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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. Even two years ago i wouldn't have been as confident as I am now. And then i remembered an experience at uni when the guy I was seeing put a towel over me as he came so that I didn't get covered but now that seems like a daft idea, the messier the better! My ex bf introduced me to this world and despite him being a Twunt, it was definitely the switch on becoming sexually confident. So when was yours? Was there a defining moment or has it just been a slow burner to where you are now? " Mine was when my ex husband left after years of very bad sex I decided to start dating and explore what I'd been missing. I was very lucky to meet my new man who showed me what sex should be about and now enjoy swinging together. Just goes to show you're never too old for good sex x | |||
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"I find it strange that any bloke would find my body sexy, but once I get going I really don't care. I wander around clubs half naked and don't even worry, because I am in surroundings that enable it. Yet I won't wear a bikini on a beach. " But from your pic your body does look sexy x | |||
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"Hmmmm any day now Tricky bugger to find isn't it?" Meh I've never been physically confident so at almost 40 I'm not expecting that to change. I'm strangke okay with awkward | |||
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"my sexual confidence is lower than before i came on here. i dunno, just feel like most men don't even really like sex and are only here to chase women until they catch them then they go off and look for someone else. gonna stick to married and attached guys, at least they actually seem to like a lot of sex." | |||
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"Hmmmm any day now Tricky bugger to find isn't it? Meh I've never been physically confident so at almost 40 I'm not expecting that to change. I'm strangke okay with awkward " Being here has helped a bit with the physical confidence. I've received compliments here that I've never received elsewhere | |||
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"Hmmmm any day now Tricky bugger to find isn't it? Meh I've never been physically confident so at almost 40 I'm not expecting that to change. I'm strangke okay with awkward Being here has helped a bit with the physical confidence. I've received compliments here that I've never received elsewhere " Tbf your bottom looks great in a tool belt. Not sure how often people get the opportunity to pass that kind of compliment off site | |||
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"Hmmmm any day now Tricky bugger to find isn't it? Meh I've never been physically confident so at almost 40 I'm not expecting that to change. I'm strangke okay with awkward Being here has helped a bit with the physical confidence. I've received compliments here that I've never received elsewhere Tbf your bottom looks great in a tool belt. Not sure how often people get the opportunity to pass that kind of compliment off site " that is a fair point. Although I'd never have dreamed of taking a photo like that without positive comments to the tamer pics | |||
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"Its weird one. Im a sexually confident person and have been my whole life i think. Yet im one of the most shy and anxious people in other areas of my life. " I can really identify with this | |||
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"I am not sexually confident at all . I got to clubs sometimes as have a lot of friends who are swingers .I admire them and how confident and brave they are . I only go to socialise . I am more traditional type . I can't even kiss the man I fancy first . I'm quite shy sexually but that is due to not being experienced. " I know where you are coming from I know I do something's well but not all things | |||
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"Always helpful to start a thread and then fall asleep! Some really lovely comments and some that make me want to give you some squeezy hugs. I'm not a slim thing by any stretch of the imagination so for me, being on here has made me realise that I don't induce vomiting or eye rolling that I thought might happen! Some people do just say stuff as a way to try and get lucky but I've chatted to and met a few very lovely people from here. I'm fast approaching 40, and although my children are still young, I'm at the point where I want to reclaim me as a person and being naughty every now and then is a good way of getting there. I still look back over the past two years since my marriage ended and think, wow! And not in a bad way. " Aww, I'd give you a big hug. You say a few sentiments that I feel exactly the same. I'm in my early 50's and though my kids aren't little my sons are disabled so have a lifetime of caring for them to look forward to. So yes reclaiming myself and being naughty occasionally is not a bad thing. I've also come to realise that even though I was told almost everyday by my ex that no one would want me and my body is awful, it's not that bad and I am attractive in my own way. We are awesome | |||
