FabSwingers.com forum: Online fantasists

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I seem to come across them just as much in the vanilla world as I do on fab

Just spent about 6 weeks maybe longer chatting back and forth with a guy who "due to our busy schedules" i hadnt been able to meet yet even for a coffee ... now hes just cancelled our second attempt at a first date so Ive just went down the was nice chatting but this clearly isnt going anywhere route

Decent of this one to at least cancel ... i have had plenty others go awol instead but what i dont understand is why these people who have no intention of ever taking it out from behind the keyboard even borher to agree to meeting up in the first place

Surely there are enough people looking to just be pen pals that they can pair off between themselves

This occasion happened to be a date but i have had it happen loads with meets too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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probably had fake pics because he was unattractive, but wanted to feel desirable for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all part of the fab experience, unfortunately...

with a lot of people on here, I find that if you can't arrange to meet up in the first couple of weeks its not going to happen...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This wasnt a fab thing ... i met him on a dating site and i know his pictures were real from snapchat etc ... i just dont understand what drives people to make plans they have no intention of keeping or even why they bother investing that much time in someone they have no intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh then welcome to the real world lol

Some ppl do get off by manipulating others

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"This wasnt a fab thing ... i met him on a dating site and i know his pictures were real from snapchat etc ... i just dont understand what drives people to make plans they have no intention of keeping or even why they bother investing that much time in someone they have no intention of meeting

Maybe he wasn't that interested in you? Found someone else?

Sadly, unless you ask, you'll never know why. Best to just move on and not dwell on the whys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clearly he wasnt that interested in me

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't know why it happens but you done the right thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly he wasnt that interested in me

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine "

Depends, it might got off knowing that he is making you believe that something would happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He* not it*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He* not it*"

Maybe it was an it

maybe it was a bot programme out to piss off girls haha

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Clearly he wasnt that interested in me

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine "

I meant more so he realised he wasn't that into you after chatting. I don't think that's time wasted as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It made him feel desireable? It turned him on? He's married or the male equivalent of a prick tease?

Unless you ask him there's no point in trying to fathom out the mind set of a total stranger. Men do it, women do it...there are players in all walks of life

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By *ouple145Couple
over a year ago

bexley

The mind moves in mysterious ways. You're better off NOT trying to figure out why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably had fake pics because he was unattractive, but wanted to feel desirable for a while."

Oh my god. That just sounded so damn sad. I'm tearful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he wasn't that interested in you? Found someone else?

That.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine "

Nope.

Tjhere are some on here I chat with all the time.

Never going to meet them and they know...usually because of distance.

I won't travel far now.

The only ones I will travel for is ones I've met before.

One of them lives in Newcastle, met before and I've been there a whole bunch of times and I know we get on well.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

No excuses for his actions, but looking from an alternate perspective, perhaps its pre meet nerves causing him to cancel..

I have met up with a lady that was so nervous that she was sick during our meet, a little unpleasant and limited our parting kiss to a peck on the cheek..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine

Nope.

Tjhere are some on here I chat with all the time.

Never going to meet them and they know...usually because of distance.

I won't travel far now.

The only ones I will travel for is ones I've met before.

One of them lives in Newcastle, met before and I've been there a whole bunch of times and I know we get on well.

The difference being they know you wont be meeting and its only chat ... you dont just arrange pretend dates then cancel / rearrange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of reasons

Possibly because...

Fantasists

Bored

Married or attached

Guilt got better of them

Welcome to the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine

Nope.

Tjhere are some on here I chat with all the time.

Never going to meet them and they know...usually because of distance.

I won't travel far now.

The only ones I will travel for is ones I've met before.

One of them lives in Newcastle, met before and I've been there a whole bunch of times and I know we get on well.

The difference being they know you wont be meeting and its only chat ... you dont just arrange pretend dates then cancel / rearrange "

Ok.

Can I ask what's the distance between you and him?...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

About a 10 minute drive

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Perhaps he was keeping his options open?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

In my time on here I've probably had about 300 fully loaded box meals from KFC. It's my meeting point, I've had guys say to me prove I'm real and I say ok I'll meet you at KFC, if I'm real then you have to buy me a fully loaded box meal, I turn up, I'm real, I get my chicken. I've had guys say they'll meet me there and not turn up and I end up buying my own food, I've had guys turn up and I've fancied them, I don't eat then, I just get an Oreo milkshake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

I love this selection process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder did he know your on here.

I said to my mate about swingers he said he would strangle someone if they tried to shag his girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like to add that I've been on fab for 6 years, I haven't slammed in 300 KFC's in 7 months

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By *eggysallyTV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

Maybe you scared him off OP , why you would i have no idea as you look very very nice x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just like to add that I've been on fab for 6 years, I haven't slammed in 300 KFC's in 7 months

haha! I worked that out ... people who slam 300 KFCs in 7 months dont have a body like that

Ive been here a few years too but gone through a few profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

I love this selection process

I'm hungry all of a sudden.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine

Nope.

