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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Has fab changed your outlook on sex?

Before joining I thought sex was an intimate thing between 2 people. Love doesn't have to be involved but having some feeling during sex was nice.

After being on here and seeing the game it's unfortunate (I think) that sex is just an activity, a fuck.

What are your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still see sex between two people, in particular, as a very sensual spiritual act... but sometimes I feel, in myself, that all the chat and so on on here cheapens it for me, and just sex for the sake of physical pleasure just doesn't scratch the itch for me. But that's just my opinion.

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I dont agree that its so black and white as that.

It takes all types, some on here think it's a cheap escort agency, not sure how successful that is for them.

Others need a chemistry bond with the other(s), for me they become real friends, social, chatty, caring and just play together sexually as part of play, bonding the friendship.

I tried a bukkake, nice experience but did not turn me om enough. I need the lady/ladies to be loving it, turned on, cumming, etc.

However, I think a gangbang is likely just pure sex. I've had one mmf and the m moved on soon after, leaving his f. Not sure I got the reason why.

So I think you can still find what you need, want, desire. Likely here more than match or phish if its swinging with friends you are looking for.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford


"I still see sex between two people, in particular, as a very sensual spiritual act... but sometimes I feel, in myself, that all the chat and so on on here cheapens it for me, and just sex for the sake of physical pleasure just doesn't scratch the itch for me. But that's just my opinion. "

Couldn't have put it better myself. Why has this happened? Surely it's not a good thing then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more with you.

But I think the whole society is changing, it is not something specifically fab based... the hypersexualisation on our societies pushes people to see sex not so much as an intimate act but more as pur physical satisfaction, to the detriment of young generation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me. I'm not having sex with you because I need to get my rocks off

I need to have an attraction first or it's not rocking my boat. If we're getting naked it's because I want us both to enjoy it, you and I.

Ive had passionate sex. Filthy sex, dirty sex. Sensual sex.

Each and every time I've been left wanting more because it was with someone I enjoyed being with. Not because it was sex.

Again. My opinion, may not be the same as anyone else.

Fab hasn't changed my opinion, but it has highlighted how many people enjoy sex in different ways. . Happy fabbing.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think it depends on the person tbh, I'm very specific about who I meet and also their attitude towards me. I can and have gone months without as I need a connection of some sort, and making sure I'm not just any hole is a goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still see sex between two people, in particular, as a very sensual spiritual act... but sometimes I feel, in myself, that all the chat and so on on here cheapens it for me, and just sex for the sake of physical pleasure just doesn't scratch the itch for me. But that's just my opinion.

Couldn't have put it better myself. Why has this happened? Surely it's not a good thing then."

I agree

Not meaning to generalise but I wonder if different groups of users crave different levels of intimacy from Fab, such as couples not being bothered about a mental connection as their mental and emotional needs are already being met.

I don't do local meets so I tend to talk to people who I plan to meet for a fair while before we do meet, so there's often a bit of a mental connection, and I only meet single people too.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Has fab changed your outlook on sex?

Before joining I thought sex was an intimate thing between 2 people. Love doesn't have to be involved but having some feeling during sex was nice.

After being on here and seeing the game it's unfortunate (I think) that sex is just an activity, a fuck.

What are your thoughts?"

Been on fab is just a need I have that needs fulfilling once in a while

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

I suppose intimacy has different levels. For me a 20min suck/fuck/wank means nothing and actually is a little disrespectful in my eyes but I can get the whole thing relating to "needs".

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By *assybitchWoman
over a year ago

around the world

Its just sex..having a highly strung job i need release.

But wham bams are not for me as i need a good 6/8 hour session, so if im going to spend that long with someone i need to know we can actually manage to be in the same room for that period with out doing each others head in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no my outlook hasn't changed at all..

I've always really enjoyed sex, with men, women and sometimes both at the same time ...and long may it continue..

I was on similar sites before joining fab but I prefer it on here as the search options are more localised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intimacy goes way beyond the physical

Casual sex and intimacy has no correlation

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go.

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By *ungBlackTop OP   Man
over a year ago

salford


"I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go."

so casual sex is just a physical thing, devoid of any feeling? That's where I'm going wrong hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its just sex..having a highly strung job i need release.