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"Always helpful to start a thread and then fall asleep! Some really lovely comments and some that make me want to give you some squeezy hugs. I'm not a slim thing by any stretch of the imagination so for me, being on here has made me realise that I don't induce vomiting or eye rolling that I thought might happen! Some people do just say stuff as a way to try and get lucky but I've chatted to and met a few very lovely people from here. I'm fast approaching 40, and although my children are still young, I'm at the point where I want to reclaim me as a person and being naughty every now and then is a good way of getting there. I still look back over the past two years since my marriage ended and think, wow! And not in a bad way. Aww, I'd give you a big hug. You say a few sentiments that I feel exactly the same. I'm in my early 50's and though my kids aren't little my sons are disabled so have a lifetime of caring for them to look forward to. So yes reclaiming myself and being naughty occasionally is not a bad thing. I've also come to realise that even though I was told almost everyday by my ex that no one would want me and my body is awful, it's not that bad and I am attractive in my own way. We are awesome " I also think, that if some of the people on Jeremy Kyle can get some, I'm bloody sure I can! | |||
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"Always helpful to start a thread and then fall asleep! Some really lovely comments and some that make me want to give you some squeezy hugs. I'm not a slim thing by any stretch of the imagination so for me, being on here has made me realise that I don't induce vomiting or eye rolling that I thought might happen! Some people do just say stuff as a way to try and get lucky but I've chatted to and met a few very lovely people from here. I'm fast approaching 40, and although my children are still young, I'm at the point where I want to reclaim me as a person and being naughty every now and then is a good way of getting there. I still look back over the past two years since my marriage ended and think, wow! And not in a bad way. Aww, I'd give you a big hug. You say a few sentiments that I feel exactly the same. I'm in my early 50's and though my kids aren't little my sons are disabled so have a lifetime of caring for them to look forward to. So yes reclaiming myself and being naughty occasionally is not a bad thing. I've also come to realise that even though I was told almost everyday by my ex that no one would want me and my body is awful, it's not that bad and I am attractive in my own way. We are awesome I also think, that if some of the people on Jeremy Kyle can get some, I'm bloody sure I can! " Too right, I think you look lovely. I'm lucky my man thinks I'm lovely so I'm happy with that x | |||
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"Well it's so easy for women to struggle finding themselves that way because of society. Wether you're fast approaching 30 or 40, any age really and regardless of somatotype there are people who accept your age and invest the time in chatting, bit easier to be open with preferences and such here as there's less judgement. I speak with a lovely woman from the other end of the country, not likely to ever meet but always a good flowing conversation. " Oh I totally agree but I think being at peace with yourself (couldn't think of a less motivational speak way to say it!) helps massively. I don't know if there is less judgment on here but it's far easier to filter through profiles to find the right people. I chat to some truly lovely people but like you, miles and miles away so the chance of meeting is limited but it's good to have found some great people to talk too. | |||
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"I find it strange that any bloke would find my body sexy, but once I get going I really don't care. I wander around clubs half naked and don't even worry, because I am in surroundings that enable it. Yet I won't wear a bikini on a beach. " I would never go topless / nude on a beach or on fab | |||
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"I think confidence, of any sort, can be worn like a cloak over your real self. And it's actually easier to pull that trick off with strangers. Then once you get the hang of that trick it's hard to spot what's underneath. This is a great place to practice!" | |||
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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. " You'd have to be pretty confident to stick one of those up your ass.... | |||
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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. Even two years ago i wouldn't have been as confident as I am now. And then i remembered an experience at uni when the guy I was seeing put a towel over me as he came so that I didn't get covered but now that seems like a daft idea, the messier the better! My ex bf introduced me to this world and despite him being a Twunt, it was definitely the switch on becoming sexually confident. So when was yours? Was there a defining moment or has it just been a slow burner to where you are now? Mine was when my ex husband left after years of very bad sex I decided to start dating and explore what I'd been missing. I was very lucky to meet my new man who showed me what sex should be about and now enjoy swinging together. Just goes to show you're never too old for good sex x " Very similar to my story. Barr I had fantastic sex prior to my husband | |||