Tjhere are some on here I chat with all the time.

Never going to meet them and they know...usually because of distance.

I won't travel far now.

The only ones I will travel for is ones I've met before.

One of them lives in Newcastle, met before and I've been there a whole bunch of times and I know we get on well.

The difference being they know you wont be meeting and its only chat ... you dont just arrange pretend dates then cancel / rearrange "

very true op is the chat of a sexual nature ...?

if so that maybe your problem is wanker syndrome he's getting his regular wank fix supplied by you no need to ever meet .

when ever you engage in naughty chat you run the risk of pleasing a keyboard wanker who never meets it is what it is.

call for a early social normally sorts such people out rather quickly if they cancel that social tell them they have to tell you a alternative place and time while you wait engage in no more teasing naughty chat keep it friendly light hearted informal.

one of two things will happen they will get back to you with a new date or they will move on as your no longer supplying what they need for there wanking habit

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

Crikey, even I would agree to a meet in KFC if you were going to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About a 10 minute drive "

Right well, haha.

Well it's one of these:

1. He looks fuck all like his pics

2. He's married

3. He's just flat out bottling it (especially if he's been bigging himself up as to his sexual prowess).

4. He's not that into you.

I'd be inclined to go for 1 or 3.

He might just have a small dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's best not to place unrealistic expectation on the returns we anticipate from casual online social interaction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"About a 10 minute drive

Right well, haha.

Well it's one of these:

1. He looks fuck all like his pics

2. He's married

3. He's just flat out bottling it (especially if he's been bigging himself up as to his sexual prowess).

4. He's not that into you.

I'd be inclined to go for 1 or 3.

He might just have a small dick.

I think 4 is a given lol .., if someone is into you they will find a way round the other things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's best not to place unrealistic expectation on the returns we anticipate from casual online social interaction

I think expecting someone to only make plans if they intend to keep them shouldn't be an unrealistic expectation of return ... i suppose it boils down to the fact it annoys me that people behave in ways online that would be considered rude in "real life"

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

"If people are reluctant to just meet for a quick social (and they're local) then I don't waste time chatting any further.

Fuck me,,

How'd ya manage to stay so slim?

300 box meals, I'd be the size of a blimp..

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

But i cant fathom why you would waste so long chatting with someone you have no interest in ... surely thats wasting his time as much as mine

Nope.

Tjhere are some on here I chat with all the time.

Never going to meet them and they know...usually because of distance.

I won't travel far now.

The only ones I will travel for is ones I've met before.

One of them lives in Newcastle, met before and I've been there a whole bunch of times and I know we get on well.

The difference being they know you wont be meeting and its only chat ... you dont just arrange pretend dates then cancel / rearrange

very true op is the chat of a sexual nature ...?

if so that maybe your problem is wanker syndrome he's getting his regular wank fix supplied by you no need to ever meet .

when ever you engage in naughty chat you run the risk of pleasing a keyboard wanker who never meets it is what it is.

one of two things will happen they will get back to you with a new date or they will move on as your no longer supplying what they need for there wanking habit

xx"

If someone I've never met starts with the wank chat i lose interest. You can tell the difference between someone just wanting you to help get them off and someone wanted MG to fme me your buttons. I like that when I know they want to push them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's best not to place unrealistic expectation on the returns we anticipate from casual online social interaction

Very true..... some people do behave differently while online...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About a 10 minute drive

Right well, haha.

Well it's one of these:

1. He looks fuck all like his pics

2. He's married

3. He's just flat out bottling it (especially if he's been bigging himself up as to his sexual prowess).

4. He's not that into you.

I'd be inclined to go for 1 or 3.

He might just have a small dick.

I think 4 is a given lol .., if someone is into you they will find a way round the other things "

Not necessarily.

It could also be that you're too close.

10 minutes is way too close for me, I don't want to be bumping eachother on the street.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"About a 10 minute drive

Right well, haha.

Well it's one of these:

1. He looks fuck all like his pics

2. He's married

3. He's just flat out bottling it (especially if he's been bigging himself up as to his sexual prowess).

4. He's not that into you.

I'd be inclined to go for 1 or 3.

He might just have a small dick.

I think 4 is a given lol .., if someone is into you they will find a way round the other things

Not necessarily.

It could also be that you're too close.

10 minutes is way too close for me, I don't want to be bumping eachother on the street. "

It wasnt a fab meet!! It was a date ... so i would like to hope we would have done a bit nore than bump into each other on the street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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The allure of internet fantasy

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"probably had fake pics because he was unattractive, but wanted to feel desirable for a while.

Oh my god. That just sounded so damn sad. I'm tearful. "

you forgot the

did it really sound that bad though? i was kinda blase about it.

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