But wham bams are not for me as i need a good 6/8 hour session, so if im going to spend that long with someone i need to know we can actually manage to be in the same room for that period with out doing each others head in "

This would be my view too.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city


"Me. I'm not having sex with you because I need to get my rocks off

I need to have an attraction first or it's not rocking my boat. If we're getting naked it's because I want us both to enjoy it, you and I.

Ive had passionate sex. Filthy sex, dirty sex. Sensual sex.

Each and every time I've been left wanting more because it was with someone I enjoyed being with. Not because it was sex.

Again. My opinion, may not be the same as anyone else.

Fab hasn't changed my opinion, but it has highlighted how many people enjoy sex in different ways. . Happy fabbing. "

Love this

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

I have a spiritual side, I also have a wild and wanton side

You are definitely judged by sone men for being here but on the other side I do have friends on the scene and enjoy the social side of swinging

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go.

so casual sex is just a physical thing, devoid of any feeling? That's where I'm going wrong hahaha"

Im not saying its a pure physical thing with no feelings at all. What i meant was that it doesnt involve the relationship and level of emotion that i used to think it should.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go.

so casual sex is just a physical thing, devoid of any feeling? That's where I'm going wrong hahaha"

I am one who prefers depth - the more the better - the more intense, the closer, the more emotional involvement.....

But casual sex does not have to be totally 'devoid of any feeling' - just a different kind of feeling. I can have nsa sex purely for lusty fun if I choose to, it's just that I rarely choose to!

And it should not imply any disrespect, if both parties are open an honest and desire the same thing.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go.

so casual sex is just a physical thing, devoid of any feeling? That's where I'm going wrong hahaha

I am one who prefers depth - the more the better - the more intense, the closer, the more emotional involvement.....

But casual sex does not have to be totally 'devoid of any feeling' - just a different kind of feeling. I can have nsa sex purely for lusty fun if I choose to, it's just that I rarely choose to!

And it should not imply any disrespect, if both parties are open an honest and desire the same thing.

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Preferably i prefer regular meets, one off doesnt suit me, i prefer to build friendships and have a connection with that person/people. As you say a different kind of feeling, without the emotional attachment

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are lots of people on here looking for a temporary intimacy, lots looking for just sex nothing else and even more it would seem looking for longer term intimacy.

I have observed very unscientifically that the people who accept that what they're after is ok and acceptable as long as they're happy are the least conflicted.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I used to think (before joining) that sex should be something between 2 people who were in a relationship and in love. After bad relationships i came to the conclusion that maybe that isnt the case. Not wanting to get into another relationship i decided maybe casual sex was the way to go.

so casual sex is just a physical thing, devoid of any feeling? That's where I'm going wrong hahaha

I am one who prefers depth - the more the better - the more intense, the closer, the more emotional involvement.....

But casual sex does not have to be totally 'devoid of any feeling' - just a different kind of feeling. I can have nsa sex purely for lusty fun if I choose to, it's just that I rarely choose to!

And it should not imply any disrespect, if both parties are open an honest and desire the same thing.

Preferably i prefer regular meets, one off doesnt suit me, i prefer to build friendships and have a connection with that person/people. As you say a different kind of feeling, without the emotional attachment"

Yes, I can do both - it depends on the person and the kind of connection we have, not on the number of times we meet.

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Prefer regular to one ofs as you feel more relaxed and comfortable and there is more intimacy than a one off fuck. But as some have said sometimes are needs get in the way and a quick tumble sorts us out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting question and one I've pondered since I joined ie why am I here and what do I want?

I'm not sure I came up with an answer exactly as new experiences and the potential excitement of a club or multiple partner session excites. Overall I think I'd prefer a regular partner, or partners to develop intimacy with.

I think you have to be honest with yourself and others, if you don't it just becomes an activity with little purpose, which may suit some.

Even if you go with the flow acknowledge that's what your doing. Everyone knows their path, some just don't choose to recognise it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab hasn't changed my outlook on sex at all. I have no interest in how others conduct their activities, and don't think it's sad that for some sex is just an activity. It obviously serves a purpose and I get that. What exactly is sad about just having sex for fun if it makes someone smile?

I'm part of a couple but mostly meet alone using this profile, so I'm not looking for a love or any sort of heavily emotional relationship, but I have no interest in meeting just anyone. I meet those that I do because there is an attraction and a desire to have sex with them but that is as deep as it gets. I'm not convinced that this is a rare situation as the guys I meet get that.

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