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"I find it strange that any bloke would find my body sexy, but once I get going I really don't care. I wander around clubs half naked and don't even worry, because I am in surroundings that enable it. Yet I won't wear a bikini on a beach. " Looks fine to me. Get the bikini on and sod em all. | |||
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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. Even two years ago i wouldn't have been as confident as I am now. And then i remembered an experience at uni when the guy I was seeing put a towel over me as he came so that I didn't get covered but now that seems like a daft idea, the messier the better! My ex bf introduced me to this world and despite him being a Twunt, it was definitely the switch on becoming sexually confident. So when was yours? Was there a defining moment or has it just been a slow burner to where you are now? " I was shy until about 8 years ago . Now there's no stopping me | |||
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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. You'd have to be pretty confident to stick one of those up your ass.... " Snigger, snigger | |||
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"So am laying in bed pondering life in general and how we change as a person over the years and I started thinking about my sexual confidence. Even two years ago i wouldn't have been as confident as I am now. And then i remembered an experience at uni when the guy I was seeing put a towel over me as he came so that I didn't get covered but now that seems like a daft idea, the messier the better! My ex bf introduced me to this world and despite him being a Twunt, it was definitely the switch on becoming sexually confident. So when was yours? Was there a defining moment or has it just been a slow burner to where you are now? Mine was when my ex husband left after years of very bad sex I decided to start dating and explore what I'd been missing. I was very lucky to meet my new man who showed me what sex should be about and now enjoy swinging together. Just goes to show you're never too old for good sex x Very similar to my story. Barr I had fantastic sex prior to my husband" I wish I had discovered good sex years ago. Me and mr were talking about it yesterday and he says I've been spoiled by him now. Would never go back to bad sex, it's due to my mr now that I have the confidence sexually that I do. | |||
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"After a lifetime of being told I'm a minger, that has become ingrained in my psyche. Thanks to various lovely people I've met on here, that debilitating shackle is gradually being worn away but the core effects remain. I have more confidence in myself, when I'm with friends who have accepted me. The more of those I meet, the more my confidence grows. I'll still seem shy in the company of strangers but it isn't really shyness... it is a reticence to engage with others, who I'm convinced will find me repulsive. I know I'll never be everyone's cup of tea and the chances of my appearance making your knickers wet, are remote - but as the scars from years of judgmental bullshit, are chipped away, I'm gradually accepting that I have as much right to enjoyment of life (and sex!), as anyone else. Since I joined, I've become a lot more outgoing and sexually adventurous, so I have to believe that somewhere out there, is a playmate who is looking for exactly what I've got to offer." This In spades | |||
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"After a lifetime of being told I'm a minger, that has become ingrained in my psyche. Thanks to various lovely people I've met on here, that debilitating shackle is gradually being worn away but the core effects remain. I have more confidence in myself, when I'm with friends who have accepted me. The more of those I meet, the more my confidence grows. I'll still seem shy in the company of strangers but it isn't really shyness... it is a reticence to engage with others, who I'm convinced will find me repulsive. I know I'll never be everyone's cup of tea and the chances of my appearance making your knickers wet, are remote - but as the scars from years of judgmental bullshit, are chipped away, I'm gradually accepting that I have as much right to enjoyment of life (and sex!), as anyone else. Since I joined, I've become a lot more outgoing and sexually adventurous, so I have to believe that somewhere out there, is a playmate who is looking for exactly what I've got to offer. This In spades " I never think that men would feel unconfident, which I know is very silly because despite popular belief you do all have feelings too! I'm sure that lots of others can identify with what you have both said. I know I can, and I'm far better at being less harsh of myself when I describe myself, I still have moments but I try to be factual about things rather than being negative. So for example my bottom is big, which it is rather than saying oh I don't want to burn people's eyes by letting it be seen. | |||
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"I'm not sexually confident, i just know what i'm good at and stick to that." There's a little confidence in there to know what you are good at in the first place, isn't there? I'm confident that my bj skills are bloody good | |||
