these threads come up, young people are thought of as rather stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mills and Boon, Merchant Ivory and 50 shades has greatly warped some modern womens expectations of men....discuss

You mean there isn't a multi billionaire with emotional issues waiting for me to stumble into his life to treat me like a princess/sex goddess???

You might drop lucky and find some bloke who won £50 on the horses, who still lives with his mom and will take you for a spin in his Vauxhall Corsa if you promise him a gobble

I'm suing Barbara Cartland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that there's a huge increase in impotence of very young males because their expectations of sex aren't what they imagine.

The answer... Better sex education in schools. Teach children and young adults the realities of sex, relationships and body shapes.

Or, tell them to not watch porn

That's like telling you not to lust over Lib

Ok, so I have no control. They might

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read that there's a huge increase in impotence of very young males because their expectations of sex aren't what they imagine.

The answer... Better sex education in schools. Teach children and young adults the realities of sex, relationships and body shapes.

Or, tell them to not watch porn

That's like telling you not to lust over Lib

Ok, so I have no control. They might

Teenagers have control!? I was a horror!

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By *romageFraise OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?"

Good point! For myself my main point of reference was chatting to people on a website similar to fab (and the odd sex scene on tv) which birthed a whole load of curious fantasies.... took a while realise there is an ocean between fantasy and reality

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?

Because I'd hazard a guess that they would realise a woman wanting a 5 man anal gangbang and then have everyone cover her in cum is a bit out there.

I've always thought when these threads come up, young people are thought of as rather stupid.

I dont think anyone is implying young people are stupid.

The 5 man anal gb is more obvious to most. But what about the plethora of other stuff, choking, spitting, cum in face etc etc etc? What is acceptable and what is porn acting?

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By *romageFraise OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ...

False, I'm of the technology generation and the whole idea that porn is where guys get their expectations from baffles me.

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?

Because I'd hazard a guess that they would realise a woman wanting a 5 man anal gangbang and then have everyone cover her in cum is a bit out there.

I've always thought when these threads come up, young people are thought of as rather stupid.

Yes very generalist title .... not meaning it to insinuate stupid, more focusing on the effects of porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?

Because I'd hazard a guess that they would realise a woman wanting a 5 man anal gangbang and then have everyone cover her in cum is a bit out there.

I've always thought when these threads come up, young people are thought of as rather stupid.

I dont think anyone is implying young people are stupid.

The 5 man anal gb is more obvious to most. But what about the plethora of other stuff, choking, spitting, cum in face etc etc etc? What is acceptable and what is porn acting?"

We've been together since 16, a lot of of our friends are the same. Sex is something openly talked about. And rather than the assumption that things are just copied from porn, I've never heard anything like that. Of course we all experiment but that comes with time in general.

There probably is people who expect sex to be just like porn, but the vast majority won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's more a case of ignorance to be honest. There are far too many people of various ages that are more concerning in themselves than anyone else with a "sod you jack I'm alright" kind of attitude. Regardless of wether you're on a site such as fab or not as a male you should always show some respect and to form a realistic expectation through some common sense amongst other things.

It's my belief that it's less down to the pornography itself and more down to the lack of social interaction. I mean I can have a conversation face to face with someone and I'd like to think I'm good at reading a situation and without social skills you simply can't understand or connect with others emotions and even their body in the sane way as someone with good social skills.

Thats my view anyway but others may disagree

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over a year ago

It's no different to saying kids who play violent games are more violent.

The difference between those two things is, it's obvious normal people don't run round firing rocket launchers, as they can see what happens in the streets around them.

But how does a young inexperienced person know what really happens in the bedroom?

Because I'd hazard a guess that they would realise a woman wanting a 5 man anal gangbang and then have everyone cover her in cum is a bit out there.

I've always thought when these threads come up, young people are thought of as rather stupid.

I dont think anyone is implying young people are stupid.

The 5 man anal gb is more obvious to most. But what about the plethora of other stuff, choking, spitting, cum in face etc etc etc? What is acceptable and what is porn acting?

There probably is people who expect sex to be just like porn, but the vast majority won't. "

I think that probably says more about you and your group of friends. You guys do come across as way more mature.

This is a really good article about it...

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/22/porn-generation-problems-hardcore-pornography-teenage-boys

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By *ark_KnightsMan
over a year ago

london

"...has greatly warped the modern day man's expectation of women, discuss. ..."

Yup, fake and exaggerated yet exciting

Reality doesn't and shouldn't be based on such more so it should be of what you both desire

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"Has shown up modern women's sexual failings......discuss that

Listening to young women talk about accepting abuse and worse because that's what they are 'expected' to do to meet the expectations of their boyfriends. That sort of sexual failing?

No, i just meant they won't tag team me with their sexy step mom

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