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"I'm not sexually confident, i just know what i'm good at and stick to that. There's a little confidence in there to know what you are good at in the first place, isn't there? I'm confident that my bj skills are bloody good " And mine! i'm rubbish at going on top though as i can't find a rhythm and feel like i look like i'm on a bucking bronco | |||
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"After a lifetime of being told I'm a minger, that has become ingrained in my psyche. Thanks to various lovely people I've met on here, that debilitating shackle is gradually being worn away but the core effects remain. I have more confidence in myself, when I'm with friends who have accepted me. The more of those I meet, the more my confidence grows. I'll still seem shy in the company of strangers but it isn't really shyness... it is a reticence to engage with others, who I'm convinced will find me repulsive. I know I'll never be everyone's cup of tea and the chances of my appearance making your knickers wet, are remote - but as the scars from years of judgmental bullshit, are chipped away, I'm gradually accepting that I have as much right to enjoyment of life (and sex!), as anyone else. Since I joined, I've become a lot more outgoing and sexually adventurous, so I have to believe that somewhere out there, is a playmate who is looking for exactly what I've got to offer. This In spades I never think that men would feel unconfident, which I know is very silly because despite popular belief you do all have feelings too! I'm sure that lots of others can identify with what you have both said. I know I can, and I'm far better at being less harsh of myself when I describe myself, I still have moments but I try to be factual about things rather than being negative. So for example my bottom is big, which it is rather than saying oh I don't want to burn people's eyes by letting it be seen. " I'm sure it is delightful | |||
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"I'm not sexually confident, i just know what i'm good at and stick to that. There's a little confidence in there to know what you are good at in the first place, isn't there? I'm confident that my bj skills are bloody good And mine! i'm rubbish at going on top though as i can't find a rhythm and feel like i look like i'm on a bucking bronco " Hahaha, how funny, that's not my greatest position either! | |||
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"I'm not sexually confident, i just know what i'm good at and stick to that. There's a little confidence in there to know what you are good at in the first place, isn't there? I'm confident that my bj skills are bloody good And mine! i'm rubbish at going on top though as i can't find a rhythm and feel like i look like i'm on a bucking bronco " I only find it awkward with the more rotund gentleman. Slimmer guys seem to fit my straddle better and I can get a much better action going. | |||
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"I'm not sexually confident, i just know what i'm good at and stick to that. There's a little confidence in there to know what you are good at in the first place, isn't there? I'm confident that my bj skills are bloody good And mine! i'm rubbish at going on top though as i can't find a rhythm and feel like i look like i'm on a bucking bronco I only find it awkward with the more rotund gentleman. Slimmer guys seem to fit my straddle better and I can get a much better action going. " My big bottom and liking slightly larger guys, not always successful | |||
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"Its weird one. Im a sexually confident person and have been my whole life i think. Yet im one of the most shy and anxious people in other areas of my life. " I'm like this too | |||
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"Its weird one. Im a sexually confident person and have been my whole life i think. Yet im one of the most shy and anxious people in other areas of my life. I'm like this too" Gosh I am completely opposite from you both . I am very confident at work and my whole life and very strong but sexually .... disaster . I am confident for the camera but meeting someone in real life .... lights off and never make a first move . Shake and waffle to much as I am so nervous . | |||
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"I'm still trying to find my confidence - doesn't matter how many guys email An compliment - doesn't sink in. Any ideas of how to change?" Compliments are difficult to accept, i would say a lot of swingers have confidence issues either think ancertain body part isn't nice or why would anyone want to play with me Take it as a complement and say thanks ! | |||
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"I'm still trying to find my confidence - doesn't matter how many guys email An compliment - doesn't sink in. Any ideas of how to change? Compliments are difficult to accept, i would say a lot of swingers have confidence issues either think ancertain body part isn't nice or why would anyone want to play with me Take it as a complement and say thanks ! " I have manners an always say thanks ha. | |||
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